December Rainbow Babies!!! Congrats New Mom scoobydrlp PINK!

[LalaR]

How funny justkeep, we seem to have opposite pregnancies. Bethan was breech with a posterior placenta so loads of movements. This little boy has an anterior placenta so I hardly feel anything.

I'm also loving the return of this thread. It feels like I've found a load of old friends again. The June 14 rainbow thread is scary quiet!! Xx

 

[grenouille]

Yay I’m so glad I wrote in this thread! I didn’t want to tell anyone around me when I found out this weekend, but I had to tell SOMEONE so I turned to you!

I joined an october rainbow baby thread, and although there’s lots of action on it and people are pretty friendly, I think it’s stressing me out too much. Now I have a healthy baby I’m not as anxious as I was with Xavier, I just don’t want to think about it too much for now.

Wow I don’t know why I had always assumed you were all in your early twenties and I was one of the oldest here! I’m 30, I know I’m still young, and so are you, It just seems most of my friends had their babies earlier than I did.

And yes Scooby jooooin usss!! Haha

I’m very lucky that I got pregnant almost right away (we started TTC in december). But it doesn’t necessarily reassure me. I got pregnant right away with my 2 MCs. Than it took about 6 months to conceive Xavier. And now I’m pregnant after only two months so I don’t know what to think.

My mom actually takes care of Xavier when we are working..! (I know again, I’m so lucky). I wish he did get to socialize more with other kids though. We have playdates once in a while with my friend and her LO, and his cousin who’s 10 months old now lives closer to us so we’re going to try to visit very often. He loves seeing other kids.

I hope you all get your BFPs really soon!

 

[scoobydrlp]

Congrats Greenouille!! Sure hope this one sticks for you! I've gotten so broody since talking with all of you. Not sure my DH will agree to start TTC yet though...guess we'll see!

 

[Krippy]

Wow! TTCers and preggos! This is going to be so much fun! I am 33 well and so I knew we wanted to TTC as soon as we could! We are still BF so I am lucky that my cycles came back regular right before Christmas and we right back on that TTC wagon! We were lucky to conceive right away too!

So excited for this thread to be back! Sorry I didn't read through all the comments! This 3rd baby in 4 years I kicking my butt and I feel like rubbish! Bring on the second tri! Anyone had a previous C-section and going for a VBAC this time around?

 

[LalaR]

At 30 you're a youngster grenouille!! I just turned 38 so think I'm prob the oldie of the group! Still secretly hoping to fit another in after this one if I'm lucky enough.

Congrats krippy. I hope you feel better soon. I had a section last time as Bethan was breech. Definitely hoping for a vbac this time round. Another section with a toddler would be hard.

 

[Leliana]

It is so exciting that we're all at the same point in our lives again. It also gives me lots of hope to see that you ladies have conceived quickly this time around

I am almost 29 so not far behind you all! My DH is almost 37 though so we do feel like the clock is ticking as far as he is concerned. It's funny, I also feel like most people seem to be sooo much younger than me when having children but at baby groups I am one of the youngest there. I do think women have children later in life and I know loads of first time Mums who are in their 40s.

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Lala, there is a vast difference in the movement felt with an anterior vs. posterior placenta isn't there!
Im really really hoping that this baby turns as I don't want a section. I worry about not being able to take care of Emelia and lift her etc. they told me that babys have until about 37 weeks to turn but then its a slim chance of it happening. I know I was only 28 weeks when they told me baby was breech and most people don't even get scans at that stage so wouldn't even know their baby was breech but I have a feeling that this baby wont turn...who knows.


Also Im 31 but will be 32 in april, I actually think its more normal and common these days to be having babies in your 30's , I don't think we're old yet!

 

[LalaR]

Lala, there is a vast difference in the movement felt with an anterior vs. posterior placenta isn't there!
Im really really hoping that this baby turns as I don't want a section. I worry about not being able to take care of Emelia and lift her etc. they told me that babys have until about 37 weeks to turn but then its a slim chance of it happening. I know I was only 28 weeks when they told me baby was breech and most people don't even get scans at that stage so wouldn't even know their baby was breech but I have a feeling that this baby wont turn...who knows.


Also Im 31 but will be 32 in april, I actually think its more normal and common these days to be having babies in your 30's , I don't think we're old yet!

A total difference in movements!!! I sometimes get worried as I can go a whole day with none and have to have a cold drink and lie down to see if I can feel something. Thank god for my doppler!!
Hopefully your little one will turn. My friend's wife recently had their second and baby was breech until 38 weeks and still turned. There is a bigger chance if it's not your first. Bethan was tied in cord so even ECVs couldn't get her round.
I totally agree about wanting to avoid a section with a toddler. I am hoping this little one is not going to follow his big sister even though if your 1st is breech then the risk of the second doing the same is up to 10%!! Boo!!

 

[grenouille]

Oh wow we're almost all in our 30s or close. I'm not saying we're old, I just find it a bit reassuring. I know lots of women who had kids later, but lots of friends my age had kids in their early or mid-twenties, and it made me feel like it was the norm. I've been with my OH for almost 12 years (!) now and we prefered to travel a bit and enjoy our freedom

Also I remember seeing some of you in pictures and you looked really young! So I just assumed you were all younger than me

To those who are pregnant, have your bellies popped earlier this time? I'm only 6 weeks and I feel like I've eaten wayyy too much, ALL the time. My belly is huge. I hope I don't have twins... I'd be happy but I think we would have to sell our house and buy a bigger one... buy a new car... yeah we would be in trouble! lol

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Greenouille, I always thought that you show earlier second time around but to be honest I think I've been the same and only really started showing about 15 weeks. Before then it was just bloat.
I don't think Im any bigger this time around than the first.

Each to their own when they choose to start having kids but like you say, its good to have enjoyed nice holidays etc. and freedom before truly settling down.
We've had some great holidays to Las Vegas, New York, San Fran..all places that Im doubtful if we'll ever get back to again or anytime soon.
We were contemplating going a summer holiday to Spain this year but to be honest Im thinking it sounds stressful with two young kids, so for us it will be somewhere close to home. I do look forward to family holidays to Florida and Dinsey World in a few years time!

 

[katestar53]

Wow, this thread has really taken off... so many posts to read I feel the same, I have tried to join some TTC threads but all they end up doing is stressing me out even more than I am already. I can feel all the old anxieties coming back and can't deal with all that again. I thought because I had Harvey it would be less stressful but apparently not... The thought of MCing again is more than I can bear.

It's been a tough few months. Two weeks after my MC my Mum passed away. She had been in intensive care for 5 months as she caught pneumonia after a kidney transplant last May. She went peacefully and she is no longer suffering as if was so awful to see her so poorly. At least she got to see me get married & she saw Harvey walk a few weeks before she passed. I feel like I need this to give me some hope. I'm sure she is up there sprinkling baby dust all over me! I hope you ladies don't mind me sharing this with you? I feel it's such a huge part of my life that's changed it be hard not to share it.

I love New York Justkeep! I've been three times!!! We also went on loads of lovely holidays before Harvey was born so I'm quite happy to explore this country & France for the next couple of years. My OH mum has a villa on the south coast of France which we can use in the summer months. It's gorgeous & we are so lucky. We went there on our honeymoon last June. Well I say honeymoon as we took Harvey but it really was lovely as it was our first holiday as a family

Lala, I had a anterior placenta with Harvey and didn't really feel any movements till 23/24 weeks, was so stressful but like you had a Doppler which reassured me. I used it right to the end as there where a few occasions when I thought he hadn't moved.

I would love to try for a VBAC if I can with my next pregnancy. Even though I will be petrified! I have heard far too many traumatic birth stories not to be! I haven't really gone my research into it but us there a higher risk with a VBAC?

 

[LalaR]

Grenouille, I am definitely bigger earlier this time. I had a bump by 10 weeks which was hard to hide and I'm now filling maternity tops I wore until term with Bethan. Saying that, I have a bigger baby this time!!

Kate, I had all the vbac counselling with my consultant and the risks of vbac are less than the risks of repeat section. Especially if you want more than 2 babies!! I'm no more scared than I was first time round. Also, its reassuring to know I'll be kept a closer eye on.

Day off today and I've just slept for 10.5 hours. I've been so tired. Bethan's not awake yet which has given me time to shower and breakfast. I'm lucky she is such a good sleeper. Off to buy her first pair of real shoes which will be an experience!!

 

[scoobydrlp]

kate- so sorry to hear about your mom, and so soon after your mc. That's a lot for a person to go through, especially all at once. I sure hope you get some good news soon!

Lala, and the others that are pregnant, I have no idea how you do it while having to take care of a toddler at the same time! I was so horribly miserable with constant morning sickness when I was pregant with Camden, I just came home from work and went straight to bed. Can't do that when you've got a LO to take care of! Hats off to all of you!

edited to say: I forgot to mention I think my cycles may be starting to become normal?! We TTC Camden for 2.5 years, turns out I had ovulation issues, and very irregular cycles. Took 3 rounds of Clomid to conceive her. Well my cycles for the last several months have gone from 40 days down to 37 days and now the last 2 have been 33 days. I think this is a good sign! Before Camden they were varying from 37-45 days. I hope this is a sign that we'll be able to conceive naturally this time!

 

[katestar53]

Yay Scooby that your cycles are heading back to normal! If must if be so hard for you with them being so long!

I'm definitely up for trying a vbac next time... Was gutted when I found out I had to have a c-section. Do you know if I will be able to have a midwife led birth as I would love to try a water birth? Or will I have to be monitored during labour?

Am in my fertile period now & have had three high days on my cbfm so should hopefully OV in tts next day or two.... We have managed to BD the last two nights & will defo try again tonight but it's such hard work! I'm so tired by now that even the thought of it is making me sleepy!

 

[Leliana]

Oh Kate, I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. You really have been through the mill I am so pleased that she managed to spend quality time with Harvey and see you get married. I am sure she is sending so much baby dust you are covered in it

Today is 1dpo for me! We DTD 6 times in the last week so that has to count for something!!

 

[katestar53]

Well done Leliana, six times is pretty good going! I'm aiming for the same, we are half way through but find baby making sex really hard sometimes.... It can never really be spontaneous and sometimes I have to really force myself but needs must!

 

[LalaR]

Kate, so sorry about your mum. It must have been so hard watching her suffer. I hope that everything good comes your way now.

Sadly water births are out with a vbac which is a shame. I'm having to have a labour suite birth rather than midwife led with continuous monitoring once I'm in established labour. It will still be worth it. My friends all say I'm mad for saying I feel cheated because I had to have an elective section. I just want to feel contractions and at least have a go at trying to push my baby out myself!!

 

[Krippy]

I am so sorry to hear about your mom Kate. We lost my Dad not very long ago and it is just so hard when you know they will miss seeing your LOs grow up and be a grandparent! My thoughts are with you and I hope that you are able to conceive again soon!

Leliana...6x!!! Sounds like you covered your bases...Hope you catch that eggie!

Does anyone know why a VBAC is not allowed in water? Just curious... I would love a water birth but I am happy with my birthplan so far. Midwive led, non-hospital birth. Going to the same hospital where I lost RJ and was pushed/fear driven into having a c-section with Raif is just too emotional for me. Hoping it all works out but I know how births go and things obviously don't go as planned but I am hoping that this birth will be a healing process for my boys and I, as well as welcoming a new addition. We are staying Team Yellow again...So excited for the surprise!

 

[grenouille]

Justkeep: I really hope we get to travel with our kids.. But I’m glad we went backpacking in Europe for 5 months before TTC. We never could have afforded that with kids. We’ve only done a 12 hour road trip with Xavier so far, but we went to Ottawa, it’s the same country and we used to live there so it doesn’t really count but it was still an adventure for him

Kate: I’m so sorry about your mom. Of course we don’t mind you sharing. That’s why we’re here. Glad she got to know Harvey and saw you getting married.

Scooby: That’s great if your cycles are becoming normal. I hope you get to conceive naturally.

Leliana: 6 times! Haha! I hope this is the right time! Fingers crossed!

Krippy: So sorry about your dad.. My dad had heart problems last november and when my mom called me he was in the ambulance and we weren’t sure if he had had a heart attack or something. Thankfully he’s ok now, but it really scared me. He is so close to Xavier, I just couldn’t picture him not being there as he grows up. I’m always so worried now about something happening to him.

 

[katestar53]

Thanks for your kind words ladies... I definately feel she is watching over me

Sorry to hear about your Dad Krippy, big hugs LOve that your staying team yellow again. I found out with Harvey what we were having but next time I think I wait for the suprise

Its a shame about not being able to have a water birth but will definately still plan on a vbac.

Quick question foir the pregnant ladies... What time of day did you dtd? We can only really manage in the evenings as Im sure you will all understand! HarVey is up anytime from 6:30 so the mornings are out! Unless we set the alarm for 5:30 Is it better to dtd in the morning?