I think the decision to go straight to IVF should be an empowering one... a "take this by the balls" sort of decision. If Dh can see it as that and not as a failure you guys can do it no problems!
It's a challenge and you'll get there as a team! The good thing about IVF is that it is so controlled. No it's not the most romantic way to make a baby but hell, the end justifies the means doesn't it?
I used to work in Public Health research and we did a big study about fertility decision making. Some women felt pushed into IVF but many saw it as an empowering decision and I think you are the latter. DH will come around xx
Thanks so much for your support, Amelia!
Yeah, I'm seeing it as empowering, at this point, and I do like the more controlled aspect of it.
I'm trying to focus on it as an interesting science experiment, and I'm looking forward to knowing some eggs fertilized and got to the embie stage, at least.
DH is indeed coming around. He's gotten over the sticker shock and has made some peace with having to go to the amount of trouble, and now he's working on getting over worrying about me (like worries about complications from the meds or procedure). I think I'll have the official go ahead to tell the doc we want to skip to IVF, tomorrow. I hope so. I really think it's the right thing to do for my diagnosis, given all I've read.
We're planning on getting a fertility loan, and doing the 70% money back IVF program, which comes with 3 fresh and 3 frozen IVF cycles, not counting meds (which I'll have to budget into the loan), so that should give IVF with my own eggs/uterus a fair shot.
I see it too Amelia
I am sorry STG
I wish I knew what to say to cheer you up.
Aw, thanks, Nichole
I'm feeling better now, or more at peace at least. And it's comforting to know you and the others are here for me.
Been reminding myself that if I hadn't got the miracle vestibulitis cure, then the endo would still be knawing on Lefty the ovary right now, and doing God knows what else damage having gone unchecked, which would have decreased my chances for any treatment, so the cure is not going to waste baby making wise, and I'm really not so unlucky. I have had some really good luck, it's just not been everywhere I've wanted it. I'm currently hoping that by doing IVF, I'll change my PG luck to good, and make way for a miracle baby.
A Thanksgiving or Christmas miracle would still be nice, though.
Now that I've got a game plan with better odds in place for plan B, it's much easier to have a little hope for this cycle and the next (the last natural). I'm expecting AF by the 29th, so if it should miraculously not come by then I'll test again on the 30th. But I'm expecting the witch to follow the witchlets, as usual.
FX'd you get a Christmas miracle!
And FX'd for everyone to get one that needs one!
I should stop and go to bed.
