Cycle 1 day 1. Who's with me? *update* It's a girl! Congrats baby_bray!!!

[moter98]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

ouch! people can be so hurtful without even meaning it. i think it's hard for people to understand what you are going through when they haven't experienced it themselves. my own SIL basically told me i wasn't really pregnant because i had a chemical. however, i know that if it had happened to her she would be devastated. i think we have to try to rise above these comments and chalk it up to things said without thinking it through. sometimes an apology would be nice though.
doesn't it seem like everyone is pregnant around you? it's so ironic how you tend to notice the thing you really want everywhere else. i can't say i noticed a lot of pregnant people or family/friends until i started ttc.

 

[moter98]

well, another day, another bfn. i wasn't gonna test today, but this morning i got my 3rd higher temp and thought, maybe this is it. wrong! FF says i am possible triphasic, but since this is my first time temping that could just be normal for me. feeling pretty down and stressed out today. it's getting to be too much all this ttc and opk's, taking temps, hpt's, watching what i eat and drink just in case i'm pregnant, dtd on certain days. geez, it's been over 6 months months now, not sure how long i wanna keep this up. i'm thinking i will give it another cycle or two and then we are going to take a break. not to mention all the stress from the siding mess we are dealing with. turns out everything has to be taken down and redone. we are having a technician come out this week to confirm it and then we will have to pay out of pocket for someone else to do the job right, then sue to get our money back. my glass is half empty today and that makes me sad. i have been doing so well with staying positive about everything but today i'm gonna just let myself feel down.

I completely understand your frustration! Next month will officially be 1 year TTC! One year of obsessing over my cycle that what if I pregnant feeling... it really starts to get to you after awhile!

i didn't know you have been trying that long. i hope this is your sticky bean month. to you!

Thanks! They say it can take up to a year for healthy couples, but it does make you doubt yourself! I hope I don't make it to that 1 year mark! But you can't lose hope. I may have said this before but I know a lady who tried for 7 years, did IUI and in vitro and nothing took, they decided to start looking into adoption and she got pregnant naturally and her son just turned one! So all we can to is keep trying and hoping for a BFP! We will get there!

oh wow, 7 years is a long time to try! maybe my 6months isn't so bad after all. i have heard about couples being told by the dr. they will never conceive, so adopt, then get pregnant. maybe we all stress ourselves out so much that we cause a hormonal imbalance or something that makes it harder to conceive. you are right, we will all get there. just had a bad morning seeing that i think. i told myself i wasn't gonna test for just that reason, but of course couldn't resist the urge to POAS.

 

[colta]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

I know completely how you feel. My highschool cousin and his girlfriend just found out they were having a boy. She got pregnant almost the exact same time I did and actually has roughly the same due date I did and I just can't understand why two teenagers with no jobs, poor grades and in no way wanting a baby get to be pregnant and keep theirs while myself and DH, two adults with jobs, going to school to better ourselves and been together for 7 years can't keep ours... it drives me insane and makes me feel so angry and hurt... I'd never wish what I went through on anyone, but my goodness do I feel a great deal of dislike for the two of them.

 

[Twinkie210]

well, another day, another bfn. i wasn't gonna test today, but this morning i got my 3rd higher temp and thought, maybe this is it. wrong! FF says i am possible triphasic, but since this is my first time temping that could just be normal for me. feeling pretty down and stressed out today. it's getting to be too much all this ttc and opk's, taking temps, hpt's, watching what i eat and drink just in case i'm pregnant, dtd on certain days. geez, it's been over 6 months months now, not sure how long i wanna keep this up. i'm thinking i will give it another cycle or two and then we are going to take a break. not to mention all the stress from the siding mess we are dealing with. turns out everything has to be taken down and redone. we are having a technician come out this week to confirm it and then we will have to pay out of pocket for someone else to do the job right, then sue to get our money back. my glass is half empty today and that makes me sad. i have been doing so well with staying positive about everything but today i'm gonna just let myself feel down.

I completely understand your frustration! Next month will officially be 1 year TTC! One year of obsessing over my cycle that what if I pregnant feeling... it really starts to get to you after awhile!

i didn't know you have been trying that long. i hope this is your sticky bean month. to you!

Thanks! They say it can take up to a year for healthy couples, but it does make you doubt yourself! I hope I don't make it to that 1 year mark! But you can't lose hope. I may have said this before but I know a lady who tried for 7 years, did IUI and in vitro and nothing took, they decided to start looking into adoption and she got pregnant naturally and her son just turned one! So all we can to is keep trying and hoping for a BFP! We will get there!

oh wow, 7 years is a long time to try! maybe my 6months isn't so bad after all. i have heard about couples being told by the dr. they will never conceive, so adopt, then get pregnant. maybe we all stress ourselves out so much that we cause a hormonal imbalance or something that makes it harder to conceive. you are right, we will all get there. just had a bad morning seeing that i think. i told myself i wasn't gonna test for just that reason, but of course couldn't resist the urge to POAS.

I do the same thing every month! I cringe thinking about the amount of $ I have spent on hpts.

 

[BERDC99]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

I know completely how you feel. My highschool cousin and his girlfriend just found out they were having a boy. She got pregnant almost the exact same time I did and actually has roughly the same due date I did and I just can't understand why two teenagers with no jobs, poor grades and in no way wanting a baby get to be pregnant and keep theirs while myself and DH, two adults with jobs, going to school to better ourselves and been together for 7 years can't keep ours... it drives me insane and makes me feel so angry and hurt... I'd never wish what I went through on anyone, but my goodness do I feel a great deal of dislike for the two of them.

My son is actually a product of teen pregnancy. I was just 15 when I got pregnant with him and 16 when I had him. Teen pregnancy is always hard for some people to accept, but I tend to have a different outlook on it. I do not in any way think that a teen should try for a bay, but it is does happen I think that it is great when they step up to the plate and take responsibility for their actions.

At the time I did not see it, but now that I am older I believe that my son was an angel sent from God. Around the time I got pregnant with him my friends and I was drinking and smoking pot. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant my friends started doing pills. I lost contact with them because we lived different life styles. Almost every one of the girls that I hung out with before I got pregnant has spent time in prison for various reasons. I think that God gave him to me so that I would change directions with my life.
Fast forward 15 years and here I am in the same boat as you! I have lost two angels for unknown reasons within the last five months. God does not bless a woman (teenager or grown adult) with a child for no reason. He has a plan for them, and it is up to them to choose what path to venture down after receiving their blessing.

 

[moter98]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

I know completely how you feel. My highschool cousin and his girlfriend just found out they were having a boy. She got pregnant almost the exact same time I did and actually has roughly the same due date I did and I just can't understand why two teenagers with no jobs, poor grades and in no way wanting a baby get to be pregnant and keep theirs while myself and DH, two adults with jobs, going to school to better ourselves and been together for 7 years can't keep ours... it drives me insane and makes me feel so angry and hurt... I'd never wish what I went through on anyone, but my goodness do I feel a great deal of dislike for the two of them.

My son is actually a product of teen pregnancy. I was just 15 when I got pregnant with him and 16 when I had him. Teen pregnancy is always hard for some people to accept, but I tend to have a different outlook on it. I do not in any way think that a teen should try for a bay, but it is does happen I think that it is great when they step up to the plate and take responsibility for their actions.

At the time I did not see it, but now that I am older I believe that my son was an angel sent from God. Around the time I got pregnant with him my friends and I was drinking and smoking pot. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant my friends started doing pills. I lost contact with them because we lived different life styles. Almost every one of the girls that I hung out with before I got pregnant has spent time in prison for various reasons. I think that God gave him to me so that I would change directions with my life.
Fast forward 15 years and here I am in the same boat as you! I have lost two angels for unknown reasons within the last five months. God does not bless a woman (teenager or grown adult) with a child for no reason. He has a plan for them, and it is up to them to choose what path to venture down after receiving their blessing.

well said!

 

[moter98]

well, another day, another bfn. i wasn't gonna test today, but this morning i got my 3rd higher temp and thought, maybe this is it. wrong! FF says i am possible triphasic, but since this is my first time temping that could just be normal for me. feeling pretty down and stressed out today. it's getting to be too much all this ttc and opk's, taking temps, hpt's, watching what i eat and drink just in case i'm pregnant, dtd on certain days. geez, it's been over 6 months months now, not sure how long i wanna keep this up. i'm thinking i will give it another cycle or two and then we are going to take a break. not to mention all the stress from the siding mess we are dealing with. turns out everything has to be taken down and redone. we are having a technician come out this week to confirm it and then we will have to pay out of pocket for someone else to do the job right, then sue to get our money back. my glass is half empty today and that makes me sad. i have been doing so well with staying positive about everything but today i'm gonna just let myself feel down.

I completely understand your frustration! Next month will officially be 1 year TTC! One year of obsessing over my cycle that what if I pregnant feeling... it really starts to get to you after awhile!

i didn't know you have been trying that long. i hope this is your sticky bean month. to you!

Thanks! They say it can take up to a year for healthy couples, but it does make you doubt yourself! I hope I don't make it to that 1 year mark! But you can't lose hope. I may have said this before but I know a lady who tried for 7 years, did IUI and in vitro and nothing took, they decided to start looking into adoption and she got pregnant naturally and her son just turned one! So all we can to is keep trying and hoping for a BFP! We will get there!

oh wow, 7 years is a long time to try! maybe my 6months isn't so bad after all. i have heard about couples being told by the dr. they will never conceive, so adopt, then get pregnant. maybe we all stress ourselves out so much that we cause a hormonal imbalance or something that makes it harder to conceive. you are right, we will all get there. just had a bad morning seeing that i think. i told myself i wasn't gonna test for just that reason, but of course couldn't resist the urge to POAS.

I do the same thing every month! I cringe thinking about the amount of $ I have spent on hpts.

yeah i've spent a lot too. i at least figured out after the first 2 cycles to buy the wondfu midstream tests. they are way cheaper than frer and the digi's. i do have packs of those also, but save them for when i really am pregnant. i love to poas, lol!

 

[colta]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

I know completely how you feel. My highschool cousin and his girlfriend just found out they were having a boy. She got pregnant almost the exact same time I did and actually has roughly the same due date I did and I just can't understand why two teenagers with no jobs, poor grades and in no way wanting a baby get to be pregnant and keep theirs while myself and DH, two adults with jobs, going to school to better ourselves and been together for 7 years can't keep ours... it drives me insane and makes me feel so angry and hurt... I'd never wish what I went through on anyone, but my goodness do I feel a great deal of dislike for the two of them.

My son is actually a product of teen pregnancy. I was just 15 when I got pregnant with him and 16 when I had him. Teen pregnancy is always hard for some people to accept, but I tend to have a different outlook on it. I do not in any way think that a teen should try for a bay, but it is does happen I think that it is great when they step up to the plate and take responsibility for their actions.

At the time I did not see it, but now that I am older I believe that my son was an angel sent from God. Around the time I got pregnant with him my friends and I was drinking and smoking pot. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant my friends started doing pills. I lost contact with them because we lived different life styles. Almost every one of the girls that I hung out with before I got pregnant has spent time in prison for various reasons. I think that God gave him to me so that I would change directions with my life.
Fast forward 15 years and here I am in the same boat as you! I have lost two angels for unknown reasons within the last five months. God does not bless a woman (teenager or grown adult) with a child for no reason. He has a plan for them, and it is up to them to choose what path to venture down after receiving their blessing.

well said!

I agree... and I hope I didn't offend you. It's just hard seeing people (younger/older... whoever) get the very thing you're dying to achieve when they never wanted it in the first place. I'm a bitter and a bit cranky on the whole thing. I wish the best for them and for any teen parent, but right now I'm just too small of a person not to be annoyed with them. I'm sure I'll get over it eventually... but it's just where I'm at.

But like I said, I hope I didn't offend you.

 

[moter98]

Speaking of teens: my hub and I are youth leaders at our church and one of our former youth (she's 20 now) got pregnant the same time as our first pregnancy in August. I've been helping her as much as possible, but it just hurts sometimes, ya know? Friday she called me to ask if she could use my pregnancy books, "since you don't need them right now." agh. I know she didn't mean to say anything so hurtful cuz she has no idea of our struggles, but man I sure do just want to her.

I know completely how you feel. My highschool cousin and his girlfriend just found out they were having a boy. She got pregnant almost the exact same time I did and actually has roughly the same due date I did and I just can't understand why two teenagers with no jobs, poor grades and in no way wanting a baby get to be pregnant and keep theirs while myself and DH, two adults with jobs, going to school to better ourselves and been together for 7 years can't keep ours... it drives me insane and makes me feel so angry and hurt... I'd never wish what I went through on anyone, but my goodness do I feel a great deal of dislike for the two of them.

My son is actually a product of teen pregnancy. I was just 15 when I got pregnant with him and 16 when I had him. Teen pregnancy is always hard for some people to accept, but I tend to have a different outlook on it. I do not in any way think that a teen should try for a bay, but it is does happen I think that it is great when they step up to the plate and take responsibility for their actions.

At the time I did not see it, but now that I am older I believe that my son was an angel sent from God. Around the time I got pregnant with him my friends and I was drinking and smoking pot. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant my friends started doing pills. I lost contact with them because we lived different life styles. Almost every one of the girls that I hung out with before I got pregnant has spent time in prison for various reasons. I think that God gave him to me so that I would change directions with my life.
Fast forward 15 years and here I am in the same boat as you! I have lost two angels for unknown reasons within the last five months. God does not bless a woman (teenager or grown adult) with a child for no reason. He has a plan for them, and it is up to them to choose what path to venture down after receiving their blessing.

well said!

I agree... and I hope I didn't offend you. It's just hard seeing people (younger/older... whoever) get the very thing you're dying to achieve when they never wanted it in the first place. I'm a bitter and a bit cranky on the whole thing. I wish the best for them and for any teen parent, but right now I'm just too small of a person not to be annoyed with them. I'm sure I'll get over it eventually... but it's just where I'm at.

But like I said, I hope I didn't offend you.

same here, hope i didn't offend you. was just thinking how easy it is to get pregnant when you are not trying and how hard it is when you actually are trying. oh the irony. like that 16 and pregnant show. they all got pregnant by accident, one even her very first time. wish it was that easy for me right now!

 

[Twinkie210]

I had DS when I was 20 and have always looked younger than what I am, so when we were out places I often got the stare from older people thinking I was 16 or 17 raising a baby. No it is not an ideal situation, but it does happen. I agree the really important part is if that parent can live up to the demands and challenges of raising a baby, no matter what their age is!

It really makes me sad to think that God let me keep the baby that I didn't plan, but took away the one that me and DH tried so long for. Not that I am complaining, my son is my whole world, it is just really confusing...

 

[moter98]

berdc - how are your hpt's looking? getting darker? tomorrow is monday. just a few hours away! looks like you made it.

 

[BERDC99]

berdc - how are your hpt's looking? getting darker? tomorrow is monday. just a few hours away! looks like you made it.

Decided not to take anymore. The one I took Saturday moring was super dark. I also looked at my calendar and AF would have been here today. Now I am debating on whether to call the doctor tomorrow or wait until my already scheduled appt a week from tomorrow.

 

[moter98]

berdc - how are your hpt's looking? getting darker? tomorrow is monday. just a few hours away! looks like you made it.

Decided not to take anymore. The one I took Saturday moring was super dark. I also looked at my calendar and AF would have been here today. Now I am debating on whether to call the doctor tomorrow or wait until my already scheduled appt a week from tomorrow.

Woohoo! Congrats again. You could just call the Dr and let them know you are pregnant and have an appt next week. See what they want you to do.

 

[mailcmm]

I missed bunches today. lol Not even gonna try to address it all. Been a long day. We have entirely too many animals (60). Spent most of the day fixing animal stuff and the rest taking family pics for christmas cards. This is my fav. We spent 2 hours finding great spots while my sil snapped away. So I am exhausted. Going to start charting tomorrow. Hopefully that will go well

 

[mailcmm]

So maybe not charting. I am afraid it may freak dh out. I had planned to take my temp in the bathroom each morning, but read I need to take my temp before I do anything else. He is totally on board for TTC but in a quiet let's not obsess about it way. lol For those of you who chart will it ruin everything if I go to the bathroom and take my temp? If so I may need to broach the subject before he asks whats beeping. lol

 

[moter98]

So maybe not charting. I am afraid it may freak dh out. I had planned to take my temp in the bathroom each morning, but read I need to take my temp before I do anything else. He is totally on board for TTC but in a quiet let's not obsess about it way. lol For those of you who chart will it ruin everything if I go to the bathroom and take my temp? If so I may need to broach the subject before he asks whats beeping. lol

I know you're not supposed to but I temp this way. My DH also feels the same way as yours. I get up and shut the bathroom door and immediately take my temp. I figure if my chart turns out all over the place then I will temp the correct way. So far it looks like its supposed to. DH also wants me to be quiet when I get up in the morning. I get up before him to workout and try not to wake him up. The beeping every few seconds from the thermometer would drive him crazy.

 

[colta]

So maybe not charting. I am afraid it may freak dh out. I had planned to take my temp in the bathroom each morning, but read I need to take my temp before I do anything else. He is totally on board for TTC but in a quiet let's not obsess about it way. lol For those of you who chart will it ruin everything if I go to the bathroom and take my temp? If so I may need to broach the subject before he asks whats beeping. lol

I know you're not supposed to but I temp this way. My DH also feels the same way as yours. I get up and shut the bathroom door and immediately take my temp. I figure if my chart turns out all over the place then I will temp the correct way. So far it looks like its supposed to. DH also wants me to be quiet when I get up in the morning. I get up before him to workout and try not to wake him up. The beeping every few seconds from the thermometer would drive him crazy.

That's how I do it... DH isn't too keen on the whole thing either, so I just get up in the morning, go to my computer (which is where my thermometer is), take my temp.... put it in my chart and either go back to bed or continue on with my day. Seems to work just fine for me.... I just try not to open my mouth or run around a bunch on the way to the computer.

 

[Twinkie210]

I temp that way too! I have to take it to the bathroom so I can read it! Plus I wake up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom frequently and this hasn't impacted my chart either. I think some people are more sensitive than others.

 

[mailcmm]

Lol So it looks like we are all closet thermometer users. Is there a group for people like us? Oh wait we're in a group. lol

 

[BERDC99]

I missed bunches today. lol Not even gonna try to address it all. Been a long day. We have entirely too many animals (60). Spent most of the day fixing animal stuff and the rest taking family pics for christmas cards. This is my fav. We spent 2 hours finding great spots while my sil snapped away. So I am exhausted. Going to start charting tomorrow. Hopefully that will go well

Beautiful family picture!