Hey all - I'm having a bad day today.
I'm 37, and will be 38 in September. We started TTC 18 months ago now - we wanted to start trying earlier but my dear Dada was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2006 which blew my world apart and I couldn't cope with losing him and TTC all at same time - this July will be the 2nd anniversary since we lost him so hard month for me.
After 6 months without Dada we decided to move on, look to the future and try to start our own family - the constant failure to conceive every month however is now starting to add to the depression and lonlieness that I feel and I now worry that it will never happen for us.
After 6 months with no success we had bloods done and SA which all came back fine. Then in Feb 2011 I got a BFP but then had a miscarriage very early on. Since then I've been charting, cut out booze and caffeine, am having acupuncture, taking chinese herbs every day and have managed to regulate my previously irregular cycle at 31 days but still no BFP - AF arrived this morning.
I think that really after 18 months and approaching 38 years old, being practical I do need to go back to the GP now and ask for more help but I am scared of what they will say and I suppose I was just hoping we'd get another BFP and not have to go down the medical route. Each month I've said to myself if it doesn't work next month we'll go to the GP and each month I've put it off again...
Doesn't help that my sister in law is due on Saturday for her 2nd baby. She's 40 years old and started TTC this 2nd baby way after we had started to TTC our first. I had imagined that at least I would also be expecting by the time she was due but no such luck.
So I guess I am feeling pretty sorry for myself today. Maybe I'll pluck up the courage to go back to the Drs this week. Being an ostrich and just hoping everything will miraculously just work out is not necessarily the best option but I just have so much heartache going on think I am running away from everything else.
I'm 37, and will be 38 in September. We started TTC 18 months ago now - we wanted to start trying earlier but my dear Dada was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2006 which blew my world apart and I couldn't cope with losing him and TTC all at same time - this July will be the 2nd anniversary since we lost him so hard month for me.
After 6 months without Dada we decided to move on, look to the future and try to start our own family - the constant failure to conceive every month however is now starting to add to the depression and lonlieness that I feel and I now worry that it will never happen for us.
After 6 months with no success we had bloods done and SA which all came back fine. Then in Feb 2011 I got a BFP but then had a miscarriage very early on. Since then I've been charting, cut out booze and caffeine, am having acupuncture, taking chinese herbs every day and have managed to regulate my previously irregular cycle at 31 days but still no BFP - AF arrived this morning.
I think that really after 18 months and approaching 38 years old, being practical I do need to go back to the GP now and ask for more help but I am scared of what they will say and I suppose I was just hoping we'd get another BFP and not have to go down the medical route. Each month I've said to myself if it doesn't work next month we'll go to the GP and each month I've put it off again...
Doesn't help that my sister in law is due on Saturday for her 2nd baby. She's 40 years old and started TTC this 2nd baby way after we had started to TTC our first. I had imagined that at least I would also be expecting by the time she was due but no such luck.
So I guess I am feeling pretty sorry for myself today. Maybe I'll pluck up the courage to go back to the Drs this week. Being an ostrich and just hoping everything will miraculously just work out is not necessarily the best option but I just have so much heartache going on think I am running away from everything else.