Due In May :)

[Jary]

Ahaha I love cats, so comical!

 

[cgav1424]

Powell - I wouldn't tell her anything. But I can be spiteful like that. And congrats on Philip Jr! Those ultrasound pics were amazing!

Hann and nearly - hope your little ones feel better!

Hi to everyone else! I'm cooking dinner so only had time for a quick catch up.

Afm, second trimester screening on Wednesday then gender/anatomy/anomaly scan in 9 days! I can't lie... the temptation to one out the sex is getting overwhelming! I must stay strong as this will be the only chance to be surprised and I really want to be surprised this time. Hope everyone is well!

 

[Sass827]

I love watching crazy cat videos on YouTube.
I wouldn't tell your b mil anything else powell. I'd just cut her out to save the stress. Mine will be at my house dec 26 -27. Wish me luck!
Hope the teething gets better Hann and nearly!
Good luck cgav! I would never have the strength to not find out. Balls of steel you must have!

 

[cgav1424]

Sass - haha, thanks! You can tell me I have balls of steel AFTER I resist the temptation! Good luck with your MIL this Christmas... we have to go see mine as well. So not looking forward to it!

 

[Sass827]

Haha! We'll see but I think youll be tough.
Same here. I just hope mine leaves when promised and doesn't try to stay forever!

 

[prolifer]

Wow I hate stress so much, things are turning from bad to worse around here.

Seriously thinking of divorce right now...

 

[Jary]

Oh no pro! What's up?

 

[prolifer]

Just getting so dang tired of the verbal abuse, it's getting worse each day that I just sit here and take it.

 

[Jary]

so sorry pro, it's hard but best to drown out the abuse. The people who are causing bother just arnt worth the time and effort. You have so much to be proud about and you've got a little bundle of joy on the way which is more important than anything at the moment.

I hope you find a solution. It's hard when it involves family that should be there to support you instead of hurting you.

Chin up, love! You've alway got us

 

[prolifer]

Thanks ^^ We are supposed to be married and in love, not fighting like neighbors who cannot stand the sight of each other!

 

[Jary]

You're going to need to have a long long chat. If anyone should be by you're side it's your husband. You'll both feel better when you've had a good rant and let each other know how you feel. It can feel like you're swimming in jelly when trying to be honest but you just have to say 'this is how I feel, if you don't like it I'm sorry but I need to be honest'. There's times when you need to be firm and face it head on even tho it might be easier to just turn away. I know I said drown it out; that's more for other family members that might give you grief. But I think it's so important to have an understanding with your OH.

Sorry I'm probably not making any sense, I do go off on tangents sometimes! It's just if it were me and my OH not getting on I'd be like 'right I've had enough, lets get this sorted!'

I'm sure you two will find a way around it!

 

[shellgirl]

Powell, I definitely would NOT tell MIL a word! But I'm sure you knew I would say that. How does she know that's not a 12 week NT scan you got and didn't tell her? It's not like you have to tell them everything. Ugh!!! I hate in-laws sometimes! Still ignoring mine after the move she pulled.

Sorry for the ladies who have teething babies and losing sleep. Hope they feel better soon!

I agree that you should have a heart to heart talk with your husband profiler and let him know how much his words hurt you and the baby. Anything that hurts you affects the baby and he needs to be mindful of that. I've had to had that conversation with my husband. He's had a couple episodes where he's gone out and got wasted and then has been verbally abusive to me and caused me a lot of stress and anxiety. You shouldn't have either right now.

AFM, I'm sick Have a 101 fever and some sort of virus and lung infection. Went to the doctor yesterday and got put on a z-pack, inhaler, and tylenol to lower the fever. I have my NT scan today and am hoping I am feeling better by the time it comes around at 3:00. I don't want to change it because I already didn't get to have it last week. I'm wondering if I should do the blood work another day though in case that could be altered? My doc called me yesterday after I left to tell me my white cells are quite elevated, just fighting off the bug I suppose. But I'm thinking that with the antibiotics might affect results?

 

[Jary]

Good luck with the scan Shellgirl! And antibiotics shouldn't affect the results; a high white cell count still means you have an infection. How long have you been on them?

 

[BDownmommie]

Pro - i know exactly how you feel. last week i was about to change the locks on the OH bc he can't seem to say a nice word to me, and was consistantly telling me off. I actually had a locksmith called and ready to go, but we ended up talking about it after a day to cool off. So my suggestion = is there a place you can go for a day to be away from him to think about what's going on and then talk to him?

Powell - your MIL sounds like a piece of work for sure. Personally, I would tell her that this is your pregnancy and you get to do things your way (and OH's of course). She has had her chance to tell people, enjoy being pregnant and that now it's your turn. This is her turn too -but for being a grandma, which has its own rewards, but definately not all the same priviledges - and if that's not okay with her, then she can wait until the birth and then start being a grandma or respect your decisions and be part now.

Tough crowd for sure.

 

[Hann12]

Wow missed a few pages!

Powell - ditto on the MIL - tell them when you want to!

Pro - bug I think Jary said it all well but hope you get it sorted one way or another and look after yourself and all your bubs

BDownMommie - glad you got things sorted now

Shellgirl - no idea on the white blood cells but just wanted to sympathise on the poorly baby, mine (16 months) is poorly too and was up much of the night, exhausting, and I'm not sick so I can only imagine how bad you feel, so sorry!

Even though I was up most of the night I still managed to go and get my hair cut and highlighted this morning, first time in 8 months! Feels so much nicer and I don't feel quite so frumpy now!

 

[Hann12]

Sorry shell girl just realised it was you not your LO that was sick - sorry!!

 

[Powell130]

Hubs says that it's up to me when/how to tell them. But that he's not picking a side, because there shouldn't be sides. He is right, there shouldn't be, but there is and I wish he'd be 100% on mine! I told him last night that she thinks that bitching and talking shit is going to get her way, like it normally does with everyone else, they'll give in just to shut her up. But if I start out like that with this baby, she'll think that's how it works and it's NOT going to work that way with me and Phillip Jr. I told him that she needs to know that WE'RE the parents here and anything that we CHOOSE to tell them, should seem like a priveledge, rather than her complaining because she doesn't know something. I mean how would she act if we were staying team yellow? lol she'd probably have a stroke! She was telling my BIL that we "have" to know the gender after the ultrasound because of how developed baby is..but her thinking that we know just because of that is ignorant on her part! I get that she wants to buy things, and she'll have plenty of time..after the first of the year when we tell them. If his grandmother didn't live with them.. we'd still tell her on Christmas because she wants to buy things and shouldn't be punished by MILs actions, but I don't see a way around that. She's going to want to buy things and MIL will be too nosey

 

[shellgirl]

I'm just so mad for you!!! That's a tough one about the grandma, but I'm sure she's not being pushy and won't mind an extra week or two. MIL's need to mind their own business. And I think your hubs should be on your side. I hate when men act like "I don't want to get in the middle". Don't get in the middle, get on my side. I'm your wife and I am right! Sorry, I get really flared up about this stuff...

 

[Powell130]

Ugh exactly! I told him that if he's not on my side that nobody is and that's not far to me or Phillip Jr. It makes me SO mad when he wont take my side when it comes to them because he "doesn't want to get in the middle" exactly...if you're on my side, you're not in the middle!

 

[shellgirl]

Got my scan today! Here's baby! He or she was doing tons of flips and kicks, quite an active little bug