Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[vickyd]

Hearty im alot like Tim with finances. I never want to dip into our savings even for important things, my savings are my security net haha!! Obviously in your situation getting a job isnt very practical and the amount isnt that high...

Sass great to hear you are doing do much better!

I cant remember what else i read....

We have had a difficult month, Hero has been sick every 7-10 days, spiking weird fevers but no real other symptoms..I was borderline crazy, crying all day and have convinced myself she has leukemia...Today we went for blood work, im praying that there is nothing wrong but am completely freaking out...

 

[msarkozi]

oh Sass, I am so happy to hear you are feeling better. I am glad you guys are talking, and maybe his reaction of wanting to take you out is his way of admitting that something is wrong, and he wants to try and fix it.

LMAO! I definitely will not repeat that to my father

oh Vick, I hope Hero is ok. Could it just be teething? Does she still have to get her 2 year molars?

Geez, Gord is getting on my nerves. He phones me yesterday at work and asks me to make him a doctor appointment. So I did, and he was supposed to go this morning. So he phones his boss last night, and his boss said they were busy in the morning, so Gord said ok I will wait til next week then. Well I completely disagree with him not being able to go to an appt that would take a few minutes and then he would be back to work.......anyway, so I phone to see if I can get him in on Monday, but the doctor is full, so I booked it for Wednesday. Well now Gord doesn't want to go on Wednesday because he wants to see a certain doctor and not this other one (but he wants to see a doctor before we leave on Thursday). I told him that the doctor he wants to see is only here on Monday and is full, so now he wants me to phone High Level to see if he can see him there! I just finished telling him that I am not making any phone calls until he says he can have the time off for sure if I am able to make it (as High Level is over an hour away, so he would have to take half a day off). And this happens every single time he asks me to make him any kind of appointment - he always makes me phone and cancel or reschedule, and it gets very annoying!

 

[msarkozi]

I forgot to say Sass - my doctor forgot to send in the req for my ultrasound, so it is going in today or Monday. Then I have to wait for the phone call from the Tech to let me know when my appointment is. It's supposed to be around 20 weeks, so hopefully mid-February. We will be finding out again for sure

 

[Sparkly]

Wow Mel - It sounds to me like Gord needs to be a big boy and make his own appointments from now on, I would not tolerate that for 2 mins!!! I hope you find out when your scan is soon, I would go cuckoo waiting until 20 weeks!

Vic - I'm sorry Hero has been unwell, I hope that the blood work comes back ok.

Sass - I'm really glad you're feeling better

Hearty - I guess it's different in my house as I deal with all the finances, but I would just pay the bill (using savings if necessary) and say no more about it.

Gotta go...I'm in the middle of doing my roots x

 

[msarkozi]

I agree Sparkly. It gets tiring being his personal secretary for everything, especially when he wants to make changes all the time. It's a huge pain in my butt, and I get frustrated!

Thanks, and I go cuckoo waiting until 20 weeks as well

Hope the twins are doing good

 

[Allie84]

Sassy, I'm so glad to hear that! What pills are you on? I'm glad they are helping and your'e feeling better. It's great that Danny wants to take you out, hopefully he opens up to do you a bit.

Hearty, I would be annoyed as well. Alex is the same as Tim in that he freaks out and thinks we have no money when by my standards we DO have money. It's on a smaller level than saving for a house and thousands of dollars in bills, but the same principal. Men feel the need to have more of a cushion I guess, since they are the 'providers' and feel that pressure. I dunno. I can see where you'd feel a bit resentful of the fact that he's not willing to dip into the house fund. I hope you come to a resolution. I'm happy to hear moving Delilah has helped her sleep, and I hope she feels better soon!

Vicky, Hero is probably just under the weather. I've been sick for 2 weeks straight with differnt things. I keep getting better and then catching something else. I currently have some sort of tummy bug issue going on, bleh. It's good you're getting blood work for peace of mind but I wouldn't worry.

Nato, glad you're doing okay and plugging along with the TTC. My brain isn't working and I can't remember my OPK words or wisdom or else I would share them haha. Eloise sounds so clever! I'm impressed she understood what cleaning the floor was. I don't think Alistair would 'get' that, and he's not making animal sounds yet, either, not for lack of trying on my part.

Round, I really feel for you and hope Bryce starts sleeping well soon.

Mel, yeah, it sounds like Gord should be sorting his own appointments! I always book Alex his as he would never go to the doctor otherwise.

Lucy, I responsed in your journal but I hope you're feeling better!

AFM, I'm feeling sick and tired and I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. Is it normal to be sick for two weeks? I'm pulling a Vicky and am starting to think there must be something really wrong with me. Being sick for so long is starting to make me depressed. I haven't had energy to do housework, and I've been missing out on fun events, and my boss called me today to reprimand me for being less reliable the past few weeks (with my work from home analyst job), and I feel like I've been a lazy mom and Alistair is starting to fall behind. I just haven't had the energy to teach him things and interact with him like I used to. I've started putting on the TV for him throughout the day for a break for me and then I am riddled with guilt with every minute he watches TV. I had a good cry this afternoon after my phone call with my boss so I'm hoping a bit of catharsis helps.

 

[msarkozi]

unfortunately it is common to be sick for that long, but do you think you have an infection at all? Maybe it wouldn't hurt to go in and get checked out to make sure you don't have any infections lingering there. That flu/cold is going around so bad right now, and so many people are sick from it. I hope you feel better soon Allie!

I will tell you that the honey & cinnamon thing does help as well, so maybe give that a try. 1 tbsp lukewarm honey, mixed with 1/4 tsp cinnamon. Do that once a day for a few days or more. I did the vicks on the bottom of the feet, and it helped too. Try a humidifier or vaporizer also. Soaks in a hot bath, chicken noodle soup and rest.

Sorry to hear about your boss. Try to ignore it. I am supposed to have my performance review next week, and I am already telling myself that I just don't give a damn what she has to say about me, as she doesn't really have a clue......

 

[VGibs]

Allie - Take a longgggggggg deeeeeeeeep breathhhhhhhhhhh....you are having way too much guilt. Don't feel guilty for Alistair watching TV. It's not like he is watching south park, right? Give yourself some time to get better, or else all the worrying will only make you worse. The way I think about worrying is like this "Is all this worry going to change the outcome?" Most of the time my mind says "NOPE! Now knock it off!"

 

[hoping:)]

Sassy- It sounds like you both are communicating and getting things resolved. Enjoy your night out!

Sparkly- I love seeing you with your 9 week twin ticker

Amanda- I would feel upset if I was told to go back to work to help with the bills. I’m sure it wouldn’t make sense financially since day care is as much as a mortgage these days. It sounds like he doesn’t fully appreciate what you do for your family or at least he doesn’t get how much work being a SAHM is. Tim and I kind of flip flop on the money issue bust mostly I am the uptight one. If I am worrying about nothing Tim will tell me so and then I stop freaking out. He has occasional freak out moments too but it is never as bad as we think so it helps to have someone talk you down.

Vicky- I would be beyond worried as well, but I think that is just our nature as mothers. I really hope it is nothing serious and she just has a bug.

Nato- I love the shoe story Too cute! All our babies are becoming quite the problem solvers. I love this stage and I’m so happy you have Eloise to keep your outlook positive.

Round- you have a lot going on! I’m sorry that everyone is getting sick right after the other. That is tough especially with no sleep and two kids.

Mel- I wouldn’t put up with it especially since he is so picky! I schedule all of our appointments but for the most part everyone is low maintenance. I can’t wait to hear what you are having in a few weeks! I am predicting a girl for sure

Lucy- I also responded in your journal

Allie- I posted in your journal but I think you should get checked out by a doctor just to be on the safe side. Being sick for 2 weeks would make anyone feel depressed. I'm sure the lack of activity for this short period won't affect Alistair. His mommy is sick and needs to rest to get better

vGibs- it is sounding promising for a BFP this cycle

AFM- I haven’t felt much like posting. I guess I’ve been busy reading tons of surrogacy blogs + the drama of my dad dating again. The whole world of surrogacy fascinates me and makes me super excited to finally begin my journey! Tim and I had a wonderful time at me surrogacy meeting last week (details in my journal) and were promised an update this week. Basically we are just waiting to hear from the parents and their doctor so that we can schedule an in person meeting and then move on to meeting their doctor and starting meds. I hate all this waiting around.

Its been so nice out so I’ve been taking Penny to the park and I’ve signed her up for her 1st swim class. She is going to be in the baby dolphin swim class I just love her so much! She is so smart, funny and a sassy little thing. She is already playing me and Tim and has become a complete daddy’s girl. The other day I asked her if she wanted to come with me or daddy. she shook her head "no" when I asked her to come with me and then promptly walked over to her daddy, climbed in his lap, wrapped her little arms around his neck and looked at me with a half grin/smirk

 

[msarkozi]

lol, she is going to have daddy wrapped

I hope all the waiting comes to and end soon and you can start your surrogacy.

Thanks, I am predicting a girl too

 

[NatoPMT]

Hoping, Eloise does that too, she often wants her daddy but we're in a mummy rocks phase at the moment, so she turns round at smirks at John, and then I do too. Im so annoyed that you are so far away, I think Penny and Eloise would be best pals. In fact i want Eloise to be pals with all the disco babies. I think she'd flirt with Kash, Luca, Ben and Alistair. Im not surprised surrogacy is taking up all your energy at the mo, it's such a massive thing Id be worried if you werent getting so into it!

Mel only a month to go to find out then! exciting. Its true that you put weight on your bum if its a girl. Or maybe i just got a fat behind.

Allie, I dont know if youre to ill for too long but a dr would so defo see one. I put the telly on for weezie sometimes. You cant do everything and I agree that short periods of relative educational inactivity dont matter. Weezie is obsessed with animals (my fault) so thats her thing. You arent preggo are you? I would add lemon juice to that cocktail too - i have lemon, fresh ginger and honey in warm water which is ace, but i know cinnamon and honey is a bit of a cure all too

Sparkly hope your roots and beans are all well

crap weezie awake gotta go

 

[hoping:)]

Nato- This morning we got up early and took a bath so I was her best buddy after that and a trip to the park yesterday didn’t hurt either. I am secretly pleased that I am her favorite again.

Yes! They would be awesome little pals and I think it’s about time we have a Disco baby play date with all the babies on the thread. We need to start planning! We should all get together and take the kids on a Disney cruise or something fun like that! Next summer any one?

AFM- My surrogate counselor finally called me last night and we got some good news and bad news. The good news is that the couple we picked loves us! The bad news is that their doctor has discouraged them from working with us due to my miscarriage history. They went through a loss at 6 ½ months, one of the reasons we picked them, so the doctor doesn’t want that risk again even though I have been medically cleared, been through all sorts of testing and have one healthy daughter after all of that. I’m really sad about it but totally understand. I was also told that most likely if I did have a miscarriage my days as a surrogate would be over. My counselor thought it was a good thing that we are not going with this couple since they are older and using their own egg and sperm which has a higher chance of abnormality. She did send over our profile and medical records to our 2nd choice. They are a same sexed couple in NYC. They love us too so now we are just waiting for their doctor to approve us. I really hope my past miscarriages don’t make the matching process too hard on us.

 

[msarkozi]

oh goodness hoping, that is sad news. Sorry to hear that! I hope your second couple works out for you

I am almost certain that Kash would be kissing all the disco girls, and love playing with all of the little ones.

Hmmmmm, now I am going to end up trying to figure out if my butt got fatter or not, lol! I've only put on 10 lbs so far, and you really can't tell I am pregnant. I have a bit of a stomach (on top of my fat), but that is all. People have commented to me that I look like I have lost weight, and I feel like I have in my legs as my jeans are loose there. I am still in my regular clothes as well, and with Kash, I was in maternity clothes by 9 weeks!!! I also gained a lot of weight real quick with him. I am enjoying the fact that I might not gain 50 lbs this time, and will be able to take it off quicker lol!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

That theory was well wrong for me NATO, I stayed pretty tiny with pops but was like a whale with Zach, im thankfully now nearly 6 stone lighter!

Hoping - that's such a shame, I'm sorry. I hope all goes well with your 2nd choice.x

 

[msarkozi]

how you doing Sass?

 

[LucyJ]

everyone

Ive been reading but havent had the energy to reply. Thankfully the dizzyness has eased and I havent fainted again. Im lucky in one sense as steve is pretty good at spotting the signs when Im going to faint so sunday night he was there to catch me I suffered with it in all my pregnancys and with Benjamin was still fainting at 6 months plus every now and then. Im being looked after benjamin has been as good as gold but has spent a lot of time watching disney junior which I do feel so bad for. Hes good at playing with his cars while I watch him and will bring his books to me. The nausea has eased a little its not so constant. Benjamins got two teeth coming through so he hasnt been to happy at last night is the first night hes sleep through in a week.

Nato Ive got a scan monday morning steves coming with me and steves mum is meeting is there so she can sit with benjamin while we go in. He came in with us last time but was to chatty so steve had to take him out.

Sassy Im glad things are going better for you and hope you and danny have a nice time out.

Hoping aww glad pennys being a mummys girl today benjamin goes through phases hes all about daddy at the mo steve gets the biggest hugs and I get bounced on. Sorry about the surroacy hope your 2nd choice works out. A disco meet up would be great but I cant do a cruise love disney hate boats!! Could you imagine all our little mischief makers together I think they would cause a lot of mischeif whilst looking damn cute.

Nato thats so sweet abiut elosie cleaning the floor Benjamin was helping me with sweeping up but decided it would be better to brush his hair with the brush rather than sweep the floor

Vicky poor hero I really hope all her blood comes back normal.

Allie hope you feel better soon. Once your immune system is lowered you more at risk of picking everything up. I do hot lemon and honey too never thought about using cinnemon will remember that one.

Ahhh cant remember what else Ive read sorry but love you all and thank you for your support.

 

[VGibs]

Testing in the morning! Wish me luck ladies! I'll be 8 dpo so I'm not too overly concerned of the result.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Good luck, be sure to post a pic for us

 

[VGibs]

Anddddddd................

Spoiler

On to 12 dpo. I may not bother. I have zero symptoms. So I may just relax on the ole POAS this month.

 

[NatoPMT]

Right, try and finish this time...

Sassy, I think you and Danny are doing an amazing job with this now its becoming reality, both of you. I just wish my parents could have behaved like this. I just did a quick google on how to tell a 2 year old about divorce and there's some info if you need anything to help clarify your thoughts on that, such as

https://www.babycenter.com/0_how-to-tell-your-child-youre-getting-divorced_3657057.bc

Gibs - boooofn. im sorry! 8dpo espec with those blue tests is early.

Hoping, how disappointing. I do think though that if the couple are older, it would be terrible to go through an mc, and then be discounted because of a reason that couldnt be proven not to be 'your' fault - and you mustve given this couple a massive boost to give them the offer in the 1st place, it must be nerve wracking for them if the surrogates are fewer than couples needing surrogacy (dont know if thats the case though) so to know someone wanted them must be very encouraging for them. I hope they find their surrogate soon. I assume that the risk of mc with a surrogate is higher than average just as it is with more run of the mill IVF, so maybe youre destined to help a younger couple with (for eg) uterine abnormalities, you might get the chance to help someone with severe adenomyosis - think how proud hearty would be of you!

Vic, how is little Hero doing? what you describe is absolutely not related to childhood cancer. I hope youre feeling less anxious now the drs have seen her and i hope your mind is at least temporarily put at rest

Mel: things like appointments need to be booked in person if there's work and meetings and stuff in the way. I always find that you have to look at at least 2 or 3 times. If you want to feel like youre taking weight off him while hes working, thats prob one of the things that will cause more stress if you try to do!

Luce: as with Allie, dont worry about a bit of telly, you need the help, its not like youre down the pub while you stick him in front of cbeebies. Anyway, the reason youre needing the help of the telly will benefit ben in the long term, he gets to be a big brother! Great you have all the support for monday! looking forward to hearing about it.

Hearty - I am a bit mad with Tim for putting the phone down on you. Like its your fault you needed extra care. I am also the same and have even refused to touch the money I saved in 2009 to cover my maternity period. However, i think this is one of those emergencies. Delilah needs you at home, you arent out of the maternity period. Maternity period is a year in the uk for a good reason. Can you sell some stuff on ebay as a token gesture to meet him part way?

Fm: I think i have stealth ovd by accident - not done it so am out for this month at 1dpo.

Weasel has been hilarious this morning. I have a recycling bin in the kitchen, and i wash everything out before putting it in there. Eloise opened the lid, took out a plastic cooking wine bottle and did her staggering walk round the kitchen apparently swigging out of it. If i post a still from the video I took which isnt going on fb, dont judge me. Its not not even got dregs in, nor is it a glass bottle.

With Kash's swearing and weezie's boozing, our mummying skills are 2nd to none.