"Does anyone else not test early" Refugee Club

[justmeinlove]

Eek. Big hugs!
Re baby nerves, have you considered a baby care course? I want to do one, as I have No idea!

 

[iow_bird]

You'll be fine ladies!!
I did antenatal classes and they covered a lot of the basics of baby care in that. We learnt most of it at the birth centre after having Tilly though, how to bath, change a bum etc. You'll be suprised at how much of it comes naturally
xxx

 

[justmeinlove]

Well, we may have felt vague movement from the OUTSIDE last night! We were lying there snuggling and dozing off and I suddenly realised my tummy felt kind of - churny...
So I put my hand on it for a while and thought 'hmmm my hand feels kind of like it's being tapped...!'. Hb moved his hand over to where my hand was, and lay there for a while and also felt - something. As I am fairly sure my tummy doesn't normally do churning motions that can be felt from the outside, I assume it was the baby! Hah!
(17+4)

 

[plastikpony]

AWESOME JustMe!!!! How exciting! I can't wait to feel movement!

AFM, you can now start to see that I have a little belly. It's not hard yet, but it's there and I'm happy about it! Can't wait to start to feel some movement! When was the first time you felt it from the inside?

 

[justmeinlove]

Er I think the earliest unconfirmed thing was a few weeks ago, where it felt like my tummy had a random muscle spasm. More noticing Something around week 15-16?
And yay for a bump!!

 

[iow_bird]

you're about the right stage for that Justme, Hubby felt Shrimpy moving at around 16 weeks SO exciting

I can actually see my belly move now which is cool, and I definately look pregnant!

 

[iow_bird]

oh wow, Shrimpy is the size of a small melon!!!

 

[nimbec]

Justme how exciting i soooooo can't wait for that moment!!!! Well i eventaully have managed to get on the computer to post my scan pic its from 12+5

I've also got a definate bump now!!! YEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope everyone is ok? Plastik are you planning on having a gender scan?

 

[plastikpony]

Hi Ladies!!

Hope everyone is doing well? Nimbec, what a gorgeous pic!!!

JustMe, Iow, how at things with you ladies?

AFM, I have a gender scan booked for 16wks+4, which is next Wednesday!! Dr said he'll be able to see what Bean is by then. SO excited!! We've asked my mom to come with us and she is so thrilled. Just over a week until we find out!!

 

[justmeinlove]

Lol you'll know before I do!!!

 

[flamingpanda]

Exciting! I've had a quiet guess in my own mind based on your scans, will be interesting to see if I'm right. Do you have any feelings either way Plastik? I felt pretty certain I was having a girl from 6 weeks (which is a bit mad) but I was right. It came to me in a dream!

Sorry for not getting around to answering above, I'm finally on maternity leave now and trying desperately to get the house sorted as I have a small fear she's coming early. I've been losing bit of my plug for the last two weeks and my BH seem to be more intense. Last midwife appointment said she was 3/5ths engaged!

We did consider the antenatal classes but I think my partner was more keen than I was. I just wanted the tour of the delivery suite! But then with my SPD getting worse and him having no spare holiday we were struggling to find a way for me to get into the city for them. I figure we have lots of family who can help us if we get stuck and ofc there is always the midwife there so I don't feel awful we didn't do them or anything. I think my fears are more "oh wow, this is forever". Which is a frightening thought, but exciting at the same time. I'm just in a place where I'm ready for her to get here now, I'm so over being pregnant. There was no glow for me, just lots of backache and stress. Bring on the baby!

 

[justmeinlove]

Ooh ooh! What's it Like, being at your stage?? Am really curious to know!!

 

[flamingpanda]

Honestly, for me at least, it's pretty horrid. I think perhaps because I had such an easy first tri this is a bit of a shock. My SPD is killing now because of the extra weight of the baby, so I can't walk very far at all. I also seem to feel bouts of tiredness and nausea on an evening. Sometimes the nausea seems to be accompanied by Braxton Hicks, other times not. Today alone I have been to the toilet 3 times (that's not including wees lol) and it's not even 10am.

Because she's bigger it feels like there is no space left so whilst I loved her movements all though pregnancy now they tend to be a bit painful. Kicks in the ribs or her pressing her head down low aren't comfortable feelings. I'd nice to know she's still ok but I end up sore. I also have a really itchy tummy this week which some googling seems to suggest is just my skin stretching even more.

The only thing stopping me throwing myself down and crying like a baby is the thought that I'm close. All these things are apparently good signs that everything is heading in the right direction. As much as I'm a little scared of the labour, at least once that starts the end is nigh and we get to meet our little girl at last! It will be so nice to be able to share her around and have my partner hold her for a while. I don't think I ever realised just how hard pregnancy can be for women. I know some women feel great and "glow", but I never did. My partner even commented the other night that he didn't expect me to miss being pregnant.

If I can offer any advice at all it would be - don't work past 34/35 weeks. Even if you feel great still you'll find your interest in work begins to wane at that point your time can be better used getting the house ready and getting things sorted. I worked until I hit 37 weeks and it was hellish those last 2 weeks. I'm still desperately trying to get my hospital bag sorted and the washing done in time. Everyone keeps going "aw your nesting, you must be close" and I want to throttle them lol. I really just didn't leave myself long enough and the truth is all I really want to do is lay in bed and watch trashy daytime TV. Lesson learned for next time!

Sorry if that sounds a bit down and miserable but I'm just ready for her to be here now and have my body back so I can start to fix it and make it feel better! From reading in 3rd tri it seems I'm not alone with such thoughts. We haven't tried any eviction techniques yet but if it gets to this time next week I might be giving some of them a go. So far all we've done is DTD and that seems to get rid of a bit of my plug for a few days after then it all stops again.

 

[justmeinlove]

No, honesty is good and I hope the baby turns up soon!!
The hint a friend gave me was go for a bit of a walk if full term and you get BH. Apparently it helps encourage things.

 

[plastikpony]

Shame man Panda!! I can imagine it must be hard for you at this point! Sending you good vibes and super excited to hear some updates once things get going for you!!

Iow, how are you doing? Must be awesome feeling baby jiggle around and actually being able to see it from the outside!!

Nimbec, is your bump still growing? Mine is SO little!!! Actually think it may have gotten a little smaller Trying not to panic about it. Honestly, I think I'm going nuts!

JustMe, how are u doing buddy? So when are you havin your gender scan? I've been told by a few people over here that they went for theirs at 16 weeks and the baby didn't play along or the doc couldn't see, so they only found out at 20 weeks. I'm hoping we get to find out next week (I'll be 16+4/6) but really I just want to see that Bean is still growing ok and doing well. Can't wait to see some movement again! That was awesome last time!

AFM, I'm getting a little more worried the closer we get to the scan. Up to 12 weeks we were having scans every 2 weeks, so it's weird and terribly annoying to now have had to wait a whole 4 weeks!! I know I'm spoiled with the scans, it's just that's what I'm used to now, if you know what I mean? Anyway, less than a week now. Over the weekend I was SO bloated and my 'bump' looked HUGE! Now I'm back home it looks so small again, almost like it's shrunk! I'm hoping that's just the bloat gone and the baby left behind, so trying not to panic. I know some first time mom's don't see anything until later, right? Anyway, hope u ladies don't mind me putting up a little pic so u can see what I'm talking about? Honestly, it just looks like I've been eating too much fatty food and I'm turning into a porker I just want to look pregnant now!!

Would love to see some pics of you ladie's bumps too!!

 

[iow_bird]

hello

Yup I love being able to see my belly move as the littleone jumps about!! Beginning to get a bit uncomfy after dinner now! And I swear this wee one is trying to dig his way out of my cervix some days. He's a very busy little bee, and thumps about in there, where as DD was a lot gentler and dainty!!!

Panda: you have my sympathy, you're at the stage of pregnancy that i am dreading!!!! It sucks, but it makes you less scared of labour for a while When I was preggy with DD I made a group of lads jump and look shocked as we drove past, I was so over it I lost the plot a little and was yelling "get the fuck out of me" at my belly!! One of the things that used to piss me off no end was people telling me to enjoy my sleep while I could.... errr lady, you either don't remember being this pregnant, or you're just trying to make the pregnant woman mad!! At least once baby is here you can pass it to your hubby and have a snooze, no kicking, no puking, no bad back! You're soooo close now babe, hope the last few days/weeks go past nice and quickly for you, you have an awesome labour and delivery and you are enjoying your wee girl soon!

Justme: ^^^ it is sooooo worth it once the baby is out!

Plastik: My bump is looking like a bump now, but it took a while. You do tend to get a bit smaller just before the bump comes along as you lose a lot of that bloat

 

[plastikpony]

Thanks Iow, that's reassuring

Ladies, I finally started a pregnancy journal! Yay!! Link is in my signature if you feel like popping your head in!

 

[justmeinlove]

Woo! I'm sorry I've been a Terrible bump buddy, I think the last few months have been so mental and stress filled and I've kind of been ignoring the whole baby thing rather than actually wanting to talk about it.
Currently feeling a bit more into the idea at the moment though so thought I'd post!

My scan is on 22 October. It'lll be cool to go but kind of weird as I still remember when we went for the 12 week one and were chatting to a pair who were at their 20 week one - I find it odd that we will be those people this time! It wasn't that long ago after all!

Most exciting for me atm is that we have booked the legal bit of our wedding. We did the spiritual and therefore most important bit of it in March 2011, but the legal bit does need to happen so we've booked it - for 22nd December!!! It's slightly disconcerting to realise that I'll be 28 wks pregnant (!) at the time but I'm still SUPER looking forward to it! I even have a maternity wedding dress (as my actual wedding dress won't fit any more, lol!) and a veil! (couldn't wear one at our main wedding as well , it was at Stonehenge and they wouldn't let me!)

So squee!

Had a total meltdown yesterday which I am still weirded out by and wish it hadn't happened as it was horrible. I ended up crying when I went to collect hb from work as it was making me sad I hadn't really connected with the baby yet, and when we were back at home I was trying to explain it to him. He totally misunderstood and got amazingly upset as he thought I was saying I thought life was pointless. I got even MORE upset cos he was upset - and it went on. Was terrible! Got it all sorted out but omg I hate my hb being upset (which does incidentally scare me massively about the baby exit stage - even if I am upset he's going to HAVE to be strong or I will crumble!)

Am having some really HUNGRY days. Had 2 portions of sausage and mash for lunch today and could have gone for a third. Somehow got conned by my brain into buying scones for tea (8 in a pack, argh!) which were v nice but well - eek! Lol plus it's all I've had for tea which is hardly ideal. But I blame the fact I've been wanting scones with jam for DAYS. LOL! Anyway will be knocking off the cake as much as poss. as want to look pretty in wedding photos!

HUGS to all! And I hope that is at least a little bit of a good post

 

[plastikpony]

Hello Loveiles!!!!

Panda, how are you doing? SO close now, is baba still not here? I'm sure it'll happen soon!

JustMe, how AWESOME about your wedding!!! So exciting for you!! And your scan is around the corner now, are you getting excited?

Iow, how are you doing hun? Any interesting news?

Sorry if I missed anyone, I blame it on my squishy brain. Seriously, I'm brainless half the time now! It's frustrating.

Well we had our 16 week scan today and Bean looks great!! They measured the head and abdomen and stuff and Bean was measuring a week ahead!! Krikey! Also, we got to see the gender, and it's a boy!!! There was absolutely no doubt about it and we are SO excited!! The pics we got weren't great, but there's a pretty cute one in 3D that I'll try to put up sometime this week.

Hope everyone is doing super well!!

 

[flamingpanda]

Aw congrats! I guessed right. I almost said to you I thought it looked like a boy on one of your other scans based on the shape of the skull but didn't want to incase I was wrong! How exciting.

No news from me yet and I'm getting increasingly pissed off with everything. I hurt constantly and I'm so sick of people saying stupid crap like "oh she'll come when she's ready". I'm also getting a little anxious about the delivery, it's seeming very real suddenly I have to push her out soon. Eek.

Also getting annoyed with my OH and he just doesn't understand at all. I don't want him to invite people round for tea and I don't want to trek over to see his family and I really wish he'd want to just stay here with me. I want to be at home in case something happens and we talk about this, he says he understands and agrees. Then it's like "oh so and so wants to know if I can go out tonight, haven't seen him in months!". I've come to the conclusion he can just go and if he misses it and I have to call an ambulance he's the one that will feel horrible. I wouldn't mind so much but he NEVER goes out normally. Weeks and weeks can pass without him seeing his friends. Maybe he's nervous and doesn't know how to say it but it's really irritated me this past week.