Did you give LO the last name of FOB and regret it?

[GardenMagee]

My LO's last name is hyphenated and I regret even doing that. He was pretty insistent on giving LO his last name so hyphenating it was somewhat of a compromise... even though he hated the idea. Now I regret it so much. He still sees LO, but I just wish she had only my last name. I wish there was a way for me to change it but his name is on the birth certificate and I know he'd never agree to it.

 

[lal]

Well there's my answer I might agree to hyphenating my son's someday, but what you can do is just use yours when you sign him up for anything. I think the only time they need the whole name is for opening a bank account...

 

[Xuxa]

i regret it badly!!!

 

[wishuwerehere]

LO has my name. There was never any question in my mind that she would have his...and it didn't take him long to back down, tbh. His surname is one of her middle names.
I thought that, as the one who takes her to the doctors, does all her paperwork, will take her to school etc. I should have the same name as her. I also thought if I marry someone else I'll want her to take that name, which wouldn't happen if she had his surname. I wouldn't want her to go to the same school as any future siblings and have a different name and everyone to ask about it etc.

As a side point, if LO has FOBs surname but isn't very involved or doesn't really do anything like Drs or school, you can have your LO 'known as' your surname, even if it isn't legally their name