fat or is it a baby bump

[ChristinaRN]

Soccer- It is impossible to tell if someone is preggo just by looking at a photo. You DO need to see a doctor.....not just to rule out pregnancy but to see WHAT that bump is? It could very well be a HUGE fibroid or other tumor. BOth would stop your period and give you weird symptoms (just like pregnancy). And yes, both could give you a + HPT. So even if doc runs preggo test and says negative you need to insist that they do further investigation.
With that said.....I'm out of here....some of you are a little out of control and hormones don't excuse it. We are all entitled to our opinion but not without a little respect for others....and I agree...a little blunt but loving honesty could go a long way around here. Soccer....best of luck girl!

 

[Ember]

I found myself agreeing with people on both sides of that little argument earlier as I read through the pages of this thread, but I'm glad that it's over now.

I am concerned that the first thing that was said to OP wasn't "if you think its possible at all that you're pregnant, you should start taking prenatals and folic acid right away since you haven't been."

So, really, until the Drs figure out what is going on with your body, you should take vitamins every day just in case. It is important that any woman that might possibly become pregnant take vitamins even if she isn't actively trying because the first few months of pregnancy are the most crucial for the baby's development, and the baby takes from the vitamins already stored in your body at the time you get pregnant. It is better to be safe than sorry. Especially if you want to be pregnant, you should be putting the potential baby's health first and doing everything you would if you were pregnant. If you turn out not to be pregnant, there's no harm done, you've just gotten some extra vitamins, which is always a good thing. And if it turns out you just had a bug or something that made you extra hungry and a few weird cycles then go back to normal, if you really do want a baby and still do afterward, you can continue taking the vitamins and start trying for one.

That said, I think part of the reason you've waited far longer than you should have to investigate is your Dr's incompetence. Even if you had a neg blood test, the Dr should have looked into the reason you've been missing periods and gaining weight. I find it highly reckless that your Dr just said "you're not pregnant" and left it at that. There should have been other tests done right away, like thyroid function tests and an ultrasound. As has been mentioned, it could be a tumor, which could also give you a false pos hpt. There are several serious conditions that could cause your symptoms other than pregnancy, and it is important to get checked out for them right away.

Whatever happens, good luck, and I hope you are okay! And don't let them brush you off, either! Insist that they figure it out!

 

[meya]

Ember- you took the words right out of my mouth....I agree with you 100%

to soccer

i hope all goes well at your Dr's on friday.

 

[PrayinForBaby]

blah blah blah, this is stupid . i hope i wasn't being told i grow up prayinforbaby? or we're you clearly clarifying what you wanted to say to her?

no not you...that was directed to the OP

 

[PrayinForBaby]

I found myself agreeing with people on both sides of that little argument earlier as I read through the pages of this thread, but I'm glad that it's over now.

I am concerned that the first thing that was said to OP wasn't "if you think its possible at all that you're pregnant, you should start taking prenatals and folic acid right away since you haven't been."So, really, until the Drs figure out what is going on with your body, you should take vitamins every day just in case. It is important that any woman that might possibly become pregnant take vitamins even if she isn't actively trying because the first few months of pregnancy are the most crucial for the baby's development, and the baby takes from the vitamins already stored in your body at the time you get pregnant. It is better to be safe than sorry. Especially if you want to be pregnant, you should be putting the potential baby's health first and doing everything you would if you were pregnant. If you turn out not to be pregnant, there's no harm done, you've just gotten some extra vitamins, which is always a good thing. And if it turns out you just had a bug or something that made you extra hungry and a few weird cycles then go back to normal, if you really do want a baby and still do afterward, you can continue taking the vitamins and start trying for one.

That said, I think part of the reason you've waited far longer than you should have to investigate is your Dr's incompetence. Even if you had a neg blood test, the Dr should have looked into the reason you've been missing periods and gaining weight. I find it highly reckless that your Dr just said "you're not pregnant" and left it at that. There should have been other tests done right away, like thyroid function tests and an ultrasound. As has been mentioned, it could be a tumor, which could also give you a false pos hpt. There are several serious conditions that could cause your symptoms other than pregnancy, and it is important to get checked out for them right away.

Whatever happens, good luck, and I hope you are okay! And don't let them brush you off, either! Insist that they figure it out!

I said that in my first post!

 

[blackthickpea]

OK i I think that soccer need to go to a doctor get a proper scan i hope she is preggers

it's a bit difficult to tell from ust looking at a pic cause the belly could be anything. And if you are not pregnant then ensure that the drs can find out what is wrong with you and notify you.

 

[Ember]

I found myself agreeing with people on both sides of that little argument earlier as I read through the pages of this thread, but I'm glad that it's over now.

I am concerned that the first thing that was said to OP wasn't "if you think its possible at all that you're pregnant, you should start taking prenatals and folic acid right away since you haven't been."So, really, until the Drs figure out what is going on with your body, you should take vitamins every day just in case. It is important that any woman that might possibly become pregnant take vitamins even if she isn't actively trying because the first few months of pregnancy are the most crucial for the baby's development, and the baby takes from the vitamins already stored in your body at the time you get pregnant. It is better to be safe than sorry. Especially if you want to be pregnant, you should be putting the potential baby's health first and doing everything you would if you were pregnant. If you turn out not to be pregnant, there's no harm done, you've just gotten some extra vitamins, which is always a good thing. And if it turns out you just had a bug or something that made you extra hungry and a few weird cycles then go back to normal, if you really do want a baby and still do afterward, you can continue taking the vitamins and start trying for one.

That said, I think part of the reason you've waited far longer than you should have to investigate is your Dr's incompetence. Even if you had a neg blood test, the Dr should have looked into the reason you've been missing periods and gaining weight. I find it highly reckless that your Dr just said "you're not pregnant" and left it at that. There should have been other tests done right away, like thyroid function tests and an ultrasound. As has been mentioned, it could be a tumor, which could also give you a false pos hpt. There are several serious conditions that could cause your symptoms other than pregnancy, and it is important to get checked out for them right away.

Whatever happens, good luck, and I hope you are okay! And don't let them brush you off, either! Insist that they figure it out!

I said that in my first post!

I think perhaps you've misunderstood my meaning. I didn't mean that vitamins were never mentioned throughout the thread. Your post wasn't the first thing said to her, it was on the fourth page, and it was more of a question of "why have you waited instead of doing this?" and not so much advice of "no matter what has happened or is happening now, you should start taking vitamins ASAP" which is more of what I had expected to have been said right away. I think that's maybe where some of the frustration over tact comes from. There were a lot of people asking her why/why not this/that/the other, when the best thing for her would have just been supportive advice (and no guessing of whether or not she was pregnant, as has been mentioned before, since it is entirely unhelpful to her, but so many people did it). I wanted to know the answers to those questions, too, but I figured she would end up explaining them eventually, as more advice was offered and more things explained, and she did.

 

[andella95]

To be quite honest Andella95 there's no excuse for Carlys post there's a difference between that and if you see a pregnancy test line so if you feel you should tip-toe around certain things your probably right nobody has the right to call out troll or throw around any of the A, B or C statements Carly did. Talk up for yourself don't speak for 'a lot of us' contact the admin via the forums PM feature or use the 'contact us'.

The forum is for SUPPORT if you can't offer that, add constructive posts or relate enough to have an opinion on a thread you have read then leave the thread, that or your using the wrong forum.

MANY a time people have been wrong, publicly wrong for attacking someone who came for advice only came across confused, not clearly explaining themselves etc so instant attack.

If you suspect someone is trolling ignore the post then use the report post feature and allow the admin to deal with it.

Your right Carly there are much better forums out there ones that don't act quickly on trolls, who don't care if you slate people and don't pay attention anywhere near as much as us.

I don't think it's right the way some of the things have been handled with this post, I just wanted to say, that, in general , it seems like a lot of women on here WILL get upset if you say something they don't want to hear - they'll accuse you of not being tactful.

For example, with a pregnancy test, some women don't want to hear anything other than, "It's Positive" when, in fact, it very well might not be. On this site, more than any other I've visited, there seems to be a fear of speaking honestly and openly. Those who do so are labled as mean, rude, and tearing someone's hopes down. (Not saying that about this thread, just something I've noticed.)

I stand by what I've said about this post - that we can't tell if someone is pregnant based on pictures of their stomach. You know how we're not supposed to post pictures of BFPs in the TTC forums? That's how this was for me when it turned up in the pregnancy test section - something I just didn't want to see.

IF someone was talking about how they are 5 months pregnant and doing drugs, nobody would have a problem with calling them out on it, would they? For me, that is the same issue with this. There wasn't any mention of already going to a doctor for a blood test until several posts down, which is why I think the reaction against this was as strong as it was.

My point is that some women get so offended at someone else regarding a perceived attack that they begin lashing out and calling names, and that is why thread got so out of hand.

Sorry this was so wordy. I don't like name calling and personal attacks, but it seems to me that a lot of the attacks actually become personal when someone gets their feelings hurt over someone else's honest, but kind, opinion.

 

[hayley1982]

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For example, with a pregnancy test, some women don't want to hear anything other than, "It's Positive" when, in fact, it very well might not be. On this site, more than any other I've visited, there seems to be a fear of speaking honestly and openly. Those who do so are labled as mean, rude, and tearing someone's hopes down. (Not saying that about this thread, just something I've noticed.)

ive had this many times for saying what ive put.i believe in being realistic and truthful on here.i dont believe in giving false hope if i feel a test is an evap or dodgy test.alot will say 'oh thats got to be a bfp' when its clearly a evap,dodgy test,smudge mark or nothing there.then i get called all the names under the sun for being honest.

 

[Wobbles]

Ok can we move on now this isn't about evap lines.

Thanks

 

[hayley1982]

ok was only commenting on what someone else said,or am i not allowed togo back and do this??(only a question not nastily)

 

[K123]

Soccer, I've just read through this thread for the first time and am shocked and disgusted by many of the comments that have been made to you.

I have no idea whether you are pregnant or not, those tests could be positive or evaps and I'm not sure about whether it's weight gain or a baby bump in the pics, but realise this is a hard and scary time for you. Your periods stopping and the sudden weight gain need urgent investigation - it may be pregnancy, but there could be another reason and I really hope that at the Dr tomorrow you begin to get some answers. I think you really need a scan soon, and if you don't get referred for one tomorrow I would recommend going for a private one, even if the money for that is hard to find. Good luck!

 

[vhal_x]

All right, can't take it. Gonna leave this forum, (because there's much better ones out there) so I can say what I want now. There's a bunch of whiny people here. "Oh wahhhh, you had a suspicion someone was lying and you said something, you're gonna hurt someone's feelingggsss." She's an idiot, and I know you're all thinking it. It's quite obvious she's either:

A) Trolling
B) Pretending she's pregnant because she's fat
C) ********

It's also quite obvious she's not ready for a kid. Look in the background of her pictures. Her house is an absolute wreck.

Have fun interacting with idiots.

P.S. If you type like a 9 year old, I can't take you serious. This goes for multiple people in this thread. Dumbasses.

maybe my hands type faster then my brain does and i am ready for a kid ok how many 15 or 14 year olds u see have a kid and u tell me that im not ready for one, im more mature and grownup then they are

That's quite a harsh allegation to make. Plenty of 14 and 15 year old girls fall pregnant and obviously are very worried, and yes of course there are lots that may be terrible mothers, but to tar them all with the same brush is extremely harsh.

Teens get a bad name for being pregnant no matter how young they are (I'm 18, but look like I'm much younger ), and to assume that you are more mature and more capable of bringing up a baby than a teen parent is very prejudgemental.

Yes, you may well be mature and very capable of bringing up a baby, but it, in no way, entitles you to assume that you will do a better job than a teen based purely on the fact of age.

If you had said, "look how many druggies/alcoholics/etc. have babies, I am more mature and more capable of looking after a baby than them" then I would have said fair play to you. Druggies and alcoholics, could still be good parents if they kept their "habits" away from their children, but it is much more suitable to assume that you'd do a better job of parenting than them than it is for you to assume that, simply, because you're older, you'll be a better parent than a teen.

Age is only a number, parental ability is based on the individual, not their age.

Sorry, rant over xx

 

[vhal_x]

Oh and GL with whatever the outcome is at the doctors tomorrow

 

[BabyBlondex]

i will keep everyone posted can u still be pregant without even having postive test or blood test. and plus i have never weighted over 117 pounds i used to weight 107 3 months ago i didnt eat for a week was nasua and then the first thing i craved was pickles and ice cream, togatbher and then pickles and apples it was the weridest thing i aolso craved alcohol beer and cig which i don't drionk or smoke anymore cuase it was just a craving and i never in my life have smoked and all of a sudden 3 months ago i had to smoke i don't even care for beer anymore which is good but i think i def am preggo

Souns like you are hun, why dont you take a home test before the doctors? cause if that is a baby bump its gonan show up on the test anyway?

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

What the hell?

Firstly, Soccer, good luck with tomorrow, I bet its awful being so scared! but I hope you get answers sooon! I dont blame you for feeling how you feel, its a position you can judge untill you have been in it, and you have done everything right. If the doctor said you werent pregnant, why would you proceed to make yourself look silly hey by going back! but obvious the problems lies within, your either pregnant, or you do have a cyst or something? so good luck tomoz

Secondly, this forum is for SUPPORT! not for people to sit her being opinionated saying whats wrong, whats right, what they would do.. she is her own person! so stay out of it!!!! theres no wrongs or rights and to say "why didnt you see a doctor" "why didnt you take vitamins" is a load of rubbish! I am 14 weeks pregnant and dont take vitamins- does that make me bad? no its because they make me too sick! so its not ESSENTIAL! your baby wont be sick!

Next, why say you cant take people seriously if they dont type "properly" I'm a legal secretary and I still have moments when I cant be bothered and type short. Is there a problem with that? you can read the bloody thing cant you? shes not stupid, so dont make her out to be.

Obviously no1 knows the poor girl, but thats the main thing about a forum. Tbh I never came onto forums till I had babies. This girl is confused and wondering if she could be pregnant, hence her coming on now, and never before!

Some people on here, are rude, inconsiderate and so up themselves. Its not fair, and its not nice to see when people come for support, a chat, advise and generally just to talk to people and make friends.

I think the saying... "if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all" should go to a few of you!

 

[BabyBlondex]

Cazamatazaaa I agree with you, I cant believe the abuse this poor girl has had! Its disgusting how some people treat others, expecially when they may be going through something so scary/exciting/life changing. Its nice to see there is still decent caring people out there x

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

It is really mean, I just feel for her, I have seen loads of threads like this recently, and its not what I come on to see!

Theres definately nice people on here hun! I tend to stay in the nice sections

 

[BabyBlondex]

Yeah me too hun I couldnt help but notice whats been wrote on here, its horrible! x

 

[dizzynic]

What the hell?

Firstly, Soccer, good luck with tomorrow, I bet its awful being so scared! but I hope you get answers sooon! I dont blame you for feeling how you feel, its a position you can judge untill you have been in it, and you have done everything right. If the doctor said you werent pregnant, why would you proceed to make yourself look silly hey by going back! but obvious the problems lies within, your either pregnant, or you do have a cyst or something? so good luck tomoz

Secondly, this forum is for SUPPORT! not for people to sit her being opinionated saying whats wrong, whats right, what they would do.. she is her own person! so stay out of it!!!! theres no wrongs or rights and to say "why didnt you see a doctor" "why didnt you take vitamins" is a load of rubbish! I am 14 weeks pregnant and dont take vitamins- does that make me bad? no its because they make me too sick! so its not ESSENTIAL! your baby wont be sick!

Next, why say you cant take people seriously if they dont type "properly" I'm a legal secretary and I still have moments when I cant be bothered and type short. Is there a problem with that? you can read the bloody thing cant you? shes not stupid, so dont make her out to be.

Obviously no1 knows the poor girl, but thats the main thing about a forum. Tbh I never came onto forums till I had babies. This girl is confused and wondering if she could be pregnant, hence her coming on now, and never before!

Some people on here, are rude, inconsiderate and so up themselves. Its not fair, and its not nice to see when people come for support, a chat, advise and generally just to talk to people and make friends.

I think the saying... "if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all" should go to a few of you!

Here Here i am in full agreement with you .I know there are a few people cautious and suspicious of trusting people believe me there have been a few corkers on here if anyone suspects a fake they should report to admin not go on the attack there is no need for bitchy nasty comments at all some people are just confused and scared and have nowhere else to turn so they come here.
Much love to all xx