FEBRUARY TESTERS!! Come get your valentines BFP!! 8 BFP's SO FAR!!

[maria2611]

Maria, did you test with FMU?? Just wondering if maybe it was the concentration of the pee that made it go negative (or lack of concentration then I guess).

Yeah, all fmu. I've ran out of tests else I'd probably still test in the morning. I have ordered some more different tests in the hope they were dodgy tests.
I don't know what to do about my bfp on the first screen I guess leave it there. I did get a bfp, it's just not one anymore unfortunately.

 

[Eltjuh]

hi ladies

i have a bit of a dilemma here.

i have been ttc for many years now. i fell pregnant once in 09 but mc at around 7 weeks and was forced to abort my 2nd at 26 weeks as my daughter had an underdeveloped heart and the strain of pregnancy was causing the hole in my heart to worsen. (had the baby been healthy i would not have been made to do this)

so in 8 years i have conceived twice and am still without any children. i was seeing the assisted conception unit and was due to have a laparoscopy but i fell with my 2nd so needless to say the op was cancelled.

since losing my little girl the fertility clinic have removed me as a patient saying they dont think i have any fertility issues, but it has been 6 months since i had my daughter and i still have not had a peak on my cbfm.

i am convinced that i have fertility issues, the fact i have been ttc for 8 years and only concieved twice is surely an indication something is wrong?

i was just wondering if anyone knew the best way to approach my gp about this. if i tell him ive been using the cbfm, he will just tell me its a waste of money, if i cry and tell him how sad i am i doubt he will do anything because they have already decided that i can concieve and carry a child.

I dont think my gp understands that i am not a statistic and that i am desperate to find out if i am ovulating, is there any chance he can refer me for blood tests to confirm ovulation? i get the feeling that im gonna be disappointed by my visit to the doctors which is why im putting it off. i have seen two gps at the same surgery over the last 8 years, both have been uselss tbh!

also, has anyone been for private tests in london and are they expensive?

any advice? x

I'm so sorry to hear you've been through such a hard 8 years!!

All I can say is I'd demand to be seen by a fertility specialist or something like that, cause like you said it's not normal to only conceive twice in 8 years if you've been bd-ing at the right times (which I assume you have!) And if there's not fertility issues you should've been pregnant more than twice, surely!
I know it's easy to say 'demand' tests, cause I'm someone who has got strong opinions but once it comes down to telling someone I WANT this, I usually can't - I'm too shy when it comes to that.... So I guess it depends on what kind of person you are, but then I guess after 8 years you'd be wanting to know what's going on pretty badly so being forceful might be easier then?!

Hope you get some news soon!!

Maria, did you test with FMU?? Just wondering if maybe it was the concentration of the pee that made it go negative (or lack of concentration then I guess).

Yeah, all fmu. I've ran out of tests else I'd probably still test in the morning. I have ordered some more different tests in the hope they were dodgy tests.
I don't know what to do about my bfp on the first screen I guess leave it there. I did get a bfp, it's just not one anymore unfortunately.

Ahw... Hope your tests were dodgy... I'll keep your bfp for now and if your tests stay negative... and you don't get AF, I'd say maybe ask your doctor for a blood test? If you explain the situation, hopefully they'll give you one!
But I hope those tests were dodgy and you get your bfp back soon!!

 

[lune_miel]

Broke down yesterday, as it was 1 day before O and I told DH this is the most important day to BD, but all the pressure made him unable to do the deed. I am starting to think IUI may be the only way to go.

It is totally unromantic to plan when we have to BD!

 

[readytostart]

hi ladies

i have a bit of a dilemma here.

i have been ttc for many years now. i fell pregnant once in 09 but mc at around 7 weeks and was forced to abort my 2nd at 26 weeks as my daughter had an underdeveloped heart and the strain of pregnancy was causing the hole in my heart to worsen. (had the baby been healthy i would not have been made to do this)

so in 8 years i have conceived twice and am still without any children. i was seeing the assisted conception unit and was due to have a laparoscopy but i fell with my 2nd so needless to say the op was cancelled.

since losing my little girl the fertility clinic have removed me as a patient saying they dont think i have any fertility issues, but it has been 6 months since i had my daughter and i still have not had a peak on my cbfm.

i am convinced that i have fertility issues, the fact i have been ttc for 8 years and only concieved twice is surely an indication something is wrong?

i was just wondering if anyone knew the best way to approach my gp about this. if i tell him ive been using the cbfm, he will just tell me its a waste of money, if i cry and tell him how sad i am i doubt he will do anything because they have already decided that i can concieve and carry a child.

I dont think my gp understands that i am not a statistic and that i am desperate to find out if i am ovulating, is there any chance he can refer me for blood tests to confirm ovulation? i get the feeling that im gonna be disappointed by my visit to the doctors which is why im putting it off. i have seen two gps at the same surgery over the last 8 years, both have been uselss tbh!

also, has anyone been for private tests in london and are they expensive?

any advice? x

My advice is to demand a second opinion. Often docs will more easily brush people off if they are alone! Take someone with you...take a friend or two! That way if you become emotional they can continue pushing the doctor, and even if you don't the doctor will likely have a more difficult time declining your offer in the presence of others. It's not bullying...think of it as pressuring

I live in Canada so it is different I am sure, but a gf of mine has an 11 year old daughter and conceived (ended in mc 6 wks) december 2011 but has been sent to a fert spec a few months ago.

You deserve to be a mother! Write a list, bring research and stats, bring ovu charts if you have them...often if a doc feels that you have all that stuff you won't be backing down any time soon!

 

[elt1013]

hi ladies

i have a bit of a dilemma here.

i have been ttc for many years now. i fell pregnant once in 09 but mc at around 7 weeks and was forced to abort my 2nd at 26 weeks as my daughter had an underdeveloped heart and the strain of pregnancy was causing the hole in my heart to worsen. (had the baby been healthy i would not have been made to do this)

so in 8 years i have conceived twice and am still without any children. i was seeing the assisted conception unit and was due to have a laparoscopy but i fell with my 2nd so needless to say the op was cancelled.

since losing my little girl the fertility clinic have removed me as a patient saying they dont think i have any fertility issues, but it has been 6 months since i had my daughter and i still have not had a peak on my cbfm.

i am convinced that i have fertility issues, the fact i have been ttc for 8 years and only concieved twice is surely an indication something is wrong?

i was just wondering if anyone knew the best way to approach my gp about this. if i tell him ive been using the cbfm, he will just tell me its a waste of money, if i cry and tell him how sad i am i doubt he will do anything because they have already decided that i can concieve and carry a child.

I dont think my gp understands that i am not a statistic and that i am desperate to find out if i am ovulating, is there any chance he can refer me for blood tests to confirm ovulation? i get the feeling that im gonna be disappointed by my visit to the doctors which is why im putting it off. i have seen two gps at the same surgery over the last 8 years, both have been uselss tbh!

also, has anyone been for private tests in london and are they expensive?

any advice? x

Just to give you a little hope...I tried the cbfm and it did not work for me. I never got a peak on it after several months of use. Charting confirms ovulation for me, so it does not necessarily mean that you don't ovulate just because you never get peaks on the cbfm. Hopefully you find out what is going on soon!

 

[craftymama]

Ok, so I stopped and got my digitals, and I was unable to hold back.!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Noo]

Yay!

 

[Lara310809]

Congratulations Craftymama - nothing like seeing it written there to confirm it

 

[Lara310809]

Eltjuh can you please change my test date to 21st Feb? I'm currently listed as 28th Feb, but from the state of my CM I'm convinced I'm having a shorter cycle, so will be able to test sooner than planned. That will be CD28, so either AF will be due, or I'll be enough DPO to be able to pick up a positive...

for shorter cycles!

BTW thanks to the ladies that helped me figure out those OPKs a few days ago; from the signs I'm having now I'm pretty sure that was a random surge (I even had what most people agreed was a +), but at least OH and I got some practise in

Also I started temping this morning. CD14, so it won't be of much help but it makes me feel better to be doing something more productive than just OPKs, which BTW are still really strong (but not +), so either they're duff or I'm just Hormone City I'm hoping at least that I get to see a temp rise after I ovulate that could signal a pregnancy, but I may be doing it all wrong, so I won't get my hopes up

BTW, for those that temp vaginally, how far to you put the thermometer inside? I think I did 1 or 2 inches, and made sure the tip was touching the wall... no idea if I'm doing it right though.

 

[LisK]

Ok, so I stopped and got my digitals, and I was unable to hold back.!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!!!

 

[kmere]

Ok, so I stopped and got my digitals, and I was unable to hold back.!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!!

 

[elt1013]

Eltjuh can you please change my test date to 21st Feb? I'm currently listed as 28th Feb, but from the state of my CM I'm convinced I'm having a shorter cycle, so will be able to test sooner than planned. That will be CD28, so either AF will be due, or I'll be enough DPO to be able to pick up a positive...

for shorter cycles!

BTW thanks to the ladies that helped me figure out those OPKs a few days ago; from the signs I'm having now I'm pretty sure that was a random surge (I even had what most people agreed was a +), but at least OH and I got some practise in

Also I started temping this morning. CD14, so it won't be of much help but it makes me feel better to be doing something more productive than just OPKs, which BTW are still really strong (but not +), so either they're duff or I'm just Hormone City I'm hoping at least that I get to see a temp rise after I ovulate that could signal a pregnancy, but I may be doing it all wrong, so I won't get my hopes up

BTW, for those that temp vaginally, how far to you put the thermometer inside? I think I did 1 or 2 inches, and made sure the tip was touching the wall... no idea if I'm doing it right though.

I insert it about an inch and half or so, so it sounds like you got it right. As long as you do it the same everytime, it should be fine. Good luck!

 

[LisK]

I had a very big dip in temp today (8 DPO). Very worried that AF is going to come today or tomorrow. This is my first pp cycle so I'm concerned about an LP defect.

 

[lune_miel]

Could be implantation dip!

 

[Eltjuh]

Ok, so I stopped and got my digitals, and I was unable to hold back.!!!!!!!!!!

YAY!!! Congrats!!! H&H 9 months to you!!

I had a very big dip in temp today (8 DPO). Very worried that AF is going to come today or tomorrow. This is my first pp cycle so I'm concerned about an LP defect.

Could be an implantation dip at 8dpo... Fingers crossed!!

 

[craftymama]

I had a very big dip in temp today (8 DPO). Very worried that AF is going to come today or tomorrow. This is my first pp cycle so I'm concerned about an LP defect.

I had a dip in temp(not huge, but nearly a whole degree) at 8 dpo as well, got my bfp yesterday! Keep the faith!!!

 

[Noo]

I had a very big dip in temp today (8 DPO). Very worried that AF is going to come today or tomorrow. This is my first pp cycle so I'm concerned about an LP defect.

I also got an implantation dip. Not huge but definitely evident.

 

[minuet]

Looks like you might have finally O'd!

That's what I'm hoping, but I was fooled once earlier in this cycle. My temps have been sort of deceiving lately!

I can't imagine how you feel with your really long cycles...I am about going nuts considering my norm is like 26 days![/QUOTE]

Ugh I know all about deceiving temps! They drive me nuts. I keep getting my hopes up only to have them dashed. Now I'm starting to get disillusioned about it.

I swear if metformin causes me to ovulate and I actually get a biphastic chart I'll fall over in a dead faint!

 

[Eltjuh]

ah... I wish I could temp properly... I started and then hubby kept letting me have lay-ins and I didn't wake up at 7 to temp cause I really needed my sleep. And when I do wake up I have already been half awake for a while or have been waking loads during the night.... And we dtd last night so would've been nice to know whether I am close to ovulating - I know you won't know till after it's happened but at least then I know whether I've got a chance! Eventhough we're not really trying...

Found out yesterday that one of my friends is 7 weeks pregnant (my mc happened at 7 weeks, so bit painful for me) AND she didn't want to have another, at least not with her husband cause they were gonna split up and already sleeping in seperate beds etc. So they were gonna split up but somehow ended up in bed together??? with no contraception?? WHAT?!?! Anyways that was a massive shock for me yesterday, especially cause it kind of hurts that someone that didn't even want another baby gets to be pregnant when you really really want another one and have a mc... Life's soooo not fair!!

Anyways..... So I might be testing after all this month.... From what I can tell from last time when we conceived (which was the only time we dtd (like that) that month) I must've ovulated between cd17 and 20 (22 at the MOST, that would mean we dtd 5 days before Ov) and the last cycle I used some opks which were positive on cd19, so probably O'd on cd20?? (but didn't conceive cause the last time we dtd then was the cd15 as I thought I would O earlier).
Not sure whether last cycle was normal though, cause I was late for AF, which I'm usually right on time for! so might've O'd later??

Oh well, guess we'll have to see what happens... Good luck to anyone testing today!!

 

[Lara310809]

Sorry to hear that Eltjuh; at the moment every pregnant belly I see is like a laugh in my face. I'm just so desperate, and I already have two kids! I never thought it was possible to feel this strongly when you already have kids, but I do. I've never MC though so I can't imagine how you're feeling.

Good that you might be in with a chance this month I don't envisage seeing much from my temping, because my youngest has me up all night while we co-sleep, I have very broken sleep. But it's something I suppose