Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[msarkozi]

oh goodness! I am starting to get scared with having a second baby lol! Hopefully you can squeeze in some naps today

It's vastly improving thanks! The antibiotics are kicking in very quickly. He put me on a 500 mg dose of amoxicillin, so he meant business lol!

 

[NatoPMT]

Mel, Im so sorry about Ryan! I hope youre coping. I hope there are some answers for his family very soon. I do think youre right, i keep meaning to get a will but its not the best task in the world to do so Ive been putting it off. And the thought of deciding a guardian for Eloise makes me feel sick.

Round - you are superwoman.

Hope all the illnesses have gotten a bit better.

 

[msarkozi]

I agree, it is not something easy to do. You don't want it to ever have to come down to them needing gaurdians, and I pray that all our little ones never do!

 

[LucyJ]

Mel I am so sorry about your friend thats so sad hope the family get some answers. Thats the second tragic story Ive heard this week my sil brothers bf got hit by a falling tree when walking home a few weeks ago he was 28 leaves behind a wife and young daughter just so tragic.

Ive been on at steve to get a will sorted out, my parents have just redone theres so got me thinking we should do ours, its not something I like to think about but want to know if anything did happen our wishes our there.

Round hope you start getting some more sleep soon.

Nato how are you?

 

[msarkozi]

oh goodness Luce, what a freak accident!! So sad

how you doing Luce? Everything going good?

 

[heart tree]

Hello lovelies! It's been a while since I've been able to properly get on the computer.

First I want to send my condolences to Mel and Lucy. How awful to see such young people pass away. There is no sense in it. And to leave behind young children? What a tragedy. I'm so incredibly sorry.

It does bring up the issue of a guardian and a will. Tim and I have decided we would like his brother to take Delilah if something happened to both of us, but we haven't had the courage to ask him! I think we're too scared to utter the words. But we need to put on our grown up hats and ask. A will needs to get done this year too. It's sickening to think about though.

My condolences to Round as well. It sounds like you aren't getting any relief. We gave Delilah some prune juice and water when she was really little and it didn't do anything. Eventually we gave her a suppository and it did the trick. I didn't have to give her oj as she pooped on her own. A massive explosion at that! Is Bryce still sleeping in the same room as you or in his own room?

Mel, the baby will be fine. You probably got sick because the baby is taking all of your immunity right now. I'm glad the antibiotics are helping.

Nato, how are you holding up? Do you have an appointment for recurrent losses yet? I'm glad you got the referral. How was your drunk night?

Sparkly, your scan is coming up! How are the twinnies making you feel?

Virginia, did you manage to DTD at the right time?

Sassy, thinking of you.

Vicky, how is CC going? Did you try it again? Are you sleeping?

Amber, any news from the surrogate family?

Allie, are you feeling better? Thanks for the sleeping tips!

And thanks to you all for your suggestions. I have come to realize that the root of her sleep issues stemmed from being in the same room as me. We started with naps in the crib which she took to immediately. I just put her in the crib and walk out of the room. She never fusses. The first day she took her usual 30 minute naps. The second day she took mostly 30 min naps with one 1.5 hour nap. That night we put her in the crib and she only woke at 2 for a feeding and then slept until 6, fed again and then slept until 8! Unfortunately I didn't sleep that night as I kept waiting for her to wake up. But the following 2 nights have been great. She doesn't cry at all. She woke at 4am this morning and put herself back to sleep before I could even get into her room. And the icing on the cake is that since yesterday, all of her naps are 1.5 hours!

We have always used a sound machine which helps. I have breathable bumpers and the room is much darker. I honestly think the crib is more comfortable for her. I can't believe how great she's been. I don't expect it to last. Nothing does. But for now, I'm loving it. I don't even mind waking up to feed her because she goes back down so quickly and without a fuss.

We're ready to start solids but we want to buy a high chair first. Any recommendations?

Went to the pediatrician last week. She's in the 10 percentile for weight at 14 pounds 5 ounces, but is gaining perfectly so I'm not worried. She's in the 66 percentile for height though! And this is compared to full term babies. I have a long, lean girl. Doctor was very pleased and said due to how active she is, she'll most likely crawl before she sits up on her own. Doc said it would be a matter of weeks before she crawls. I'm scared!

 

[msarkozi]

awesome job Delilah! That is great that she is sleeping so much better now. You will get used to it quickly! And way to go at the doctor's too!

Yes, be scared lol! Once they are mobile, everything changes. You are constantly on the move; just make sure you watch what she can get into. I didn't really baby proof (other then the stairs), as I wanted Kash to learn he couldn't touch stuff.

For high chairs, no real recommendation. I went with a space saving one instead of an actual high chair. The bonus is you don't have to have a high chair sitting there taking up space, but the con is you lose a kitchen chair to it being strapped on there. I liked the fact that I could take it with me though when I left Town, so that I didn't have to worry about how I was going to feed him while away.

Kash has actually given up his booster seat now too at the table; he doesn't want it and wants to sit at the table on the chair like a big boy! They grow up way too fast!

Oh I have to tell you this...it's funny, but it's not. Last night Kash and I were sitting in the chair reading one of his vocabulary books, and whenever it comes to the animals, he always says he is that animal, or mom or dad is. So I was like mom is a bear, and he kept saying yes, and Gord was like can you say b***h, and he did!!!! It was so clear! The kid can friggin well curse, but he can't say other words or get out of the diaper?! I was like omg! I pray he doesn't say it again :/

 

[heart tree]

Oh no Mel! LOL! It's so funny though! Naughty Gord!

I've been looking at those convertible seats. We have a small place so it might be good for us. The problem is that she isn't fully sitting up yet, she's so petite and she's so damn active that I think I need something that holds her in really well and supports her. I want something that cleans easily too. The ones with cushions catch so much food.

She's up after an hour and 20 minutes. So proud of my little one for napping better. It makes all the difference, doesn't it?

 

[Round2]

Hearty, Bryce has been in his own bedroom for 2 months now. Doesn't seem to make a difference. Last night was brutal, he woke every 45minutes. I'm so fustrated, I feel like I'm doing something wrong, but I can't figure it out. I usually try rocking him, then turning on his mobile, then letting him cry for 5 mintues, then feeding. Most times he needs me to BF him to sleep. Tonight, I'm going to try not to see feed him as much and let him cry a little more often. I really think he's using me as a soother. When he latches on he feeds for like a minute then passes out.

What a petite little girl you have. My little guy has a similar physique. He's in the 40th percentile for weight, but above the 100th for height! He's gonna be a basketball player!!

Sounds like you've got a great routine with Delilah, she's doing great.

 

[LucyJ]

Mel Ive been feeling rough this week bad nausea and dizzyness, I fainted sunday evening. Ive had accpuncture tonight and this is first night Ive not been in bed early and have been able to eat without feeling sick so fingers crossed it continues. Benjamins got 2 teeth coming through so hasnt been a happy bunny keeps waking in the night and ends up in with us so not getting much sleep. At least the nausea is a good sign even though its horrid its made me feel more positive about our scan monday.

Thats great hearty about Delilahs sleeping long may it continue for you. Sounds like shes doing really well. We've got a wooden highchair which folds up neatly and has a wipe clean seat insert but to be honest as benjamin was so little he used to slide and slump over in the highchair so we used to feed him in his bouncer or in the bumbo untill he got bigger and more stable. Benjamin crawled before he sat up and yep it gets fun when they are on the move Benjamin used to get everywhere I had a few heartstopping moments when he wasnt where Id left him.

Round I really hope things get better for you and hope bryce starts sleeping more

Mel that made my laugh opps lets hope he doesnt repeat it.

 

[VGibs]

Hearty - I think so :S haha I am currently suffering from sore bewbies so I am wondering if maybe just maybe the SMEP plan worked I guess I`ll find out sometime next week!

 

[msarkozi]

oh no Luce, you fainted? Are you ok? Sorry about the nausea, but it's a great sign

I wonder if I can post the video?!

Hearty - I got a fisher price one, and it is a taller back, and then the tray, so one like that should hold her up well. I just took off the cover for it and washed it, and wiped down the underneath with lysol wipes all the time.

 

[NatoPMT]

Luce - I'm so sorry to hear of your sil's bil - that's just horrific. So awful to hear of his and Mel's friend's children being left without a daddy. Whens your next app? Crap as it is, its great youre so nauseous, how is the eczema?

ooo good luck gibs! when do you normally test?

Rounders, ach sorry its so hard, although this is just what I see between my friends, and absolutely no comfort, boys do seem to not sleep as well. I used to hold eloise while bouncing up and down on an inflatable gym ball which was the only thing that worked for her. Although i dont agree with controlled crying, my friend did it last week with her previously colicky baby who just refuses to sleep, and it took 1 hour to get him to sleep and has slept through every night since. He's 8 months but the difference in them both is incredible and if it benefitted them to that extent, I can see how its helped.

Mel - haha and oops.

Hearty - great news about the sleeping! Im so pleased for you, i really hope it lasts (although theres always going to be periods where it messes up, espec with illness and teething) and that you can just enjoy your little girl without falling asleep in your cornflakes

yes I would love surrogacy news too Hoping!

afm: I have had a few days of ewcm but no LH showing at all on the opk so not sure whats happening, usually i get negatives but with a line showing

Im coping ok but having a few moments. Thankfully i have weasel to distract me which just makes so much difference - i was thinking today about how i felt before i got bfp with her, and what a dark dark time that was. Now, i just try and think about all the funny things she does and try not to go there too much.

Yesterday at stay and play she wanted to take her shoes off, so I told her not to because the floor was dirty. She climbed off my knee, toddled over to the chalk board at the other side of the room, took the sponge off the board, toddled back, bent over and wiped the floor, climbed back on my knee and took her shoes off. Tonight she was making buzzy bee and roaring lion noises in her sleep. She is so ace

 

[msarkozi]

awe that is so cute! Eloise is such a clever one!

I don't know how to upload the video on here, so I uploaded the video onto facebook (but made it so only I could see). I will share it in a private message with people I have.

 

[heart tree]

Oh Round! If only they could tell us what is wrong! It sounds so frustrating! I can empathize with how exhausted you are feeling. I think your plan is a good one. From an early age we gave Delilah a bottle for the last feed of the night. We do bottle, bath, bed. I think it helped her to not associate the boob with going to sleep. I know you've tried formula and that didn't seem to help either. Maybe it is time for a little tough love and letting him cry a little longer?

I think I know why Delilah is taking such long naps. She has a fever! It's not very high, but she's been fussy all day and has felt a little warm. She's also not as active. She just fell asleep in my arms which she never does during the day. I have a call in to the doctor. I guess it could be teething related. Poor babe. I hope she doesn't revert back to the 30 minute naps after this!

 

[heart tree]

Lucy, you fainted? Oh my! The nausea is definitely a good sign. I hope that bean is snuggled and safe inside. I just got a safety strap for her Bumbo as she is able to climb out of it now. We have the Bjorn bouncy chair which is more upright than most. She was too small for it until recently. Maybe we'll just use those to start feeding her. Thanks for the tips.

Nato sounds like your body is giving you some mixed signals. Maybe you should DTD anyway. Eloise sounds like a dream. I loved the FB video of her in bed. Love the shoe story!

Gibs, sore boobies are the best in the TWW!

Mel, I'll have a look at FB for the video.

Feeling cross with Tim at the moment. We just got the bill from the hospital when Delilah was born. It was over $300,000!!! Luckily insurance pays for most of it, but our share is $2,400. It's a lot of money to be sure. But without that care, Delilah might not be here with us. I told him on the phone that we got the bill. He hung up on me! I called him back and he said he didn't want to talk. I called him later to tell him that Delilah had a fever. We talked about the bill again and he told me he would need help paying it. I asked him how. He told me I needed to get a job. I told him I have a job taking care of our child. He's such a tight ass with money. We have a large sum in savings that he wants to use towards a house. It's not like we don't have the money to pay this bill. But he seems to think we don't. It drives me crazy. So instead of dipping into our house fund, he would rather me stress myself out with a job. We were just getting into a good place with our marriage again, and now I'm feeling resentful.

He has been really stressed at work. He's had to be up for the past 2 nights working throughout the night. Sting is touring again in Europe and he has to be awake to make sure the websites that sell the tickets are working. He's had less sleep than me so I know that he is cranky and tired. But it just pisses me off that he can't see the value in what I'm doing or the fact that money for our baby is so much more important than money for a house. Grrrrr....

 

[VGibs]

Nato - I haven't normally tested ever lol I figure I would give it a shot at 8-9 dpo and go from there. I keep wondering though if I am imagining symptoms because I want them there. I've never paid attention to my body this closely and it is teaching me all sorts. Eloise sounds like a micro genius...just saying lol

 

[VGibs]

Mel...I dont have you on FB I think :S

 

[msarkozi]

no I don't think so either...Melissa Sarkozi on fb ([email protected])

oh Hearty! I hope he comes to his senses about it.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hearty - That's strange that tims acting like that, especially as you have the money in savings, sounds like he's just mega stressed with work and wrongfully taking it out on you! I would just pay the bill and not mention it, sorted!

Lucy - ahh that sounds rough, poor thing, I hope the sickness passes soon. Your next scan is next week right?

Mel - I loved your family pics on fb, so frigging cute, your parents look like the proudest people in the world and your dad is a bit of a dilf ;-)
When's your scan? Will you be finding out this time?

Lucy - wow Eloise sounds amazing, clever lil sausage, I loved the bedtime video on fb, she's a cheeky lil one isn't she.

Gibbs- sounds promising for you this month, ill be keeping everything crossed as always for you.

Crap I forgot what else I read! Ill go back!

Anyway afm, I'm doing well, really well, danny knows exactly how I feel and the whole situation, we are currently splitting finances etc and working out how the hell things will work with us being apart, I'm going back to work in may, just 2 or 3 days per week which sucks but I have to do whatever it takes! Right now we are talking and things are very amicable, he's asked that he stays here for a month or so, he wants to give it time in the new house, I have to give him that, this Saturday he's arranged a babysitter and wants to take me out, I've agreed!
I feel so much better since starting the pills, I'm definately alot more stable!