Dumb things our OHs say...... Rant!

[a1b2c3]

So I said to my dh earlier that I might do a of test at the weekend ..... His response was 'why as soon as you do it your period will come anyways so don't waste the money.'

He us kind if right, that does almost always happen.

But this is my first cycle with chlomid, last Friday I had cd 21 (well technically 20) bloods done and found out I got 76, so I am feeling optimistic as I am told it is a good result.

Anyways, I then mentioned it again a little while ago and his response this time was 'didn't you test a few months ago? What's going to have changed?'

Oh I don't know Hun, the fact I have had af, taken chlomid and actually ovulated this month?!

Dumbass. Grrrrrrrrr

 

[Princess Lou]

When we first found out that I would never have children naturally my husband said "When you buy a TV you get a years warranty on it, if it's faulty you can take it back and get a new one. We have only been married six month and you are broken. Can I get a new wife?" He did have think about what he said and grovelled for quite a while afterwards. Lol. He was trying to be funny and cheer me up. Bless him. X

 

[Armywife84]

Ouch!

Before baby making time, we were talking about my visit to my new gyno to get my lap and dye (since my last was crap and didn't bother being thorough). Anyways, my DH says I'm going to say I told you so if he finds something with you. WTF?? My DH isn't the least bit supportive in this infertility struggle, he thinks if he ignores it then it ceases to exist.

Well I got pissed and said I doubt anything is wrong with me..besides we've already found out that it's a male factor because of your below average SA. Then he proceeds to argue with me telling me that his sperm are alive and well..but if they were all dead then the infertility would lie with him. Like he knows what the feck he's talking about!!!!

I decided to drop it since I wanted to get over with.

Don't understand why he spouts off like that, when I've already explained the SA results to him..but he continues to live in denial.

 

[Snowglobe21]

Its ok Armywife, good comebacks though at him

My DH was very subtle blaming me prior to his SA results and was pushing me for more and more doctors appointments and I have been a lot less pushy with this. (I know, kind of the opposite for the norm around here). He is the one raising hell with doctors, spending all hours of the night researching etc and I am like, lets just wait until our FS visit). Anyways, he's pushed me to do more research which brought me here, but lets say his SA has humbled him considerably. Especially my doctor saying I was normal and he was the problem even though we're not really sold on that being the case.

Any LTTC couple that says they've never had a blame game argument is lying IMO. Noones perfect.

 

[blueeyedgirl1]

My OH did a complete Jekyl & Hyde thing when I first mentioned asking the doctor for a SA. He's normally very relaxed and I was expecting his response of "sure, that's cool, no worries, fine by me. If it's me, it's me, nothing we can do about it, we can't change nature." but when it was immediately followed with "but I'm sure I'm completely fine as you got pregnant within 3 months of trying before so it's probably still you" I wanted to smack him.

Erm, yes...have you heard of lucky accidents? What if all your sperm are rubbish but the occasional one turns out ok and it managed to find its way to my egg? Not to mention the genetic & immunological factors which may have been set off by the first pregnancy (which ended in MC) which has caused no fertilised egg to stay alive...

:facepalm:

Men...

 

[lovie]

My oh sugested i wait till my period is 6 weeks late before testing!!!!

 

[Armywife84]

Its ok Armywife, good comebacks though at him

My DH was very subtle blaming me prior to his SA results and was pushing me for more and more doctors appointments and I have been a lot less pushy with this. (I know, kind of the opposite for the norm around here). He is the one raising hell with doctors, spending all hours of the night researching etc and I am like, lets just wait until our FS visit). Anyways, he's pushed me to do more research which brought me here, but lets say his SA has humbled him considerably. Especially my doctor saying I was normal and he was the problem even though we're not really sold on that being the case.

Any LTTC couple that says they've never had a blame game argument is lying IMO. Noones perfect.

Oh I agree! We definitely went thru the blame game. It's hard to hear something is wrong when you're trying your very best! You just want to be normal!