Due In May :)

[Jary]

Lol I just went and got my maternity dresses for work. They look like tents! Never mind will probs need the room!

Had really sharp pains in my right ovary this morning. Didn't last long but it was awful! Guess its more pulling.

 

[Hann12]

18 weeks for me too yay! Lots more kicks and think they could be felt from the outside - will have to see if I can get my husband to confirm.

DD still sick and not sleeping, rough week for me! She's not even napping in the day despite being obviously exhausted. Think she's having trouble breathing out of her nose. Really rubbish as its sad for her and exhausting for me!

Can sympathise on the MIL, mine just left after staying 4 days, they can be annoying and tiresome!

Great bump sass!

 

[Powell130]

Powell- I think I caught your mil drama. I had it out with her today.
I also still can't shake my cough. Hope you feel better math!

Oh no!! What happened? ..I'm sorry, I didn't realize it was congageous!

 

[BDownmommie]

LMAO - i hope its not contagious - I don't want it.....

 

[JaysBaby]

Hi I'm new here anyway I'm almost 15 weeks and I'm already feeling kicks(inside and out) my question is where should baby be? Like how high because my uterus is slightly above my belly button and I have a retroverted? Uterus and an s curve in my spine from scoliosis... I am 5'0 98lbs and this is my second child(my son is the reason my uterus is retroverted)

 

[BDownmommie]

Congrats!!! and welcome

 

[Powell130]

Hi I'm new here anyway I'm almost 15 weeks and I'm already feeling kicks(inside and out) my question is where should baby be? Like how high because my uterus is slightly above my belly button and I have a retroverted? Uterus and an s curve in my spine from scoliosis... I am 5'0 98lbs and this is my second child(my son is the reason my uterus is retroverted)

You're the same EXACT size I am, height AND weight lol

The little kicks I've been feeling are a few inches below my belly button, around the same place I normally find him with my doppler. The top of my uterus is right at my belly button.

Welcome!

 

[JaysBaby]

I was wondering has anyone developed lactose intolerance while pregnant? I cannot eat milk, cheese or anything with lactose.. This is new to me I've never had issues with dairy until I got pregnant.. Not even with my last pregnancy, but that was 5 years ago

 

[prolifer]

I was never lactose intolerant as a child but as I grew into an adult I found milk and ice cream makes my tummy hurt really badly, so does peanut butter and I used to live on that stuff!

 

[Sass827]

Powell- mine stalks me. I had a big heart to heart with her 2 weeks ago about my need for space and less pressure so we could try to get closer naturally (not with a vice grip) and I really thought she was on board, and then a switch flipped and I got 3 texts one day, an email the next, a text the next and another email the next. Mine you I don't reply to any. So finally I reply nicely and she sent me back a coo coo reply. I just hit the wall. I spent last weekend w SIL hearing all of the terrible things mil does to try to get in between her bond with her baby and I'm just revolting against her doing it to me. I need boundaries and space and she's fighting right back. It's like a cock fight. It's ad news. Just fx she does try to put DH in the middle. He's a lst cause when it comes to mommy dearest.
Enough of that! So sad to hear of the allergies. I hope they go away after LO comes. My cousin has 4 babies and 4 acquired allergies that never left (gluten, dairy, wheat and nuts).
My kicks are below my belly button still. Hoping they move up so I pee less, but I think I have a tilted uterus. Not sure if that changes things.

 

[Hann12]

Sass your MIL sounds annoying! I'd like to say that they back off when the baby arrives but mine certainly didn't! On arrival Annabelle has consistently been called 'my baby' by her which grates at me but DH refuses to correct her even though if I say my baby he tells me off because she's our baby. MIL also just stayed and probably 4 times she said 'come to mummy' and she was talking about herself not me! She did correct herself immediately but that's not the point! They interfere with everything from food to play to sleep. My MIL is a feeder, she try's to stuff Annabelle with food at every opportunity, at 6 months when she was just starting weaning she wanted to feed her wotsits (cheesy unhealthy crisps). I went out a couple of weeks ago to a funeral and she came to watch Annabelle and she gave her a packet of crisps for her lunch because she didn't think she ate enough if the other things I left. I never even left crisps as a possible option to give to her. I was furious! So unfortunately I would love to say they get less annoying but in my case it's really been worse! Thankfully mine is pretty far away.

On a brighter note Annabelle slept from 7pm - 6.30am which is amazing! So happy to have had some sleep!! And woke up to some lovely little kicks too!

 

[robinson380]

So sorry about all the MIL drama. Sounds like a nightmare. Luckily my DH is not close to his mom and she knows not to piss me off becuase DH would have no problem telling her off. I am the one that sticks up for her most of the time, but she didn't raise me. She has been married 7 different times!!! So obviously DH has some issues with the way she raised him. Good luck throughout the holiday with the crazy MIL's!!!

 

[Hann12]

Wow married 7 times!! That's impressive!

 

[Powell130]

wow for all the crazy MILs!! It's beyond me why they think it's okay to act the way they do!! They really put meaning behind the phrase "monster in law!"

speaking of MILs...mine sent me this message on FB this morning...not too sure how to respond, even tho I really want to tell her that I will not be a passenger on her pitty train that would be mean lol

Hey, I know you guys think I am mad all the time but I am not. I got a lot on my plate. I appologise for anything I may have said or done to make you feel any different. I am very happy and excited for the baby and I want so much to feel a part of something and someone so forgive me when I am out of line, this is my first time doing this from a grandmother's perspective. I was not mad at you the other day when you were here. David is not looking for a job, I can not support us on what I make. I don't have money for Christmas and I can't do anything for anyone. I miss my mom and dad this time of year so I get a little depressed. So if David tell's you I am mad most of the time I am not, I am lonely and sad. He does not understand that, he thinks I am mad. I am rarely mad, really. I love you and Phillip and the baby, I will always be here and I will work harder to be a better support system, please help me help you. I want to be here and you can talk to me. It would be nice! Love you!


David (my FIL) was fired last year from the company he worked for for 10 years for stupid reasons..they fired him to replace him with a younger guy that would do the same work for less money. He was making right at $100,000 a year being the regional manager for a nationwide company

 

[Hann12]

Thats quite a sweet message, I think shes really trying, it sounds like shes going through a rough time, and that her relationship isn't all that good. I'm sure the FIL wouldn't like her saying stuff like that about him. I'd respond along the lines of:

'thank you for your message, its good to know that you want to be there and help out, and you will of course be an important part in the babys life. We will keep you updated with all the baby news as it happens but please remember this is our first time doing all of this and so we want to be able to make our own choices and do things our way - but will keep you involved.'

That way you acknowledge her but also make her back off a bit too?

 

[Powell130]

I mean I see where you're coming from. Knowing her, I feel like her message is only half hearted. Ehhh idk! lol

 

[shellgirl]

I know what you mean about the half hearted messages. Knowing the person really makes a difference if you believe them or if they're just writing what they think they should. I've been ignoring MIL since her FB outing of my pregnancy and just received the following message:

Since you haven’t replied to me I am guessing you are still annoyed by my post of fb. As I wrote before I am sorry. If you can’t get past this, that’s ok, its your choice. Hope you are feeling well, take care, Kathy


Doesn't exactly make me want to stop ignoring her. And annoyed? Try F-ING PISSED!!!! Even more pissed after her insincere apology and now this message. Grrr...

 

[nearlythere38]

Wow so many MIL problems here lol. Mine annoys me at times but on the whole shes great really. So i guess im lucky....my mum can be a nightmare at times too but could not be without her. And she's always there for my kids x

 

[BDownmommie]

My sincerest condolences for all of you having issues with the MILs/FILs - that's horrible, and honestly, it's no way to be treated during a pregnancy - or anytime for that matter. Hopefully all of this will be resolved for everyone in the very near future....too bad there wasn't a "what to expect from your MIL when your expecting" book - the stories would be endless, I'm sure.

I agree that it seems hard to be thankful for a 'half-hearted' apology - but in some senses, it's better to recieve something than nothing at all.

My brother went through a similar situation with our parents when he was expecting his first. He hadn't spoken to the parents in years, and thought he would try to bury the hachet (so to speak) and let them share in their joy - well, share went to far and the parents put an announcement in the local paper, when my SIL was only 8 weeks in. Needless to say, they were pissed, and in my opinion, rightfully so.

The point I would like to make (in the words of my brother) that now that we are parents, sometimes *and as hard as it is* we have to put aside our feelings and do what is best for the young. The fact that we may be mad now will affect us, then affect the young - if we let this stew until after the kids are born, then we may lose a chance altogether for the bond that grandparents and our kids have.

As hard as it may be, I guess we have to start being the parents now - even if it is to our parents / parents-in laws.


And sorry if that sounded too preachy

 

[Jary]

Aww guys it's sucky you have awful MILs. We have horrible in laws but they are my uncles wives.

I am lucky to have a nice MIL to be. She's so excited about this baby and loves me and James together...she even said we are made for each other which is lovely.

She did call my bump 'her bump' when we saw a friend of hers today but I think it was because her friend has recently became a grandmother. I know it wasn't meant in an overbearing kind of way.

Don't mean to sound like im bragging but it's just it would be nice if you had more support from your MILs. For me it's important as I'm away from my own mother who I'm very close to so I sort of have a second mum lol

AFM baby is very wriggly this evening! Still not strong movements but enough fluttering for me to know it isn't gas