Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sugarlove2]

Hearty that's fab news that your little princess can come home. Hope the mastitis clears up quickly. Sounds horrible!

Allie, you poor thing, sounds like you're really having a rough time of it at the moment. Has Alex apologised for what he said to you? He obviously had too much drink, but that's no excuse and it's such a nasty thing to say to you. That's really sad that your Mum isn't getting any help for her bi-polar, and that your parents are divorcing over it.

Perhaps Alex is feeling under pressure and stressed at the moment, so is taking it out on you. If it's any consolation, Mal and I are arguing like mad at the moment. I think it's quite normal. Bringing up a baby is such hard work, and you're also juggling lots of other things at the same time.

A break sounds like a good idea. Hopefully it will help relax you and give you and Alex a bit of space from each other for a short while.

Lucy, hope Steve's work picks up soon. Ditto to Paul Jen.

 

[hoping:)]

thanks for all the well wishes girls I'm back at work as of today I'm still in a daze and haven't felt much like talking. It feels so weird getting back to "normal" life after all that has happened. All the details are in my journal if you feel like a long read. I wanted to document it for later.

Allie- I'm so sorry you are struggling at the moment and having to deal with your parent's issues Have you talked to Alex about how you are feeling? He should really be there to support you during this time. A trip away sounds much needed... will you still be coming to Colorado?

Hearty- your little girl sounds like she is progressing nicely She is a little fighter and I can already tell that this little girl is your whole world. Keep up the good work! I hope the mastitis clears up quick.

Lucy- I hope this is just a blip and Steve is just getting a few extra days to spend with his family.

Vicky- Congrats on getting the flat

Megg- YOU ARE A PUBLISHED AUTHOR So proud of you I will have to purchase a copy!!!

Jenny-I hope your DH's job becomes more consistant. I can't believe you are 30 weeks!

Hi to anyone else I missed

 

[vickyd]

Allie im sorry to hear of your parent's divorce...Its a shame that your mom cant get the help she needs, what if the divorce makes things worse??? I think you should persist on getting her more help cause in the end you might have to carry all the responsibility yourself. Alex was totally out of line saying that no matter what you did to provoke him. Raising a baby, even an easy baby, and the stress of your parent's situation might have been the trigger true but he needs to know that problems only get bigger as alistair grows and he has to deal with every problem as it arises without loosing his temper. Also he has to watch his language cause im sure he doesnt want to set a bad example for his son. I think you should take him out and tey to open the communication channels before getting up and leaving. If you leave for a few weeks you'll only feel better in the short term.

Hoping, again so sorry for your loss...

AFM, not much is going on...We are having a heatwave and today the temp rose to 42 degrees. Hero was agitated all day, and had 2 naps cause she was running out of energy very quickly. She just wanted to eat watermelon all day lol!!! Poor baby didnt go to the park at all today as my mom was worried about heatstroke. She took her to a shopping mall and basically let her loose in and out of all the shops. Everyone went crazy with her! she is the most social kids ive ever met. This seperation anxiety thing i hear about, we never went through it!

 

[Sugarlove2]

Big Hoping. So sad about your Mum.

Vicky, I wish we had a heat wave here. The weather has been shocking! I'm craving some sun!

 

[vickyd]

Sugar you seriously DONT want this heatwave...Today a 5 min. walk from the bus stop to work took me almost 15 minutes and i showed up at work drenched in sweat!!!

 

[Allie84]

Thanks girls. We've tried getting her sectioned, Jenny, as she has been in the past, but they won't take her in this time! They tell us she's not a threat to herself or others. It's shocking she can't get the help she needs...my dad's called in the cops/paramedics so many times but they do nothing. Vicky, that's exactly my fear as well but I understand my dad needs out of this vicious cycle. I'm hoping she gets help soon....my dad is planning on still taking care of her.

Oh Vicky, it sounds so hot!!! Ugh! I always resent having to do the mall thing in the summer when it's too hot as we have to do the mall all winter when it's freezing.

 

[jenny25]

Allie I am so sorry darling you know my mum has suffered mental illness for years she was really bad an was in a mental hospital for 5 years things were that bad I'm here if you need too talk or for advise at anytime I understand the pain your feeling I wish I could help so much xxxx

Amber I'm really sorry for your loss I hope your doing well as you can xxx

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky I think my biggest concern is the not knowing he has had blips and lulls in work but just dont know sometimes when or if there will be any work especially with the economy the way it is. Also I know steve worries and sometimes he wont tell me hes worried and he justs a bit grumpy and quite. I feel guilty that Im not bringing any money into the house and that its all on him. Having said that he has got a private job come in for today things can literally change overnight and hes waiting on a call for possible work for rest of this week and next so fingers crossed.

Thanks Jen hope paul gets something it is hard and stressfull so many thing to think about.

Allie Im so sorry about your mum I cant imagine how hard it must be for you and with everything else you have going on. What Alex said to you was not on at all but it does sound like it was fueled by alcohol. Could someone have Alastair so you and Alex could go and talk. I dont know how Alex reacts to things but I know when I was pregnant with Benjamin and there were problems with my brother which caused a lot of stressed steve got realy cross and I felt like it was aimed at me it was only when we sat down and talked I realised he wasnt angry with me but just worried for me and cross with the situation so maybe Alex is concerned for you and taking it out on you which isnt an excuse by any means. I really hope you guys can find away through this. I hope your mum can find some support & help which will help you and your dad. Here for you if you need anything

Hoping thinking of you and your family

 

[vickyd]

We signed the contract!!!!!!!!
This guy is so cool im sure there is a catch! We asked if we could only give a deposit of one months rent (the norm is 2) and he said sure. He gave us the keys and we said we cant accept them yet as we are moving in as agreed Sept.1st and we cant start paying rent from July. He said keep the keys, move in whenever and rent will start in Sept. as agreed!!! This guy is too good to be true!

 

[Dazed]

That is fabulous Vic! I'm so happy you finally caught a break with the moving situation.

 

[vickyd]

Thanks Dazed!! This Friday the 13th has been pretty lucky so far lol!

 

[jenny25]

Vicky that's amazing looks like there is still nice genuine guys out there xxx

 

[Jaymes]

Yay Vicky! So glad to hear you got a place and a nice landlord to boot!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Amazing news vicky, totally over the moon for you.x

 

[hoping:)]

congrats Vicky

 

[LucyJ]

Fantastic new vicky so happy for you

 

[Sparkly]

Vic - Brill news hun

Just popped in as I saw a pic of Amber and Allie on FB....more disco chicks meeting up

Hope everyone is well xxx

 

[heart tree]

Vicky I'm excited for you. You totally deserve this!

Delilah is home now and I'm trying to adjust to our new normal. I knew having a newborn would be hard, but I didn't realize how hard. She only wants to sleep on our chests or in our bed. I've tried numerous times to put her in the little bed right next to our bed but she just cries. I really didn't want to bring her into my bed, but I don't know what else to do. I keep reminding myself that she's still supposed to be inside me and maybe that's why she needs to be so close. I'm so careful sleeping like this that I don't dare move a muscle. I'm not very comfortable, but it helps us all to sleep better. Any thoughts or advice is welcome.

 

[Round2]

Great new Vicky, it's about time you found a great place to live with a great landlord.

Hearty, congrats on bringing your little girl home.

Same story at our house. Bryce only sleeps on me. I think it's pretty normal, I remember Maddy was like this too. It's sooo exhausting though. Last night he was up from 8 pm till 2am...then back up again from 5am till 7am. Then Maddy woke up at 7:30. Sleep is a four letter word in this house.

 

[vickyd]

Hearty and round do they wake up as soon as you put them in the cot? Hero always preffered to sleep on me at first but when i put her down she never woke up, at least until the reflux thing kicked in. Do you put them to sleep on their back? I know that the recommendation in the US, here its on their side. Hero never was able to sleep in the cot on her back but she was great with sleeping on her side.

We had an accident at the beach this weekend. Hero was being her naughty self and was putting sand and rocks on the sun bed in front of us. The woman was getting annoyed and Alex got up and started brushing the sand and rocks off her bed and somehow Hero got in the way and a rock hit her in the back of her head quite hard!! Poor thing almost went blue from crying so hard!! Thankfully we were at an organised beach with a doctor and a mini clinic and they took care of her. She keeps getting into these freak accidents and im slighly worried at the amount of sand shes been eating lately lol!!! She washes it down with sea water that she keeps drinking as well. Needless to say everyone at the beach thinks shes adorable and fearless but im aging rapidly with all the stress she causes me! The other day i managed to loose her for a few minutes at the soft play, i literally bent over for 1 second to pick up her juice box and she had ran to the big kids section and climbed to the top of this big bouncy castle. I almost had a heart attack till i heard this woman say "wow look at that little girl climb" and i instantly knew it was her. I swear shes gonna be the end of me!