Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sugarlove2]

Hi ladies got my results back. Hcg has gone up to over 10,000. Feeling very relieved x

 

[LucyJ]

Yay sugar that's great news fantastic numbers and glad you are feeling sick, in the nicest possible way of course

Mel I'm glad you've been signed of work what a relief for you now to rest as much as you can before you have your hands full. That's interesting about what the dr said, would you still have a C-section or try a vbac?

We had a very odd night with Benjamin last night he didn't settle well so ended up being up later than normal then went down but woke up an hour later eventually went back down but then woke up again. Steve went to check on him before coming to bed and he was sat upright in his cot whimpering so Steve went to him and he completely freaked out almost acted like he was scared of Steve I went in he clung to me every time Steve came near him he got really upset (poor Steve was so upset didn't know what was going on) Benjamin did calm down after about 15mins then cuddled up to Steve & all was ok. I think he was at the beginning of a night terror when Steve went into the room which woke him up & he didn't understand why he was awake or what was going on. In the end he curled up between the both of us one hand on me and one hand on Steve fell to sleep we transferred him to his cot with no problems but he decided to get up at 6am to early for me after a broken night sleep. Now he can get of the bed on his own he wont just curl up and have a cuddle he did amuse himself with some cars and books for a little while then some mickey mouse so I got to lie in a little thank goodness. We only had one opps moment I had some chocolate upstairs last night, I was watching TV and eating a little didn't have the energy to take the rest of the bar back downstairs so put it out of reach in our bedroom well I thought it was out of reach! I could hear a rustling of paper this morning so looked to check what Benjamin was up too he had the bar of chocolate and was busy trying to get into it I got to him just as he pulled out 2 squares of chocolate, it was taken off him but he looked at me with that gorgeous little face of his and said treat mama No was the answer last thing I needed was him on a sugar high at that time of the morning but I had to have a giggle to myself. You have to give him credit for trying still have no idea how he got it little concerned that he'd climbed up the unit it was on top of it has wicker baskets in it.

Its a beautiful day here today which is so nice yesterday we did some big painting outside used the back of an old roll of wallpaper took Benjamin out in his nappy, had some paint in a tray and let him do some feet painting he loved it. I also took a little paint roller out so he used that to. It was great fun think he had just as much fun getting all the paint of him in the tub of water after. Not sure what to do today going to try and dig out the paddling pool and may go for a walk.

 

[msarkozi]

that's awesome Sugar, congratulations

No I am not willing to try a vbac. My body couldn't progress past 5cm last time and the epidural doesn't work for me. So I really don't want to attempt it this time to see if my body could progress this time....if the epidural worked for me, it might be different, but there is no way I would attempt it without drugs, especially with how much pain I was in last time.....I can still remember all those hours of needing to push and couldn't......

Luce that sucks about the crappy night. Must be something in the air. Kash woke at 2 am and he was so mad at me because I wouldn't let him sleep in our bed (it's becoming too much of a habit), and so I was consoling him for a long time. He laid down on the floor and was just crying. I felt awful, but I just rubbed his back and kept talking to him and finally at one point I asked him if he was ready to go lay down in bed again, and then I went to get him some water. I crawled back into bed, and was listening to him whimper, and about half hour later he was up and asking for me again. So we cuddled until he was ready to go back and lay down. Then I kept hearing him whimper for the next few hours. Not sure what it is, as I kept asking if different things hurt and he said no. I believe he is suffering from some allergies right now, so I gave him some benadryl before daycare.

 

[vickyd]

Sugar wow!!! You need a small celebration to take the edge off...hmmm some wine maybe hahahaha!!!!! Great news!

Mel did you have the c-section under full anesthesia like me? Cant remember....Im convinced that the general anesthesia (sp) was at fault for my milk never really coming through... Even if you were considering the VBAC i think you would have a hard time finding a doctor who would perform it these days...I think you are more likely to get a vbac if at least 3 years have passed since the last c-section. Im not even considering it if i decide to have another....

Bu the way Hero had a similar fit last night around 3am!! Seriously she was so scared i was really worried...She didnt want Alex at all and literally pushed him off our bed. Strange 3 of our babies experienced the same thing last night...

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky I'm having vbac (well that's the plan anyway) they do seem to them push here at the moment I mean if you would rather have a C-section then they'll support that decision but they definitely favour vaginal birth if you've previously had a C-section. My friend had a little boy a few weeks ago and she did not want a vbac at all she got a C-section but when ever they discussed it they did try to convince her to have a vbac. I was the opposite I went in and said I don't want a C-section again if I can avoid it I'd really like to do it myself they were completely on-board gave me all the information regarding both choices and what they suggest & why.

That is so strange about our little ones must of been something in the air hope we all have better nights tonight.

 

[Allie84]

Alistair was up at 3 am too!!! Weird, he never does that! Very rarely. He woke up really upset and I couldn't console him for ages. I cuddled, changed his diaper, gave him teething tablets and ibuprofen, tried rubbing his back in the crib...eventually I gave in and gave him a bottle and he feel asleep.

Sugar, that is great news!! Now to relax and enjoy being pregnant until MS kicks in!

Lucy, I responded in your journal, poor Benjamin!

And poor Kash and Hero...and poor us!!

Mel, I'm glad you got signed off!

 

[vickyd]

Lucy its so interesting to see how different the medical establishment is in every country...Here there are like 5 doctors who do vbacs and even then after many considerations. I would like to go for a vbac next time but i doubt with my history and age they would consider me candidate. My goal next time is to have an epidural during the c-section and not general.

 

[heart tree]

Sugar that's awesome!!!! I feel very positive about this one.

What a strange coincidence with Benjamin, Kash, Hero and Alistair! Sounds exhausting. Luckily our little love slept through. She's fighting a cold and is sneezing and coughing. She woke up twice before I went to bed and I rocked her. I thought it was going to be like that all night but she ended up sleeping until 7:30! I heard her wake at 5am but put herself back to sleep.

They encourage vbacs here too. Vicky I have heard that csection a in general can affect milk supply. So can having a preemie. Might have been the combo.

 

[LucyJ]

That's really interest Vicky it fascinates me how different the advice is. I had a spinal block with Benjamin.

Amanda it took my milk longer to come in which they said was due to the c-section. Glad your little girl slept through. So far we are having a better night he's fast asleep on top of his duvet but it is very hot so don't blame him.

Allie sorry your little man had a rough night too.

 

[VGibs]

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/blackberry/p.html?id=3209305

My mom posted this on my FB and I loved it...a very good point.

 

[msarkozi]

Vicky - I had a spinal tap in the end. I don't think it's common here that they do anesthetic for it, unless needed

crazy about the little ones last night. Hopefully it's a better night tonight.

I enjoyed my first day off today. I got up at my regular time and got Kash off to daycare....came home and watched a couple episodes of young and the restless on the pvr, had a 2 hour nap, laid in bed for another hour.....made some lunch, went to the store....cleaned out the closet in baby's room...went to the clinic to have a consultation with the public health nurse to calm me down about having another baby lol....went to get kash from daycare, dropped him off at home, went for a massage, came home and made supper and have been relaxing the rest of the time thinking i am going to go crawl into bed soon with the heating pad

 

[Allie84]

Mel, that sounds like a perfect day to me!!! You deserve it!! Is Kash going to remain in daycare full time for now?

Virginia, I read the link. Is that guy a comedian? I've never heard of him


Oh, and I don't think Sassy will mind me saying I think you should stop by her journal if you can as she's going through a hard time and could use some Disco girl support.

 

[VGibs]

Can't find the journal :S

 

[VGibs]

Ok someone tell me if I'm being hormonal. So I was telling my best friend last week about how I can't even remember the last time I went out for dinner. Which has been bumming me out because I do all the cooking and I wouldn't mind a night off. So she asked me last week if I would go to a birthday party tonight. I kind of dont wanna go but I said I would because she says I never do anything anymore. I wouldnt know anyone there, and the guy who it is for has been a total jerk to me in the pat. So this morning I find out that ALL my friends went to a nice restaurant last night for our other friends birthday and I wasn't invited. I don't know why I wasn't invited. But it was a surprise and obviously in the works for awhile. So my best friend invited me to this lame party because she knew I wasn't invited to the one I would've loved to go to. My feelings are so hurt. I am gonna blow off the other party and just pretend I'm sleeping all night or something. I'm so angry.

 

[Sugarlove2]

Vicky, your comment about celebrating with a drink made me laugh It's gorgeous weather here and everyone is having bbqs and drinking. I could murder a glass of wine or a g&t! I saw the Doctor again, and he's arranged for me to have an scan at EPADS tomorrow, but he is pleased with the blood test results. I'm feeling well nervous. I'm 6 weeks today, so it may well be too early to see a hb yet anyway.

Gibs, I don't think it's you being hormonal. I would be extremely hurt about being left out too.

Sassy, I had a peek at your journal. So sorry you've decided to end it with Danny, but I think you've been very unhappy for a long time and have tried everything to make it work. I hope you will feel better and relieved when you go your separate ways and manage to be friends

Hope those of you who want a vbac manage to have one next time. After the pain in my foof after the episiotomy with Charlotte, I wouldn't be so keen Seriously though, I understand what you mean. I would like to give birth next time, without being induced and stuck on a drip.

 

[heart tree]

That's a great post Virginia. Thanks for sharing the link. As for the birthday parties, yes, I would also be very hurt, hormones or not. It sounds like you are close with these people? Is it possible they didn't invite you because you are pregnant? You have no inkling of why you weren't invited? It would really bother me too. A lot.

Mel, your day sounded divine. Enjoy every second before the baby comes!

Sugar, good luck tomorrow. It's true, there might not be a hb yet, but there might be as well. I'm so glad you are getting an early scan, even if it is scary.

Sassy, I took a peek at your journal too. I hope you read this, but I'll try to post in your journal too. I like what Vicky said about people not changing. It's true. Danny won't change unless he is really driven to change. It doesn't sound much like he is. But you are also part of that equation. The way he's made you feel has gone on for years and years. It's built up to a boiling point. You need to make a change. It sounds like you are going to ask him to move out. I think that's a good start if you feel that's the only way. Your other option could be to change your attitude towards him and how you act with him. You could accept who he is and not let all of these things bother you. Honestly, I think that would be impossible at this point. You could also try a different way of communicating with him. Clearly something isn't working and if he isn't willing to change, you need to. It's up to you to decide how that change will manifest. I wish you all of the courage, strength and luck in this difficult time.

 

[Sugarlove2]

Well it appears to be all over. Went to the toilet an hour ago and when I wiped it was bright red. Now getting some horrendous cramps and bleeding. I can't believe it. I was really starting to believe it was ok.

 

[msarkozi]

Sugar

Allie - Kash is going to remain full time until August, and then I will move him to part time.

Today was swim lesson day again, and while we were in High Level I was realizing I need to enjoy these last few weeks with Kash, before there is no more him and me time without the baby. So we had a great day. We bought some flowers as well and planted them when we got home. We went and got some ice cream as well. Gord is out, so we have been enjoying the whole day as just us. I hope we will have more of these days after the baby is here, but I know it won't be for a little bit.

 

[vickyd]

Sugar hope its just another scare.....I saw you posted this last night, how are things now???

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Thinking of you sugar, really hope all is ok.xx