Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[NatoPMT]

Thank you girls. Means a lot x

 

[Sugarlove2]

Great news on the scan Sparkly!

Nato, I'm so sorry. That's really sad news. Big sweetie x

 

[VGibs]

That plain sucks Nato....nothing I say can make it better. Maybe when Eloise was grabbing your boob she was actually reaching for your heart to keep it from breaking.

 

[NatoPMT]

That plain sucks Nato....nothing I say can make it better. Maybe when Eloise was grabbing your boob she was actually reaching for your heart to keep it from breaking.

now youre just making me cry!!!

 

[vickyd]

Nato did the doc have an inclination as to whether it was a mc or a chemical?

 

[NatoPMT]

He didnt say, but I asked why I'd felt no pain and he said it was very early, to which I said 'like a chemical?' and he agreed. I dont actually know what a chemical is, i think its where it doesnt implant? I didnt get any implantation spotting this time, like i did with Eloise.

 

[Dazed]

Docs are always quick to respond that it is a "chemical". I think if I didn't have a test before my appt with my first one, they would have called it that.

 

[msarkozi]

I've never had implantation spotting, so I am not sure it happens all the time. This is a very sad day Do you think you will try again right away? That worked for me last time, but not sure that is everyone's thing.....

 

[Round2]

Are they going to monitor your HCG levels just to be sure?

My chemical was painless, just felt like a normal period.

 

[pregoinnorge]

Sorry I've been lurking again girls. Hugs all around--for congratulations and for
support/sympathy. You are a great bunch of women and it's lovely to see how you support one another.

 

[roonsma]

Oh no Nato I'm really sorry to see your news

 

[heart tree]

I have a layover in Atlanta and wanted to check in. Nato, if those tests remain positive they need to monitor your hcg. My ectopic started with a positive test and bleeding. The scan revealed an empty uterus and my hcg levels were monitored. They didn't double every 48 hours. I had enough bleeding to look like AF which is what I thought it was. I don't want to scare you. I just want you to be monitored if the word ectopic is part of the conversation.

 

[NatoPMT]

Hearty at what stage was the uterus empty? couldn't they see anything in the tube at that stage? He did check the tubes but couldnt see anything.

yes they should have checked my hcg but i left the clinic - i had been there for hours and was upset but now im regretting it and starting to worry. I will buy a double frer pack tomorrow and test... then test again in a few days and if it remains positive I'll go back.

 

[Dazed]

Nato - I was approx. 6w3d when they saw mine, but I didn't have a prior scan.

 

[Sugarlove2]

Nato, I tested positive for a while after my mc. I suppose it can just take a while for the hormone to leave the body. I wouldn't have thought they would monitor HCG levels in the UK after a mc, unless they have serious concerns that it's an ectopic. You've practically got to get on your hands and knees and beg to get a pregnancy confirmed. I think if your tubes have been checked and you're not getting any pains or anything like that, it's highly unlikely it's an ectopic. Just keep testing for a few days to check and I'm sure you can ring them if you're worried for advice. Also, remember that the pregnancy tests that we use are super sensitive (like FRER) and show up even low HCG levels. After my incomplete mc, I was testing positive at home, but not on the cheapo tests they use in the hospital.

 

[Sugarlove2]

Hope you manage to get a good night's sleep tonight and Eloise gives you lots of Mummy cuddles tomorrow x

 

[VGibs]

Sorry Nato...didn't mean to make ya cry :'(

 

[Allie84]

Oh, Nato, life is just so unfair!!!! Is it too early to tell you that you fell pregnant really easily this time and I'm confident it will happen again for you soon? It doesn't take away from the pain of the loss of this little bean, of course. And I really pray that it's not ectopic.


I'm not not trying to be a subject changer, but I do have a question and I trust the opinion of you girls. Would you be offended if the husband of the couple you chose to be Godparents defriended you on Facebook because you post too many pictures of the baby?!! This happened to me today. Many months ago I asked my BFF of 15 years to be Alistair's guardian if anything should happen to Alex and I. She still lives in Edinburgh, but she's my friend from back in middle school, high schoo, college and we moved to Scotland together. Anyways, she said yes and was very certain about it. I noticed her hubby, another Scottish dude whom I have known since the day she met him 9 years ago, had defriended me on FB! I sent my BFF a quick message saying "Fran defriended me LOL...any idea why?" She wrote back and said "I don't know, but he did mention something about too many baby pictures being posted." WTF...for one thing, I don't think I post too many and if that's how he feels, would I really want him raising Alistair?l I wrote back asking this very question and now she's mad at me, I can tell. She wants to 'talk' on Skype about it.

PS. Welcome back Amy!

 

[VGibs]

Maybe she took being a Godparent at a symbolic level instead of an actual one? In which case, well if she has an issue it's plain rude to be angry at you for being offended. You have every right to be offended.

 

[Allie84]

She def. knew it was literal...I asked her if I could put them down on our will!! When I wrote back to her tonight I said I needed to know for sure if Fran was okay rasing Alistair before we do our will (which we're planning on doing around tax time). It just makes me want to cry for Alistair, because I have such a small family I need to rely on friends for this kind of thing. My parents are too old and unsuitable and I barely know my sister...and I just want the people we put down to truly love Alistair. I feel bad that he doesn't have anyone. If Fran can't bear to look at a few pics of him, it just pisses me off.