charlotteb24
Noah & William's Mummy
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I think with dicipline and children it really is down to the parents how they go about it providing its not detrimental to a childs development (i.e. too much physical violence etc as that would be awful!!)
At the moment, i can only go on the ways in which my OH and I dicipline his 2 children as our child is still tucked up safe in my tummy! He has a 5 and a 15 year old. 1 thing we have learnt is it has to be consistant, i.e. what mummy does at home with the boys, we have to do when they are over with us, otherwise you get conflicts of interest and the boys play one off against the other!
Charlie hit "terrible 2's" late and was 3 when his behaviour got bad. He used to throw himself on the floor and throw a fit if you asked him anything. Best thing to do with him was to just all leave the room and leave him to get on with it. The lack of interest and attention drew it out of him very quickly!
At nearly 6 its now a lack of listening to what we are asking him to do if we have told him not to do it. Normally what works if he's been asked not to do something is to warn him if he does it again he will be sat in his room. Obviously he normally does try and push it (what little boy doesn't?) so he gets firmly told to go and sit in his bedroom and we will leave him to reflect on his bed for 5/10 mins and then go and talk to him calmly.
We have smacked him a few times and we don't use it as the main form of punishment as we use it for the sheer shock and humiliation factor and it has to have been something REALLY dangerous or bad for him to have had his bum smacked. Think the last time was for running out of the play park and nearly onto a busy road when he knows hes not allowed past the gate and had been told numerous occasions! was the only way to show him how naughty it was because time out didn't work, too many distractions.
With tiny toddlers i think time out would work but in a much more basic form, i.e tell them no, remove them from the situation. They go back, tell them no, pick them up and put them in their cot for 5 mins. Thats what i plan to try, the theory seems good but we shall see when the time comes i guess!
Good luck to everyone with their techniques i think its all perserverance! xxxxxxx
At the moment, i can only go on the ways in which my OH and I dicipline his 2 children as our child is still tucked up safe in my tummy! He has a 5 and a 15 year old. 1 thing we have learnt is it has to be consistant, i.e. what mummy does at home with the boys, we have to do when they are over with us, otherwise you get conflicts of interest and the boys play one off against the other!
Charlie hit "terrible 2's" late and was 3 when his behaviour got bad. He used to throw himself on the floor and throw a fit if you asked him anything. Best thing to do with him was to just all leave the room and leave him to get on with it. The lack of interest and attention drew it out of him very quickly!
At nearly 6 its now a lack of listening to what we are asking him to do if we have told him not to do it. Normally what works if he's been asked not to do something is to warn him if he does it again he will be sat in his room. Obviously he normally does try and push it (what little boy doesn't?) so he gets firmly told to go and sit in his bedroom and we will leave him to reflect on his bed for 5/10 mins and then go and talk to him calmly.
We have smacked him a few times and we don't use it as the main form of punishment as we use it for the sheer shock and humiliation factor and it has to have been something REALLY dangerous or bad for him to have had his bum smacked. Think the last time was for running out of the play park and nearly onto a busy road when he knows hes not allowed past the gate and had been told numerous occasions! was the only way to show him how naughty it was because time out didn't work, too many distractions.
With tiny toddlers i think time out would work but in a much more basic form, i.e tell them no, remove them from the situation. They go back, tell them no, pick them up and put them in their cot for 5 mins. Thats what i plan to try, the theory seems good but we shall see when the time comes i guess!
Good luck to everyone with their techniques i think its all perserverance! xxxxxxx