*** December Snowflakes 2012 *** 158 Snowflakes - 36 born so far!

[ttc_lolly]

Congrats on the blue bumps Mum0709 & trgirl will update on the front page!

Good luck for all the 20 week scans this week ladies, can't wait to hear what everyone's having or just having a nosey at all the pics! It's so weird that we are all around (or nearly coming to) the half way mark now! I started this thread when I was no more than 4 weeks pregnant! Tiem has really flown by.

UK ladies - I agree, Eamonn is a numpty

 

[kitty2385]

agreeing with the Eamonn holmes comments! I never watch this morning when hes on!!

 

[Blu_Butterfly]

20 weeks today - whoot, whoot!

 

[ImSoTired]

20 weeks today - whoot, whoot!

Happy halfway point Blu! I'll be 20 weeks on Thurs!

 

[ocean_pearl]

Woohoo Blu!

 

[ttc_lolly]

Happy 20 weeks Blu!

So I've had no appetite hardly this whole pregnancy. I'm actually 2lbs less than I was pre-pregnancy I was quite pleased with this, but have found over the past few days my appetite has returned with a vengeance! I just can't get enough of chocolate, something I could have gone without before! Not good!

 

[2016]

I'm halfway today too!
I've gained 10lbs so far this pregnancy despite feeling sick and being off food. I just keep eating ice cream, chocolate and sweets by the bucketload! I'm gonna lose my teeth!

Had our anomaly scan today and everything looks perfect. They confirmed Sprout is definitely a girl so hubby will let me go shopping now (and paint the nursery sickeningly pink). I would have been happy either way but I'm quite excited about the new experience of having a little lady.

Just one more scan to have at 32 weeks and they said they would probably give me steroids then in case this one arrives at 34w6d or sooner like DS....though the consultant today said its not impossible to go over with the next baby they can just never tell.

 

[Jumik]

Congrats to all those who've hit the half way mark this week!

AFM: I finally have a bump! A stranger noticed yesterday so I was escorted by security to the front of the bus line at the bus terminal for priority boarding and seating (we have priority boarding and seating for pregnant ppl, women with small children and the differently abled). Now I can go straight to the front of the line on my own without being accused of cutting Woohoo!

My next Dr. visit is Monday. Hope to find out which team i'm playing for then.

 

[LillyLee]

Wow I feel so guilty right now. DH's best friend's wife (who I sincerely dislike and has always refused to anything as a group or with me individually) got us a huge gift bag full of really nice things and a gift card for the baby. They know we're extremely tight on money right now and were extremely generous in what they gave us. The problem is they had a baby a few months ago and in our move/finding out we were pregnant/and being laid off from a job we didn't get anything for them. I always felt really bad about this even though I never liked the people, but now that they've done something nice for us I feel even worse that we never did anything for them. And the more months that go by just make it that much more awkward for getting them anything. My hormones are out of control right now! I'm oscillating between 1. Getting them something albeit much belated but then tell myself that obviously they would know I was reciprocating their gift. 2. Not getting them anything, but this obviously makes me look like the petty one for not getting them anything to begin with and her the bigger person for overcoming her dislike and getting us something! UGH I just want to beat my head on the desk right now!!!

 

[2016]

LillyLee...I wouldn't get them anything tbh. As you say it would be obvious why you did it. I don't think people should give to receive anyway. Gifts need to be purchased be cause you WANT to not because you feel obligated. It was lovely for them to get you a gift and I think a sincere thank you should suffice. Maybe it's just a sign from them they would like to become better friends.

 

[Blu_Butterfly]

Congrats on 20 weeks 2016!

Lilly - I wouldn't get them anything. I would write them a really nice thank you note expressing how much it means.

Ok ladies - VENT TIME - and please tell me if I'm being irrational...
As you ladies know I had a miscarriage last year and went to a specialist after that and am now halfway through this pregnancy. Each time I go to the doctor I get charged $50 plus my benefits have a $300 co-payment for the doctor who delivers your child. My doctor's office makes you pay this in advance, which I don't mind. The problem I have with this is between all the scans and follow up scans with the troubled pregnancy that lead to m/c, the hospital trip, the specialist visits and the normal visits for this pregnancy, the cost has added up. DH has not paid a single cents for any of it. I do have good insurance but I totaled up that already I have paid $1300 out of pocket in visits alone! DH gave me major attitude b/c I said he should give me half of the cost of the doctor fee - only $150 bucks! I'm floored. He said if that's the case, anytime he buys something for the baby he should come and see me for half.... WTF? I'm not buying diapers and socks - I'm covering the cost for medical visits for our child by myself. Ughh! We haven't even gotten to the expensive part yet....

I just don't get it...

 

[LillyLee]

Blu, I'm so sorry. I know how frustrating insurance can be and how quickly everything can add up. Sometimes DH's just don't understand what we're all going through right now. I have a system with mine where we figure out how much of a percentage each of us make and that's how much each person paid for bills. (This was a little confusing at first, and honestly some people have considered it harsh, but it's what worked for us). Now that he's been laid off and I'm the only one working I cover all the bills and I know if we were in an opposite situation he would be doing the same for me. Perhaps just tell him that the baby is an "our" expense and you are happy to split the cost of other things later when you need them (diapers, clothes, etc), but right now it's a strain carrying the medical burden on your own.

 

[Blu_Butterfly]

Thanks Lilly. We split all of the household bills 50/50. I feel like he sees me going to the doctor an expense I should pay. With that in mind, when I have the baby and all the hospital bills come and I supposed to pay that myself as well? I don't know if he feel like the baby expenses start AFTER the baby gets here...frustrating.

I don't nickle and dime him for all of the things I pay for - I've carried the financial burden in our relationship with no complaints (I've always made more money than he does). I've put out so much financially for his children without reservation. I'm beyond frustrated that he doesn't think he should even help me pay that bill for OUR child.

 

[Honey.Bee]

Lovie - Congratulations on your engagement! What lovely news but we are all still waiting for your proposal story

Congratulations on all the great gender scans. Mine is on Friday and I will be officially half-way on Saturday. I can feel and see LO moving now. It is like there is an alien in my belly (in a good way!). I love lying in bed and watching the little looney roll and kick. He seems to go crazy in the bath or when DH puts his hand on my belly. I think it is a warmth thing.

Blu - Grrr. Money is such a difficult one. I wonder why DH is happy to split the bills 50:50 but not your vital medical care. I'm not sure of your personal situation but would it work to set up an account which you both pay into and from which you can pay medical bills and later clothes/nappies etc? Either way, when you are feeling calmer you need to sit down and chat about how this is going to work financially and explain how his comments have frustrated you. Good luck. DH and I have very different salaries (I earn more than 4 times his salary) and we have had our fair share of heated discussions on the subject. Ultimately, open communication is key.

 

[GenYsuperlady]

Happy halfway to all the 20 weekers!

Blu - I'm sorry to hear you had it out with DH. My husband and I also keep our finances separate, mostly because we did it that way for years when we lived together before marriage, but also because then we don't have to ask permission of each other if we want to splurge on a treat for ourselves. That being said, I absolutely consider medical bills for the baby to be an "us" expense. I'm sure he realizes this too, but perhaps you caught him at a time when he is stressed about money or something else, so he just wasn't being reasonable? Surely he understands you can't compare buying a few baby outfits with $1300 in bills. You're not alone though, it took me MONTHS to convince DH that he should be helping me with the mortgage (I also make more than he does). Turns out he was just feeling financially pressed and needed a few months to work it into his budget. Now he still hates handing over the money, but understands that it is the fair thing to do...and I'm not stuck being broke while he's galavanting around spending his money on golfing every weekend!!!

 

[lovie]

Good morning snowflake mummies!

We had our scan yesterday and we found out that elfie is a by! he wasn't shy with his willy the lady was measuring his leg to find out a due date and said "oh i can allready see he's a boy" he was a little bit naughty with his arteries they need to find 4 different ones but half way through he rolled over and she couldy see inside the chest properly, i rolled onto my side but he still was hidden, i have to go back next tuesday to have the artery checked, im trying not to worry about it! They also do a DVD for us and they said they will do that for us next time as there is going to be more time.

the baby was adorably, he was opening and closing his mouth and he had his hand on his head exactly like his pappa sleeps

Blu im sorry to here that the money division seems so unfair with you and your OH that really does seem unfair! really its unfair that you have to pay to have a baby!! the total we have paid is 10 pounds for scan pics!

yay for more and more of us hitting the magic haf way mark! jumik gla dyour developing and enjoying your bump! 2016 congrats on a healthy (and still girly) scan

photo time, the random photo is his willy its right in the middle of the picture.

 

[2016]

Blu...I thought I said in my post but I didn't actually say congrats to you on being 20 weeks too. It was why I posted cos you're one of my due date buddies.

I certainly don't think you're being irrational about the bills AT ALL. In fact I think it's awful he hasn't OFFERED to pay!
We have all our money in a joint account. It would drive me crazy otherwise! We each get paid an "allowance" into a personal savings account which we can spend/save/splurge as we see fit!

 

[mummyof2girlz]

congrats lovie another little boy!!

21 weeks today yay only 19 weeks to go, i think ill count down the weeks now doesn't seem as long then...

 

[lovie]

your more than half way mummyof2girlz

the 2nd half i think is going to drag a little for me, there are not so many mile stones..

the ones i can think of are

v-day
3d scan
materity leave

can anyone think of any more?

 

[ttc_lolly]

Blu - That isn't fair at all the baby is both of yours, and his health and birth shouldn't be seen as an expense but something that is needed and the responsibility of it all split. I hope your DH sees sense soon

lovie - Congrats on being team I'll add your stork to the front page! Other milestones coming up are; 3rd Tri @ 27weeks, and then being Full Term @ 37 weeks