February "Valentine's" Testers

[disney516]

sunshine - I can tell i will be addicted to reading your journal. Again, Im so sorry for all you have been through. I feel honored to be chatting with you though, you are so strong. You really emulate hope and I love that! I am definitely a cheerleader on your team lol. I want you to get your BFP and I'm so happy we chat on here so I can celebrate with you when it happens!!! Btw - is your husband an OB by any chance lol? Not that he could be yours but he seems to have a lot of knowledge about the ob field with the studies he is showing you

I agree though - if you don't like you ob change it and then change it again if u need to. My father was told he only had a few weeks to live years ago when I was in elementary school. He didn't like that answer so he got another doctor and that doctor told him the same, to get his affairs in order. He didn't like that answer either so he went to another dr who tried experimental treatment and now ... fast forward 15 or so years later ... He is alive and doing well and has been cured for the past 10 or so years! So I agree ... try, try again with doctors. Sometimes they have a great reputation but just don't fit for you and that is MORE than okay.

 

[sunshine2014]

Disney -- oh my goodness I can't even imagine. That is such a hard thing for your family, and dad to go through. I am so so happy he kept fighting for another opinion. I am glad he is doing well and showed them who's boss.

As for the weight thing - It seems to be a sensitive subject for everyone. But I will say we are way too hard on ourselves. About a year ago I was working out 6 days a week, sometimes twice a day -- I was healthy physically, but not mentally. My days were consumed with what I would eat all day, how I would avoid eating bad food if I went out for dinner, counting calories and then beating myself up if I indulged in dessert. I wasn't dieting, just maintaining but it was emotionally and physically draining. DH was gone away for school so i think I was just trying to distract myself. But my family became worried, my mom said my hormones were outta whack and I was too thin. Obviously I didn't see it, because you become so consumed with it. When I got pregnant the first time I gained 15 pounds. When I ended I lost about 7. So now I'm about 8 more than last year but I feel great. I still work out, but I let myself enjoy things now. Toast once in awhile, pasta every few weeks. Dessert a few nights a week. These are all things I was super strict on before. I may have had a killer bod, but I wasn't my happiest. I'm better now when I'm baking chocolate chip cookies between p90x videos haha.

As for TTC. I temp. I haven't started yet, I'll take this week off and maybe start next week. Or when af returns.

DH isn't an OB, but he's a GP. But he's spent a lot of time In OB, and delivering babies. He's also seen a side of labour that I won't ever be ready for lol. If I get my chance I want a c section all the way!

As for dates, this is a total guess but let's put March 27 for me. It's not february, but that's probably the soonest I can now!

Hope af doesn't show disney!!!!! Wooot.

 

[maltesemom]

Disney -- oh my goodness I can't even imagine. That is such a hard thing for your family, and dad to go through. I am so so happy he kept fighting for another opinion. I am glad he is doing well and showed them who's boss.

As for the weight thing - It seems to be a sensitive subject for everyone. But I will say we are way too hard on ourselves. About a year ago I was working out 6 days a week, sometimes twice a day -- I was healthy physically, but not mentally. My days were consumed with what I would eat all day, how I would avoid eating bad food if I went out for dinner, counting calories and then beating myself up if I indulged in dessert. I wasn't dieting, just maintaining but it was emotionally and physically draining. DH was gone away for school so i think I was just trying to distract myself. But my family became worried, my mom said my hormones were outta whack and I was too thin. Obviously I didn't see it, because you become so consumed with it. When I got pregnant the first time I gained 15 pounds. When I ended I lost about 7. So now I'm about 8 more than last year but I feel great. I still work out, but I let myself enjoy things now. Toast once in awhile, pasta every few weeks. Dessert a few nights a week. These are all things I was super strict on before. I may have had a killer bod, but I wasn't my happiest. I'm better now when I'm baking chocolate chip cookies between p90x videos haha.

As for TTC. I temp. I haven't started yet, I'll take this week off and maybe start next week. Or when af returns.

DH isn't an OB, but he's a GP. But he's spent a lot of time In OB, and delivering babies. He's also seen a side of labour that I won't ever be ready for lol. If I get my chance I want a c section all the way!

As for dates, this is a total guess but let's put March 27 for me. It's not february, but that's probably the soonest I can now!

Hope af doesn't show disney!!!!! Wooot.

You ladies are the best I also feel so honored to be going through this journey with you. AND I love that we are all similar on the workout front!

Sunshine, I can TOTALLY relate. My life for a long time was based on the number I saw on the scale. I also worked out almost every single day of the week, some times twice. I never knew anything about my cycles because I didn't track. I honestly didn't think it was important (STUPID! ) Last year, I had to have emergency gallbladder surgery. Everyone was pretty stumped because people who have this problem are...bigger. I remember my surgeon saying that I was the smallest person he'd ever cut into! I am convinced it's prob because my body was so out whack- so stressed out from excessive dieting (and then eating a ton of junk) & the constant workouts. I wish I took that as my warning, but I didn't. Sunshine keep that weight on! It's prob what is helping you to actually catch the egg in the first place. Disney, keep it to a moderate level so that you give your body a chance. Here's an article I read when I first started ttc that I didn't pay any attention to: https://www.whattoexpect.com/precon...rd-your-health/exercise-before-pregnancy.aspx

2 hours at the gym is not moderation! So I am paying attention now.

I am pretty sure I am out this month (AF expected on Feb 1), but I will be testing for next cycle Feb 27th. I am looking forward to next cycle! Very hopeful!

 

[maltesemom]

sunshine - I can tell i will be addicted to reading your journal. Again, Im so sorry for all you have been through. I feel honored to be chatting with you though, you are so strong. You really emulate hope and I love that! I am definitely a cheerleader on your team lol. I want you to get your BFP and I'm so happy we chat on here so I can celebrate with you when it happens!!! Btw - is your husband an OB by any chance lol? Not that he could be yours but he seems to have a lot of knowledge about the ob field with the studies he is showing you

I agree though - if you don't like you ob change it and then change it again if u need to. My father was told he only had a few weeks to live years ago when I was in elementary school. He didn't like that answer so he got another doctor and that doctor told him the same, to get his affairs in order. He didn't like that answer either so he went to another dr who tried experimental treatment and now ... fast forward 15 or so years later ... He is alive and doing well and has been cured for the past 10 or so years! So I agree ... try, try again with doctors. Sometimes they have a great reputation but just don't fit for you and that is MORE than okay.

Sunshine, I know your husband is a dr. so pls don't take offense! But you have to shop around and find the right dr. that is going to be an advocate for you. I totally believe in the mind body connection, and you have to find a dr. that will support you and want the best for you!! Disney that is an amazing story, so inspiring!

 

[maltesemom]

Well I was just advises not to do sit ups or crunches. I'm not sure if it really matters early on, probably just a precaution. But I usually do 200 a day like 5 days a week. So maybe that was too many? I'm not sure.

Progesterone is a sore spot for me right now. My dr wants to start some tests which can be done after my first af post d&c. But the progesterone one has to be done on day 21 and sets me back 2 cycles. Meaning I can't TTC for 3 months. I am so not having that. DH wants to wait to make sure we can rule that out, but I'm busy doing research to show that it can still be fixed at 4 weeks pregnant.

As for cokes lol. I don't like pop but you're a fitness girl. You can kick that habit!

Good for you Sunshine- I think keep trying is the answer. My dr. yesterday basically said the same. And you are still young (I believe you said you were 28?). I forgot to ask, are you on any supplements? I am sure you are but I think it's good to be on Magnesium & fish oil in addition to a good prenatal. The other thing (sorry if I am hounding!) is do you eat soy? I've always been really sensitive to soy, so I've avoided it, but soy is estrogen like and it might affect your hormonal balance (sorry my organic chem days are far away from me!). Just a thought

 

[sunshine2014]

Thanks -- not hounding! I love having more info. I also stay away from soy. I am taking a prenatal that is extra high in folic acid. I just switched to that one so we'll see.
No offence taking on the dr comment. Even my DH was like "what was that??? That was no patient care at all". Dr basically made a snide comment about testing and if I'm going to go and get pregnant on hum there's really no point. I was on meds pre surgery so didn't give him a comment back but I wasn't impressed. We both weren't. I wasn't going to say anything because it just gets me all riled up lol. But ya. Anyways.

I'm definitely happy with where I'm at weight wise. Plus, who doesn't love being able to eat bad things once in awhile?

 

[disney516]

Hi ladies! I added your date sunshine!! Baby dust!!!
I did have a solid smilie today shockingkly!!! That means today is/was O day. We BD 'd tonight and the past 3 days so I'm hoping we did enough. We r going to try and bd tomorrow and Sunday and then Tuesday and then that's it for "scheduled" bd lol. Fx Fx that this works. I just saw a commercial with adorable little munchkins and I was just thinking "Ahh I want that so bad!!"

 

[sunshine2014]

Disney that sounds great! I think it sounds like you covered your bases. Woot. So exciting. I hear ya on wanting one. They're just too cute. All squishy and stuff. But I the meantime I wil enjoy my sleep and my hot top to bottom coffee. that's all I can do for now lol

 

[disney516]

I definitely agree with u on that lol! I love my starbucks!!

 

[sunshine2014]

Ohhhh me too. I missed it while pregnant. The amount of caffeine in one coffee is over the daily limit. I suppose you could do half caf. The lattes are fine though. Mmm now I want one.

 

[disney516]

LoL! That brings up a good question maybe u can answer ...
I always drink decaf. Because apparently I'm old (even though I'm only 28 lol). Caffeine sometimes makes me tachy so I just always have done decaf. Can u still drink decaf?

 

[sunshine2014]

You can drink decaf starbucks regular blond roast coffee has like 350mgs in a grande. I believe the Lattes have like 180. Tea has 95 and I believe decaf coffee has anywhere from 5-15 per cup.

You can safely drink up to 200mgs per day while pregnant. But I stuck to either one coffee Or one tea a day. And then maybe a decaf if I felt like it. Also remember that the coffee you make at home will be less than that crazy starbucks count haha. That is through the roof.

Also I don't know If I knew that but I'm 28 too!! Almost 29. And I cannot have caffeine after 12pm or I'm up all night. So I hear ya lol.

 

[disney516]

Wow u r a caffeine burst of knowledge!! I love it!! I actually only really get lattes from starbucks so that's good to know actually!! Yea we r getting old lol
How old is your husband? Mine is 29.
How r u feeling?
We had a sewer line backup into our house today ughh. Thankfully it's all fixed now but my husband was SO stressed. I am hoping to BD tonight but we shall see... Maybe it will help take his mind off things ...

 

[disney516]

Maltese- how are you doing? Any updates

 

[sunshine2014]

Awww man. That's a pain. Not what you want on a Saturday night (or any night lol). And yes I enjiy my caffeine so I did my research lol DH is 8 year older and much more level headed and mature than me most days, that's why I fell for him haha.

Maltese - yes! Any updates?

 

[disney516]

Lol! U r too funny! How long have u guys been married?

So if u see my chart u will see that I did not BD last night. We tried but I was actually a little sore (I think from so much bd) so he had to stop and we didn't get to
I am SO nervous that we really needed to BD yesterday. I pray I'm not sore today and we can bd but I won't know until we try bd.

Blahh ... I was laid back but I'm getting a little nervous blahh. He is so good and still laid back. I think I might just be going over the top. I don't know ... sorry for this "rant"
::sigh::
..... I need a venti decaf skinny vanilla latte ..... lol

 

[disney516]

How is everyone else doing? Let's get some updates to help pass the time ladies ... lol

 

[sunshine2014]

Oh good. I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets sore after too much Bding lol. I wouldn't worry too much about yesterday, maybe try today to be safe? How long have you been temping for? I find it drives me crazy but it did tell me some things. I'm going to start again once af returns. But try not to focus too much on individual days as they don't mean Much. It's more the pattern over time and noticing the shift of higher that stays once pregnant. But even my high temps didn't start until 3 days after af was due lol.

And we've been married for 5 years this year. how about you?

 

[disney516]

This is the first time I'm sore after bd'ing but it's also the first time we ever bd ' d 4 days in a row and every 3rd day before that.
I just started temping this month and it's okay so far. Not much to it as u know so I figured I might as well just try it. U can see my temp chart in my signature line. I am hoping I get those crosshairs soon. My high and peak fertility days were Tuesday - Friday last week which we bd ' d for all 4 of them. I hope this is my month! I hope I did enough.

We have been married for 3 years. October 2nd this year will make 4 years. We dated for 5 and married for 3 so far so together 8 years.
Let's pass the time lol ....
How did u guys meet?
We met in college. He lived across the hall from me with his 3 roommates and I lived with my 3 roommates. We both played sports in different seasons. So when I was on season he was off and when he was off I was on. Therefore we knew of one another but never really saw one another. There was about 2 weeks in between our seasons and preseasons that we were both off at the same time and we just happened to pass eachother walking on the way to the gym and that was really the end of the story as well as the start of something amazing. LOL mushy I know but we both still to this day remember that day we passed eachother walking as if it was yesterday lol.

 

[disney516]

I got my cross hairs!!! I hope I bd ' d enough. I bd ' d the three days in a row leading up to O and then also on the day of O. I couldn't do it after because I was sore. Do u think before and right on the say wad enough or my chances are slim since I didn't do it after? You can see my chart below.

Sidenote... we r supposed to be dumped on with a few feet of snow today. Blahhh I will not be shoveling just in case. I will be the car clearer. Lol and the "try not to fall" girl lol. I'm a little clumsy, my husband would probably say "a lot clumsy" lol.