definition of small baby - different to some people.

[Fiestagal]

We went a soft play place today, Connor is 16lbs 5 oz at 20 months. One of the mums asked how old he is, so I told her and added my usual 'he was small when he was born' I don't know why I say that, maybe as a defence mechanism. Anyway she said her daughter was small too, only 6lb.

Do you explain there size when asked their age? Maybe I should say he was prem instead of small as people interpret it differently.

 

[AP]

I normally say prem, if i say small i will more likely get a 'oh my cousins LO was small too at xxxxxxlbs' and then id just get peeved as it isnt the same thing at all you know what i mean? A bit like when you say LO was prem and the response is 'yeah so was mine, 2 weeks early '

 

[lozzy21]

I usualy get "Oh shes small was she early?" even though shes not that small.

And then i get looked like im lieing when i tell them how early she was and what size she was.

I would say he was prem, it saves the other questions.

 

[Marleysgirl]

At our softplay meet on Saturday, Sherry & I were chatting to a mum of twins. Hers were 3 or 4 weeks prem ... she looked rather shocked when we said that Millie and Andrew were almost 3 months prem

 

[AP]

lozzy why the heck do people doubt

 

[lozzy21]

To be truthfull i would doubt some one talking about a nearly 9lb 35 week baby

 

[AP]

Well... I'll give you that!!!! you've certainly opened my eyes

 

[lozzy21]

I keep her neonatal discharge notes in her red book to prove she was born at 35 weeks

 

[Fiestagal]

I think if I say he was 5 weeks prem people won't see that as being particularly prem but at 2lb 11 1/2 he was much smaller than he should have been.

May try out the prem phrase and see what reaction I get.

 

[pink.crazy]

Def go with "prem".. I get so frustrated with people sometimes.. "Yes, she was less than 7lb AND I was overdue"...
People still jump on the bandwagon with "Oh, my first baby was 2 weeks early!!!" or similar, it's annoying!

 

[vermeil]

I always present him by corrected age. (9 months instead of 1 year) Only if people insist that he`s small do I explain why. I know this will sound evil but saying matter-of-factly that he weighed one pound at birth usually shuts people up =p

 

[Agiboma]

vermiel im with you there i always use LO's adjusted age it makes my life easier and the conversation flows better imo, they usually tell me he's big for his adjusted age i just say ty and move on

 

[rockabillymom]

I usually just say Lilly is small when people ask. She is 9lb 4oz at 11 weeks old. I feel the same way plus everyone always asks if she is a newborn...

 

[25weeker]

I would use premature rather than small as an explanation.

I couldn't even use hollys corrected age to stop questions. I would have to tell people she is a genius 4 month old

 

[Fiestagal]

Adjusted age wouldn't work for us as he was only 5 wks early. I have joked about passing him off as a much younger genius child!

 

[EmSmith1980]

I use Anya's actual age. More to see the reaction of really nosey folk. The majority of them just stand and stare with their mouth wide open. They don't believe me when I say she was born at 23+6 anyway. Like I'd lie about something like that. xx

 

[Lottie86]

I had it the other week when someone asked how old Findlay was, I said that he was 2 and they said "he's a really lovely length for a 2 month old isn't he" so I then had to point out he was 2 years old not 2 months old and then of course they did the "OH! He's very small isn't he, how much does he weigh? I know various children the same age and they are much much bigger and doing x,y and z " so I then felt I had to explain to them about Findlay. It's so not fun having a 2yr old who only weighs 8lbs more than he did when he was born!

 

[cowboys angel]

I get asked if Midget was early all the time, or asked what she weighed. People who ask how old she is, I say "Well 6 weeks but she was a month early so..."

 

[cowboys angel]

I say preemie though

 

[Hotmum]

Say preemie =)
I don´t get those questions anymore because my 34+4 weeker is almost 3 and caught up ! =D
But until he was 1 people use to ask too much actually =P hate it...

I knoow i ll be getting the same, stupid and everyone knows preemie questions now that I had a even younger preemie!
like:

- why she is so small?
- I know ! I had mine 2 weeks early ( I hate this one lol )
- why shes is not walking yet ?
- Oh my cousin´s husband friend ( because is always someone Lol ) had a pre E too and her baby was 6 pounds and 3 weeks early ! ( yes, double of my girl honey haha)
- Can she eat anything?
- O my God, you had Pre E twice ? You don´t think about a third one, do you? ( can´t wait to answer : YES I actually do =D haha)

I know some people don´t ask to offend anyone, especially the age, because it a normal question, but as soon you tell the age they start asking more and more, some are educated and nice but most aren´t... =p