Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Round2]

OMG, I just spent the last hour with my HR person...whom normally I can't stand..but I love her today. Anyways, she just figured out a way I can go on maternity leave starting June 8th (1.5 weeks from now) and I don't have to come back till July 25th, 2013. I'm so excited, I can barely stand it...just had to tell someone.

 

[Jaymes]

Afm: had alovely weekend mil came over to see us sat spent the afternoon in the garden enjoying the sun sunday we went for a long walk stopped for a drink then we met my brother his fiance and her little boy in the afternoon at the beach. In the evening went out for food walked down to our local pub. Unfortunatley we didnt get ben down till 10pm he just wouldnt settle then he was up at half 1 till 4am back up at 6am he had high temp and wasnt not happy all day. He ended up sleeping for over 2 and half hrs not normal for him so we missed sing and sign class I also got a call from my hubby to say he was on his way to a&e he had an accident at work & hurt his foot he had to have an xray. Hes shattered a bone in his big toe, has ripped the toenail in half so has that secured on with butterfly stiches and it all banaged up hes on antibiotics for possible infection. He went to work this morning but had to come home at lunch as he was in so much pain and was bleeding a lot. We've been back to the hospital to have the toe redressed!! Just as we were saying at the weekend to his mum that its been 9months since he last went trying to convince him not to go to work tomorrow and just rest up he needs to keep his foot up.

OH MY!! I hope it gets better soon and I hope Ben feels better soon also, it is so hard when they are not well.

OMG, I just spent the last hour with my HR person...whom normally I can't stand..but I love her today. Anyways, she just figured out a way I can go on maternity leave starting June 8th (1.5 weeks from now) and I don't have to come back till July 25th, 2013. I'm so excited, I can barely stand it...just had to tell someone.

That's AWESOME!

Spoiler

AFM - I am ashamed to say I have NO willpower! NONE!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Ahhhhh yay another disco boy! Congrats hunny.xx

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Round- that's fantastic news, so pleased for you. How's the SPD treating you?xx

 

[heart tree]

Lucy that sounds awful! Your poor hubby! What on earth did he do to injure himself? Ouch, ouch, ouch. Does Ben still have a fever? When it rains it pours!

Round, that's awesome news! You'll be relaxing before the baby comes very soon!

 

[heart tree]

That's definitely a boy Jaymie!!! Congrats!!!

 

[LucyJ]

Round thats great news

Jaymes congratulations

OH MY!! I hope it gets better soon and I hope Ben feels better soon also, it is so hard when they are not well.

I know especially my boys who are both grumpy when they are poorly/hungry/tired. Ben is feeling better so only have one grumpy boy to cope with

heart tree Lucy that sounds awful! Your poor hubby! What on earth did he do to injure himself? Ouch, ouch, ouch. Does Ben still have a fever? When it rains it pours!

He was carring a large sheet of wood into a building and his back twinged causing him to drop the wood onto his foot the stupid bugger had forgotten to put his steel toecaps on Bens a lot better thank you his fever has gone and he is back to his normal mischievioius self hes been up the stairs again. He's so cheeky I keep putting him back with his toys and telling him no to climbing the stairs that he has to be careful. Hes got these stacking cups which he plays with he has started rolling them across the room and crawling afteer them he amazingly ends up at the bottom of the stairs with them then climbs up of course I find him there and just smiles at me like look mummy Im such a clever boy.

 

[Round2]

Oh boy Lucy, you're poor hubby. I cringed at the nail being ripped off part....that's nasty. Hopefully he takes it easy tomorrow. Seriously bad luck in your house. Is Ben teething? Maybe that's why the fever?

Jaymes! That'a girl.....glad you caved! Congrats on growing a penis. It's definately the year of the disco boy....(with the exception of Hearty's princess!).

I'm still dancing around in excitement about the fact I'm done work next week!! Not sure what I'm going to do with all that free time. Maddy is still in school, hubby will be at work.....I'm not used to having 'me' time.

 

[Jaymes]

Me time... Sigh so rare. I came out on Facebook...

 

[Allie84]

YAY Jaymes, congrats on team blue!! As for your thoughts, that's 'magical thinking' that is so common to anxiety and it has absolutely no basis in reality! I'm terrible for succumbing to magical thinking so I'll be the first to recognize it. It's so common and so understandable, but please understand that your thougts are just thoughts and don't mean anything...and seeing 'signs' is self perpetuating. I believe that God gives us signs sometimes ,but also that we can make signs and see signs if we're looking for them.

Lucy, ouch ouch ouch, your poor hubby. Glad Ben is feeling better. What a weekend!

Jen, good luck tomorrow.

Hoping, how was therapy?

Did I tell you guys that I went to a therapist for cognitive behavioral therapy and she wasn't a psychologist but a social worker and told me ALL therapy was CBT?! Which I don't believe it true....Hearty would know, but I am pretty sure CBT is a specific type of therapy and not talk therapy. I had CBT for my fear of flying before. So I'm going to try to find someone else. Anyways, what type are you taking? Sounds like a fun weekend! I know I asked before, but no Territory Days?

Hearty, enjoy the special treatment of a pregnant lady. It's wonderful! However, when the baby is born, you still kind of get special treatment. You still get the knowing smiles and polite strangers in public, at least.

Round, I kind of hate you now. HA! But I'm also really happy for you. How on earth does someone get that much maternity leave?!!? Is it all paid? Waaaah, America sucks. Are you getting induced at 38 weeks due to SPD?

Alistair loved the zoo yesterday! It was so fun and he was oh so cute. He was spent by the end of it though and cried half of the 30 mile drive home. Poor little guy! I felt so bad, he was so upset. I had my friend pull over twice so I could try to calm him down but wouldn't and eventually cried himself to sleep.

 

[heart tree]

Well I think social workers can make excellent therapists. In California they get very similar training in school. HOWEVER, all therapy is not CBT! CBT is a form of psychotherapy, so yes, there are similarities in that style (not every therapy is even psychotherapy). But, CBT, is more action oriented. You usually have homework and have to practice techniques. You of course have to talk about your issues, but it's more than just that. I was wondering if you had done it. Definitely find someone else!

Gotta go check FB now to see Jaymie's post!

 

[vickyd]

Oooohh another disco boy!!!! Congratz hun!

Round you government freeloader!!!!! Hahaha thats what people would say if you were Greek!! Im not as envious as everyone else is, i can deal with about a month away from work and then i start to go stir crazy.

Lucy poor Steve...Hope both your men are feeling better soon!

Mothing much to report here, waiting for elections next month to see what our fate will be lol!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Good luck for your appointment today Jenny.x

 

[Round2]

Yay Jaymie....glad to see you came out. It's your last baby, you need to celebrate this as much as possible.

Allie, yes I get paid for the entire year. The government supplies a certain amount based on your salary and how much you contribute up to a max of $400 a week. But then since I work for federal government, they top me up to my regular salary. We're very fortunate in Canada to get that much time and assitance. I know the US is brutal for maternity leave. Maybe you should look for appartments here! Ottawa is a beautiful city!!!

Sorry to hear your therapy session didn't go as planned. Is there someone else you can see?

Vicky, I'm actually a little concerned about taking that much time off too. I'm a nerd at heart and will actually miss work. But I keep reminding myself that this is the last time I'll ever have this chance to spend so much time with my kids. I really want to savour every moment, it's going to pass by so fast. But that being said, it's driving me crazy that someone else going to be doing my job. I hate giving up control!!!

Jenny, good luck today!

Nato, where are you? We miss you!!!

 

[hoping:)]

Lucy- Ouch! Poor Steve. This will probably teach him to always wear steal toed boots. It sounds like Ben is back to his old self

Jaymes- YAY!!! CONGRATS ON TEAM BLUE I think you said previously that your were leaning more towards a boy...

Round- I am also mega jealous about your maternity leave! The US sucks when it comes to that kind of stuff... I wish we were more family oriented I only got 2 months off and had to use some of my vacation time because they only pay for 5 weeks. I hope you enjoy every minute. It will be so nice to relax before the baby comes

Allie- therapy was refreshing I'm glad I went and will probably see her at least every other week. She wants to put me on anxiety meds which I was completely against. My regular doctor tried to put me on them a few years ago but I refused because I would much rather deal with it in a natural way. The natural options have not been working too well so I think I am going to try it out and see how I feel

Poor Alistair crying the whole way home. He probably over did it with his excitement at the zoo. I haven't taken Penny yet but she has been to the aquarium at least 4 times now and loves it

Hi everyone else Nato, come back soon! We miss you

 

[Sugarlove2]

Hi all.

Sassy, your 2 are beautiful! Hope you're enjoying it and coping ok.

Rounders, fab news at being able to take such and long maternity leave and for leaving soon! I'm having just over a year off and am already dreading going back in Nov

Allie, sorry to hear about the therapy. Sounds like she was talking shite re CBT to me!

Jen good luck with your appointment today.

Jaymes congrats on being team blue. Great news!

Hoping, glad to hear your therapy went well. I have to take meds for anxiety, but would much rather do it the natural way.

Lucy, Steve's accident made me wince. Hope he's recovering well!

Hi to Hearty and Vicky. Hope you are both well.

AFM I think Charlotte's teething again. Had a good 90 minutes of hysterical screaming before bedtime. Had to give her Calpol to calm her down in the end. The signs keep coming and going, but no actual teeth yet. She keeps pawing at her mouth and crying and drooling loads. Poor little lamb. This humidity is certainly not helping either. It really needs to chuck it down to clear the air.

Sorry if I've missed anyone

 

[vickyd]

sugar Hero still has only 4 teeth! A couple of upper teeth have been threatning to pop for what seems like months now...Poor baby has been stuffing her whole hand in her mouth the last week and i gave in and gave her paracetamol even though im dead against medicating.

This weekend i plan to take Hero swimming at the beach! Hope the weather is good cause these past weeks we've had more rain than the UK lol!

Hoping i sent you a friend request on facebook!

 

[LucyJ]

Thanks girls steves feeling much better still in pain but back to work which is good as he was driving me nuts I love him but oh my god he gets under my feet sometimes plus hes not very good at sitting still he had to keep his foot up,so was whingy. We're going home today to my parents for the jubilee weekend

Sugar Benjamin teeth on and off for months before a tooth came through at 9 months hes got the 2 bottoms ones and the top two have been causing him a bit of problems but not sign of them yet poor baby. He loves munching on his sophie the giraffe and munching on cold cumcumber gave him some relief. We use the teething granules which are good oh and bickie pegs what havent we tried :haha. Im like you vicky I dont like medicating him but have done when hes been in pain its always the last option for us.

Well I think Im all packed. Had an upsetting letter through the post last week from my dr's emailed them about it and havent had a response so will have to call them. From my journal about it:

I got Benjamin weighed yesterday and he is now 15lb 12oz I was convinced he'd be over 16lbs but not yet bless him hes till on the 2nd centile but has followed his line which I'm thrilled about no more dips we finally got his weight stabalised.

I got home yesterday to a letter from my drs and it had really upset me and well angered me. It was an invitiation to participate im a psychological study which initally I was interested in but as I read the information I discovered it is a study investigagting the thinking styles in mothers who are currently experiencing feelings such as sadness and discontent or have just been feeling low since giving birth. It is to provide an insight into how depression affects the relationship between mums and babies. It also says that I have been invited to participate in the study as I have been identified by my healthvisitor/midwife/GP. I pretty sure it wouldnt of been my GP and definitely wouldnt of been my midwife so think it was my healthvisitor (who Ive not seen since Benjamin was about 4 weeks) I never liked her and didnt think she was good at her job I know other mums who have had problems with her. Im really angery about it as it implys my relationship with benjamin has been effected I havnt suffered from feeling low and feel a judgement has been made without anyone seeing me or how I am with my son. I can honestly say I have never been so happy. I emalied the drs to see why Ive been identifeid and by whom. The sad thing is it made me questions meself my relationship with Benjamin I phoned my mum she reassured me and understood why I was upset.

 

[LucyJ]

Ok I seem to have put it in quotes rather than a spolier sorry.

Vicky have a lovely time at the beach with Hero hope the weather is nice for you.

 

[hoping:)]

Sugar- Penny has been teething for ages & still has no teeth to show for it. And just like you said the symptoms come and go. Last month we were so sure we saw one tooth ready to pop on the top but nothing. I am completely against medicating as well but gave in a few times because she was in so much pain. We usually give her natural teething tablets, teething biscuits, cold wash cloths etc… I hate seeing my baby in pain.

Vicky- have an amazing time at the beach! I’m sure Hero will love it. I just accepted your request. Thanks for finding me! I’ve found a few Disco girls on Allie’s facebook but if anyone sees me on there feel free to send me a friend request

Lucy- Tim turns into a big baby as well when he isn’t feeling good. I’m glad he was able to return to work so things can get back to normal. Have a great time with your parents at the jubilee! I read your post about the letter and responded in your journal… it still makes me mad when I read it