Early 30's TTC #1

[MsJMouse]

Had a bit of meltdown last week as I think all the emotions from the miscarriage had been rattling around and decided it was time to really boil over (plus all the stress from not knowing if DH was going to come home minus a job). But definately feeling stronger and more together this week so it was probably a good thing. Now just waiting for AF to show her face as I am pretty sure this month I didn't ovulate. Oh well, we have two long weekends in a row starting with Easter/Anzac Day weekend (gotta love a 5 day weekend!!) and then Labour Day on the first Monday in May so some time to chill out!!

Good luck soliel. I really hope you get your BFP this month.

Birdie. This miscarriage thing is definitely not something I would wish on anyone. The not knowing what is happening afterwards is really frustrating as well.

Unfortunately it is still raining on and off here. And it is starting to get cool as Winter is on its way. At least my garden is growing with all the rain, without any input from me - so that is always nice .

 

[MsJMouse]

even though I don't chart, that was a funny blog Crumbs.

Hope you are doing well yourself (sometimes it's good to take a break from this site - although for me today is slow at work so I am wasting time playing on here!)

A non-TTC thing from me:

I got married in June last year, and it was a perfect day, but I decided I didn't need to keep my wedding dress (even though I loved it) so I took it to a consignment store..

I was supposed to call on March 15 to either pick up my dress or extend the contract but I forgot and in the contract it says if you don't call they will donate the dress to charity.

I was mad at myself for forgetting (although the dress going to charity would have been fine) so I called today anyway and they were totally cool and said "oh yeah, your dress sold, you should be receiving a cheque in the mail soon"

Yay! Extra couple hundred bucks for me and someone else gets to use my beautiful dress!!

This is a cool idea rather than have the dress sit in the back of the wardrobe for the next thirty years or so (my mum's dress is still sitting in the back of her wardrobe!!). I actually got married in a blue dress as I figured that way I could alter it and wear to something else. Only catch with that plan is:
(a) it still has been altered (we have been married 7yrs this year)
(b) I don't think the dress would fit me anymore as I weigh at least 5 kg more than I did in 2004

 

[SMFirst]

MsJMouse - Sorry you had a meltdown (even when we try not to, sometimes emotions do get bottled up then surprise you with a boil over one day..) - But glad to see you are feeling better now..

That's pretty cool you get two long weekends in a row - hope you can get out and enjoy them (and not stress about TTC-related stuff)

You should dig out your wedding dress to see what you could do with it..

My dress had 5 little fabric roses pinned to it, so I kept one of those as a memento...

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Rosa, so is it your regular gyno. who put you on clomid and not a fertility specialist then? I would make an appointment with a fertility specialist now. You're approaching the year mark and, for all they know, you're already at a year. I think it would be crappy if you take it for five months and then go to a fertility specialist and then they tell you "Hey, take it for X more months." I'm weird like that, though; I really don't like messing around with my reproductive system anymore. I was on the pill for 14 years. I had to grit my teeth and suck it up to take clomid. I felt like I was finally "natural." Well, yeah. Right. Ms. Spotting can't be so natural. Anyway, I think you should see a specialist. That's my two cents.

Susan - are you OPKing? Just wondering since you aren't sure about O-day. Although I OPK'ed and still have no clue when I ovulated! Our bodies are so NOT in our control, huh?

MsJMouse - I hope that you had a breakdown sufficient enough to hold you over for months. As awful as they are, sometimes it's just good (once it's over, not during) to just cry it all out. Shout. Scream. Whatever works for you. I think I've had three meltdowns over the TTC period. My situation is in no way comparable to yours, but just know that you are not alone and that we send cyber-hugs and love galore!

 

[rosababy]

Rosa, so is it your regular gyno. who put you on clomid and not a fertility specialist then? I would make an appointment with a fertility specialist now. You're approaching the year mark and, for all they know, you're already at a year. I think it would be crappy if you take it for five months and then go to a fertility specialist and then they tell you "Hey, take it for X more months." I'm weird like that, though; I really don't like messing around with my reproductive system anymore. I was on the pill for 14 years. I had to grit my teeth and suck it up to take clomid. I felt like I was finally "natural." Well, yeah. Right. Ms. Spotting can't be so natural. Anyway, I think you should see a specialist. That's my two cents.

Thanks, Soleil. Yes, it's my regular ob-gyn, who I just started seeing last month. Before that, I just saw my regular doc, a general doctor. Next month WILL be a year. I was on the pill for 12 years, too, and I am KICKING myself now. "It won't affect your fertility" crap...if it means I have to try for more than a year, then I think that's "affecting" my fertility, thank you very much! Had anyone told me this, I would have gone off years ago. It's so frustrating.

I'll make an appointment!

 

[SMFirst]

soleil - I agree that letting it all out can be very good for us once in a while: cleansing I guess..

I don't use OPKs or temp - in the beginning I figured I wouldn't have to, and now I just can't be bothered... I now figure that if we DTD often enough we'll catch the egg (which we've proven we can do..

The only issue is actually DTD enough - lately my DH has been working pretty hard so he's often tired (and I guess he's past the male stamina and sex-drive of those youthful guys -he's 40).. oh well..

Rosa - let us know how it goes with moving ahead with the FS people

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MsJMouse- Sorry to hear of your rough week last week. Dealing with a mc is a total roller coaster and it's ok to have down times, but what's important is that you're doing better. Hopefully the down times are becoming fewer and far between. I think the long weekend is just what you need! Why do you think you didn't ovulate? Do you temp or use opks? I'm wondering if I am ovulating as well because of my long wait to return to normal. I decided that I'm going to temp just this one month to see if I am ovulating although my hcg hasn't returned to normal. We shall see... I've never temped in the past so I'm reading how to do it! Winter for you already?! I'm anxiously awaiting the summer!

Soliel- How frustrating with the temps, but there's still hope this cycle! Fingers crossed for you!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Shall we talk about queso dip and beans to get this thread going again?

 

[SMFirst]

hehe!

For myself, I don't have much to comment about because I am quite content with everything in life.

Hopefully that is the case with everyone else - no stress = less need to come and discuss issues!

But I still like chatting in general (especially when I am not doing much at work like right now)

So I hope everyone else is having a good week..

hmm - what else could we discuss?

 

[sarah10380]

It's been awhile since I've posted anything on here, but I have been keeping up with y'alls posts. I think i need to start being more active in this thread...recently I've been feeling more down about TTC and don't really feel like i have anyone to talk to about it. My husband and I talk of course, but it's not the same as girl talk. It's so hard to stay positive when just like you all, I have so many friends that just had babies or are pregnant. Just last week, i had 4 friends that had babies! I am truly happy for all of them, but I am also so jealous. This weekend we are going with my husbands family to the beach...both of my SIL's have kids and of course the whole family is going to harass us about when we are going to have kids. They do know we are trying so that makes it worse. I wish we wouldn't have told anyone that we were trying....oh well, too late now.

I just started my 7th cycle and my obgyn told me if i wasn't pregnant after 6 cycles then i should go see him. So today was my appointment. He told me that since my cycles are regular (29-30 days) and i get +opk's that I'm more than likely perfect...it just takes time. He did offer to start me on clomid (if i wanted to), but i chose not to since it's only been 6 months of trying. I'm going to go another 3 months and then if i'm not pregnant by then...then clomid might be an option (i'm really excited to see how it works for you Rosa and Soleil). I did get some blood work done today and got my husband scheduled for a SA...so i'm excited to get those results. Hopefully they come back fine.

Alright, enough of me rambling. We can talk about queso...I love Mexican food and margaritas!

 

[arianne]

Hi girls! sorry i've been MIA... once in a while I check the forum to see if there are any good news... but havent read all the posts... I will get up to date this weekend

Soleil I read you did the IUI! when is your testing/AF date? good luck amiga! I really hope this is it for you, and that all works out great!

Yeah, I am also approaching the year mark :-S.... I was doing great until another pregnancy announcement brought me to tears... although I am very happy for my friend... she started trying november last year and she is already 9 weeks... how lucky she is

Anyway... I got a puppy last saturday! and she is keeping me busy, I love her sooo much... I needed something new in my life to take my mind away from ttc, as every month I would cry and get so sad... I had my doubts about the dog though, and sometimes I think "why did I get one??" becuase she cries at night, and is very demanding... so im tired the whole day, I am not sure if that will help me relax or if I'll get more stressed lol!!

Ok, have to go! will be back soon after I read all your posts...
Even though I'm not active in the forum, I constantly think about you girls, and have you all in my prayers... I hope to hear a bfp from one of you very soon!!
love,
me

 

[MsJMouse]

arianne. I can understand being MIA. I decided after my meltdown last week that I was going to try and step back from TTC for a bit. Not sure if it is really working but I can try.

How exciting to have a new puppy?? What sort?? We have two very demanding cats who are like naughty children and I think if we brought home a puppy we would have mutiny on our hands!!!

Thanks everyone - I definately had a meltdown sufficient to last a while at least I hope so as I don't want to do that again in a hurry. I worried my boss enough that he gave me the remainder of the week off and told me to go see someone!! Feeling much better today.

AF arrived last night much to my sadness. Oh well onto another cycle and another chance. I didn't OPK or temp last month but I am fairly certain I didn't ovulate last month as I didn't have any of the EWCM or breast tenderness I normally get, but I guess I can't be completely sure.

On the topic of food, DH just arrived home with chinese. Yum, one upside to not being pregnant this month - honey chicken from the local takeaway!!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

So, hopefulmama you had me off on a good start this morning with the thread comment. Although I didn't take part in that conversation (was a very busy time for me), I can appreciate the desire to talk about food! Funny thing is, I don't like Mexican too much (cilantro is not one of my favourite herbs) and I don't care for Chinese either - which MsJMouse talked about munching on! You would think I'm picky, but I'm really not! Just those two types of food I don't like. Give me sushi, Indian, Nepali, Ethiopian, Italian, etc., etc., and I am in heaven! I'm also a pescatarian; been one for nearly three years now (I eat seafood, but no animals).

Onto non foody stuff, Arianne, it's great to see you back! I think the nurse wanted me to come in for testing next TH, but I'll wait until the following Monday, I think. I'm nearly 100% sure that we missed the egg drop (ovulated later than anticipated) so I'm just waiting for AF's arrival next week. BTW, I think it's great that you have a puppy! It sounds like she's preparing you for when baby is fussy and you can't get enough sleep. It's perfect!

Nice to see you again, too, Sarah. My DH used to tell me to say "We can't have" when others asked "When are you having children?" I never used it. But he was pretty sure that saying something like that would shut people up. I somehow don't think so; it would invite more questions like "Why?"

Susan, how many DPO do you think you might be? Estimated, of course.

Rosa - I think it's great to have that 'take charge' attitude and make an appointment. You go girl!

to all!

 

[SMFirst]

I used to not like Chinese food but now I have gotten into it since we go out for lunch sometimes from work to a Chinese restaurant - I like the soups..

I have absolutely no idea what DPO I might be.. DPO6 maybe but perhaps I didn't ovulate at all!


I would think saying "We can't have children" would likely bring on more questions.. I just shrug whenever someone asks (which isn't very often)..

(I sometimes think of an episode of the Family Guy where there's a ditzy girl saying "I threw-up a lot in high school, so now I don't get my period" - I think that would shut people up if I said that! hehe)

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I'll respond more completely later, on my phone, buy my response when asked if I have kids is "Nope, but hopefully someday!". They never ask follow up questions.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Oh I kind of misunderstood question I guess. Dang phone. So rude of people to say "when" I don't really get that much. Just "are you going to" or "do you" to which I just say hopefully some day.

 

[SMFirst]

Happy Easter girls - we have an extra long weekend here so I am going to enjoy it without thinking much about TTC (having no idea where I am in my cycle actually is helpful - I am not being careful about wine, caffeine, etc and it's nice!)

 

[Crumbs]

Happy Easter ladies! I'm really looking forward to seeing some positive news in our little group

I know a few of us started our cycles around the same time and it'd just be great to know the stork is still making his rounds!

As for me, I've been busy gardening! Although I don't have much hope for this cycle, I'm totally distracted with all there is to do. I ovulated late and I started off with unusually erratic temps (I thought it was an anovulatory cycle). I'm still temping and according to FF, I have a measly 8% chance of being pregnant. Oh well, at least I've been enjoying myself.

HUGS to everyone, especially those in the 2WW!

 

[rosababy]

Hi, ladies! Just got back from a little vacay in the sun. Very fun! Drank lots, went on rollercoasters, laid out in the sun....all the things we won't be able to do hopefully in the near future!

I have no clue what dpo I am on. No temping or opks this cycle. It's helped so much, actually. I thought I would miss it, but it's refreshing. I've been losing myself in good books, and the vacation definitely helped. I have tender bbs, LOADS of creamy cm (not normal, but I'm wondering if it's got something to do with clomid), and that's about it. AF is due sometime next week...anytime now, actually. Trying not to think about testing, but if AF doesn't come by Friday, I'll think about testing.

Speaking of Mexican food...we're grilling fajitas tonight! Yummmmm!!!!!!! I should really get to the gym, since I've been doing nothing but lying by the pool and eating crap, but it's so nice out...maybe just a power walk with my dog. I'm still on vacation, right?!

Happy Easter everyone!

 

[rosababy]

2 people at work announced their pregnancies today. It's getting harder and harder to be around.