Id like to think that I will never lay a finger on Bethanie.
See I see that comment 'lay my finger on' as harsh in a way that would harm which is the kind of summing up I hoped to miss.
TBH (in general this is none directed now) I aimed my thread for people who do using a tap of the bum or hand or think that yes they probbaly will because many say they got the *odd* tap when they were little and will use this method if its right at the time.
I didn't want to end up explaining myself to people who are not at the stage of wondering if the odd one is a good thing or not - babies too young etc with things like when I decided we may use the naughty step - we decided ages ago we would but would like to do so when we can explain why shes there that doesn't mean I know best or have it all planned out if that was the case I'd not have put this question up for Mums its applies to who have been there & done that with pros cons
because I never thought I'd even like to tap her hand but I realise being a Mum isn't all fairy land adventures.[/QUOTE]
sorry another thing id like to say is that your right it isnt all fairy land adventures, we do have to do what we think is nessecary to raise our children to grow up into good responsible adults and if a tap on the hand or bum works then its not going to do your little one any long term harm. she probably wont even remember it when shes older, i know my mum an dad give me a smack (and i mean a smack not just a tap)but i can never remember one single incident! so it hasnt scarred me for life!
things will work out for you, sometimes i think im going crazy with my kids! but they are good kids.
just you all wait until your lovely little darlings turn into teenages, they turn into mumbling, knuckle draggers before your very eyes! the terrible 2s seem like a walk in the park!!!!