Cycle 1 day 1. Who's with me? *update* It's a girl! Congrats baby_bray!!!

[moter98]

Oh! I thought you would be given a c section even if you go into labor naturally. They would expect you to go natural with hemmorhoids that bad?!

 

[mailcmm]

Yeah. Welcome to my nightmare

 

[moter98]

Oh my gosh mail, if you do have to go natural, get the epi, then apply ice to keep area numb till sergury time!!

 

[BERDC99]

The 3rd would be awesome.....we would share the same birthday.

Finn will be here before you know it.

 

[menb]

Happy New Year all!

 

[mailcmm]

Happy new year everybody. Problem progresses. I cannot go to the bathroom and have to go back to the surgeon because it has been 5 days. Won't be able to go without assistance as the hemorroids prevent it. They have gotten much worse. Ob is still dragging on getting this show on the road. Went to l&d yesterday for nst and asked to talk to the mw on call. Told her I couldn't go to the restroom and she didn't seem concerned at all. Told me hemorroids are a natural part of pregnancy and after the baby comes everything should just clear up on its own. Said I should skip surgery too. That being said she didn't look at my bottom. I told her I was horrified at the thought of tearing during delivery and the hemorroids getting worse and then having to have a very painful surgery as well. She highly recommended again skipping surgery. I told her that the surgeon said I couldn't skip it it and needed to have the surgery ASAP. I was really shocked about her lack of concern and wondering if I should be less concerned. She did say that I can have an elective csection if I wanted too but said it really wasn't necessary. She told me that I had til today to think it over and let the office know today. So I came home very confused and am feeling silly even though I am in terrible pain and terrified of labor making that worse only to follow with a very painful surgery. Dh wants me to have the csection and my gut tells me to do it, but I am worried about having 2 surgeries. I wish I could see my dr but he is out for the holidays only mw are available to talk to. Anyway, after that we ran into the surgeon in the hospital and he said to come in today so I can go to the bathroom. So ready for this to be behind me... No pun intended.

 

[baby_bray]

Oh mailcmc.......this is just crazy.....I'm not big on c-sections, but obviously there are some instances where it really is just better for everyone....at this point, I'd go for it...
You know we're all rooting for you...keep us updated, I keep habitually checking hoping to see a pic of Finn!

 

[Twinkie210]

OMG! That nurse sound very unsympathetic. How can she know if it is normal pregnancy hemmroids if she hasn't seen them? I would go with your gut. I didn't want the C-section with Liam but I had this feeling that I would need it, and I am 100% sure it was the right decision. Like you I tore badly with my first delivery (my nurse said it was a 4th degree tear, I am not sure though). I also had hemmroids with him (not as bad as yours) and his delivery made them worse. The c-section spared me of all the tearing and healing and the pain meds they gave me made the incision not even a problem. If we ever have another baby I would really like a vaginal delivery, but if it looks like the baby is going to be big like my first two, I would go with the c-section in a heartbeat.

 

[moter98]

mw is right, hemmoroids are very common in pregnancy. i had them too before delivery and really bad afterwards. however, they weren't even as bad after delivery as you describe they are now for you. the mw should have at least checked to see how severe they are. if it's so bad that you can't "go", that sounds like severe hemmoroids to me! maybe you want to ask your dr about wether going natural will make them much much worse. it's too bad you can't have the baby and the other surgery at the same time since you would already be numb, then you wouldn't have those extra days of suffering too.
i hope they give you lots and lots of pain meds once baby Finn is here!

 

[mailcmm]

Thanks all. Called all interested parties this am. The obs office said they would see what they could do about getting the c section scheduled. And get back to me this afternoon. Then I called the surgeon to deal with what is now being referred to as my "blockage". Apparently a blockage is life threatening and I will need to be hospitalized on Friday if I don't go to the bathroom. To make matters worse there is absolutely nothing they can do about it until the baby is born. So the surgeon is now trying to reach my ob and get this underway because it needs to be dealt with. He also said that had I not been pregnant last Friday when I came in he would have sent me straight to the hospital. So here I sit uncomfortably waiting to see what happens. Guessing they will have me go in tomorrow for the c section and take care of the blockage and then do the surgery over the weekend or Friday? Midwife said they can't do the birth and surgery back to back even if its vaginal due to clots? So I just don't know what is going on. Starting to get more scared and if I don't hear back today am just heading to the hospital tonight and demanding something be done.

 

[mailcmm]

Moter... The mw said that the hemorrhoids will get worse but wouldn't effect delivery so no real reason for a csection. I get that delivery won't be affected but I am now having to look out for my own well being. I really think she thinks I am exaggerating or over worried about a normal situation. She suggested I go natural and wait and see how things clear up. The surgeon said that eventually months from now they will clear up... If I have no aggravating circumstances between now and then and am not blocked which are both unlikely.... But will comeback the same if not worse in the future. He also said that recommending surgery for this is a last case scenario and we are at last case. So who knows. I just want it all to be over.

 

[Twinkie210]

I hope your surgeon gets ahold of the OB and they can get on the same page! Keep us updated, but it sounds like Finn will be making an appearance soon!

 

[baby_bray]

I hope they put you on some type of stool softener....and water is gonna be your best friend right now.
My last appt my labs came back as slightly anemic, like 10.2 and the low/normal value was 12. So my MW put me on iron just once a day instead of the usual two and automatically gave me Colace to prevent constipation and I was a bit reluctant to take it and it's AMAZING. I've always been pretty regular, but I think I got it just in time because I was definitely having to "put a little more effort forth" when I went....

 

[mailcmm]

I have been on colace since Friday. And I think it would be amazing if I had a way to move my bowels. Lol hopefully I will hear something soon. I am guessing tomorrow.

 

[moter98]

hope it gets figured out for you mail! i've been on colace for months now as dr's want to make sure i don't cause placenta to tear anymore i guess. it really does help! also, eat lots and lots of apples. i ate up to 5 a day after delivery because the hemms were so bad. worked perfectly! that may help you after your surgery monday.
sounds like mw was only thinking about delivery and not how recovery would go for you afterwards. i think you should take that into account as well cause after all, you will have a newborn to take care of as well as yourself! i know you didn't want a c section, but maybe you just have to weigh the odds of which is going to be less painful after delivery.

 

[mailcmm]

The light at the end of the tunnel.... Lmao no pun intended. Surgeon called my dr and they both agreed to get this done. Friday I will have the c section followed by the surgery. They tried for tomorrow but couldn't coordinate. So ready to have this over but I guess I can wait til Friday. Also excited that I will be in the hospital for the worst part of the surgery recovery. Wish the ob would get an opening though. Now watch I go into labor tonight lol

 

[moter98]

that's great news mail! that's how i would want it done too, just get it all taken care of at once, then you can focus on baby and recovery. ok Finn, now you just need to wait until Friday for mommy to be ready, ok?

 

[Twinkie210]

Woo Hoo! Come on Friday!

 

[baby_bray]

oh mail, I'm so happy to hear they're going to knock both out at the same time! I hope your OR team is better than the other healthcare providers you've dealt with and they're able to put you at ease....
Especially since after the section they'll have to flip you over into the "jack-knife" position to deal with the hemorrhoids.
Can't wait to see Finn!!!!! That's all I can think of now, lol! I'm sure he is going to be just perfect, and think, you'll get to skip the little conehead phase LOL, so he'll be *extra* cute!

 

[mailcmm]

Thanks guys. Starting to get excited. Now my only worry is weather or not I will be up for the birth. Hoping they do the general anesthesia after he is born so I can see him. My sil thinks the will just do both with the saddle block but I ope not. Csection is one thing I don't want any notion of the other. Hubby is not good with Facebook so hopefully some family will post and tag me. Otherwise it may be Saturday before I get anything up.