Early miscarriage timeline/rant-sorry this is long- and a question

[Frippledip]

Hello ladies...first of all let me say I am so sorry for all your losses. I'm sorry this is so long, but I have found so much support on BabyandBump, and it helps to just get it all out. Some of you may have seen my thread in first tri, but here's a timeline of what happened plus a little rant about the idiotic healthcare process too. At the end I do have a question.

2/14- got my first and was absolutely ecstatic...

2/16- I began vomiting uncontrollably and ended up in the hospital for the night. I have a disorder called Cyclic Vomiting Syndrome, and I tend to get attacks during times of positive stress- hence the attack 2 days after my BFP. When they checked my HcG level it was 21. This was my first red flag as I was sure it should have been higher than that 2 days after the first BFP. The doctor made an appt with my doctor on 2/20 and another with an OB/GYN for 2/23, or so I thought.

2/17- I was sent home the next day as I bounced right back to health as I always do.

2/20- Doc checked my HcG level again and it was up to 62. Sigh of relief.

2/23- I showed up for my OB/GYN appt to find that it was never even scheduled. I was already there so I just had my blood drawn again. That afternoon my doc's nurse called to tell me that yay, my HcG was up to 49. I said NO, it's down to 49 from 62. She should have had these #'s in my chart. It seemed like I was the only one who knew something was wrong. If I wasn't knowlegable then I could still be sitting here thinking that everything is fine.

2/24- I had another HcG count and finally saw an OB/GYN. It was 25 and he did an ultrasound, which showed absolutely nothing. He said there is no doubt that there is some kind of "pregnancy tissue" there, but all my exams show a pre-menstrual uterus. As of now, I still have no bleeding or cramps, so I guess I just have to wait for it to happen.

Now to my question: he said it could take anywhere from 1 day to a month for me to start bleeding again...do any of you ladies have any experience with this? I literally have no cramping bleeding, but I'm retaining lots of fluid and I seem to have gotten my appetite back, which usually happens before AF. Waiting is the worst part...

Thank you ladies for listening and sorry this is so long, I wanted to just get it all out, this is kind of like therapy for me. Again, so sorry for all your losses, hopefully we can all help each other.

 

[DiddyDons]

sorry i cant help you but i want to ay im sorry what you have gone through

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[rachjim98]

I just wanted to say that I too have found some comfort here at Babyandbump. I am sorry for your loss

 

[MissingBubs]

Im so sorry. I too had really bad experiences with healthcare "professionals", as discussed earlier. As soon as my levels fell to 25 and I was told the outcome, I started to bleed that day. Its almost like I had to have the mc confirmed to let go. The body is a very clever and marvalous thing. I believe it knows what its doing and should be given time to do it. Not sure if this helps you in any way, but hope it does. XX

 

[becky77]

so sorry for your loss,hun i saw your thread when you got your bfp and have followed your progress, im so sorry our going throught this.
when i had my missed miscarriage i went for my 11 week scan and found the baby only measured 6 weeks and had to wait for a further 2 weeks to start bleeding ,i had an incomplete m/c in the end and had to have an erpc.so to answer your question it can take a while for our bodies to figure things out.
i am now having my 2nd m/c to be confirmed at a scan tomorrow and started to bleed straight away so it is difficult to know what will happen.
sorry i know that is no help just wanted to share.
really hope things resolve soon for you
take care.
x

 

[Shelby2007]

I had a mmc at 9 weeks.. and my body continued to think it was pregnant.. no bleeding no cramps.. my dr told me my body was probably not going to do it naturally.. so i took the pill to induce the miscarriage.. it was a way bettery option for me than a d&c.. but that is just personal opinion.

I dont know how you feel about waiting.. but it would have drove me mad waiting for my body to mc naturally. Good luck honey.. Im sorry you are going through this

 

[Belle30]

So sorry you are having to go through this. I have just had an early m/c at 5 weeks, and I can share your feelings of frustration at knowing something is wrong, and feeling like you're more knowledgeable than the doctors. I think they do a great job, but unfortunately it sometimes seems like they lump you into a category and won't listen to your individual circumstances.

Because I've got no history of serious medical problems, I couldn't get any blood tests when I felt there was something wrong. But I did start bleeding the following day, and it seemed lighter and less crampy than my usual AF, which I found a bit weird. My pregnancy symptoms had been quite strong right from my BFP, but bleeding started not long after they started to ease (a couple of days).

- I hope that it's actually a positive outcome for you and the doctors are wrong!! But if the worst happens I hope you don't have to wait too long

xx

 

[Frippledip]

Thank you girls for all your replies...I've been checking my temp every day and it finally dropped quite a bit this morning so I don't think I'll have to wait too much longer...I have prepared myself by going to the store and buying some maxi pads and a pint of Ben & Jerrys. We were planning on getting away for the weekend, but instead my DH has booked me a wonderful spa day on Saturday. I'm not the type to have my hair and nails done a lot, and I've been neglecting myself for a while, so I think it's time to spruce up a bit.

I know so many of you have gone through mc's ten times worse than mine, I feel bad for even crying. My little beanie never even made it off the ground really, I only really felt pregnant for maybe 2 or 3 days before it all faded away. The only true solace is knowing that I will get pg again, maybe even sooner than I think, and that goes for all of us. Lots of
for everyone...thank you for your support.

 

[DiddyDons]

I hope you have a lovely weekend away hun! Again I am so sorry

Donna xxxx

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[missisH]

sorry you're going through this

 

[Lazy Leo]

Hey hun, it doesn't matter that 'beanie never even made it off the ground really". It did, enough for a positive test and enough to put through an emotional grinder. That's a terrible palava with the dr's. I hope things settle down for you soon. My m/c was diferent to yours in that my hcg took ages to drop but when it finally went to the 20 ish mark and I stopped getting + hpt's it took a bout a week for my period to come one. (Although I was bleeding for a long time with the m/c). I hope you get a normal period hun that isn't too painful.

Enjoy your break and if you need to cry, then do so. Grieve for something precious that has been taken away from you xxx

 

[Frippledip]

It's 3:30 AM and AF has made her appearance. Cramps, the works. I'm glad though, at least now I can start over and there is a new chance at life. Thank you again for all of your support, I will keep my eye on all you ladies...and I hope it's OK if I peep in here from time to time....

 

[Rebaby]

I'm sorry for your loss

 

[plumplump]

So sorry to hear that you are having a bad time, I hope that your weekend away helps to make you feel a bit better. Lots of