explaining sexuality to children?!

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  1. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    amy was singing that song 'i kissed a girl and i liked it' so i thought id better explain what the song was about and that girls sometimes have girl friends and boys sometimes have boyfriends...

    she was pretty horrified...

    how have you explained sexuality to your children??
     
  2. Jo

    Jo I'm an old bag!

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    I've basically told Emily the same
    That girls can love girls like mummy and daddy love each other and that boys can love boys as well, she has just accepted it
    A few years ago when she first asked me what gay was i told her boys like boys and girls like girls, so then she thought her and her friends were gay, so i had to sort of put the love like mummies and daddies spin on it :lol:
     
  3. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    ow bless, that first thing amy said was 'do they do kissing' i said well yes if they love each other very much.
    she was grossed out...:(
     
  4. Elli21

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    My sister is gay, so Leigha has learnt that lauren kisses girls, not boys. And shes completely cool with it.
    I think Amy will come round in her own time hun :) xx
     
  5. sam's mum

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    I agree. Kids can be quite horrified when they first think about girls kissing boys too, so it's probably just something new for her x
     
  6. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    shes been asking lots of questions cause her mum wont talk to her about it!

    i think its good that shes interested she need to know theres more than one set/type of person in this world :D
     
  7. sam's mum

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    I think it's good that she's interested too - why won't her mum talk to her about it?! Great way to give her the impression it's not perfectly normal :roll: x
     
  8. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    her mums a knob head lol
     
  9. sam's mum

    sam's mum mum of two gorgeous boys

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    :laugh2: She's lucky she's got you to explain things to her. Sam's already been to his first civil partnership so he'll be taught that it's completely normal when he's old enough to understand! x
     
  10. Uvlollypop

    Uvlollypop finally a mum

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    awesome, i think her mum is very very narrow minded thats all.
     
  11. Dream.A.Dream

    Dream.A.Dream Mum to 6yo and WTT #2!

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    Well done you for explaining to her. Surely parents must realise that refusing to pass on information due to their own narrow minds has to be a contributing factor to continuing homophobia etc
     
  12. Uvlollypop

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    yep its madness. its great how kids see things like sexuality isnt it
     
  13. Elli21

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    Yeah it really is amazing! Coz of my sister Leigha says things like "i might have a girl friend or a boyfriend..i dunno" And shes 3. I think its cute...
     
  14. MoonmistMum

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    I found it out of hte blue and I was not prepared for trying to explain to my 7 year old what gay was... of course I said happy. He said no the boys at school told him it when boys kiss and then they went on to calling him gay everyday! Unfair how a bit older kids bring up a subject I did not want to talk to my son about at such a young age and I am stuck trying to explain!
     
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    For me it is not a case of narrow mindedness, but just I was not ready to talk about this subject to my 7 year old child. I though things like this did not come up till ?? pre-teen 11 years +??
    I was caught off gaurd by it.
     
  16. utopia

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    That's good that Leigha who's just 3 is so open minded already.
     
  17. utopia

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    It's good that you're explaining to your child about sexuality because it means that they will be more knowledgable and open-minded about it. Also it will mean that they have a better understanding of what it means to be gay or bisexual.

    There are some videos on Sexperience http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/videos/about/sexuality where people talk honestly about their experiences of coming out.
     
  18. Tegans Mama

    Tegans Mama home edding mum of 2

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    Lol our baby has two mums. I think that pretty much explains it.. If not, when she's older we'll tell her that some babies have two mummies, some have a mummy and a daddy and some have two daddies, and all babies are the same no matter who they have for parents. And that some girls like girls, some like boys, some like aliens, dogs, donkeys, trees etc :lol: Nah skip the last bit, but in our house it will be a very lighthearted subject because our children and our families children are all bought up in the presence of me and my partner.
     
  19. JayleighAnn

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    My cousin is gay and when my little sister asked my mum at about age 4 why Kayleigh has a girlfriend not a boyfriend, my mum just said "because Kayleigh is gay, that means she likes girls instead of boys, there is boys who like boys instead of girls as well"

    And my sister went "oh" and just accepted it.

    I think they need to know that it's ok and normal to be gay, its not a bad thing, at whatever age you tell them.
     
  20. massacubano

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    I have not had the talk about that yet. But, I am sure it will come up. I have already explained a period to my DD because she was wondering what my pads were. I thought she was ready to know. I have not gotten into what the act of sex is though. I will soon!
     

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