Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

Haven't got time to comment but I'm reading everything.

My mil is great, my mother however is a total weirdo!

Rounders, good luck, I hope the birth goes smoothly, can't wait to see pics of your lil man.

Afm: I'm just taking each day as it comes, 2 babies 11 months apart is hard bloody work.x
 
Allie- your MIL sure sounds like a piece of work herself. I can't believe she is an ocean away and still finds ways to meddle with your life. How is the school work going?

Sassy- I can't imagine trying to care for 2 babies 11 months a part but I'm sure you are doing fantastic:thumbup:

AFM- penny is back to her usual and waking once in the middle of the night:dohh: She decided to get up at 1:30 am and cry her little eyes out. i am exhausted. Oh well, one day she will sleep through again. For now I will take the extra baby cuddles and baby feet body slamming me through the night:haha:

I hope everyone had a nice father's day:D We BBQed with some good friend, roasted marshmellows and drank mimosas. I got some really cute pics of Penny and will post in my journal later today
 
Hoping - I bet Penny is rolling her eyes when she hears that. Its very inconsiderate. Being a new mummy is a vulnerable time, being a grandparent is when you should be there to support, not try and grab the headlines.

I also call her The Weasle, and everyone tuts at me for that. Its cute though, she is my weezy weasle.

She actually answers to weasle as well.

Allie, hows the no sugar going? i was reduced to eating cheesecake yesterday. i only had a tiny bit but it was fucking delicious.

YOur MIL sounds very middle england, even if i assume she's scottish. She also sounds like a miserable old boot. I HATE that sarcastic laugh thing, espec when you never hear a genuine laugh. Its all hahaha i can be a bitch if i do this fake laugh afterwards.

Im a bit pleased that Alistair is in the US and not near that horrible woman. Serves her right.

im getting all bitter myself now. Someone hit me on the head with a lamp if i start doing sarcastic laughing.

This lamp was a swingy type thing and for some reason i just couldnt see it - i banged my head on it 3 times before i did the bang that smashed it. MIL's brother nearly wet himself laughing. I was mortified and went haring upstairs to John, and said 'we have to leave, now' - he had heard the smash at the other end of the house on a different floor.
 
ooo rounders is back - TALK!!! have you been yet? im confused about times
 
Haven't got time to comment but I'm reading everything.

My mil is great, my mother however is a total weirdo!

Rounders, good luck, I hope the birth goes smoothly, can't wait to see pics of your lil man.

Afm: I'm just taking each day as it comes, 2 babies 11 months apart is hard bloody work.x

You cant get away with 2 good grandma's - not the done thing.

the first few months will be hard, i remember the 1st 3 being the hardest work, i cant imagine doing that with another baby, but I have heard some people even have twins. Hope you're coping ok, and if you need to talk dont forget us!
 
Nato- I agree about being vulnerable when you are a first time mommy. Luckily my MIL usually comes to my defense and will say things like " Kevin, I'm sure Amber knows how to soothe her own baby etc..." I really love my in-laws and have a great relationship with all of them which I am very thankful for. Tim's grandmother is like my own and will tell me every time I see her how thankful she is that I am part of their family. I love that lady to pieces. My own family is just as wonderful to Tim so we are very blessed besides the odd FIL comment but I can deal with it.

I hope your MIL eventually sees sense and comes to the conclusion that you're are doing a great job and raising a wonderful little girl. Weasle is pretty cute as well. I use that name with Penny sometimes and will call her a "silly little weasle" or " silly baby mongoose":haha: Mostly I call her "princess" or "pumpkin." My mom refers to her as "pumpkin pie" which I think is adorable. Tim just calls her "baby":dohh:

Round- I hope you have exciting news for us!
 
You know I think with mil they think we owe them for having children or something my mil bought us our pram for the baby we never asked she insisted as I paid the deposit for it she continued to make up the payments ,

I know my boundaries with when I had aarron so I'm learning from that

I feel overwhelmed and I've kinda shut myself off

Oh has kinda put pressure on me for dtd I h e done a few times but I don't exactly feel great too a few weeks back I caught him sorting himself out and that's why I chucked him out cause he turned around and blamed me saying I don't want to come
Near him i push him away tried to make it my fault when we were told not too have sex until after 32 weeks due to my history of preterm labour I was 24 weeks when this happened and that's when I had Paul so now cause of what happened there I feel like I need too or that will happen again
 
Hoping - your in-laws sound fantastic, see they're not all bad!

I haven't always got on with mine, they hated me for corrupting their lil boy but when they realised I wasn't going anywhere they changed! I don't speak to my Dad and my mum is a nut job so I'm really thankful that my kiddies will have 1 set of decent grandparents!

NATO - you're exactly right, they first 3 months are so tough, I'm a month down and wishing the next 2 away already! We've now just discovered Zac is lacto intolerant aswell!

I'm shit scared my pnd is coming back, how the fuck do you avoid it! I feel it creeping in but in trying so hard to shut it out! Dh does not help the situation, neither does my weight!!
 
Jenny:hugs: I can't believe he blamed you and is putting pressure on you:nope: Your midwife specifically said no to dtd for a reason. Could your MW maybe have a chat with him about how dangerous it could be because of your preterm labor? I'm sure you are so worried about it but want to make you dh happy. I'm sorry you are dealing with this:hugs:

Sassy- I thought the 1st few months were the hardest as well:hugs: Can you see your doc about the PND? You are such a tiny thing... I'm sure the weight will come off soon but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with right now:hugs:

AFM- i posted some pictures of Penny in my journal along with the new hats I recently finished for her:thumbup:
 
Hoping I brought this up in front of him and she specifically stated so he knew what's what it's made me feel like crap and lately he has been looking at other woman so it's not exactly made me wanna jump on him I've only gained 14lb so far but it doesn't do much for me so now all he does is sit on his phone and play station all day every day and I'm te one that's running around looking after everything he doesn't realise I'm 7 months and finding energy difficult no wonder i don't have time for him because I'm too shattered by the end of the day xxx
 
Jen like nato said, here in Greece the baby does not go out nor do we have visitors for the first 40 days. It is meant to assist the transition from the calmness of the womb to the outside world. It also establishes the bonding between mom and baby. Best bloody 40 days of my life lol!

Nato I am very accomodating, especially to elders. This is a Greek thing unfortunately. No matter how much of an asshole the elder in question is you are never supposed to talk back to them. Im actually considered a blac sheep in this area and everyone says " yes Vicky doesnt respect her elders but what can you do, she spent too much time in Canada and England" hahaha!!! Im also much better at planned confrontation that when the occasion rises up. I go through what i want to say a million times in my head and that way i dont let my emotions get the best of me.

Sass sorry to hear about the lactose intolerance...this is my great fear if i have another. How the fuck am i gonna get through another 7 months of puking,rashes and medicating my lo...

Allie your MIL sounds terrrible...Mine isnt witty enough to be sarcastic lol! Shes pretty thick to be honest. She also makes a big deal when she gives Alex money, 50 euros here and there. Once when she said in front of extended family how much she helps us out i cracked a joke about how she gives us so much i could put Hero through college today. Noone laughed and she didnt even get it....

Crazy SIL story from the weekend: We were all having lunch, Hero was asleep, and after she decides she wants to have a bath and give herself a facial or something. Her son is in the swing by the table awake. She gets up and says im off now to do my hair. So i figure shes arranged with MIL for her to watch her son. Then MIL gets up announcing shes uber tired and off for a nap. I whispered " I guess ill watch him " as she shut the door on her way to nap!!!! Im 100% sure that if i wasnt there they would have left him on his own!!!!
 
Hoping, your MIl should give seminars on how to be an MIL. Your GIL sounds just wonderful - what a lovely lady! I call weezy that too, pumpkin, and stinkerbell, peeky and moo.

Jen - Im sorry youre feeling overwhelmed. I do kinda feel that oh should be able to sort himself out, but he should be at least discreet about it. You dont want to know about that when youre pregnant and not up for it. I understand why you wouldnt want to er, help out, and he shouldnt be blaming you for not wanting to, but i can also understand him (assuming he is discreet, which he cant have been if you caught him)

Sassy, i didnt know pnd could come back after the birth - thats terrible for you, have you been to the docs? is there anything they can do now medication wise? (not sure if your bfing). Terrible luck about the intolerance. You are doing well.
 
Hoping I brought this up in front of him and she specifically stated so he knew what's what it's made me feel like crap and lately he has been looking at other woman so it's not exactly made me wanna jump on him I've only gained 14lb so far but it doesn't do much for me so now all he does is sit on his phone and play station all day every day and I'm te one that's running around looking after everything he doesn't realise I'm 7 months and finding energy difficult no wonder i don't have time for him because I'm too shattered by the end of the day xxx

that is unacceptable. its no wonder you feel a bit touchy about catching him.

how do you know he has been? has he been blatant?

Vic - haha at being too stupid to be sarcastic. Is your sister in law her daughter?

gotta quickly get something to eat while i have a short window of opportunity.
 
Wow wish I lived in Greece lol I'd love that lol xxx

Nato your right it was the fact it was just after an argument he done it then all this stuff came out he done it I wouldn't of minded helping out but it was the fact I caught him and the circumstances he done it under which made me more upset than anything else xx
 
Nato he said he was going into the shower and you know that way you get a gut feeling I got that so i went too use the loo and he had his back too me and got in the shower so I sat on the toilet and he missed abit that he must of tried to clean up after himself so I pulled back the shower curtain and had it out with him and it was still pretty obvious what he had done x
 
Honestly guys when i was pregnant i had absolutely no sex drive. For me that means even "helping out" No way no how! I dont know if Alex releived himself, if he did it must have been when i was out which ok with me!
 
My drive hasn't gone anywhere just the whole no you can't do it that's stopping me xx
 
Wow wish I lived in Greece lol I'd love that lol xxx

Nato your right it was the fact it was just after an argument he done it then all this stuff came out he done it I wouldn't of minded helping out but it was the fact I caught him and the circumstances he done it under which made me more upset than anything else xx

im amazed your drive hasnt gone anywhere. Mine was zilch. I couldnt have felt less sexy

has he said he's looking at other women?

you will get through this, espec if you still have a drive, he doesnt know how lucky he is!!!
 
Nato he said he was going into the shower and you know that way you get a gut feeling I got that so i went too use the loo and he had his back too me and got in the shower so I sat on the toilet and he missed abit that he must of tried to clean up after himself so I pulled back the shower curtain and had it out with him and it was still pretty obvious what he had done x

the dtd detective!!! (i dont actually know what dtd stands for)

he needs to take your feelings into consideration, but i can understand him doing it. I know my oh did and i didn't want to catch him, but dont mind that he did (better clean up would have been appreciated). I would mind if hed done it after an argument like, look what i can do, arent i clever.

ps I hope you called him a wanker
 

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