Do you "do" valentines day?

[RachA]

We don't go overboard with it. We buy cards and usually spend £10 each on the other person.

This year we are doing the Sainsbury's meal for 2 for £10. I would never eat out on valentines day as it's such a rip off.

 

[Kay_Baby]

We do cards, sometimes he will buy me flowers, but there again he will randomly buy me flowers several times a year. Actually he hasn't bought me flowers since LO was born.

He did also buy me a heart charm for my pandora bracelet last year. I think it will be the first and only time for a valentines present.

 

[Mummy2B21]

We tend to go for a meal and buy a little gift and cards

 

[smokey]

We "do" Valentines, although if for some reason we couldn't, I'd be fine. We buy a small present and have a nice dinner, either at home or in a restaurant. I'll take any excuse to spend a little extra time with hubby and talk about our mushy love feelings I get that the holiday has evolved over time and become commercialized (like all holidays, might I add), but I still like it!

I don't understand why people see it as a challenge to prove something, or some kind of attack on the validity of their relationship. You know, I don't think anyone is proving anything by not celebrating either! In my mind, why not take an evening to do something special, just the two of you? This year I am going to cook a nice meal and I bought my DH a video game. Nothing big, just sweet. I am going to make cupcakes in the shape of hearts. He will tell me its sooo cheesy and we will laugh and talk and kiss. Who wouldn't want to do that?

Its not realy about provumg anything or rebeling though.
Thats the sort of thing you can do any night and we often do.
The reason we dont realy care much about valantines is because we can pick any night to do soppy stuff rather then when Halmark say we should, theres no need to make an extra effort for one night if you can do it anytime

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Wonder if the people who think "valentines is just another day we can love each other any day " realise that its actually a religious holiday lol, and has been no more taken over by hallmark then christmas, for example! so this Anti hallmark stance people seem to have makes no sense to me, if you don't want to celebrate thats fine,

but i find needless comments like "i don't see why we need to do it today, when we could do it any day " or "me and my oh love each other every day not just when hallmark tells us do" silly, you could just as easily celebrate xmas all year round, sure the kids would love that x


Saint Valentine's Day, commonly shortened to Valentine's Day,[1][2][3] is a holiday observed on February 14 honoring one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine. It was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, and was later deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI.


The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines").[1][3]

 

[Armywife84]

Usually. DH generally buys me flowers and we have a nice dinner together.

Although this V-day, I didn't want flowers so he got me the house slippers I needed instead. He said he didn't want anything and hasn't given me anything to go on of what he wants so I may just write him a love note.

We're also having our V-day dinner out today and having whatever decent meal tomorrow.

 

[mum2b2009]

Just a card

 

[Arlandria]

Nope

 

[Dizzy321]

Just a card, especially this year with money being a little tight. But its my Birthday the 15th, and we are cooking a nice meal and renting a DVD

 

[smokey]

Wonder if the people who think "valentines is just another day we can love each other any day " realise that its actually a religious holiday lol, and has been no more taken over by hallmark then christmas, for example! so this Anti hallmark stance people seem to have makes no sense tou me, if you don't want to celebrate thats fine,

but i find needless comments like "i don't see why we need to do it today, when we could do it any day " or "me and my oh love each other every day not just when hallmark tells us do" silly, you could just as easily celebrate xmas all year round, sure the kids would love that x


Saint Valentine's Day, commonly shortened to Valentine's Day,[1][2][3] is a holiday observed on February 14 honoring one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine. It was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD, and was later deleted from the General Roman Calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI.


The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines").[1][3]

But christmas wouldnt be special if celebrated every day, you cant say the same for love ie its not as special if celebrated everyday. Christmas focuses in a specific event for that day (not getting into the whole he wasnt born on thst day) where as love isnt anything to do with one specific calander day.
I dont want to for one second belittle anyone that choose to celebrate it as thats their choice same as we do on occasion but surely doesnt a gift or flowers mean something more if its a surprise on any random night when you wasnt expecting it rather then being focused all on one day.

Back last year one of the girls I was working was moaning because her bf didnt get her any flowers on valantines, completly ignoring the fact that 3 months beforehand he had shown up to work eith a huge bunch of flowers for her as a suprise and took her off to paris for the weekend, somthing hed been saving for ages for as a treat.

By all means do somthing soppy on valantines but it somerimes feals like a guilt trip to realy push the boat out at the same time as everyone else ie your love isnt as valid because you didnt get flowers of your partner that one day.

 

[Blah11]

not really. He gets me a card and we have something nice for dinner but no gifts or outings or anything

 

[lulu61388]

YES.

I celebrate my love for my OH daily by cooking for him, kissing him, cuddling him, massaging him and making love to him. I love the atmosphere around Valentine's Day (except for people that complain). I made him a beautiful handmade card and I am baking him a special dessert. It cost me less than $10 and I also made little cards for my close friends.

Do I save up all of my loving and treats for this one day? No, absolutely not. Is this a fun and cute holiday to celebrate? Yes! I don't see why I should withhold the fun aspect of this day just because some people think it isn't worth it.

 

[lulu61388]

I also have lovely memories of my father doting on both my mother and I on Valentine's Day. It is something that I will always remember, like the year he bought me the first *N SYNC cd .

 

[Blah11]

my oh will buy amelie a card too Ill need to get roman one in a few years!

 

[Reedy]

Not Really x DH & I are at work & he doesnt get home till 6.30pm then by the time Finley has gone bed its 7.45pm & DH will go to bed at 8.30pm because he has to be up at 4.30am tomorrow x
He was quite romantic today though with little notes around the house & in the car, with a cd with our wedding songs on x

 

[going_crazy]

We've never celebrated Valentines day.... don't see the point tbh?

 

[DonnaBallona]

I don't understand why people see it as a challenge to prove something, or some kind of attack on the validity of their relationship. You know, I don't think anyone is proving anything by not celebrating either! In my mind, why not take an evening to do something special, just the two of you? This year I am going to cook a nice meal and I bought my DH a video game. Nothing big, just sweet. I am going to make cupcakes in the shape of hearts. He will tell me its sooo cheesy and we will laugh and talk and kiss. Who wouldn't want to do that?

Finally! i couldn't agree more! I'v literally got an entire Facebook of valentine 'haters' who are trying to prove they don't buy into 'commercialised' holidays-but then go out and buy fireworks on bonfire night, presents at Christmas, eggs at Easter.....it seems they just dislike this one! it doesnt have to be all or nothing with valentines, I personally don't see how a £2 card makes any difference to a relationship or means you don't show any affection on any other day of the year but that one!

anyway-in answer to the OP, we buy each other a card and write nice words inside, that's all. it's a good excuse to spend some time together as a couple.

 

[Foogirl]

Nope. It is my sister's birthday and that's enough of a celebration!

But I always said to Mr Foo, I'd rather he bought me flowers on the days I'd least expect it than on the one day he is supposed to. I do love his thinking because he bought me flowers on valentines day, saying he knew it was the one day I least expected it. And he was right, never saw it coming!

ps, not trying to "prove" anything by not celebrating it, just would rather get twice as many flowers for the same price on the 15th February, I'm such a cheapskate!