Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sassy_TTC]

Ahh Yogi, that's horrible, why don't people just learn to keep their gobs shut!!

So sorry you had a crappy day Megg, DD are so hard to deal with, so exciting that you have started your next journey though, how you feeling?

Sugar - Looking the new profile pic.

Lucy - Thanks hun, tell Steve he should def be getting it while he can, it's been 10weeks in this house and even my granny knickers and big comfy p.j's are turning Danny on

I don't watch I'm a celeb, Gillian does my head in so I physically cannot watch it!

I HATE flying, I get myself in the biggest state ever, Danny gets so embarressed, I normally get drunk before every flight just to numb myself a little, pathetic I know!! We have been on a few bad flights, one was so bad I shouted out to everyone "oh my god we are going to crash, the plane is going down" poor Danny!!
I think it all came from our flight back from Dom Rep, the plane took off then turned back around and literllay nose dived to make an emergency stop, there had been massive engine failure and I'm so thankful that it happended stright away! On the up we was stranded in Dom Rep for another 4 days because they had to fly a new engine in!!xxx

 

[sugarlove]

Megg for yesterday. Sorry you found it hard watching that film.I'm so excited your stimming has started

Allie, I will gladly shop and send you some galaxy if you want me to I found a place in England last order that shipped in American sweets. Going to stock up again for the Xmas period and my Mum's going halfers with me on next batch

Sassy, sounds like you're almost as bad as me on the flying front! Last time I flew (5 yrs ago) from Majorca, I freaked completely before getting on the plane. They had to put my luggage on standby and Mal had to coax me on. They allocated us seats right at the back and I'm even more scared sitting there for some reason. In the end, the cabin crew arranged for us to swop seats with someone at the front. I cried all the way home with fear and was convinced the plane was coming down with every slight movement. Mal was mortified and we haven't flown since then. A shame as I love hot weather and don't see much in this country! We went on 2 cruises last yr which I really enjoyed, but puked violently going through the Bay of Biscay both times

Have a good day everyone x

 

[Megg33k]

I actually really love to fly! I was terrified the first time... but now I adore it!

 

[heart tree]

Oh god Sassy your plane story was almost too much for me to read. That is my absolute nightmare. I usually drink before and/or on the flight as well. Or I take an anti-anxiety. Usually I try to fly the red-eye flight and I take an Ambien so I sleep through the whole thing. Last time I had just had my last mc and I ended up taking a Vicodin AND an Ambien. I figured I'd rather die from an overdose and not even be aware than to die in high anxiety in a crash!

Sugar, the back of the plane is the worst because you can feel all of the turbulence and can hear the engines more than in the front. I'll still fly, unlike you, but not happily. And I get so seasick that boats are out of the question for me.

Allie and Megg, you might remember that my job is to work with family members who are caring for their loved ones. Usually it is an adult child or a spouse caring for someone with dementia. One of our mottos at my agency is self-care. We try to drill it into our clients that the only way they can be an effective caregiver is to take care of themselves first. I just finished teaching a 6 week class on the subject. So Megg's advice in my opinion, is spot on. You really do have to be "selfish." That word has such a negative connotation, but really, it doesn't need to all the time. Allie, life is too short. You can't live your life for your parents. You and Alex deserve to have your own life apart from the. You are right, you aren't doing anyone any good by staying "stuck" in this situation. Once you and Alex are in a better place mentally, emotionally and physically, you will be able to give so much more to your parents.

Hey girls, look at my ticker. CD 19 and 3 dpo!!!! Look at me go! Not sure I caught the egg, and will be upset if I didn't, but I'm so psyched I Ov'd on CD 16.

 

[Dazed]

Way to go Hearty on CD3. Hope you catch that eggy girly!

 

[Allie84]

Thank you, hearty. I really appreciate hearing that, and I'm taking it to heart. My aunts (mom's 6 sisters) keep telling me the same thing, and I've been resistant. I like hearing it from a pro. Woohoo for 3dpo!!! I would LOVE to ov on CD16.

For flying, I note the model of the plane while booking and only fly in certain ones. I have to sit within 7 rows of an emergency exit, in an aisle seat, take an anti-anxiety pill, and arrive ridiculously early at the airport. As long as all of those things work out I can fly, and once we're in the air I usually enjoy it. It's really weird! However, I have been on a few super turbulent flights that made me sick to my stomach and I was convinced we were going down. Once we were landing in Vegas and swaying side to side so much everyone was clutching their armrests and hollering. Sassy, your story sounds really terrifying! Sugar, maybe you should do like Hearty and just take a night flight with a sleeping pill. Once, at the height of my fear, I cancelled a trip to see a friend I was so convinced the plane was doomed. I was so mad at myself later, I vowed to make myself get on a plane, so we booked a trip and I just did it. They say exposure is the best thing you can do. You're rememebering your most recent experience which was a bad one, but if you reserve seats at the front, take a pill, and just make yourself do it your fear will get better, even if it won't go away.

 

[Megg33k]

Oh god Sassy your plane story was almost too much for me to read. That is my absolute nightmare. I usually drink before and/or on the flight as well. Or I take an anti-anxiety. Usually I try to fly the red-eye flight and I take an Ambien so I sleep through the whole thing. Last time I had just had my last mc and I ended up taking a Vicodin AND an Ambien. I figured I'd rather die from an overdose and not even be aware than to die in high anxiety in a crash!

Sugar, the back of the plane is the worst because you can feel all of the turbulence and can hear the engines more than in the front. I'll still fly, unlike you, but not happily. And I get so seasick that boats are out of the question for me.

Allie and Megg, you might remember that my job is to work with family members who are caring for their loved ones. Usually it is an adult child or a spouse caring for someone with dementia. One of our mottos at my agency is self-care. We try to drill it into our clients that the only way they can be an effective caregiver is to take care of themselves first. I just finished teaching a 6 week class on the subject. So Megg's advice in my opinion, is spot on. You really do have to be "selfish." That word has such a negative connotation, but really, it doesn't need to all the time. Allie, life is too short. You can't live your life for your parents. You and Alex deserve to have your own life apart from the. You are right, you aren't doing anyone any good by staying "stuck" in this situation. Once you and Alex are in a better place mentally, emotionally and physically, you will be able to give so much more to your parents.

Hey girls, look at my ticker. CD 19 and 3 dpo!!!! Look at me go! Not sure I caught the egg, and will be upset if I didn't, but I'm so psyched I Ov'd on CD 16.

Its nice to hear a professional corroborate the "self-care" thing! Thanks!

Woohoo for CD19 & 3dpo! That's amazing! Go Femara!

 

[jenny25]

well girls af kicked in like hell today i dont know if this is normal but ive been changing every hour cause ive been filling it up pretty much its slowed a little but its extreamily heavy more so than usual x

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I'm the same Allie, I read the crash statistic's for every plane we go on! I've also seen every episode of Air Crash Investigation which I don't think helps but I like to be aware of the problems that have caused crashes!

When we que for boarding I look at everyone in the que and ask the question in my head "is there time up", I always like to get a look at the pilot, see if he's wearing a wedding ring therefore has a wife and maybe children which means to me he would do anything but crash!!

I'm slightly crazy when it comes to flying!xxx

 

[Jaymes]

Hi Girls... I'm back! Vacation was not that fun, and I am so happy to be home! I've skimmed, and probably won't go back over it all as I am more than a week behind and you all are so chatty. :wink:

Love you people!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hey Jaymes,

Welcome back, sorry your didn't have a great time, what happened?

How's your bump??xxxx

 

[Jaymes]

Thanks Sassy! We went to Universal Studios in Florida. I couldn't ride anything, and most of the time was stuck watching 3 tired grumpy kids that were too short to go on rides while my DH and his mother (who both hit every one of my favorite rides and some I'd have loved to have tried) ran us all over 2 parks from about 7:30 am to 8:30 pm. For 3 days. I am/was so exhausted, and I have once again concluded that I am not all that fond of my nephew. He is very whiney, and an only child, so often fights with the others. He is also one of those kids that loves to make random obnoxious noises at will and often... just because he can. He also has ZERO respect for most adults and tends to completely ignore anyone trying to correct bad behavior. Mix that with about 20 total hours drive time, and well, you have my vacation. It was a blast! I think for the most part the kids and my DH and MIL had fun, so maybe I'm just being a spoiled brat...

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Oh no that doesn't sound like fun at all, you need a relaxing break to get over that hun. Hope your kiddies enjoyed it though. In my personnel opinion I have never once in all my life met an only child that is not like that, I find them all spoilt and needy! So sorry if any of you are only children, perhaps I've just met horrible ones!!

Actually I'm sure Allie and Megg are only children and no way are they any of the above so maybe I'll eat my words.xxxxxx

 

[heart tree]

Jenny, if you are soaking through a pad every hour or two for more than a week, then you should call a doctor. Is it making you dizzy or faint? If so, then you need to call a doctor now. Otherwise, it is probably normal. I'm so sorry honey.

Jaymie, welcome back. The trip sounds like one of my worst nightmares (aside from flying!) Glad you are back safe and sound.

Sass, I also check out the passengers and pilots. I have similar thoughts running through my head. I look at the people sitting next to me and size them up and think, this might be the person I die next to. Nice thoughts, huh? It doesn't help that I started watching Lost on a plane. What a dummy I am!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

LOL Hearty, glad I'm not the only one!!xxx

 

[LucyJ]

Lucy, that is so amazing that you flew a cessna today! I am so in awe and also very curious what it was like. I am very interested in planes and flying myself- I developed a fear/fascination with flying a a few years ago and love reading up on how flying works, types of aircraft, etc. It helped with my fear, and now Alex get a play-by-play whenever we fly. When are you going up again? Oh, and good luck getting back into TTC. It's a good thing Steve's always up for it.

I love planes and having the chance to fly one was amazing I felt totally save and in control wasn't worried at all. Don't know when or if I will get up again it was a one off flying experience flying lesson which my parents bought for my birthday but have said to them and steve I would love to do it again. If I could afford it I would definitely do a course and get my private flying licence.

My instructor talked me through everything before we took off all the controls moving the plane what happens when you take off/land how the wings move he had me do it all and watch what the wings did, learnt how the engines worked how the instruments worked and how they were all hooked up the fuel used, how you could run the fuel off one engine or the other or both. He went through so much and as we taxied out to the run way I got to use the foot pedals to control the plane (which you only use on the ground in the air you use the wheel although its not quite a wheel). We both had headphones on with mircophones so we could talk to one another and he talked to me the whole time sometimes just to point out landmarks below only time I dipped the plane a bit to much as I was looking out the window opps but soon got us back up. One of the most amazing things was turning the plane we went round at a 90 degree angle wow loved it. I flew us up along the coast and you could see the snow clouds over the sea they looked beautiful.

I thought I may be scared but didnt feel it at all just felt exicted and calm. One of the lovely things was that for the 30 mins I was in the air my mind was completely clear of everything I had 30 mins of freedom (if that makes sense) I didnt feel sad, worried, scared, anxious nothing just thrilled and exicted it was a nice break not to have all the things that are normally in my mind. I would recommend it to anyone.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Wow Lucy I think your amazing for flying a plane, I could never ever do that! I imagine it felt amazing though and a massive adrelanine rush!

My Dad has a pilot license and owns a small plane but I would never go on it as I would never feel safe!xxxx

 

[LucyJ]

Sugar I would be dreadful on a cruise I dont like boats at all love the water but theres something about being on a boat that doesnt appeal to me which makes my dad sad as he loves sailing.

Jenny that seems like a lot keep an eye on it and if doesnt ease a bit then you should go and speak to your dr.

to sugar, sassy, allie and hearty and any other non flyers. I'm sorry you dont like flying I'm a bit weird I'm of the opinion if I crash while on a plane I'll die happy as I love being in the air I never had a really bad flight hit some bad turblance before but nothing horrific I remember when I was little we got to go and meet the pilot in the cockpit maybe thats where my love of flying comes from my mum loves it as well. I have to say the flying lesson was totally different to being on a big airplane I honestly felt so secure and safe and when you find about how the system work for example if one engine fails the other will keep you going or if you lose power in one set of instruments the others will be ok as they run of different circuits so its rare for you to lose everything and the cessna are built like gliders. Also flying the plane yourself gives you a big confidence boast and make you feel very much in control.

Jaymes sorry you didnt have a good vacation hope you get some rest now your home.

 

[dawny690]

Jenny we are on the same CD xxxx

 

[LucyJ]

Wow Lucy I think your amazing for flying a plane, I could never ever do that! I imagine it felt amazing though and a massive adrelanine rush!

My Dad has a pilot license and owns a small plane but I would never go on it as I would never feel safe!xxxx

Wow thats so cool I would love to have a small plane it was amazing how safe I felt considering it is a small plane. Pictures below me in the air, taxi off and after landing.