I don't know why, because I love my son to the moon and back, and I think that the mother/son bond is intense and unbreakable. I don't have any reason to think I'm pregnant with a boy, other than the baby being very wriggly as Thomas was. I'm meant to be team yellow but think I might be better off finding out at 20 weeks to get used to the idea? My daughter has been so much easier and never has tantrums/runs away in shops/is very kind and careful/etc etc whereas Thomas is always on the go, really loud and gets on with his dad like a house on fire. I just picture two Thomas's in our little flat and almost want to cry, I think I'd be so overwhelmed even though I think he's amazing! I also hate all the boy stereotyping that people do, like not treat boy babies or toddlers the same as girls, because 'boys are tough' and telling them to harden up or not thinking they are cute because it isn't manly! I need your help or advice about trying to find out the gender at 20 weeks...would you, did you, did it ease disappointment at birth? I found out with the others.