Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[LucyJ]

Bollocks just lost the massive post I wrote havent got time to rewrite it as off out for a walk as its sunny I'll be back later!!

 

[Megg33k]

:waves: Hi girls! Just popping in. Not caught up, sorry. though!

 

[LucyJ]

Happy Birthday Vicky

 

[hoping:)]

Happy birthday Vicky!!! I hope you are having an amazing day

 

[Allie84]

Happy Birthday, Vicky!!! I hope you're having a fun day...well, night, now.

Hearty, just read your post! What a day. You have been very thoroughly checked out..it's pretty safe to say baby girl is doing very well!! Have you gotten results of your GTT yet? FX you don't get GD like I did, blehh.

Nato, I didn't know you tore so badly. So did I. While Eloise was born by forceps, Alistair was born by vacuum. I also had to be cut and then I tore further (4th degree). I was against getting cut; I wanted to 'tear' naturally but in the moment I felt I couldn't say no. My recovery was amazingly smooth considering it was fourth degree. I mean, I was tender for a long time and I think my ladybits look and feel a bit different....also, I've only had sex twice since Alistair was born. My vagina doesn't feel the same anymore and I think I'm scarred (emotionally).

That's my big fear with having a second....that I will have another traumatic birth. I also didn't have pain relief for 18 hours...but mine wasn't by choice, it didn't work on me. Another thing I'm afraid of for a second baby. I've been told given my first birth I can elect to have a c-section, but that scares me more. Not sure what to think.

Hoping, Alistair has aspirated spit before. It was the first day I gave him vitamin drops. I called the out of hours doctor who laughed at me and told me everyone has aspirated and it won't be the last time it happens to Alistair. She wasn't worried.

Lucy, I hate when I lose posts! Hope it was a nice walk.

Dazed, good luck for hubby's SA. How strange you don't get results right away!!! Must everything have so much red tape?

Nato, I'm also unsure how to commence weaning. Alistair was giving one TBSP of rice cereal but I don't know where to go from there?

 

[heart tree]

Allie, I would be scared for a second baby too after what you went through. Hell, I'm scared for the first and I haven't even given birth yet. It sounds like you need more time to heal before trying again. The good thing is you have age on your side.

I found out today I passed the glucose test. I had a feeling I would, but am feeling really relieved. I'm celebrating with ice cream.

Sorry, I haven't read back. It's been a long few days waiting for my scan today.

Here's my update from my journal:

The cervix is still holding stable at 2.6. No funneling. No change when I bear down. Everything is tight and closed. It's just on the shorter side. The doctor who reviewed the scan said she wasn't worried. They want to see me again in 4 weeks instead of 2 weeks. It looks more and more likely that I just have a short cervix.

They did another full round of measurements on the baby even though they aren't required to. Fine by me. She's measuring 2 days ahead at 24+5. She weighs 1 pound 10 ounces. All of her organs and limbs looked perfect. I made them look between the legs again. Still a girl. I could see it very clearly. The amniotic fluid measured 13.6. Anything between 8-18 is considered normal. Between week 20-35, the average fluid for most women is 14, so we're right on target. All in all, everything was very reassuring. I'm waiting for my doctor to call me with next steps. I think I would like to continue working from home and rest as much as possible, but allow myself more time up and about. I think that will be good for my mental health and will make me feel more normal.

I posted bump pics and scan pics on the front page, but I'll put the scan pics here too.

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https://i1234.photobucket.com/albums/ff419/ahartrey/baby%20bump/42a67ba9.jpg

https://i1234.photobucket.com/albums/ff419/ahartrey/baby%20bump/938edc76.jpg

 

[heart tree]

Oh yeah, and Happy Birthday Vic! I hope you got drunk and did crack.

 

[Megg33k]

Happy Belated B-day, Vicky!

Love the scans, Amanda!

I'm personally on after having met one of the people I obsess over on Saturday! I keep watching video clips of when I got to talk to him! It's pathetic, but I'm so excited. John Barrowman!

 

[vickyd]

Thanks all for the b-day wishes!!

Hearty very good news on the cervix! And what great AF levels! Mine were 8 at your stage and by week 33 they were down to 4!

I had a good easter weekend, ate way too much and now have to seriously get back to my diet regime Grrr... Hero had a great time at the beach, although she ate way too much sand for my liking lol! She was ready to dive in the water but it was too cold so I let her waddle up to her knees only. Hopefully next month the water will be warmer and she can start swimming lessons. I really hate swimming pools so I havent taken her yet. I find them really gross and figure i have the sea at my feet why take her to the germ pool?

My SIL gave birth last Thurday. I went to see her and she had managed to alienate herself from the 2 other girls in her room. She was breastfeeding when i went and was gloating about how easy it was for her whereas the other two were having a hard time. Apparently she has a natural instinct for it and the others cant do it even after breastfeeding classes. I was there for 30 minutes and she had her som on her left boob the whole time. I asked her if maybe she should do as the midwives recommend and nurse max 15 minutes from each boob but she said i have no clue as i didnt breastfeed. Fastforward a couple days and she has given the baby formula as she is sure her supply is low. Obviously she hasnt tried the advice of midwives since she knows best and oh yeah has "instinct". Whatever, she is totally insane and worth the hassle.

 

[Megg33k]

Sounds like a right nutter, Vicky!

 

[Round2]

Hearty, this all sounds quite optimistic. I know you're still worried, but it really sounds like she's in there nice and snug. Love the pics, she looks adorable already.

Vicky, your SIL is a piece of work. Poor you, I can't imagine having someone like that in my family.

So jealous you live near the ocean. Our beaches are always closed due to 'high bacteria levels'. Needless to say, I avoid them when the bacteria levels are low too!

Megg, nice to see you around. I have no idea who that person is that you met...but I'm glad you're so happy to have met him.

Allie/Nato, I had a hard time with weaning. It didn't happen till nearly 14 months. Maddy hated the rice cereal...and pretty much everything else till she was at least a year old. I thought she was going to be BFing till she was teenager....then low and behold...she just stopped and didn't need it anymore. Just try your best, regardless, it will happen eventually.

AFM, I had my 18th ultrasound for this pregnancy yesterday! Yes, I actually counted them. Everything looks good. My little man is growing well (as his mommy). He's almost 3lbs now and is in the 50th percentile for weight. My doc is guessing another 7lb baby. Thank goodness, my hubby was 11lbs, I was worried that I got off easy the first time around.

I finally took a lump/bump pic....I'm not wearing a bra so try to ignore the girls hanging down!!

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[Megg33k]

Your bump looks great! Yay for a good ultrasound and a healthy little boy!

Uhm... He's beautiful! He's an actor on stage and screen, as well as a singer/dancer/all around entertainer. He's the most beautiful human being I've ever laid eyes on! LOL Here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJYUwC9E0kI

Some of what he's saying is actually directed at ME in that video 3 of the things he says, to be exact! LOL

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Great bump rounders, carrying very neat. You getting uncomfy yet?

Hope your all ok, sorry I've not been around much I ended up spending most of the weekend in hospital having contractions, I was given an injection to make them stop and thankfully they have and I haven't dilated so I'm now on strict bed rest, seeing my consultant tomorrow.x

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Great bump rounders, carrying very neat. You getting uncomfy yet?

Hope your all ok, sorry I've not been around much I ended up spending most of the weekend in hospital having contractions, I was given an injection to make them stop and thankfully they have and I haven't dilated so I'm now on strict bed rest, seeing my consultant tomorrow.x

 

[NatoPMT]

hahah @ barrowman obsessing. which 3 things?

Hearty, BabyGirlH is gorgeous!!! You can tell from the pics, she's absolutely beautiful! In fact i might be a bit biased here, but she looks a bit like Eloise on her 3D pics, and i think Eloise is completely beautiful.

Allie, ach i didnt know you'd been through similar either. my bits dont feel the same, they don't look the same. Crikey the pain relief didnt work? Mine failed at about 30 hours for 4 hours and it was absolutely horrific because of the drip and Eloise being back to back. I know the idea of it all happening again is terrifying - i think 'wow i cant believe i actually did that' and the thought of it again is scary. Just don't worry about it for now. I guess if / when you decide to try again, discussing the pain relief options and why it didn't work will be the most important thing. I eventually had to have a spinal block, which is what they give for a c-section as my epidural failed....if you have that then you can still give birth the usual way but the lack of feeling is why i had to have forceps...even though i could feel the contractions. What i'm saying in a round about way is that you can have the c-section pain relief without a c-section.

On the weaning, i haven't given eloise any cereals at all, just fruit and some vegetables. I am finding this site quite useful

https://wholesomebabyfood.momtastic.com/babyfirstfoods.htm

I have started to prepare purees and freeze them now, eloise was constipated for days this week so i made some prune puree and have been giving her that every day which she loves. Im a bit confused by it all still though

Vic, i did snigger at your sil coming a cropper, not that its very nice of me nor good for the baby, but i am sick of The Righteous Ones.

Rounders you look amazing! You lot all look/ed bloody great, i was a total whale with a big fat face. Eloise is actually loving every food i have given her so far. The only thing she wasnt keen on was plum, it made her pull faces due to tartness. Glad BabyBoyR is doing well, have we discussed names yet or are you refusing to discuss like hearty and keeping us all in the dark.

Sassy - crikey, sorry to hear that! so glad they got them to stop, thats amazing they did that - any ideas what caused it? you take it easy and update us with what the consultant says tomorrow.

For me...i went to see the dr at my practice (lots of GPs so often see different ones) with Eloise on Monday and she was great, she remembered me from when i was ttc and said she'd looked up me and had been delighted to see i was pregnant. I asked her about the steroids and she said that if i can get letters from Mr T then the NHS might prescribe me steroids etc if i get pregnant again - i am very, very chuffed with this news. They might not, but it means i prob will get some of the meds at least.

i have to go now because i am supposed to be mopping the floor and i am not. I am discoing.

 

[Megg33k]

hahah @ barrowman obsessing. which 3 things?

"Just hold on to it and pretend it's me"... "There's a big gay reason to watch that"... the one about throwing River out vs threesome (right after those)... I suggested throwing River from the TARDIS (that was my voice, if you listen closely lol) I don't know who yelled threesome, but I cringe at the thought.

 

[heart tree]

Sassy, welcome to the bed rest club. How scary for you. I hope they were able to stop the contractions. Were you given magnesium? I saw a woman on TV start contractions and bleeding at 33 weeks. They gave her magnesium and bed rest and stopped the contractions for 3 more weeks. She gave birth to a healthy baby. I know how hard bed rest is. Strict bed rest is even harder. I hope you have a lot of support.

Meggles I don't even know who this guy is. I feel old. I'm going to watch that video. Glad you got to meet him though!

Vic, your SIL sounds crazy. She'll be the one who ends up suffering the most from her self righteous attitude. Glad you had a great time at the beach and ate too much!

Rounders, you look amazing! You kept talking about how huge you were. I think your bump is perfect.

Nato thanks. Eloise is beautiful and I think baby Hearty will be too. I can't wait to see more fat on her face. Next scan is in a month so she should look even chubbier.

Great need about your GP. I hope you get the meds and find yourself knocked up again soon. I can't believe how much you endured for the birth of Eloise. Women are the most amazing creatures. Men don't hold a candle to us.

My doctor is giving me a little more freedom. I can be up and about for a few hours twice a day. It will allow me to work from home but will give me a little more of a life. My big activity planned today is to go to the post office and mail my extra progesterone to a B&B woman. I'm living dangerously.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

No idea what caused them, they said maybe I'd over done it but considering I can hardly walk that definately weren't the case! Bed rest sucks even more so with a demanding 10 month but I have to do what's required to keep lil man in there a bit longer! I'm not sure what I was given hearty, it was an injection? I was too just freaking out about getting home to poppy!

Will update tomorrow for sure. 3 weeks to go at the most though

 

[heart tree]

Sassy, they might have given you magnesium for the contractions and steroids to help the baby's lungs develop in case you deliver early. Bed rest does suck. It sounds so nice, until you have to do it. And I can't imagine doing it with a 10 month old. I have a hard enough time with my 42 year old husband! LOL!

Hang in there honey. You are in the home stretch. Good luck tomorrow.

 

[Round2]

Wow Sassy, I'm sorry to hear about all the contractions. I'm glad your cervix is still closed though. So how do you do bedrest with a 10 month old? Do you have someone to help?

You're sooo close! I can't believe it - it seems like we just found out you were pregnant yesterday!!