Dealing with Klinefelter's Syndrome / XXY? Come here for friendship and support

[luckdragon]

good luck guys sending babydust your way xxx

 

[theclarks8687]

So I'm having an internal struggle bout something. Whether o tell my DH right away or not. He handled the last one worse then me. So I'm wondering if I am blessed enough to get a bfp, if I should hold off on telling him.

 

[silverbell]

I personally couldn't do that Clarks. I just think he should have as much input and knowledge about all this as is possible - more so than the average man for obvious reasons. If something were to happen I imagine he'd be devastated and hurt that you'd kept him from it?

I can understand your reasons but I personally think honesty is always the best policy. But I don't know you or your DH and of course this is a decision you'll have to make alone.

 

[theclarks8687]

DH and I are usually 100% all the way honesty. Sometimes probably Alil too much. And I know that it will be hard to keep shushed. But I did speak it over with him and let him decide. He said he wanted me to wait. You have to understand, he is the manic depressive with suicidal thoughts when he is not taking his meds. So he is ultra sensitive which is why I even questioned it. Last I told him I was pregnant and he said ok....he doesn't want to put his heart into it so early to loose all over again.

 

[silverbell]

DH and I are usually 100% all the way honesty. Sometimes probably Alil too much. And I know that it will be hard to keep shushed. But I did speak it over with him and let him decide. He said he wanted me to wait. You have to understand, he is the manic depressive with suicidal thoughts when he is not taking his meds. So he is ultra sensitive which is why I even questioned it. Last I told him I was pregnant and he said ok....he doesn't want to put his heart into it so early to loose all over again.

Ah, there you go and that's exactly why I said I didn't know you guys. Everybody and everybody's relationships are different.

I'm glad you spoke to him about it - that's perfect and you've got the answer you wanted

 

[clarkea]

Hi Everyone, you all sound like uv been very busy. hope everyone is doing well.
Just thought id let you know that we have been given a date for sperm retrieval. End of Nov.
The doctor says he's waiting for his first pregnancy to happen this way. Maybe the first will be me, i hope so anyway.

 

[theclarks8687]

Good luck hun hope it goes well!

I'm just waiting to O again. Last month didn't take and I'm starting feel like it won't happen before my original due date. I don't wanna know how that will feel when it comes and I'm still not pregnant.

 

[clarkea]

Good luck hun hope it goes well!

I'm just waiting to O again. Last month didn't take and I'm starting feel like it won't happen before my original due date. I don't wanna know how that will feel when it comes and I'm still not pregnant.

oh hun you have got to keep your chin up. I know it must so hard for you but try and keep those positive thoughts in your head.
You have got to keep trying and you will but in the meantime try and be positive. I know your at a different stage to me at the moment but i realised the other week that in between all the emotions of KF and what it is doing to me and my DH i forgot to live in between doing the things i want to do before a beautiful baby comes along.
I want a baby more then anything but have realised that while we go through the journey we might as well try and enjoy ourselves.
I am a big believer of it will happen when the time is right. Even though i think i am not patient i must be ...alot lol.
It will happen to you, just keep your fingers crossed xx

 

[theclarks8687]

Thank you I appreciate that, and we are doing things we wouldn't be able to with a kid, like spur of the moment trips to the casino and what not.

 

[theclarks8687]

Well its get is AI time of the month again so wish me luck....how is everyone else doin?

 

[silverbell]

Good luck, clarks, hope this is it for you

I'm on 8dpiui and will know whether this is going to be our 5th failed cycle or not this weekend

Really scared it's going to be another negative, but praying and hoping and wishing so much that it won't be.

 

[theclarks8687]

About a week ago I had a really rough day, I was so scared to start this cycle over again and put all the energy into it, just to get disapointed again. And my hubby talked me down

 

[clarkea]

Good luck, clarks, hope this is it for you

I'm on 8dpiui and will know whether this is going to be our 5th failed cycle or not this weekend

Really scared it's going to be another negative, but praying and hoping and wishing so much that it won't be.

good luck Silverbell. fingers crossed for you.

 

[clarkea]

Well its get is AI time of the month again so wish me luck....how is everyone else doin?

good luck clarks

 

[luckdragon]

Good luck everyone xxx

 

[silverbell]

5th failed IUI for me, ladies. We're on our last one now before facing IVF ... which is crazy considering there's nothing actually wrong with me or the donor sperm!

 

[theclarks8687]

Remember when using donor sperm IUI your chances aren't much higher then a normal couple bding, I think its like 50% inthe first 6 months and 80% in a yr. I have to remind myself that after every failed cycle.

 

[luckdragon]

Silver I had ivf treatment with donor sperm and there's nothing wring with me either, The clinic I went to said it had a better success rate. I only had one embryo out back as well. It wasn't bad to go through the only difference was egg
Collection and that was fine I even gave half my eggs to help someone else! Really wishing you lots and lots of love and baby dust for what ever you decide to do next xxxx

 

[silverbell]

Thanks, luckdragon

I guess I just think of IVF as being needed for those with known problems, but actually I'm quite excited about it now I've thought about it and looked into it a little more and knowing that there is increased chance of pregnancy. Much more than with IUI.

I want to do egg-sharing too. I'd love to 'give back' and help a couple out with the opposite problem of what we have.

Thanks for the encouragement x

 

[theclarks8687]

Well ladies, on to another cycle, got my smiley and my donor all within a few hrs so maybe ill be able to announce at Christmas this yr.