Early 30's TTC #1

[hopefulmama2b]

Mrsmax- I don't think you're being unreasonable. DH and I have gotten into many arguments regarding bd-ing. I know the nurse told you every other day- and maybe in the days prior to o that could be an argument of his, but the day of is the last effort so it's not like it's going to hurt anything to give it one more go.

However...with that being said- I think you should just let it go and get back on the PMA wagon because your bd schedule looks great!! They say the 3 days before are the most important (even more than O day because by that time it's probably too late). You bd 2 of those three most important days- that's great!!! You still have a great shot, hun. Don't give him the cold shoulder too much, although I've been there.... One month (probably my rock bottom ttc month last November) he refused and I didn't talk to him the next morning I was so fuming. I sent this hateful email (which I would never do!!!) stating how selfish he was and this is the one thing he knows that would make me happy and what's wrong with him...."it's sex!!! Don't you like having sex with your WIFE?!?" It was really hateful and the poor boy was in the dumps for like a week because he thought I was over him. I was a little too harsh. I think a nice conversation could have gotten the point across. Don't be like me!!

 

[Crumbs]

rosababy, oh no! I hope it all works itself out!

finallyready, Here's some back atcha!

mrsmax, I think you're being totally reasonable but I agree with hopefulmama, I think you should let it go and look forward to more BDing. Talk to hubby and let him know how you feel. Maybe he feels performance anxiety - my DH felt it. Perhaps you can suggest something to spice things up to make it more exciting. But no matter what, you need to tell him how you feel because men never seem to figure it out on their own!

DH and I go through BD difficulties too, especially when he's been working hard that day and tired. It took me months of explaining, plus short little comments about TTC for him to truly understand, but now I think we're finally on the same page (mentally) yet when he's super tired, it doesn't always go as planned physically

 

[MsJMouse]

hi finallyready - hope things are going well.

Mrsmax - I agree with crumbs and hopeful. Your chart looks good and you bd'd before o and my OB told me after the MC that is was important that the sperm was there waiting for the egg, not the other way around and it looks you have that base covered.

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks everyone. I had a talk to Dh this morning and he explained that we wanted to BD but there werent enough sperm left in the well from all the BDind?! I dont really know what that means. Do you use sperm up? I tried to get him to explain but didnt understand.

I did feel bad though that I gave him a bad time. He said he wanted a baby as much as me

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Glad you guys had a chat. To answer your question scroll down to Intercourse Frequency. Like I said, your bd timing looks great! Good luck!

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Intercourse-Timing-and-Frequency.html

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks Hopeful - I am on FF but never read that. I think I will tell DH we should just aim for those 3 days now Also, the picture of your poor hubby getting that email is hilarious. These men put up with a lot from us dont they

Rosa - any news from the insurance company/doctors?

 

[MsJMouse]

Thanks everyone. I had a talk to Dh this morning and he explained that we wanted to BD but there werent enough sperm left in the well from all the BDind?! I dont really know what that means. Do you use sperm up? I tried to get him to explain but didnt understand.

I did feel bad though that I gave him a bad time. He said he wanted a baby as much as me

My DH said exactly the same thing to me the other week

 

[mrsmax]

Msmouse - about the sperm or wanting a baby as much as you? I'm still confused by what he meant about the well!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hopeful at your email to your DH!

Mrsmax hope things are ok with your hubby now. My consultant said BD every 2-3 days but I have to say I think he is WRONG! I've decided to go for the HSG over the lap & will continue to use OPKs & BD everyday once I get my surge despite him telling me otherwise! We are however starting to BD every other day a bit earlier than usual. I'm not expecting to ovulate until the beginning of next week, my longer cycles are so annoying! x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MrsPTTC- I know it was so mean.... When is the HSG? Good luck!!! I think your plan sounds good! It's more in line with the SMEP and that's what I always try to shoot for.

Crumbs- Triphasic chart maybe??? FX!!

MrsMax- "the well" He means his sperm/semen supply (the well- like a water well) doesn't have time to refill before you are asking him to empty it again (can't keep going back and getting more buckets of water if it hasn't had time to replenish yet)! He doesn't think he has much left. Which DH has told me before..."well when I get home tonight we'll see if I have anything left for you because you've about run me dry!" BUT in our defense- they are still releasing millions of each time and it just takes one!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

MrsPTTC- I know it was so mean.... When is the HSG? Good luck!!! I think your plan sounds good! It's more in line with the SMEP and that's what I always try to shoot for.

Crumbs- Triphasic chart maybe??? FX!!

MrsMax- "the well" He means his sperm/semen supply (the well- like a water well) doesn't have time to refill before you are asking him to empty it again (can't keep going back and getting more buckets of water if it hasn't had time to replenish yet)! He doesn't think he has much left. Which DH has told me before..."well when I get home tonight we'll see if I have anything left for you because you've about run me dry!" BUT in our defense- they are still releasing millions of each time and it just takes one!!

Thanks hun I have to ring on CD1 and then they try and fit me in, it's not guaranteed for that month unfortunately, I've just gotta keep trying until they can fit me in... x

 

[Crumbs]

hopefulmama2b, I was just thinking that but didn't want to get my hopes up! My Mom and 2 aunts are visiting right now (they arrived yesterday) and they're the most energetic bunch of old ladies!!! I'm exhausted! I feel like it's almost like how it would be to have kids. When they nap, I'm like whhheeww, quiet time! Hehehe!

They'll be here until Aug 3rd so I'll be distracted from the 2WW for sure.

to all.

 

[mrsmax]

Hopeful - thanks. I really should understand men better after being with DH for 7 years and I'm 34!!!

Crumbs - your chart does look good. Fxd!!! I have my mom staying for a week too -she arrives tomorrow morning (Dh is away with work) so we should be nice and distracted hey!!!! Do your mom and aunt know you are ttc?

Rosa - you ok?

 

[Crumbs]

mrsmax, they don't know we're TTC. I did mention it to my Mom but she doesn't know we're actively trying and honestly, I don't think she even knows what it means to actively try.

My temp rose again this morning, but I'm starting to think it's because I've been sleeping with the windows closed. It's been a little chilly at night so I've kept it closed for the last 3 days -- making it a little toasty in the morning, and last night we also slept with the door closed so it was really toasty in the morning. Which can account for my nice rise.

But even if it wasn't that, I've seen the best charts on FF gallery and then see a fall, so I def don't want to keep my hopes up! Especially after last month when I was late and as hopeful as I've ever been in awhile.

But you never know. Fx to all my girls!!!

MrsPTTC, I noticed you're in your prime lovin' days! I hope the catches the egg!

 

[MsJMouse]

Msmouse - about the sperm or wanting a baby as much as you? I'm still confused by what he meant about the well!!

About the well being empty!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks Crumbs! Ticker a bit out of sync, I normally ovulate a few days after it says I should as my LP is only 11/12 days. I expect to get a +OPK anytime from now until Monday x

 

[hakunamatata]

Hey guys! I know I don't post here often but I wanted to let you know that DH and I are NTNP this month and TTC next month! Yay!

 

[hakunamatata]

My clinic just called and told me that they no longer participate with my insurance company. I love my doctor, I trust him...and now I have to go somewhere else?!?! Are you FREAKING KIDDING ME?! I'm so upset right now.

Aw honey I'm sorry!!! It's so hard finding a doctor you love, and then when you have to find a new one, it just stinks. I really liked my primary care physician, such a nice guy, and he isn't working with patients anymore and is doing mainly admin work.

I still haven't met my new doc yet. And I'm meeting new OB-GYN's this fall because we moved. I have to meet a bunch of different ones in this practice because you won't know exactly who will be on call during delivery!! I'm kind of anxious about meeting new doctors but I'm going to try to just go with the flow. Hopefully they will be nice. I'm a bit heavy so I'm scared they will tell me to lose weight. As if I don't know already lol

HUGS!

 

[MsJMouse]

Hey guys! I know I don't post here often but I wanted to let you know that DH and I are NTNP this month and TTC next month! Yay!

Good luck.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hey guys! I know I don't post here often but I wanted to let you know that DH and I are NTNP this month and TTC next month! Yay!

Brilliant news! Yay! x