Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Naaxi]

My friend anounced her unexpected pregnancy to me today... Sigh. I am pouty. I really hope this month has worked... Can we fast forward to the 28th so I can test and know? LOL.

 

[ELM2010]

Me travelling to him is out of the question because of work issues...

There's no escaping the 2 hour old sperm lol!!

I'm actually ok with it now, I'm not as bothered, there's always next month and the month after that........... and the month after that haha It's still technically a try I suppose even if it isn't very likely it will be a successful one

This forum helps quite a lot

Thanks all xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[NovemberRayne]

Hey ladies,

My GF and I have decided we want to start trying for a baby, I'm 29 and she's 27, after a lengthy chat we figured we should start charting my cycles, using ovulation kits and basal readings.... how long should we do this before we start looking for donors, or do we look as well as chart? We simply can't afford IVF/IUI at all so we're either going to start looking for willing friends or joining FSDW (is it any good?)

It all seems pretty scary to us, but terribly exciting at the same time and we would appreciate any pointers or advice

Thank you xxx

 

[RubyRainbows]

Hey ladies,

My GF and I have decided we want to start trying for a baby, I'm 29 and she's 27, after a lengthy chat we figured we should start charting my cycles, using ovulation kits and basal readings.... how long should we do this before we start looking for donors, or do we look as well as chart? We simply can't afford IVF/IUI at all so we're either going to start looking for willing friends or joining FSDW (is it any good?)

It all seems pretty scary to us, but terribly exciting at the same time and we would appreciate any pointers or advice

Thank you xxx

Welcome to our thread! You may want to check out this "How to" thread... it gives some great ideas of what others are trying...

https://www.babyandbump.com/assisted-conception/458990-home-artificial-insemination-success-stories.html

 

[RubyRainbows]

There's no escaping the 2 hour old sperm lol!!

I'm actually ok with it now, I'm not as bothered, there's always next month and the month after that........... and the month after that haha It's still technically a try I suppose even if it isn't very likely it will be a successful one

I bet if you search online, you can find some suggestions on the best way to transport sperm & keep those little swimmers alive & well!

 

[ELM2010]

Hey everyone,

Things have taken a surprising turn overnight. I have decided to look for a different donor. The one I have now I'm not entirely sure about, and surely if I want to have a child by the donor I choose I have to be 100% certain right? Turns out he's quite well known as well! And not for good reasons :S

Started talking to a nice guy last night though so things may be looking up already. Let's just see where it leads

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[RubyRainbows]

My friend anounced her unexpected pregnancy to me today... Sigh. I am pouty. I really hope this month has worked... Can we fast forward to the 28th so I can test and know? LOL.

Just think -- You & your friend will get to enjoy being pregnant together!!!!!

Little story:

When i got pregnant with my son i told one of my best friends... and she got pouty. And then her husband told me she was mad & jealous & even cancelled plans to come to my house for new year's which had been planned months in advance bc she "just couldn't be around me!" I thought that was rotten after i had just planned her bridal shower, been one of her bridesmaids & celebrated her wedding with her, went to her house-warming party when she bought her 1st house... and cheered for her during all those wonderful milestones in her life (none of which i had yet experienced). And then she couldn't be happy that one awesome thing was happening in my life??

But she did get her BFP a couple months later........ and it was soooo fun to have a bump buddy/preggo friend to enjoy pregnancy together! And then it was great both having newborns at the same time too!

Your is right around the corner! Planned or unplanned your friend's baby is a blessing!!!!!! Celebrate her good news...... bc soon she will be celebrating your good news as well!

 

[Nimyra]

Naaxi, I completely understand. I had a friend who I had trouble being around during her pregnancy because I was so upset about our problems TTC. But, try to stay hopeful. It will happen for you. It's just a matter of time. The more faith you have in yourself - that you can and will get pregnant, the easier it will be to share in your friend's happiness (and it is important that TTC doesn't turn us into complete nut jobs!)

 

[rosie5637]

ugh i don't know what's going on with me

my period was due yesterday (always wake up with it in the morning) but didn't show. i did a test and it was negative.
i started spotting just before lunch today. it wasn't red, just brown stuff sorry tmi and nothing much when i wipe. this has never happened to me before. normally i get a full on period straight away, no spotting

i don't know what to think now. i had accepted i was out this month but i have friends who say silly things like 'you're just spotting cause you're pregnant' and 'every pregnancy is different you know'. it puts that little seed of doubt in my head and gets my hopes up again. i'm deffo not gonna tell them anything next month!

oh well i'm sure my period will get going through the night and my body is just being very cruel.

ah i feel better already now i've got all that out!

 

[Naaxi]

Rosie, I spotted for two days before AF last month, I normally spot for a half day, it was cruel indeed. But you'll get your BFP soon.

And don't get me wrong, I won't stop talking to her or hanging out with her; it's not her fault. I just needed a pity day. Woe is me, now let's move on LOL. I have this month and next to maybe get it, then an appointment with the fertility specialist but it starts cutting real close to the wedding when all is said and done. I don't mind being pregnant, just don't wanna go in to labour from stress of the wedding lol.

I am 4/5dpo depending on when I ov'd and am trying to be rational that I can't possibly be having symptoms yet. But I feel like I did after my IUIs, like I stretched weird in my uterus area... I'm going bananas. I need to seek help LOL.

 

[rosie5637]

well i was right, my body is just being a bitch! after 19yrs of never having any spotting before my period thats exactly what i had yesterday cause the came with a vengence in the night

i'm sure i will be really grumpy today but i'm determined to wake up tomorrow in a positive mood and looking forward to 3rd time lucky!

 

[RubyRainbows]

So sorry, Rosie!

 

[RainbowMum]

A friend of mine told me yesterday that she and her GF are expecting.
It took them 2 cycles of IUI, so that gives me hope

We were considering an overseas clinic for cost reasons but may go with a local clinic as it may be easier to fit it into my work days. Might still have to ask for the odd afternoon or morning off, so hopefully that shouldn't be a problem...
The plan is to have the first round sometime this summer, a spring baby would be lovely

 

[RubyRainbows]

A friend of mine told me yesterday that she and her GF are expecting.
It took them 2 cycles of IUI, so that gives me hope

We were considering an overseas clinic for cost reasons but may go with a local clinic as it may be easier to fit it into my work days. Might still have to ask for the odd afternoon or morning off, so hopefully that shouldn't be a problem...
The plan is to have the first round sometime this summer, a spring baby would be lovely

Awesome news! It's exciting to get started!

 

[ELM2010]

Hi all,

I'm panicking because I think I may have already ovulated and missed my chance this month

I'm on CD16 of a 32 day cycle, and that's regular. I have a 13 day luteal phase so I should be ovulating on Monday 24th. That's when I should be doing my insem for this month.

I track my cm, I test my saliva every morning and I take OPK's.

Yesterday I had ewcm, as well as this morning when I checked. But when I checked again just now it was still a bit stretchy, but not as wet if that makes any sense? All the way through this cycle so far there's been no ferning pattern in my saliva so that's not showing any fertile signs. But this is my first month of using it so I don't know what's normal for me yet on that one. I just took an OPK, my first of this cycle and it was a neg.

But what's thrown me off is the twinges I keep feeling in my lower abdomen. This morning I was constantly getting it on/off on my lower right side, but now I'm getting them on my left.

Can you have ewcm on/off until you ovulate or is it supposed to be constant until ov day? And can you get ov pains for the few days leading up to ov?

Thanks!

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[OHaiMommy]

I usually get EWCM a few days before a positive OPK. By the time I get the positive OPK the EWCM has been gone for a day or two.

 

[Tegans Mama]

I normally get EWCM coupled with cramping a couple of days before the day I ovulate.

Well, AF is due anytime here. I tried to bring up babies with OH but she just said "I don't want to talk about it tonight". She was really tired though so she has an excuse! I am still not 100% in my head, my heart wants a baby but my head keeps rationalising. I dunno! I'm 22. I have all the time in the world for babies just yet. I would've loved to have kids with a close age gap but I think it's looking more and more like that isn't going to happen. Were Tegan healthy, I know we would have had another baby by now. Our big plan was to have 2-3-4 kids, all close in age. We would maybe even be on number 3 by now! But she's NOT healthy, and that isn't the life we have now. Things are different for us. It makes me sad to think it, but right now I don't feel like I *NEED* another baby the way I needed Tegan. I don't know if I ever will. I long for one, definitely, I would LOVE another, but my arms are not empty the way they were then.
I'm having a really hard time understanding how I feel.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Lea -- I Hope you & OH can talk about it soon. Sounds like you have a lot of confusing thoughts about the whole thing. Once the two of you have a heart to heart i bet you'll be able to process & understand your fears, concerns, feelings, etc alot better. You certainly do have plenty of time...22!!!!!!

 

[Tegans Mama]

Thanks Ruby! I think my age is a HUGE factor as to why I'm not feeling desperate at the minute. I went from desperately wanting/needing another baby (when OH was strictly against TTC) to wanting another but wondering if we're making the right decision etc. I know if she says definitely not it will come back with a vengeance but I know she does want another. I think we're maybe just being sensible at the minute! We are both Taureans who don't really cope well with change, and another baby represents a HUGE change. I am having a hard time seeing past the newborn stage with all the crying and nappy changes and waking during the night, but I really think that is because my sister has a young baby (4 months) who is the complete opposite to Tegan was - a hard baby, very demanding, cries a lot, never happy, etc. She is lovely, but she's so needy and I do not know if I would have the time right now, realistically, to fit two children into my day. What would I do with a newborn whilst I was helping Tegan use the potty? I couldn't just leave her on the potty. She can't get on/off it herself. She needs supervising. What would I do with Tegan whilst I was BFing a newborn? It's all just so busy in my head, I am even dreaming about it!!

Anyway, sorry for crashing the thread with my rambling ladies.

 

[RubyRainbows]

It certainly does sound like you would have a lot on your plate & alot to juggle! It's crazy how nature causes women (most, not all) to need & crave babies........ when they are sooooooo hard & so much work! When my son was a baby i remember distinctly thinking "never again!" I don't cope well with being sleep deprived! And at the time i was single & living alone... plus had to return to work full-time when he was only 8 weeks old bc only 2 weeks of my maternity leave was paid! Everyday is still a challenge (nothing like the challenges you master daily!) bc my son is ADHD & possibly PDD....... and he definitely gives us a run for our money at all times!!!!!!!!! Yet.............. my arms long for a baby???? It's crazy........ i have no explaination! Maybe age factors in, as i feel my biological clock ticking (i'm 31, OH is 37!).

Lea, I have a feeling tho that you would succeed at caring for Tegan & a newborn fabulously!!!!!!! When the time is right!