neverbeast88
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A few weeks ago I posted saying my partner and I broke up. Long story short he started a new job and changed completely. I thought Id had a MC and he forgot the follow up scans etc and when I got upset his mum told me to grow up. Everyday he kept putting more and more pressure on me to be a certain way towards him. It culminated in my daughter from a previous relationship being upset and not settling in bed and being terribly upset, shes 3. She said sorry to him and he just said back 'you dont know what that means' and went in a sulk because he had to go back to his but he didn't like how I said goodbye to him and the next day messaged saying Im too soft with my daughter and she always gets what she wants because she cries.
I asked for space and he went off on one saying Ive done this before to my daughters dad, [he left of his own free will] and how I have issues and he wanted to speak to my mum because I wasnt making any sense. He kept pushing for an answer and gave me no space so I said it was over and then he came round that night throwing stones at the window, phoning, shouting which scared me let alone my daughter who was upset and crying.
A few days later we met up and he apologised. I said we could try again but from the beginning. He read my booking notes and it said recently separated and he said we have to change that. He then ramped up wanting attention again.
Last thursday we all went out and at the end he wanted to know why I was going home. I explained I was tired and was going to drop him at his] and he kept saying in the car infront of my daughter he didnt know why he couldnt come over and mummys upset with me. Then the next day I wasnt feeling well and spent most of the day asleep and woke up to 16 messages, 2 phone calls and a voice mail.
Now he wants to go away for a weekend and keeps asking what ring size I am for an engagement ring. I keep saying I dont know as I dont want the arguments. Every time we argue I seem to have a bleed so I've been going along with whatever he says which is equally stupid. The more I think on it the more I feel trapped and I dont want this, he just sulks/argues when he doesnt get his way. But I dont want to upset my family by being a single mum again with 2 children by different dads.
edit: He also thinks I should stop working out. When we went for a meal he commented on my arm muscles and when I said I want to get my 6 pack back post baby [I'm fitness mad, love weights etc] he screwed his face up and said he didn't find that attractive. Yet he wants me to support him and his job/ideas but wouldnt even consider supporting me with my masters course [which in the end I had to decline].
I feel so trapped all I want to do is sleep or cry.
I asked for space and he went off on one saying Ive done this before to my daughters dad, [he left of his own free will] and how I have issues and he wanted to speak to my mum because I wasnt making any sense. He kept pushing for an answer and gave me no space so I said it was over and then he came round that night throwing stones at the window, phoning, shouting which scared me let alone my daughter who was upset and crying.
A few days later we met up and he apologised. I said we could try again but from the beginning. He read my booking notes and it said recently separated and he said we have to change that. He then ramped up wanting attention again.
Last thursday we all went out and at the end he wanted to know why I was going home. I explained I was tired and was going to drop him at his] and he kept saying in the car infront of my daughter he didnt know why he couldnt come over and mummys upset with me. Then the next day I wasnt feeling well and spent most of the day asleep and woke up to 16 messages, 2 phone calls and a voice mail.
Now he wants to go away for a weekend and keeps asking what ring size I am for an engagement ring. I keep saying I dont know as I dont want the arguments. Every time we argue I seem to have a bleed so I've been going along with whatever he says which is equally stupid. The more I think on it the more I feel trapped and I dont want this, he just sulks/argues when he doesnt get his way. But I dont want to upset my family by being a single mum again with 2 children by different dads.
edit: He also thinks I should stop working out. When we went for a meal he commented on my arm muscles and when I said I want to get my 6 pack back post baby [I'm fitness mad, love weights etc] he screwed his face up and said he didn't find that attractive. Yet he wants me to support him and his job/ideas but wouldnt even consider supporting me with my masters course [which in the end I had to decline].
I feel so trapped all I want to do is sleep or cry.