Feel weird about nursing a child of the same sex?

[lisab1986]

i feel the opposite...I have a girl already, and I'm wondering.......what the heck do I do with a boy!?! I think it's just the unknown, and I can only picture myself having a girl, because that's all I know. Be confident that once you see your baby it will all fall into place!

The fear of the unknown is excatly what it is..bringing up 2 boys i wouldnt have a clue what to do with a girl if this ones a girl lol
I know alot pf people who have had one sex and couldnt see themselves with the other..the fact that anything sexual about it has been brought up is totally disturbing and totally uncalled for!
To me these 'feelings' are not half as bad as gender dissapointment..yet if someone only wants a certain sex and they get the other nomatter how upset they are thay are its accepted as a normal feeling/worry that sometimes occures during pregnany .

 

[luckyno.3]

This is a weird topic. It never even occured to me to think it weird to nurse a girl. I don't see what that has to do with it. Just a warning for those planning to just pump and feed, it can be difficult for your body to keep up the milk supply without the baby's suckling, the pump isn't quite the same. My 2nd was a terrible nurser, so I tried that and by 6 months had to stop because I couldn't keep up. I had no problem with nursing my 1st, as I nursed and pumped and always had a huge supply.

 

[lauren10]

I hear you LisaB....I keep thinking...if it's a boy...how does my body know how to make a penis?! it doesn't seem logical!

As far as the girly girl thing....really don't worry about that. clothing and material things don't matter one bit when it comes to raising a child. You will love her just like you love your son, and everything will come naturally when it happens!

 

[lisab1986]

I hear you LisaB....I keep thinking...if it's a boy...how does my body know how to make a penis?! it doesn't seem logical!

As far as the girly girl thing....really don't worry about that. clothing and material things don't matter one bit when it comes to raising a child. You will love her just like you love your son, and everything will come naturally when it happens!

LOL i said to my oh when i was carrying our first son that it was strange that a baby was growing inside me that had a penis
My oh has said the same IF this baby is a girl he wouldnt know what to do either because our lads are 'proper boys' and they are constantly play fighting and making things to jump off etc oh said he will be scared to do anything with a girl incase she breaks

 

[NuKe]

i promise, having a girl is great! i am SOOOOOOOO not a girly girl- im sitting here in jeans and a mighty boosh t-shirt right now. ive worn a dress ONCE in my life (wedding day), having a girl is awesome, you get to put her in those hard-to-find clothes like little pink and black skull iron fist hoodies etc i cant really comment on the other bit because she was my first and i found breastfeeding gave us an instant bond! i bet its just your hormones hun

 

[overcomer79]

I have never given any thought to it being different then my son. All I can do is hope if it is a girl, she nurses as well as my son did!

 

[Noelle610]

I don't think this is a weird topic. This is a support forum and the original poster is just being honest. When I initially read the post, it didn't strike me as strange or sexual.

It sounds to me like your feelings around nursing a girl are connected on a deeper level to your fear of having a daughter. I think it's great that you've decided to speak with someone about it; I'm sure it will help. It's easy to have preconceived notions about what our children will be like based on gender - "girly girls", "tomboys", etc., but the reality is that they all have unique personalities. It helps me to be totally open minded. It's really cool if you think about it - we're all making unique little people!

For what it's worth, my husband had an initial fear of having a girl. He is one of three boys and has all male cousins and nephews, so he was originally a little weirded out by the thought of changing or bathing a daughter. I think your is a common fear (and it goes both ways; some women feel weird about nursing a boy). Don't let anyone make you feel badly. Self awareness is key and the fact that you're able to address your fears before your LO gets here is huge.

 

[crazylilth1ng]

I have nursed two girls in the past and am planning to again. It never ever crossed my mind that there was anything strange about it, it is just a baby that needs feeding to me I think that once your little girl is here you will feel the same way too I wouldn't feel strange nursing a boy either. That is my experience.

 

[beth_terri]

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Sorry beth-terri if I made you over think it. So so sorry...
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Haha you didnt have to aploogise lol
xx