End of February Testing Thread - Welcome back January Testers and welcome new comers!

[tryingandhope]

I don't get it. Another couple I know is pregnant. And they are 2 truly messed up people, they've been together off and on for years and years, been engaged and then called it off, one has been in the psych ward for trying to commit suicide, now he's on probabtion for assaulting someone and can't be out past 9 PM without his mother supervising him. They have no ambition, no goals, they get by with the bare minimum of making ends meet, they're selfish self-centered people who are so frickin unstable it's crazy! Why? Why them and not people like us? It just makes no sense at all! That poor baby is going to be born into a world of chaos and serious disfunction- it's not that I think 'oh they don't deserve it and I do' it's that they are so irresponsible and careless I can't imagine how they're going to take care of a child!! ARGH!!!!!

 

[goldstns]

Trying- I totally understand! That poor baby! I cancelled FB about a month ago because I couldn't handle seeing all these people get prego that I didn't think should be prego. And to be honest I LOVE not having FB. I feel like I am finally focused on me and DH and not everyone else in the world!

AFM, Dark OPK this morning. I must drink too much water to do it at night. I pee like every 45 min so to hold it for long is hard for me. Anyways, glad it went back to dark this morning. Now if it would just go pos and not just dark. However I LOVE my temps this month! They are actually stable for once. I think it is because I am more relaxed about getting prego this month because I have a specialist apt in 10 days and I know it will calm me down. I look forward to the apt.

Question: what do your O cramps feel like? Mine feel like very light AF cramps this month. Usually they feel different, so not sure what is up. Maybe the vit makes it feel different then I am used to.

Last, it feels good that my DH is so into having a baby too! I just love it. Sometimes I look at the "relationship" forum on this site and people talk about their DH isn't ready or doesn't want to have a baby. It makes me feel so good that he is right by my side. This morning he got out of the car and was "adjusting" himself more then usual and I said "whats going on". He said I am wearing boxers today.... I thought that was cute. Without me asking he knew it was best to wear boxers around O time instead of boxer-briefs. He also takes a man's vit to help out and he is so on top of taking it three times a day! I just love it!

 

[tryingandhope]

Golds- Your story about your DH just brought some light to this very dark start to my day and I think that's so great that your man is doing his part to help in the process. Mine's more like "oooh I get sex! horay for trying to make a baby!" and that's about it LOL. Glad your OPK's are getting darker, and your temps are looking good!

I had a few days of real light cramping this month around O, did feel like AF type cramps, with a few moments of sharper pain on one specific side.
Today I've had some pulling on my right side, like a pulled muscle almost? And some twinges on my right side lower abdomen.

 

[goldstns]

Trying those are AWESOME signs!!! That would make me have a good day for sure! Why such a dark start to your day? Work?

 

[goldstns]

Trying- does it feel like you did last time you were prego? Are you 4DPO?

 

[tryingandhope]

Well Kennedy would be 6 months old today and then hearing about those 'friends' of mine getting pregnant just really threw me for a loop.

 

[tryingandhope]

3 or 4 DPO I think, depends what day O happened. I was super exhaused last night, was sleeping by 9 PM, slept all night without interruption. My stomach is churning this morning, making all kinds of weird noises and I feel crappy. Was crying already this morning, so yeah I dunno. Kind of feels similiar I guess? But those could all be related to other things. Wasn't going to say anything because this is kind of weird to notice but I went to the ladies room this morning and I didn't bother looking at the TP but when I was about to flush a dark spot on the TP in the bowl caught my eye and it looked like maybe a blood spot but the TP was upside down in the water. So I couldn't say for sure if it was or not because it's also pretty dark in our work bathroom. Trying not to think about it too much, like I said, could all be related to other things.

 

[BubsMom17]

Trying - I totally relate to you... my cousins have two and are trying for more. Now granted, they are sweet people and great parents, but they are sooo young, he has a retail job and she doesn't work. His parents (my aunt and uncle) support them fully, and my cousin's wife acts like they are over-bearing and too much in their business. It is irritating... I get wanting to have kids, but shouldn't having a stable job come first? When they had the first one, he was completely unemployed!

And I am sorry you had a dark morning. I can't imagine the pain and ups-and-downs you must go through. Just know everyone here will always listen to you and support you. I am praying this is the time for all of us! *HUGS FOR YOU!*

 

[jojolabobo]

Hello ladies,

Is it ok if I join you? I've just had my first ever positive OPT after 16 months of ttc with anovulatory cycles due to pcos (I had laproscapy, hystrscopy and Ovarian Drilling last month)! It's pretty fair to say I'm on top of the world right now

I'm really hoping that my temps will confirm that I O within the next two days which means I will be testing around the 28th/29th of Feb. I'm super excited to be in my first ever two week wait.

Hope you don't mind me butting in xx

 

[tryingandhope]

Thanks Bubs- yes it can be so hard to watch the one's that just don't seem ready or equipt to be parents, not that they aren't good people, but sometimes I just think people should be more responsible and wait until they're truly ready. But yeah these people, they REALLY shouldn't be having kids, they are beyond not ready or equipt and it's so frustrating to see. But yes I have all of you, and you all know exactly how it feels! Thank God for you girls!

 

[tryingandhope]

Welcome Jojo- congrats on your OPK! That's great!

 

[goldstns]

That is also a good sign Trying. But I agree Id try not to get excited! However it would make sense the month you aren't "Trying" usually it happens (at least that is what Iv been told).

 

[jojolabobo]

Thanks Trying! Just reading back through your posts, I can totally relate to where you are coming from!

Sometimes it seems like the people who should have kids are the most fertile! It's frustrating! xx

 

[BubsMom17]

Question: what do your O cramps feel like? Mine feel like very light AF cramps this month. Usually they feel different, so not sure what is up. Maybe the vit makes it feel different then I am used to.

Last, it feels good that my DH is so into having a baby too! I just love it. Sometimes I look at the "relationship" forum on this site and people talk about their DH isn't ready or doesn't want to have a baby. It makes me feel so good that he is right by my side. This morning he got out of the car and was "adjusting" himself more then usual and I said "whats going on". He said I am wearing boxers today.... I thought that was cute. Without me asking he knew it was best to wear boxers around O time instead of boxer-briefs. He also takes a man's vit to help out and he is so on top of taking it three times a day! I just love it!

So my O cramps feel awful usually. It starts like, I think someone else said, like a little pulled muscle or a side stitch. I usually feel it more on the left side. Then right before O or on O day my stomach blows up like a balloon. It feels like the worst gas cramps ever, but there is no relief (aside from like, 600 mgs of Advil). PLUS I feel really heavy, like there is a water-balloon in my uterus.

And I love hearing stories of supportive husbands/boyfriends/fiances/significant others. It reinforces my faith that relationships CAN be supportive and unified. My DH is wonderul, but I know too many women who feel alone, not supported, misunderstood, and disengaged from their relationships, you know?

 

[goldstns]

welcome Jojo! Go get them girl!

 

[BubsMom17]

And I am so jealous of the pos OPKs and the ladies who are in the TWW already! My cycle feels so long! : ( According to my ticker and FF, I still have like, 4-7 days until O, but I am already getting O symptoms. Maybe I am jst being impatient. My OPKs are getting darker (still no +), so maybe I will O earlier this month. The supplements I am taking are supposed to regulate my cycle, so maybe it will be more like a regular cycle and not Oing anywhere from CD 17-21... My CM is starting to become more abundant already, so the signs are all there! *fingers crossed I get my POS OPK soon!* We have our BD sessions all scheduled out! We aren't doing it everyday this cycle (we BD'd 8 days in a row last month... oy...), so maybe that will do the trick this month. *hoping*

 

[BubsMom17]

Hello ladies,

Is it ok if I join you? I've just had my first ever positive OPT after 16 months of ttc with anovulatory cycles due to pcos (I had laproscapy, hystrscopy and Ovarian Drilling last month)! It's pretty fair to say I'm on top of the world right now

I'm really hoping that my temps will confirm that I O within the next two days which means I will be testing around the 28th/29th of Feb. I'm super excited to be in my first ever two week wait.

Hope you don't mind me butting in xx

Jojo - Welcome to our wonderful thread!
It sounds like you have been through A LOT! I really hope this is the start of a positive journey for you! I will add you to my TTC prayer list!

 

[tryingandhope]

Yeah I am trying not to get my hopes about symptoms, honestly there have been so many symptoms every month and every month it's BFN so I don't read too much into them!! But thanks for encouragment Golds

 

[pdxmom]

HI girls,
Trying i totally understand ur feelings abt the other couple getting pg...its like my cousin who got marrie dbut continued to stay at her parents house with her husband at his parents house bcos he didnt have a job and she was working...she had a job in another state...they stayed apart for a yr and then he got a min pay job and she move in with hima nd his parents and then baam next next she announces her preg...i was devastated as she announced her preg just 1 week after my ectopic...and now she is due to deliver in the same week i was due...every1 at my home r gathering up things to give her to look after the baby and im like ....WHAT THE F***...
Bubs...i know ur getting impatient...but id say u can anyways start the dance ...every other day ..hahah it may make the wait ore enjoyable...
Jojo...welcome aboard!!
AFM...dont remember if ive told u girls tht im goin to try the SMEP this mth..so today is cd8 for me which means i shud start today..but i stillspotting very very lightly after the HSG test yday...do u girls think i shud still bd nonetheless??

 

[BubsMom17]

PDX: I am trying the SMEP plan this month, too! I started at CD 11 since my cycle is 31-32 days long. So it will be every other day (started Monday) until I get my POS OPK(which will be who knows...?), then three days, then the extra. I hope it works for us! I have a good feeling about this month, but I hopes it's intuition and not wishful thinking...