December Babies 2013 :)

[SarahJayne_x]

nina - better late than never, sounds like you had a pretty rough time, especially with her having a knot in her cord, sounds very dangerous,must have been hard for you not being able to hold her on certain days, bet your making up for lost time now tho, hope the testing comes back with the results you want, not long now for your meeting, i hope you dont mind me asking, and please tell me if you do but what genetic testing has she had? like i say if you mind just tell me to mind my own

It's neuro genetic testing. My son has an unspecified neuro genetic disorder. He has a severe global developmental delay, hypotonia (low muscle tone), skeletal dysmorphia, hyper pigmentation (is light in all features, drastically lighter then anyone in either family), has a sensory processing disorder, likely somewhere on the autism spectrum, and a has a small handful of genetic abnormalities.

As for my daughter, she had a 2 vessel cord instead of 3 which can be a sign of a possible genetic disorder, her head also measured slightly small, although her brain seems to be fully formed (they did an ultrasound while she was in NICU), and she also has one of those genetic abnormalities that my son does. It's called a dorsal dimple and simply put is just a small indentation in the tissue (a dimple) at the base of the spine. With these and my son's issues they just want to make sure she doesn't also have a neuro genetic disorder because early intervention is the best way for a special needs child to thrive in today's world.

And I really don't mind talking about it. My son might be special needs but he is an otherwise healthy (rarely gets sick), happy and vibrant little boy. Everyone he meets loves him and he just enjoys life to the fullest so I feel that he hasn't lost out on quality of life, what's the point of feeling ashamed of such an amazing little boy? I want people to know what I've been through so that people (in general) can learn to accept that special needs isn't abnormal, it's just not typical. That starts by advocating for my son and educating other people about him.

sounds like hes gone through a lot of tests etc to establish his conditions.. i agree completley with you when you say that special needs isnt abnormal.. my younger brother was tested for autism/adhd/dyspraxia when he was a lot younger (hes 21 next month) and my mum went through so much to try and get a diagnosis for him and she went through a phase of explaining to people why he was like he was but in the end people just understood thats who he is..
hopefully calli wont have the neuro genetic disorder too but lile you said if she does have it then at least they'll find it early and they can do what needs to be done for her then xx

 

[vitabrevis]

Hi, my name is Brittany and i had my son Ian Lucas on 12.2.13!

 

[SarahJayne_x]

welcome brittany, i shall add you to the list at some point over the weekend as cant do it on my phone.. hows things with you?x

 

[vitabrevis]

Things are going well! We're finally understanding days from nights and we have our one month checkup in about an hour!

 

[Loui1001]

Things are going well here too, though Holly has a head cold atm and is so congested and snuffly at night, she's managing to sleep through it but I can't relax!

 

[vitabrevis]

Well we went to our one month check up and the ped. said he is perfect! He was born weighing 6lbs 13ozs and by the time we left the hospital he was 6lbs 3ozs. He weighed 10lbs 2ozs today! I guess he really likes moms milk!

 

[Louise88]

My daughter seems to be coming around slightly to the new baby, I was breaking my heart the other night because my daughter refused to give me a goodnight cuddle and kiss something we do every night she just didn't want me anywhere near her, but last night she did give me a cuddle which was nice she's also starting to show an interest in James and nicely strokes his head

I feel I'm coping nicely at the moment but getting abit scarred as last night I started feeling very anxious and felt like I was going to an anxiety attack which is what happened after having my daughter and it eventually turned into PND so I'm hoping the anxious feeling doesn't happen again as I promised myself I'd enjoy my baby this time

 

[Kandidancer]

I'm glad Ciara is coming round. My friends daughters are 15 months apart and the eldest hated sharing her mummy. It has got better but occasionally she has a meltdown if the younger girl gets attention.

Do I have to burp my baby? I bf and my mums friend said you don't burp Bf babies, and that Darcie should be getting tummy time?
Are these correct she 3 weeks old today.
Xx

 

[RUBY2122]

I'm glad Ciara is coming round. My friends daughters are 15 months apart and the eldest hated sharing her mummy. It has got better but occasionally she has a meltdown if the younger girl gets attention.

Do I have to burp my baby? I bf and my mums friend said you don't burp Bf babies, and that Darcie should be getting tummy time?
Are these correct she 3 weeks old today.
Xx

I used to burp William but Luke doesn't seem to burp! I do give him a little rub after feeds but he doesn't seem to need it as he never burps. If Darcie is not struggling with wind I wouldn't worry.. Some bf babies swallow lots of air but some don't.

 

[RUBY2122]

I'm glad Ciara is coming round. My friends daughters are 15 months apart and the eldest hated sharing her mummy. It has got better but occasionally she has a meltdown if the younger girl gets attention.

Do I have to burp my baby? I bf and my mums friend said you don't burp Bf babies, and that Darcie should be getting tummy time?
Are these correct she 3 weeks old today.
Xx

I used to burp William but Luke doesn't seem to burp! I do give him a little rub after feeds but he doesn't seem to need it as he never burps. If Darcie is not struggling with wind I wouldn't worry.. Some bf babies swallow lots of air but some don't.

Oh and personally I think 3 wks is a bit young for tummy time but I know others that do.

 

[SarahJayne_x]

louise im glad shes coming around slowly, shes been the only child for as long as she knows so i should imagine its hard as kelly said for her to have to share you x

kelly, no idea on burping a bf baby sorry, a few mums here bf tho so when they come on im sure they be able to help youm. travis doesnt have tummy time yet as he isnt awake long enough, id prob start his tummy time when he can hold his head up on his own, cant remember how old ashton was when i started it now..

lately travis has started being sick after his evening bottles, hes fine through the day and night but come 5-6ish when he has a bottle he brings the majority of it back up.. after hes had a bottle we leave him 5 mins then wind him as we found in the beginning he was sick if we sat him up straight away so we havent done anything different, wondering if any ff mums had same issues now or previously?x

 

[Louise88]

Those with other children to look after aswell as your newborn how are you's finding it since your partners gone back to work? My oh goes back to work on Monday after only taking 1 week paternity as he's a manager and their short staff and I'm petrified being on my own with 2 not sure why as I've coped nicely so far I think its just the knowing your not going to have someone there 24/7 to help if you need it.

 

[Ninagrrl]

I burp Calli and she is BF but I also use a nipple shield so she swallows air quite a bit. Although burping is more as needed and most of the times she doesn't need burping so unless she wiggles a lot or seems uncomfortable, I skip it.

As far as tummy time, it depends on baby. If baby can hold head up and move it from side to side from tummy position without a problem then you can do tummy time whenever you like. Most don't do tummy time until baby is able to roll in both directions fairly successfully because otherwise they don't get too much out of tummy time.

 

[RUBY2122]

Those with other children to look after aswell as your newborn how are you's finding it since your partners gone back to work? My oh goes back to work on Monday after only taking 1 week paternity as he's a manager and their short staff and I'm petrified being on my own with 2 not sure why as I've coped nicely so far I think its just the knowing your not going to have someone there 24/7 to help if you need it.

I have only had to manage a couple of hours at a time so far on my own as had lots if help from family and nursery. I was proper scared but it has not been so bad.. Will is starting to get used to Luke being around and has stopped trying to get on my lap whilst feeding. I am just trying to ensure we have a plan if activity for the day.. It doesn't matter if we don't stick to it I just need it to keep focused and not drift into chaos.. As long as we make it to bedtime and we are all fed and watered I feel I have succeeded!

 

[Dantes Mom]

Those with other children to look after aswell as your newborn how are you's finding it since your partners gone back to work? My oh goes back to work on Monday after only taking 1 week paternity as he's a manager and their short staff and I'm petrified being on my own with 2 not sure why as I've coped nicely so far I think its just the knowing your not going to have someone there 24/7 to help if you need it.

Once you establish a routine it's fine! We have the school run to do at 8.30 every day, we start getting ready slowly at 7am so were not in a bit mad rush. If you have nowhere to go just find some routine whether it be nappy breakfast tv.
I have learnt that children respond best to routine as they know what's coming. Xx

 

[Ninagrrl]

Believe it or not, I found it less stressful to have OH gone to work. He's a worrier (his mom is too) so he's always second guessing me as I'm a lot more relaxed. He stresses me out by his constant "I think she's hungry" when I've told him she's just ate and trying to explain that her stomach can only hold so much so she can't possibly still be hungry. Every cry he thinks she needs food. Most of the time it is gas, and all the other times it is just her still learning to settle. I mean, she's only 3 weeks old! Guys are so funny about that kind of stuff.

 

[Louise88]

Thankyou for your replies, after today I'm slightly more relaxed as oh has been ill so has spent the day in bed I soon realised that James sleeps quite a lot lol so nothing's really changed except I'm slightly more tired then usual! I am yet to take both my babies out at the same time so making that my aim tomorrow then I can start planning trips to the soft play and to playgroup. Can't believe my little man is nearly a week old

 

[RUBY2122]

The tiredness is really catching up with me.. Not had more than 2 hours unbroken sleep in 4wks now. Been in such a positive place but this weekend I have been tearful, moody and snappy with DH. I hope it is just the tiredness... Things have been so perfect. I had PND with my last baby and am feeling scared this could be the start again

 

[Louise88]

I hope it's not Ruby is there anyway you could express milk and have your oh do the night shift on one of his days off? So you can get a full nights sleep? My oh has done a couple of nights and it's kept me sane but then I'm feeding both breast and formula so I guess it's slightly more easier in my case. Hope your feeling better soon Hun and Luke starts sleeping abit longer between feeds at night for you, just keep telling yourself it does get better we know it does from our first babies xx

 

[RUBY2122]

I hope it's not Ruby is there anyway you could express milk and have your oh do the night shift on one of his days off? So you can get a full nights sleep? My oh has done a couple of nights and it's kept me sane but then I'm feeding both breast and formula so I guess it's slightly more easier in my case. Hope your feeling better soon Hun and Luke starts sleeping abit longer between feeds at night for you, just keep telling yourself it does get better we know it does from our first babies xx

Thanks Louise. I have always been told not to introduce bottle until a month old so not given one yet. May try Luke in a bottle this weekend if no improvement. I am crap at expressing but am happy for Luke to have formula. I worry about my milk supply though if giving too many bottles.