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[Hann12]

Can I extend the rant of today to include SILs/BILs?

On Sunday we are meant to be at SIL and BIL's to have an early xmas catch up as we can't see them on xmas week. The last 2 years we've done it DH came away with the flu and then last year Annabelle got brochilitus and was literally so sick over xmas day we ended up in hospital. So this week my MIL was here and she mentioned that my nephew was sick on Sunday. Then my SIL puts on FB on Weds that she wished that their household was rid of all their germs like sickness bugs and colds etc. So I text her and asked if everything was okay and she said yes but that my niece has a tummy bug but will be fine for Sunday. Anyway MIL just called to say she just spoke to SIL and she was in bed and has been all day with a sickness (puking etc) bug and that my BIL has just got into bed saying he's feeling sick after spending a day at home looking after her and the children, and that my niece still isn't 100% after 3 days of it. So MIL apparently asked if they were still expecting Sunday to go ahead and she said yes and she can't see why not! I'm livid because
1) I don't want another sick bug as we haven't long had one
2) I'm pregnant!
3) They haven't updated us and said that they are now sick
4) I know that if it was the other way round and Annabelle was sick here they would be cancelling it so that we didn't spread germs to them.
I just feel like they have tried to hide it and risk our health, which at the moment even with pregnancy aside, who wants to be that ill again especially this close to xmas and its my birthday next week, I hardly want to be sick for then!
Really annoyed because everyone knows it takes at least 3 days of being symptom free before you are no longer contageous - and thats just the norovirus, its 2 weeks symptom free if its the rotovirus which children are more likely to catch and seeing as its definitely come from the children it can't be ruled out.
So now we are in an awkward position that we know we can't go because they are sick but they won't tell us so want us to be there still, and we have to cancel. MIL doesn't want us to say that she said anything and wants us to say that Annabelle is sick. I don't agree because I think they should have to admit that they shouldn't have us there but I know they never will. Really annoys me that its one rule for them and another for everyone else! Sorry rant over

 

[shellgirl]

Hann-


!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's how I feel about it. That's just terrible! You are pregnant and have a baby, you can't go into a germ filled house. That is extremely selfish and deceitful of them to not tell you about it and risk infecting your whole household. I don't think you should have to lie and say your daughter is sick, but can understand MIL not wanting to be called out. Perhaps you can say you overheard her on the phone talking about it or something. I would definitely want to call them out for being so rude and putting you and your family at risk. Not cool.

 

[Hann12]

Glad you think the same as I did shellgirl, I think it's so rude that they are behaving like this! To make it worse when my nephew turned 2 they organised a big party, he had an asthma attack a week before it and althought he was fine by his birthday they cancelled the party and banned all visitors - my MIL and her mum (so DH's nan who is in her 80's) travelled 4 hours down there for the party and was then told they couldn't go! They thought that people would infect him with something even though everyone was well. Then when he was 2.5 we were due to go there and they asked us not to because they had heard that I had a cough earlier in the week so they didn't want me there! So they absolutely think of themselves and refuse people entry to their house on the basis of germs. In this instance it's actually a really nasty bug bit just a common cold and they are hiding it from us! I'm livid!

 

[pinktiara]

I feel ya my stupid sister in law always brings her damn kids over for Sunday dinner at the inlaws when there sick and doesn't tell us so our son catches it. first of all who takes there snotty nose sick baby's out and second of all as a mother wouldn't you think of other peoples kids ugh dont get me started on sister in laws lol. My son is insane sick right now and he gets put on quarantine until hes better its best for him and others as well.

 

[Jary]

My uncle's kids always have colds so they come to my mum and grans house and then gran gets cold which isn't good for her being elderly and having an auto immune disease! (Which is thankfully in remission but being ill probably doesn't help)

My Doppler arrived today just had a sneaky listen to heartbeat but baby was sneaky back and kept moving!

 

[nearlythere38]

Ouch!!! Boobies are killing. Think they are busy preparing milk cos they feel like they do when ya milk comes in

 

[prolifer]

Hi all, wow I hate when people visit or let you visit and someone is sick! I won't even take my kids to playgroup or let them go out if they are not well.

LOTS of kicking/moving around in here, I got such a big kick this evening that I think you could have felt it from outside my tummy ^^

 

[Jary]

I think I'm getting more movement now. Not kicks but lots of wriggling! We tried the Doppler again last night and baby kept moving away from it when we found the heartbeat and then kept kicking it! Like the heartbeat faded and next minute this loud thump against the Doppler hehe.

Has any of you ladies woke up with vertigo?? This morning the room was spinning and even after getting up and about and trying to rest for a bit I'm still woozy. Feels like I've been on the drink! Hope it doesn't bother me too much as I'm hoping to get some more Xmas shopping done

 

[Sass827]

People who spread sickness should get some of their own medicine! Jerks!
Jary- do you think you may have slept on your back a bit? It makes me spiny right away. My book says no back sleeping after 18 weeks. It robs your brain of oxygen.

 

[Jary]

Maybe I was sass...I try to sleep on my side once I get settled down and when I woke up I was on my side but perhaps I had been. Either that or I just haven't drank enough fluid.

It's gone now anyway so ill just keep an eye on it.

My OH's mum has just had a listen to the HB and baby was very very active; kicking and doing somersaults...like it was a party in there!

 

[prolifer]

hehe a party for life ^^

 

[Hann12]

Jary - maybe just low BP?

 

[Jary]

Probs was Hann. My BP has been fine so far...James woke me to ask if I wanted tea and I rolled over and then spinnnnnnnn spinny spin spin hehe

It's ok now tho so hopefully just a one off.

 

[Powell130]

So hubs and I for the first time in at least a month earlier...lots of bright red blood, well not like period flow but definitely more than spotting. I jumped straight on google while waiting for the on call nurse at my OBs office to call me back. She said that it's very common. I've used the doppler a few times since then and have felt kicks but I can't help but be a little freaked out because of the blood being bright red! I didn't have any cramps or anything but now my uterus is a little sore, but I think I remember it being a little sore after the last time we did it. I just checked and I still am bleeding JUST A LITTLE BIT. I've decided that if I'm still bleeding tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment. I hope everything is okay with little Phillip!!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

So hubs and I for the first time in at least a month earlier...lots of bright red blood, well not like period flow but definitely more than spotting. I jumped straight on google while waiting for the on call nurse at my OBs office to call me back. She said that it's very common. I've used the doppler a few times since then and have felt kicks but I can't help but be a little freaked out because of the blood being bright red! I didn't have any cramps or anything but now my uterus is a little sore, but I think I remember it being a little sore after the last time we did it. I just checked and I still am bleeding JUST A LITTLE BIT. I've decided that if I'm still bleeding tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment. I hope everything is okay with little Phillip!!

Trust the nurse - if she says it's very common, then it is. Lay back, put your feet up, and relax. If it makes you feel better, go ahead and make an appointment for tomorrow. But I'm sure you're fine. My midwife said that I could start bleeding after she checked my cervix at my first appointment, and told me not to worry ( I didn't start bleeding - but it's good to know it would have been normal to do so ) and sex is a little rougher than that was, so..... try not to worry

 

[Powell130]

Thanx hun! I'm gonna try to take it easy for the rest of the evening. I'm so glad I have a doppler or else I'd be sitting at the ER right now!

 

[Jary]

Oh Powell that's the last thing you need it's good you're getting it checked out but the nurse is probs right. Maybe your cervix is extra sensitive? I know my baby book mentioned its common to bleed after sex because of the changes with the cervix. I always worry every time we BD but so far so good.

AFM I threw up this morning think it was my first food rejection from baby. I ate a burger late at night when I was already pretty full up so it's my own fault lol. It burned like never before.

 

[nearlythere38]

I have thrown up the last 2 days. Pissed off!!! Thought it had gone

 

[Jary]

Oh no nearly! When I felt sick this morning I thought 'you put up with ms for weeks this should be a doddle!' But it still sucked I'm hoping it was food related and not ms again!

FX'd it's a one off for you too!

 

[BDownmommie]

Wowsers - I am sorry to hear about the SIL trouble. She/they should be even more sensitve to what is going on with lil ones around, and the thought of passing it to other kids or pregnant people - that's just horrible.

At the moment, think I am coming down with something myself. Horrible feeling - cough, nausea (not MS though) and bloody noses (yes, happened multiple times). Stomach/kids hurt when I cough - so very uncool.
I just spent an amazing weekend at home with the OH and didn't feel badly at all. Woke up this morning, not bad, but the longer I sit here, the worse I feel. Really don't want to be sick now, not this close to xmas for sure....