feeling absolutely AWFUL!

[BrittBS]

Dumb me just realized .... I miscarried January 20th. I conceived right before New years eve. I DRANK on new years, and I'm not talking a little. I was totally drunk where I couldn't even walk straight. That means I was pregnant while I was drinking load and loads of alcohol. I feel awful. That's probably what made me miscarry right? I drank to much and it messed up the baby and thats why I miscarried. I can't get it out of my head, if I hadn't been so stupid maybe I'd still be pregnant. I took a pregnancy test that morning to make sure it was still negative but it was too early. I should have known. UGH! If that's what caused the miscarriage maybe that means the next one will be a sticky one if I don't do anything stupid like that again.

 

[Jo]

Oh sweetie please don't blame yourself
I know it doesn't help but these things do just happen through no fault of your own
I think everyone who suffers a miscarriage analyzes everything they have done, eaten and drunk, I know i did.
Quite a lot of people go out and get smashed before they realise they are pregnant and carry babies to full term, I did with Jack

Sorry i probably haven't helped you feel better but

 

[anita665]

I doubt your drinking would have had much to do with it. For around 7 to 10 days after conception, till implantation happens the baby isn't recieving anything from you anyway because it's not actually attached.

Lots of women drink before they find out they're pregnant. For some the drink is how it actually happened so don't blame yourself. It was probably a problem with the embrio & nature just doing it's thing. I know it doesn't make it any easier and when you m/c you can't help but look for reasons why it could be your fault. I'm sure it's not though.

 

[xclairex]

honey dont feel like that there is so many reasons to mc i have had 2 an before i found out i was still having a drink dont blame ur self its just natures way of saying bean was not ok u will get ur bfp soon dnt u worry xxx did u test today??

 

[BrittBS]

thanks guys. I know I shouldn't blame it on myself but I can't help but wonder if thats why I miscarried. I'll never know though. No I didn't test this morning. I don't think I'm pregnant so I'm not going to waste the tests. I don't have any symptoms anymore so I'm just gonna wait and see if AF shows in the next couple of weeks and if she doesn't I'll take another test or call my doctor and see what he says. I'm just feeling really depressed today. Don't know why.

 

[xclairex]

how late are u

 

[Omi]

thanks guys. I know I shouldn't blame it on myself but I can't help but wonder if thats why I miscarried. I'll never know though. No I didn't test this morning. I don't think I'm pregnant so I'm not going to waste the tests. I don't have any symptoms anymore so I'm just gonna wait and see if AF shows in the next couple of weeks and if she doesn't I'll take another test or call my doctor and see what he says. I'm just feeling really depressed today. Don't know why.

aw,sweetie... i jst hd a mc and i know that all the feelings you are going through are soo normal, honest..

ill be perfectly honest here and say that i really like my drink and i found out jst over new years that i was pregnant, and that made me feel awful as well as was boozing for Britain- hey i was off work and enjoying the festivites!!

the facts are however, that the baby doesnt actually get ANY of your blood supply til week 5 so anything you ingested would not go into the baby, so i really dont think that was the reason and dont beat yourself up about it!!!

Most early miscarriages are nt due to anything the mum did as most are the bodies way of rejecting a faulty pregnancy- i know that sounds awful but its natures way of trying to keep things healthy, i guess...

Try as best you can to stay positive as you will feel better with time i promise.. we're all here thinking of you and sending you our love.. take care,

 

[BrittBS]

how late are u

I don't know if I'm late or not. I had a m/c last month and haven't had AF since. They say she can take 4-8 wks to show. I still haven't had mine and it's been 5 wks since I had the m/c.

 

[BrittBS]

I'm just waiting very impatiently for her to show her face so we can get started again. We were trying after the m/c but if I don't get a BFP this month I won't be too upset because I'd kind rather wait till one cycle is out of the way so I'll know how far along I am.

 

[Omi]

I really hope you get a BFP ....bt even if you get AF at least you'll know your body's back on track after the mc.... im a bit after you, ttc soonish and i hope for the same... best of luck and

 

[Rumpskin]

Hi Britt

Dont go beating yourself up lovely. I did the same - should not have lifted that heavy box, should not have got too stressed - the list is endless.

I think we have to accept that it was not meant to be for whatever reason.

 

[doctordeesmrs]

I used to work for Social Services and i know women that have drank all the way through their pregnancy and baby has been fine. So please don't blame yourself. As for waiting for your AF, i had my mc in november and had no symptoms that i was pregnant. Only tested cos my MIL said i was pregnant and to take a test. I don't even know if i was late cos my cycle was all messed up. Good luck hun and i hope you get your BFP soon.

 

[tansey]

Please don't blame yourself! I am just waiting for my bleeding to stop after an early MC. My doc explained it very well - although he agreed it's not really what you want to hear - saying that it was my bodies quality control system. something wasn't right and this time it was not meant to be! Also pointed out the fact that this is very common especially for first timers such as myself. Hard facts to accept.
I am practising PMA and am going to TTC straight away.
Prayers for you all xx

 

[Schmelly]

You mustn't blame yourself. It wasn't your fault.

Try to stay positive (hard, I know!). I have my fingers crossed for you getting a BFP soon!

 

[honeybunch2k7]

We miscarried on the same day.

It's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself.

 

[BrittBS]

We miscarried on the same day.

It's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself.

As the came for you yet?

 

[Sarah88]

I conceived before my 20th bday party, I was so drunk I passed out after vomiting for half and hour. I don't think thats why you miscarried darl.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

As the came for you yet?

Yes, but keep in mind comes at different times for different people.

 

[Mynxie]

huni, that won't be why you MCd, or at least it's really doubtful. You can get absolutely mortal drunk before you find out and have a healthy baby.....or you can b really strict with yourself right from before you conceive and still MC...sometimes, as awful as it seems, it's just the way it is unfortunately. Thinking of you xxxxx

 

[Sarah88]

When I thought i had MC'd, my mum supported me and told me that at least you can comfort yourself in thinking that the baby probably wouldn't have turned out right anyway. She MC'd twice, and it was her comfort knowing that this was natures way of making sure that when you do have a baby, chances are it's going to be healthy. It means it's not going to have a life threatening problem.

I'm sending you all my hugs! Although I have never MC'd I spent a night thinking I did, it's the worst feeling in the world. You wonder that if you did this or that then would you still have MC'd.