Okay this is my first ever thread ive started... being brave lol
I had my 28 week scan yesterday (i was 28+6) why is it i felt like i wanted to cry, i didnt know if the scan went well or not really.
As i dont know anyone on here no one really knows the suitation... sorry if this becomes really long...
At my 20 week scan they picked up nuchal fold was approx 6.3mm (they said it all so quick and its not in the pregnancy notes i carry but in the hospital ones they have) we were told baby could have downs, and was offered a amnio for the next day... we wanted to go home to think and talk everything through. They wanted to scan us again 2 weeks later, so we decided to not have the amnio and wait until the scan in 2 weeks, and then make the final decision as to have the test or not.
2 weeks went really slowly, we were both really upset, but decided we couldnt get rid of baby, it didnt feel the right thing to do for us!
At the rescan - they said baby appeared 'normal' the nuchal fold was measured again and was 3.1mm - i went to the midwife and they said it looked very promising with all results of this scan, so we went away happy
28 week scan, it seems im back to square 1, i really feel down about everything, i wasnt shown baby at all on screen, they were whispering between themselves. they didnt tell us much, the nuchal fold measured this time 6.7mm - we wasnt told if this is good or not, all they basically said was because of this problem, your baby is at risk of having downs and we want to offer another scan in another hospital - we turned this down as we had to travel 50 miles to the hospital and as they keep telling us they cant tell on a scan anyways!
we have another scan at hospital at 34 weeks, i just dont think i can take anymore. I feel so upset coming out of these scans they arent doing anyone any good.
we have come to turns that baby might have downs - this really isnt the problem, its the way they make you feel at the hospital.
They just handed us back my notes and said bye!!!! (seriously that was it)
I get it all sorted in my head for them to undo everything and make me feel really bad and start worrying over everything, making me re-think everything
With all this, we wasnt even given any scan pictures of our baby, yesterday i asked if we could get some, and they said no point now!!!
just to add they havent found anything else wrong with baby, everything else looks to be all okay.
sorry for the long post. thank you for reading
Tiaenya
I had my 28 week scan yesterday (i was 28+6) why is it i felt like i wanted to cry, i didnt know if the scan went well or not really.
As i dont know anyone on here no one really knows the suitation... sorry if this becomes really long...
At my 20 week scan they picked up nuchal fold was approx 6.3mm (they said it all so quick and its not in the pregnancy notes i carry but in the hospital ones they have) we were told baby could have downs, and was offered a amnio for the next day... we wanted to go home to think and talk everything through. They wanted to scan us again 2 weeks later, so we decided to not have the amnio and wait until the scan in 2 weeks, and then make the final decision as to have the test or not.
2 weeks went really slowly, we were both really upset, but decided we couldnt get rid of baby, it didnt feel the right thing to do for us!
At the rescan - they said baby appeared 'normal' the nuchal fold was measured again and was 3.1mm - i went to the midwife and they said it looked very promising with all results of this scan, so we went away happy
28 week scan, it seems im back to square 1, i really feel down about everything, i wasnt shown baby at all on screen, they were whispering between themselves. they didnt tell us much, the nuchal fold measured this time 6.7mm - we wasnt told if this is good or not, all they basically said was because of this problem, your baby is at risk of having downs and we want to offer another scan in another hospital - we turned this down as we had to travel 50 miles to the hospital and as they keep telling us they cant tell on a scan anyways!
we have another scan at hospital at 34 weeks, i just dont think i can take anymore. I feel so upset coming out of these scans they arent doing anyone any good.
we have come to turns that baby might have downs - this really isnt the problem, its the way they make you feel at the hospital.
They just handed us back my notes and said bye!!!! (seriously that was it)
I get it all sorted in my head for them to undo everything and make me feel really bad and start worrying over everything, making me re-think everything
With all this, we wasnt even given any scan pictures of our baby, yesterday i asked if we could get some, and they said no point now!!!
just to add they havent found anything else wrong with baby, everything else looks to be all okay.
sorry for the long post. thank you for reading
Tiaenya