stephanie20
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Basically me and my ex had a bit of a bad relationship, there was violence and cheating and spending money we didn't have on his side and I got pregnant and then he left. Since then I have never stopped him from coming to scans and appointments but recently I think he has decided he doesn't want anything to do with the baby.
My dad has been ringing his mum up every few weeks about the bills in our flat he had in my name and is refusing to pay and everytime she just completely disregards this and says that I have to put his name on the birth certificate otherwise they will get a solicitor involved. I have no intention of putting him on the birth certificate for several reasons. 1) he has admitted that he is dealing drugs "to get money for the baby" and 2) he is telling people where he lives that it isn't his baby. I don't want someone like that on her birth certificate.
Anyway there has been a couple of times where my dad has rang his mum up and shes just completely ignored the fact that there are still bills to pay in our old flat and just threatened me with solicitors if i dont put him on the birth certificate, but my dad rang them yesterday and her husband spoke to us instead who said he can understand why we don't want him on the birth certificate but that the fob will kick off if i don't. He said it will just cause us grief and then said that they're worried that because of their son they're not going to see their granddaughter. I felt sorry for them then and was going to say they could see her but then my dad asked about money and we heard his mum in the background saying "shes not gonna get a penny out of us".
I have recently found out that because the fob works for his stepdad and gets paid cash in hand I probably won't be able to claim CSA
I don't know whether to let his parents have some sort of access, i was thinking about sending her a message on facebook but im not sure, I think if they're seeing her its only fair he pays some sort of maintenance, I know I was only going to get a fiver a week off him but its only fair he pays for his own baby. :/
My dad has been ringing his mum up every few weeks about the bills in our flat he had in my name and is refusing to pay and everytime she just completely disregards this and says that I have to put his name on the birth certificate otherwise they will get a solicitor involved. I have no intention of putting him on the birth certificate for several reasons. 1) he has admitted that he is dealing drugs "to get money for the baby" and 2) he is telling people where he lives that it isn't his baby. I don't want someone like that on her birth certificate.
Anyway there has been a couple of times where my dad has rang his mum up and shes just completely ignored the fact that there are still bills to pay in our old flat and just threatened me with solicitors if i dont put him on the birth certificate, but my dad rang them yesterday and her husband spoke to us instead who said he can understand why we don't want him on the birth certificate but that the fob will kick off if i don't. He said it will just cause us grief and then said that they're worried that because of their son they're not going to see their granddaughter. I felt sorry for them then and was going to say they could see her but then my dad asked about money and we heard his mum in the background saying "shes not gonna get a penny out of us".
I have recently found out that because the fob works for his stepdad and gets paid cash in hand I probably won't be able to claim CSA
I don't know whether to let his parents have some sort of access, i was thinking about sending her a message on facebook but im not sure, I think if they're seeing her its only fair he pays some sort of maintenance, I know I was only going to get a fiver a week off him but its only fair he pays for his own baby. :/