Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[LucyJ]

Nato yep you can ov 2-3 weeks after a neg test good luck hun thats great you are going to try again. Eloise is such a sweetie

Hearty thats great you and Tim are doing good and you've found away to deal with things. Sounds like a good method. Aw bless Tim thats so sweet and yes men are funny.

Sassy I am so sorry hun it sounds like you've been trying to sort things out and Im shocked that danny made it all about sex rather than trying to deal with what you are telling him. He sounds like he is in denial and not wanting to take responsibility for his part in the marriage you both need to work at it for it to work. Where are you going to go from here? Here if you need anything

Afm: I feel very out of sorts really down I cant seem to shift this feeling that somethings wrong. Steve says it my hormones I dont remember feeling this way with benjamin very weepy yes but not down. Apart from my skin Ive lost all my other symtoms no nausea or dizziness. Ive got an early scan on friday I should be bang on 6 weeks just pray theres a hb and all is ok. I think one of the problems is I feel more like I did with the pregnancies that ended in mc rather than how I felt with Benjamin. I honestly thought it would be easier this time round I dont feel anxious just I dont know not sure I can explain it distant I guess. Benjamin and I have got sing and sign today hoping getting out will help.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Ahh Lucy sorry you're feeling like that, pregnancy after loss is so hard even since having a baby. My pregnancy with Zach was definately less worrisome but I think that was because I was so busy caring for pops. I hope the scan brings positive news on Friday and then hopefully you won't feel so down. Have you got much planned this week to keep you busy?

Next step is dropping the bombshell that I actually want us to seperate!

 

[vickyd]

Sass how are you coping with your decision? Are you feeling more in control hun?

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I'm fine, like really fine! Just want it all sorted and over with, we've just moved into this new house, what bloody timing!x

 

[LucyJ]

We're going out in about an hr, theres bounce & rhyme tomorrow and little explorers. If the weathers nice I'll take Benjamim to the park we'll do lots of fun things at home Benjamin and I did painting last week and thinking I might make some salt dough to do his hand prints. Hoping to meet up with a friend during the week so will keep busy. Benjamin is my focus and will keep my busy especially as he has now discovered he can use his tub of bricks and stool to stand on which means he can reach all sorts of things I thought were out of his reach. I also found him standing on the arm of out sofa only went into the kitchen to put a load of washing on

I hope it goes okay

 

[VGibs]

Sass - Are you feeling more optimistic about the prospect of separating? I think the best part about separating from my ex was the feeling of relief and freedom I had when he left. The worst was when he got a new girlfriend, who was way younger and skinnier *but not cuter lol*. And he took a day off to spend with her but couldn't take one off to go to Aurora's pre school graduation. That was a hard week for sure. But it just got better and better for me to be out of a horrible relationship.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Yes definately Gibbs, I just want it all sorting, so I can try and live my life/survive as a single parent to 2 babies!

 

[VGibs]

This is potentially the stupidest thing I have ever asked. So when exactly do you guys think you should be doing to deed during your fertile period? Every day? Every other day? I realize that I have never actually tried to get pregnant on purpose. All of my pregnancies were "surprises" except for my son that we lost at 22 weeks. And we were on a very strict fertility treatment plan for that one because my ex had testicular trauma and couldn't make semen.

 

[VGibs]

Sass - Well I won't tell ya it's easy...but it sure as hell is easier then trying to survive a marriage that isn't working.

 

[vickyd]

Sass you sound like youre doing the best for you and your kids, good for you in being a strong woman who isnt afraid to make it alone. Beleive it or not my parents have JUST come clean about how miserable they have been through their 40 year marriage, me and my sister found out things we suspected but never truly beleived and are now totally horrified. We also heard many times in our life from both sides how everything they endured they did it for us. Many times my dad said he would have left if it wasnt for us and the same was said by my mother. The result is two women who are always full of guilt whatever they do because they were brought up thinking if it wasnt for them everything would be fine.

 

[msarkozi]

Sass, I am glad you are feeling good about your decision. I bet you will start to feel good again after you are on your own, and can start over. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Hang in there hun!

Luce, I bet everything will be great on Friday. It's hard to not worry, but they do say every pregnancy is different. I think that you are emotional is a good sign, as hormones definitely make you that. In the beginning, I was crying just hearing commercials on tv, not even seeing them lol! My nausea left me weeks ago, but every now and then I am still throwing up. It's actually quite weird how this pregnancy is way different from Kash's.

Gibs, I would do it every second day for sure. Since you are in your fertile period right now and close to ovulation, doing it every day wouldn't hurt your chances any. I always did the deed around ovulation time, and it has worked for me. TMI, but I always made sure I didn't go to the washroom for at least half an hour after, or even at all (as it was always bedtime when we did it).

 

[hoping:)]

Nato- Sorry you have to go through this but I’m so glad it is not an ectopic and that you have Eloise to keep a smile on your face. I can’t remember when I used to ovulate after a MC but it looks like you got some great advice from the girls.

Mel- happy 15 weeks! Maybe you are having a girl since this pregnancy is so different. I was the same and didnt go wash up after dtd. Keeping as much of those swimmers definitely helps

Amanda- It’s good to hear you found a way to relay your needs in a way that works for both of you.

Sassy- I can’t believe he did that! It’s obvious he didn’t listen to how you are feeling since he made it all about sex. I think you are very strong and have no doubt you can do this on your own. Growing up my parents fought all the time and like Vicky’s parents they stayed together for my sister and me. I always told my dad that watching a horrible marriage was worse than having them divorced and happy. Because I never knew what a healthy relationship was I always dated the wrong guys and let my self be taken advantage of. It wasn’t until I met Tim that things drastically changed. The last 5 years of my mother’s life they grew to love each other again (but I’m sure were not in love with each other because they usually slept in separate beds) but I think her illness brought them together as well as their grandchildren.

Lucy- the wait for a scan is the worst, especially the 1st. I’m sure Ben will do a good job of keeping you occupied. You have a lot of fun things planned for the two of you.

vGibs- every other day worked for us. We pretty much followed the sperm meets egg plan. I’ve read that bding every day may not always be a good thing because sperm will not be as condensed. We also had sex in the morning since sperm is supposed to be more potent.

AFM- Penny cut 2 teeth this weekend! They are her top two so now she has a total of 5.

 

[msarkozi]

hoping, we are thinking it might be a girl as well this time. Impatiently waiting for an ultrasound so we can find out the gender (they don't do them here until 20 weeks, and that is the only u/s you get as well). The req was sent in last week, so now I have to wait for the tech to phone me and give me a date. I hate waiting!

way to go Penny! those teeth will just be coming along now

 

[Jaymes]

Hi girls. :wave:

I'm trying to come out of my post partem funk.

NATO. I am so sorry.

Lucy. The waiting is so hard. I hope your scan goes well.

Amanda. You me inspired me to get busy. DH is a neat freak and I am not a slob, but don't worry about it so much. I hope you guys sort it out.

Mel. 15 weeks!?! When did that happen? It seems so quick, but then I've been mia.

Sassy. I hope it works out for the best.

I'm sure there is some I'm missing, but I can't think of it all. I just spent an hour catching up. Hugs to you all!

AFM. I think I'm broken, (sexually) and Lexi fell down the stairs. She's fine, but I keep going over the what ifs and imagining all the horrible things that could have happened. When I close my eyes I see her little body tumbling down and it scares me all over...

 

[msarkozi]

awe, so sorry about Lexi! How is she doing? It is frightening for sure. Kash fell down the stairs once this summer, and all I could think was thank god I didn't see it....but hearing it sounded awful as well!

how come you are broken sexually?

how is little squishy doing?

I know eh lol! Hopefully the next 25 weeks go by quickly

 

[hoping:)]

Mel- only 5 more weeks until you find out if Kash will have a baby sister or brother!!! Do you have any names picked out?

Jaymes- I’m glad to see you back! Broken sexually? That doesn’t sound fun but you just had a baby 2 months ago. I’m sure you just need time. How horrifying about Lexi. Penny’s favorite thing is to climb stairs and I get the horrible ‘what if’ mental pictures as well. I’m glad she is ok.

Its pretty quiet in here today! I hope everyone is doing ok. Its pretty gloomy and cold here in Colorado. I’m so ready for sunshine and nice weather instead of being cooped up in the house since it is freezing. What do you all do to keep an active toddler busy inside when it is cold out?

 

[msarkozi]

We don't really have anything picked out for a boy, but for a girl we have Sadie Ann Noelle (Ann is my middle name, so I wanted it in there).

It's hard hoping to keep your toddler busy on those cold days. We have to stay in almost all winter. Going to the grocery store gets us out at times lol! But you can do dance parties, do some coloring or attempt other crafts. Painting, playing with toys, reading books. Kash likes helping me do laundry as well lol.

 

[hoping:)]

I LOVE the name Sadie! So adorable.

We do all of those things and plus Penny loves climbing up and down the stairs. She enjoys helping with all the chores around the house and of course playing with her kitchen and princess tent but I feel like it gets boring. Sometimes I will fill up the bath and let her go swimming. I think I am the one who hates being stuck in the house!

 

[msarkozi]

oh I hear ya!! It gets so boring sometimes to be stuck in the house with nothing to do!

Thanks, I love the name too...it's so pretty

So the rain we are getting is awful! In a matter of minutes the roads changed and are sheer ice. I was curling and had to drive home, and you were going 10 km/h! So the boss said that no one is going into work tomorrow (woohoo!). Daycare is still supposed to be open (as of now), so I will still send Kash and then I can clean my house tomorrow!!!

 

[vickyd]

Luckily we get to spend alot of time outdoors with our year round decent weather lol! I hate it when its raining...We play with play doh, do finger painting and have tea parties with her stuffed animals (this is her fave at the moment) but all this covrs about 2 hours lol!!! At the moment im ashamed to say we watch way too much tv...She is in love with disney clubhouse and can watch it for 3 hours straight!! If i try to turn off the tv she throws a major tantrum!

Poor Penny falling down the stairs!! I dont have any in my house but my mom does, and to my horror they are MARBLE!!! I have nightmares about her tumbling down the marble staircase almost everynight!

Mel Sadie is a great name!!! Cant wait to see what you got cooking!!

Jaymes do you mean its too painful to have sex? It took me like 5 months after having Hero to be able to have proper sex and i also had a c-section. Never really could figure that one out...