Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sassy_TTC]

Hearty and rounders - Zac was just like that when he was first born, swaddling was a god send, assume you've tried that? We use to swaddle Zac, cuddle him to sleep, put him down in his side with a rolled up blanket in front and behind him to made him feel extra snuggly!
We've stopped swaddling now and he sleeps great, not sure how I was blessed with another good sleeper! He goes to bed at 8pm, sleeps until 3-4, wakes for feeding then back down until 7am when I wake him!

In the day he'd rather nap on my chest but I always put him down, sometimes it takes 20 times but I persist! I done this with poppy too avd she will ONLY nap in her cot now!

Hope you're all okay, im having lots or troubles with d but desperately trying hard to work through them.

Loved seeing photos of amber and allie, more disco meets are defo a must! Me and Caz are planning on getting together once her lo is here.

NATO - please continue to upload videos of your hot hubby and gorgeous baby, they make me smile.

Vicky - hero sounds like such a personality, I guess she gets that from you. Any news when your moving in?xx

 

[vickyd]

Sass sorry to hear you are feeling a bit depressed, how long did it last last time? Im not an expert or anything but im here for you if you need to talk ok?

We are moving August 20th, it will be the last week of my holiday so ill have plenty of time to get settled. Cant tell you how happy I am at the prospect of having our room to ourselves again lol!! Im hoping to get back our healthy sex life!

 

[vickyd]

Sass i just catched up on your journal, sorry i thought you were referring to depression with the letter D....I hope you guys can work out your problems but i think both people need to want to make it work. If only one person tries to fix things then usually it doesnt work out..You guys have been through some really rough times and maybe you havent let go of the hurt yet. Me and Alex struggle alot to go back to what we were before the whole baby making saga, I find that spending time alone every week really helps. We make sure to go out and live like we did pre-baby at least once a week. This is my approach, hope you can find one that works for you!
xoxoxox

 

[hoping:)]

Hearty & Round- Penny was just like that! Before she was born I planned to let her sleep with us for a few weeks and then put her in her crib but a few weeks turned into 4 months. I really enjoyed the baby cuddles. I read that the first 3 months after birth should be treated as a 4th trimester. It is a huge shock to go from mommy’s tummy to being alone in a crib so I just embraced it. Sleeping with a squiggly new born wasn’t always easy but it made me feel better because I could hear her breathing and night time feeds were easier. Once she went into her own crib we swaddled, which did wonders!

Vicky- Hero sounds like quite the little dare devil. I couldn’t help but smile as I read about her latest antics.

Sassy- I’m sorry to hear you are having some trouble with your DH. I hope everything can be resolved. Your kiddos sound amazing!

Yep, Allie and I finally met up on Sunday. We all went out to breakfast with the hubby’s and babies. That little Alistair is even cuter in person and was saying “dada” and playing with Penny’s feet. We had a great time!

EDIT: Sassy, I just took a peak in your journal and want to give you a big That is a lot to put up with especially having two little ones. I hope he decides to take your advice and get some help... it would be a shame to lose the 3 of you. You are very strong and I think you are making the best decision for you kids.

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Swaddle hearty! Swaddle, swaddle, swaddle!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Thanks girls, I really appreciate your words. Right now I have no energy to "work" at it, what will be will be! I think we both have seperate issues that need dealing with but it's easier said than done!x

 

[SMFirst]

I thought I'd be against bringing baby into bed to sleep but Adam wouldn't sleep in his crib until after 2 months old, so he mostly slept in the bed with me, and in our arms for naps. Eventually he adjusted to the crib (we kept trying regularly) and now he most always is in the crib.. so hang in there!

sassy sorry for the DH struggles

 

[vickyd]

Argh!!!!!!!! Hero has nits!!!!

 

[Round2]

Wow Sassy, just read through your journal. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine dealing with two young children and trying to sort our your marriage at the same time. All I can say is to keep an open mind. You've both been through alot in the last few years, you never know how you will feel after some time passes. I hope things work out for the best for you. You're a very strong woman, I know you will be fine regardless.

Vicky...yikes! Is thatt he same as lice? How do you get rid of it?

Thanks for the advice on swadling. We've been doing that and it does help. But I agree about the 4th trimester thing. I remember it was right around 3 months that Maddy stopped needing to be held all the time. I've just come to accept that I won't get a wink of sleep till the end of the summer!

 

[vickyd]

Its the egg of the lice that one it hatches she will be full of creepy crawlies!!! Apparently i cant use any of the med shampoos on her and will have to use the special comb only...My mom is gonna use vinegar as thats what they did in the old days.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Oh poor hero, nits are horrid! Hope the vinegar works.x

 

[jenny25]

Vicky we had that for the first time a few weeks back it was horrid I had the mother one I think we caught it at the antenatal clinic as it was during the school break I ended up having too shave aarrons hair off cause after 5 treatments it wouldn't go xx

Sassy I am going to read your journal xxx

 

[VGibs]

Vick - Coming from an old hairdresser...use a slick hair conditioner and the nit comb. Put a lot of conditioner in her hair and comb every square inch, making sure to wipe the comb in between sections. Nits hatch after 3 days. If you comb the nits before then you have less likely chance of them hatching. If they do hatch, condition and comb while the cream is in her hair. The less nits they can make the better. You can tell a queen by her rather enormous size compared to the tiny male lice insects themselves. If you destroy the queen and any trace of her nits then you can eradicate the infestation. 7 days nit free means you have beat them. Make sure to put all fluffy toys and pillows in a garbage bag, tie it up and put somewhere warm *like a porch, or near a window* for no less then 14 days. wash all linens in HOT water and dry on hot or allow to dry in the sun for a full 6-8 hours.

Aurora had head lice about a month ago. I treated her with apple cider vinegar mixed with 1 oz ouzo. I think its anise in the booze that helps kill the little buggers. Then a quick rinse and the conditioner treatment. We didn't have anyone in the house who got them and she has not been re-infested.

 

[VGibs]

Amanda - I know it is scary having baby in the bed with you. But I am one of those folks who says babies have their own personalities and their own ways of doing things. I had one baby who loved her crib and one baby who only ever slept on top of me or in her swing. I found the crib baby more exhausting because I was forever jumping up to check on her. With MeMe I could just lean over and touch her. The one thing that made the transition easiest was every night I would move her closer to her bed and keep one finger on her. We slept like that for almost 4 months. And eventually she just let go. Then she slept in her swing, which wasn't turned on, and listened to her ocean sounds. Then I started putting her swing in another room with the same sounds. Now she sleeps 12 + hours in her crib every night with a CD of ocean sounds. I think it takes awhile to feel less scared and listen to your instincts more. Until then, sleep how baby gets the best sleep, and Mommy feels relaxed enough to sleep. Or always think about my mothers wise words "What do you think they did in olden times?" LOL Babies have been around since forever and sometimes the tried and tested is just what does the trick.

 

[vickyd]

Well i did the vinegar treatment yesterday and tried really hard to comb the hair for the recommended 10 minutes. My god keeping that girl still and combing her hair was like running a marathon, by the end of it i needed a large vodka to calm myself down!!!
I bought this herbal lotion, cant remember what the herb is, that i will use for a couple of days and i really hope its over quickly. I didnt find one louse which is strange and im wondering how the hell there can only be eggs on her head and no lice...

 

[LucyJ]

everyone

Been away for a few days have been reading but havent had a chance to write. Sassy hope you and D can find away through this Im sure you will you've been through so much your a strong wonderful lady so know you'll be alright.

Amanda so glad you've got your little girl home. We had trouble getting Benjamin in his moses basket because of the reflux we raised his mattress as he couldnt lie flat without being sick or in pain he was always more comfortable on me or steve sleeping upright. We rolled one of his celluar blankets up and curled it round to make a sort of nest if that makes sense so he'd lie on it with the rolled up bit around his head my midwife showed us it she said because he was still meant to be inside me it would make him feel safe and secure, I let him sleep on me as I think my hb calmed him I did worry about but we didnt have any problems when we transfered him to his cot. We neverr bought him in to our bed as such but Id have to keep him upright after feeds for a good 20/30 mins or hed be sick so he quite often sleep on me Id have lots pillows around my back so although I was upright I was sort of comfy I didnt really sleep. The best thing that worked for us for getting him from me to the moses was putting a hotwater bottle in his moses to warm it up as I think going from the warmth of me to the cold moses basket would wake him it really worked for us Id put it in when I took him up for his feed then would keep it by our bed so when I feed him through the night Id put the water bottle in while I fed him.

Allie and Amber so glad you got to meet up loved the pics on fb.

Vicky nits horried I used to get then when I was teaching horrid I dont know if you can get this but the nitty gritty comb is fantastic. Combing through with condititioner is a good idea not easy with a little one.

 

[Allie84]

Hey girls,

I'm back from my Colorado vacation. It was wonderful! I got to meet Amber (hoping) and Penny and Tim! It was so great to go out for breakfast with them. We hit it off and they are an adorable family.

My high school reunion was also really fun. It was still so much like high school in some ways. Everyone still congregated to the same cliques but in a friendlier way, if that makes sense. Everyone embraced Alex and he had a great time as well. I've never gotten so many hugs in one night! Someone from our group got very drunk and ripped a urinal from the wall and flooded the hotel, however. That was at 2 am, after I left. I was out until 1 am, though ,which is so late for me now! It was good for Alex and I go out together.

Alistair is doing so well. He's 8 months old now and in the past 24 hours has officially started army crawling AND broke through his first tooh! He is such a big boy!!!

Well, I'm going to read back and post later. Hope all the Disco girls and babies are doing well.

Oh yeah, and we got the keys to our new place and it's a DUMP!!!! We saw it when it was lived in and I assumed they'd clean it up, but they haven't! Stained floors, stained carpet, filthy floorboards and heat registers, discolored and manky bathtub, peeling counters, disgusting garage, and none of the closet doors close. I don't know what to do!!! We paid the deposit and signed the lease after seeing it still lived in. We are due to be out of our current place August 1st. Alex thinks we should just take care of it ourselves, but I am fuming and don't want to move into it. Not sure how to get out of the lease or even if we can?!

 

[LucyJ]

Yay way to go Alistair thats it now Allie you'll need eyes in the back of your head he'll be off and in to everything its such a fun time. Hope the first tooth didnt cause him to many problems.

So gald you got to meet up with hoping and had a fab time love the fb pics so cute seeing penny and alistair together and you had a good time at your reunion. I cant imgaine staying out till 1pm I'd probably be curled up asleep in the corner

Im sorry about the place thats crap that they havent cleaned it can you get in touch and say that it needs to be cleaned before you move in. Not sure how it all works with regard to leases.

 

[vickyd]

Allie i have had to deal with a similar situation in the past. What i did was i paid for professional cleaners and subtracted their fee from the rent. as far as the closet doors not closing, in the place im living now this is the case. I had a carpenter over that tried to fix it without changing the fixings but after a few months the doors wernt able to close again.
You can defo get out of the lease but you will loose your deposit. At the end of the day if youre gonna spend loads to fix the place up you might as well loose the deposit instead. I fucing hate leasing and really hope one day i can afford to buy a place of our own.
Hero is bac to crap sleeping...Shes been up for 2 hours and its killing me...

 

[Jaymes]

Vicky, my older daughter had lice, it was truly horrid as she is allergic to everything! I used cetaphil cleanser that I put tree oil into to comb through with the not comb. Then I blow dried her hair without a rinse and left it overnight. I did that twice and they disappeared! I don't know if you can get cetaphil, but it is a lotion cleanser, not soap. Apparently they don't like tea tree and lavender, so either one should work!