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[nimbec]

Plastik Whoo hoo congratulations!!!!!!! How exciting!!!!! My bump seems the same to me no bigger so I know how u feel!

Just me Congrats on booking the wedding - something to look forward too!! So sorry you've been having a hard time hopefully seeing bubs on your scan will cheer you up a little fx for you!! I bet you will look stunning in a wedding outfit with a bump !!

Flamingpanda gosh I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling ((((hugs)))) hopefully bubs will arrive soon. So sorry oh is being a but silly men huh sometimes they really just don't get it!!! Hopefully he will come to his senses just in time!!

Sorry I've not been around I for admitted to hospital with hyperaemasis keytones in wee and a urine infection it was awful but both me and bubs are now home and absolutely fine!! Phew! I have my gender scan Saturday so I'm getting very excited now!! Oh thinks it's a girl and always has done - I really don't know but will be happy either way!!!!

Hope I've not missed anyone!

 

[plastikpony]

Shame Panda! That's not easy to deal with! Honestly, men can be so silly sometimes! Like you said, maybe he's a bit nervous or panicky about everything changing and letting out through going out. Hope it will all work out! Can't believe you are so close already. It can't be fun to be so sore all the time.

My whole family was convinced it was a girl and most of my friends too, so it was such a nice suprise to be able to tell them all that he's a boy! (I love saying 'he' and 'him' now, feels so much nicer that 'it')

 

[justmeinlove]

Argh, everyone is having a scan before me!!!!! :-/

Panda, I've read about not getting scared being top of the list for it not hurting too much. And my friend's advice is to make sure your hb stands up for you and your birth plan is Very clear. I am sure you will be fine, my friend maintains it hardly hurt at all and I have definitely heard of very calm birth experiences.

 

[flamingpanda]

Yeah it's actually come around super fast. I don't feel I had a long and drawn out pregnancy at all. I'm just getting bored of it now as I feel these weeks are a waste just watching TV and getting the washing/ironing done. The sooner she comes the more time we get before I have to go back to work.

In terms of labor, I have heard for some people the pain in minimal and it wasn't that bad, but in all honesty most people seem to think it's one of the worst pains they've experienced. So I don't want to go in thinking it will all be a walk in the park as I'm then likely to want to give in sooner and be shocked by it all. I'd rather go in fully prepared for pain and then if I'm one of the lucky few that feels ok that's fab. Due to my SPD I was told at physio that if I can avoid an epidural I should as it's possible the midwives could do more damage when I can't feel my lower half. So given that and I'm not really wanting any of the drugs I'm hoping to do it on gas and air (eek). Obviously if things go on too long or I find I just can't cope I can and will change my mind (I have no desire to be a hero ) but I'm just going to take things as they come. I don't want to be too detailed in my birth plan as I've seen girls do that in 3rd tri and then be disappointed when things don't work out. I like to think of it more as a birth idea!

 

[plastikpony]

It's so close JustMe, you'll have had your scan before you know it!

Nimbec, SO excited for your scan too! Yay! Please update as soon as you can on Sat! What time is your appointment?

I'm really keen on having a natural labour, and having an epidural only if I need it. I'm just nervous that my Dr is going to try and push me into having a C-Section. South Africa has the highest c-section rate in the world in the private sector, at 70%, while the World Health Organisation says it shouldn't be higher than 15%. Apparently this is because a lot of women choose to have the c-section because it is convenient for both the preggie lady and the doctor.

Don't get me wrong, my Dr is lovely and I'm pretty sure he'll let me do it my way, I'm just a little nervous that he'll try to insist because of the convenience factor. Am I being silly?

 

[justmeinlove]

Hhmmm my thought would be that if he tries to 'insist', in the nicest way possible you're very entitled to tell him to fuck off ;-) c section isn't necessarily convenient for You, in the way major abdominal surgery isn't...

 

[flamingpanda]

Pft back from the midwife, she says she's low but couldn't feel anymore than before, and that she probably won't until I deliver. Everything is clear - urine, bp, fundal height, baby's hb etc... She's booked me a sweep for my due date. So bored now. I was really hoping I'd go in and she'd have some magic, OMG news that told me the baby was due any moment. Oh well.

Plastik, I don't think a c-section should ever be taken lightly, the recovery time alone is enough to put me off (not to mention the baby coming out alien-style makes my blood run cold). So I think you'd have room to argue your case and if there is no medical reason for it then stick to your guns. It's fascinating how other countries do things, it almost makes me pleased that our NHS underfunding means that they try to avoid giving us sections unless absolutely necessary! I'm hoping for a quick turn around at the hospital, I want to be out within 6 hours and on our way home to all adjust to our new lives together. I know the key to that is keeping things as natural as possible so I'm hoping that can be my driving force.

 

[justmeinlove]

Well, 20 weeks today into the process. How odd. If my plans come off, I have less time left of being pregnant than I've already done...!

Also I think the motion is getting stronger now. It's definitely feeling more like - well I want to say kicks but I shall go for accuracy. Previously it felt like strange stomach churnings, now it feels more like when you have a really unhappy tummy and it does a huge lurch.
Sorry for the lack of romantic description

 

[justmeinlove]

Also I am generally still so tired! I feel very cheated by this 'the second trimester you feel GREAT!' line - for me it does seem to be total lies!

 

[iow_bird]

Hey
Sorry I''ve not been on much, DD managed to log me out of everything and lost all my safe password (most impressive seeing as she did it with her feet)! On;y just got round to sorting it out!
I've only just caught up with your posts, I feel like I've missed loads!!
Nimbec: I had HG with DD, it sucked! I was in hospital a few times too with ketones, but DD was fine, and the first meal after she came out was amazing. I got half way through eating it and realised I didn't want to puke.... I have never ever enjoyed a meal so much (and it was hospital food so thats pretty amazing)! I hope it settles soon for you! xxx
Panda: Hope that wee bab comes out soon for you!
Justme: So much you get told about pregnancy is LIES!! I have never ever had the 2nd trimester energy! Sucks huh!
PLastik: Congrats on the little boy! We have a blue bump this time and I'm so excited!!

As for childbirth, it hurts!! A lot! Not going to lie, it was definately the worst pain I have ever experienced. But it isn't constant, contractions hurt like hell, but inbetween you get a break, and also you know it will stop. It's not llike having a broken leg where it gradually gets better and you don't know how long it goes on for. I managed contractions at home for 4 days (long story you probably don't want to hear) with no pain relief, 24 hrs of full blown back labour (Owie)! with gas and air, and only gave in and had an epi cos I was so tired. I'd like to get this one out with gas and air, I know I could manage the pain of a shorter birth with just that. If it looks as if it's going the same way as DD's though I'll be getting a spinal and section.

When you make you birth plan, make sure you know it could all change. Go to antenatal classes and make sure you know what all the interventions are etc, Then if things don't go the way your hoping, you can have a back up plan! Make sure your hubby knows what you want to happen etc. I had a horrible situation when I was transferred from the birth centre to the hospital and they ran out of gas and air in the ambulance. MW told hubby not to tell me, so I freaked out cos I thought the pain had got so bad the gas wasn't working anymore, if I'd known I would have delat with it a lot better. Hubby now knows that I want to know exactly what is going on at every stage. No lies!!!!

Oooh, sorry that turned into a bit of an essay!!! Hope that didn't freak any of you out, but thought is was worth throwing in my 2 cents!

 

[plastikpony]

Thanks for the advice on the labour girls!! I'm totally going to stick to my guns. We're planning on going to the ante natal classes, I want as much info as I can possible get!!

Iow, WOW!! You are my hero!! Contractions at home for 4 days?!? That's amazing!! And I had a good giggle about your daughter's technological prowess with her feet, that is UBER impressive!

JustMe, I think I've felt a bit of movement once or twice, but I'm not convince yet. It was kind of like a muscle twitch the first time, and after that a few days later, I wasn't sure if I was feeling movement or gas! Sorry you don't feel great. I definately still get tired, but I feel more normal now than I did in first tri. First tri I wanted to pass out in bed at like 6, now I can easily stay awake until 10 or 11 before I start to feel tired. I think its got to do with the Preggi Bellies exercise classes I've been going to though. I started in week 7 or 8 and immediately started feeling better energy levels and less nausea.

Nimbec, sorry you've been sick, that's not cool!! Hope u are feeling better now? Super excited for your scan this weekend!!

AFM, DH won't be able to come to our 20 week scan coz he is going to America then, so my mommy is coming with me again He is quite sad to not be going, but then this is the first one that he will have missed, and we've had lots, so I reckon he'll survive. In other news, I think we've picked a name!! It's kina popluar at the moment according to the internet, but I haven't heard it much in South Africa, so I reckon we're just going to go with it. Ethan!! It means strong and determined, and I just love how it sounds. DH loves it too. I also got my way with DH and convinced him to use my dad's name as a middle name, so he will be Ethan James. What do you ladies think? Should I be worried that it's so poplular at the moment?

 

[nimbec]

Hi ladies scan went really well we are having a boy!!! He was laying legs akimbo with it fully on show LOL very proud boy haha.

Plastik I think Ethan is a lovely name!

Iow wow!!! That's impressive and even more so that you are doing it all over again - hormones and our bodies are quite special!

Due to my pacemaker it looks like I may have to have a section but I have an appt in jan with anaesthetics, obstetrics & cardiac consultant all together to decide on the best plan of action! If it was safe is like to try naturally!!!!

How is everyone any news?

 

[iow_bird]

hehe! I don't deserve hero status! I was booked into a birthing centre, so all natural. My midwife wouldn't do anything, so I was a bit stuck! Don't let anyone tell you you can't be in labour for longer than "x" amount of time. We were told at AN classes that anyone who said they had been in labour for 3 days, hadn't really! Bahaha! I'd LOVE that midwife to have gone through my labour! I dialated so so slowly. Anyway.. I know it won't happen again as I have the option of deciding for a section at any point which is good. It's so so worth doing it again! DD is lovely, and I love being a Mum! I think this will be our last though!

Plastik: I LOVE the name Ethan!! We very nearly picked that for our wee blue bump. But when we were deciding between Ethan and Noah, Hubby much prefered Noah. I love the name we've chosen, as DD chose it, hehe! Everytime we asked her if she wanted a little brother she'd say NOOOOOOah! hehe! Started off as a joke and kinda stuck!

 

[justmeinlove]

Cantaloupe?!! I find this very disconcerting!!! :O

 

[plastikpony]

Nimbec, YAY!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Both of us on team blue!!! Now JustMe needs to tell us what she's having

JustMe, good luck for your scan!!! Give us some feedback as soon as you have it, ok? Cantaloupe!!

Iow, I'm also thinking that two will be just fine for us. But that said, lets see how things go with number one first!!!

Thanks for the lovely feedback on little bean's name ladies, means the world to me

How is everyone feeling? Has anyone heard anything about Panda? I haven't seen any updates since the 18th. Hope everything is going well Panda!!!!

 

[justmeinlove]

So, had the scan. Baby apparently has super long legs and also is around 80% of the size centile - which is kind of understandable as me and hb are both tall BUT also makes me feel that from now on, cake and sugar is OUT. My mum has Type 1 diabetes and I have always been very paranoid that my ability to deal with blood sugar issues is out as a result - I definitely don't want to pass that on. So yes, self imposed health kick I think - good news all round.

Sex is staying a secret for the majority of the world - but I have permission to talk about it on this forum! Soooooooooooooooooo........



But as far as the rest of the world (bar my best friend is concerned)...



Tee Hee

 

[plastikpony]

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!! Thanks for letting us in on your secret Buddy!!! Actually brought a tear to my eye And SUPER AWESOME CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :happydance

Are you and DH just thrilled? It's so exciting isn't it? Oh wow, I can't believe we are all here after sharing so much while TTC and now we growing our very own BABIEs!!! Ok, I'll try to stop gushing now, I promise.

And good on you with the health kick!! I've been struggling to eat, but over the last two days I suspect that is going away. I almost wish it wouldn't since, I have next to no self control when i actually WANT to eat Worried about weight gain. Ugh!

 

[plastikpony]

Also, random question, are any of you ladies on Pinterest??

 

[justmeinlove]

*HUGS!* I think I might start getting a bit more excited now, although currently I have post-scan exhaustion! (they always seem to make me want to go back to bed!). I have also come up with a cunning baby nickname which I need to clear with hb tonight. No idea if any of you are game nerds, but there's a great game called Fable2 and regardless of sex, your character is called Sparrow. So I think baby may have to become Sparrow until well, I suppose she, puts in an appearance!

Thanks re healthy eating I'm feeling a bit paranoid now that the 80th centile is BAD and I've done bad things to her :\ Everything else measured middle range bar size and abdomen... :\ Oh and legs! But as I said that's not too surprising as we do both have long legs And on the good side the head was mid range

I am on pinterest and after looking up my username (lol!) I can reveal that I lurk under - cherryfrog. Ta Da! You?

And don't worry too much about weight gain. It's going to happen anyway to some extent and so long as you don't just eat everything in sight every day you should be ok! I have no idea what weight I have put on - the WiiFit is happy enough so far, lol. But after doing the hoovering yesterday I realised that I really do have more of a bump than I thought - possibly suggesting that previously, I thought I was fatter than I really was...!

 

[justmeinlove]

BTW I have updated from a teeny bit pregnant to pregnant. I figure maybe I have er, moved past 'teeny'