MImom2be
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While I usually seek advice (not just pregnancy, but even dealing with hubby's family) I don't think I've ever posted an update.
Some of you may have remembered how I was having SO many issues with my husband's family, if not, here's a QUICK recap (full version would take PAGES upon pages to explain)
-His grandparents are pushy, but not overly offensive.
-His mother has treated me like crap since day one, and has ruined most special events involving hubby and myself.
-Things with his father have IMPROVED, Thank God!
-His mother ruined ANOTHER family get together (as I will explain in detail, as this is a rather new development)
Mind you, that was a quick recap, which doesn't make them sound ALL that bad, but if some of you remember previous posts about it, you'll know, his family has been intolerable.
Okay, here was the FINAL straw that broke the "camel's" back.
I had my baby shower on April 13th. His mother OFFERED to host it (I SHOULD'VE been suspicious THEN!) and we (hubby and I) agreed.
All throughout the pregnancy she has said she resents us for getting pregnant before SHE was ready (Um, didn't know my uterus responded to YOUR demands, but, okay), she blamed ME for us having a girl (Nope, doesn't work that way, either!), and there have been SO many lines she has crossed, and has made life (prior to pregnancy as well) living hell.
Anyway, so because she's rude most days anyway, I just let her plan away, I really couldn't give a rat's a$$ about what decorations she used, what food she brought, etc... BUT, I myself handled invites, so as to make sure her friends and family didn't out number mine (she doesn't need strength in numbers!) and that was fine!
So the day of the shower, people showed up (mostly my friends and family, thank goodness!) and everything was fine! She was late getting there, so I had to set most of the stuff up myself, and she was yelling at me to hurry up and that I was decorating wrong (You'd have been proud, I kept my mouth shut through it!) but once my guests got there, she enlisted them to decorate and started yelling at them!!! My GUESTS!
What I ended up doing to handle my guests who were being shouted at, insulted and belittled (normally I am on the receiving end), was I gathered them, just told them to just throw the decorations on the tables and I'd get them, that they were MY guests and not to be enlisted slaves.
Okay, so we got past the decoration phase.
Then the party starts. I was being social, floating from table to table, thanking everyone, checking in with old friends and just telling everyone how happy I was that they were there! That went fine.
However, once dear, sweet, Mother In Law started hearing my conversations (I was telling people how happy I was we were having a girl, and happy to be pregnant) she starts yelling what a disappointment my pregnancy was, because SHE didn't tell us it was alright to get pregnant, and that if she (our daughter) is anything like her mother, she'd never baby sit, and what a MAJOR let down it was that our baby wasn't a boy.
AGAIN, I ignored her (thinking maybe if I didn't feed the troll, it'd go away). Nope. Got LOUDER. Even HER family/friends told her she was being rude!
Okay, so the party just got worse, we won't go into details, but basically it involved me ending the party because my guests were sick of hearing her nasty mouth, and I tried to get out of there as soon as I could.
Flash forward to current; I have refused to speak to her, respond to her texts/facebook comments, have refused to meet up with her, etc... Nick (hubby) went to go talk to her last night. He explained to her that her behavior not ONLY at my baby shower but over the last 3 1/2 years was totally unacceptable and wouldn't be tolerated. That she had voided her right to her granddaughter and daughter in law.
Not only did this nasty cow have the NERVE to say, "Good, I didn't approve of you being with that low life (me) anyway, I wouldn't want anything to do with anything that came out of her! (our daughter)" but she ALSO said she had never done ANYTHING wrong, that I was clearly blowing things out of proportion and that "as usual, she's making drama" (talking about me) YEAH, I was the one making drama.
But yeah, Nick finally told her she wasn't welcome in my life or the baby's until she learned to grow up, keep her damn mouth shut (I'm sure it wasn't worded that way) and be an adult.
Must say, since blocking her from my cell phone/facebook/etc... I have felt SUCH a level of peace, a LIFTING feeling and just feeling better about my pregnancy! I'm sure I haven't heard the last of her, as Nick refuses to swear off sucking his mommy's teat (sorry, still a little pissed that he allowed her to once again, bad mouth me) but at least my daughter is safe from her as am I!...for now.
Some of you may have remembered how I was having SO many issues with my husband's family, if not, here's a QUICK recap (full version would take PAGES upon pages to explain)
-His grandparents are pushy, but not overly offensive.
-His mother has treated me like crap since day one, and has ruined most special events involving hubby and myself.
-Things with his father have IMPROVED, Thank God!
-His mother ruined ANOTHER family get together (as I will explain in detail, as this is a rather new development)
Mind you, that was a quick recap, which doesn't make them sound ALL that bad, but if some of you remember previous posts about it, you'll know, his family has been intolerable.
Okay, here was the FINAL straw that broke the "camel's" back.
I had my baby shower on April 13th. His mother OFFERED to host it (I SHOULD'VE been suspicious THEN!) and we (hubby and I) agreed.
All throughout the pregnancy she has said she resents us for getting pregnant before SHE was ready (Um, didn't know my uterus responded to YOUR demands, but, okay), she blamed ME for us having a girl (Nope, doesn't work that way, either!), and there have been SO many lines she has crossed, and has made life (prior to pregnancy as well) living hell.
Anyway, so because she's rude most days anyway, I just let her plan away, I really couldn't give a rat's a$$ about what decorations she used, what food she brought, etc... BUT, I myself handled invites, so as to make sure her friends and family didn't out number mine (she doesn't need strength in numbers!) and that was fine!
So the day of the shower, people showed up (mostly my friends and family, thank goodness!) and everything was fine! She was late getting there, so I had to set most of the stuff up myself, and she was yelling at me to hurry up and that I was decorating wrong (You'd have been proud, I kept my mouth shut through it!) but once my guests got there, she enlisted them to decorate and started yelling at them!!! My GUESTS!
What I ended up doing to handle my guests who were being shouted at, insulted and belittled (normally I am on the receiving end), was I gathered them, just told them to just throw the decorations on the tables and I'd get them, that they were MY guests and not to be enlisted slaves.
Okay, so we got past the decoration phase.
Then the party starts. I was being social, floating from table to table, thanking everyone, checking in with old friends and just telling everyone how happy I was that they were there! That went fine.
However, once dear, sweet, Mother In Law started hearing my conversations (I was telling people how happy I was we were having a girl, and happy to be pregnant) she starts yelling what a disappointment my pregnancy was, because SHE didn't tell us it was alright to get pregnant, and that if she (our daughter) is anything like her mother, she'd never baby sit, and what a MAJOR let down it was that our baby wasn't a boy.
AGAIN, I ignored her (thinking maybe if I didn't feed the troll, it'd go away). Nope. Got LOUDER. Even HER family/friends told her she was being rude!
Okay, so the party just got worse, we won't go into details, but basically it involved me ending the party because my guests were sick of hearing her nasty mouth, and I tried to get out of there as soon as I could.
Flash forward to current; I have refused to speak to her, respond to her texts/facebook comments, have refused to meet up with her, etc... Nick (hubby) went to go talk to her last night. He explained to her that her behavior not ONLY at my baby shower but over the last 3 1/2 years was totally unacceptable and wouldn't be tolerated. That she had voided her right to her granddaughter and daughter in law.
Not only did this nasty cow have the NERVE to say, "Good, I didn't approve of you being with that low life (me) anyway, I wouldn't want anything to do with anything that came out of her! (our daughter)" but she ALSO said she had never done ANYTHING wrong, that I was clearly blowing things out of proportion and that "as usual, she's making drama" (talking about me) YEAH, I was the one making drama.
But yeah, Nick finally told her she wasn't welcome in my life or the baby's until she learned to grow up, keep her damn mouth shut (I'm sure it wasn't worded that way) and be an adult.
Must say, since blocking her from my cell phone/facebook/etc... I have felt SUCH a level of peace, a LIFTING feeling and just feeling better about my pregnancy! I'm sure I haven't heard the last of her, as Nick refuses to swear off sucking his mommy's teat (sorry, still a little pissed that he allowed her to once again, bad mouth me) but at least my daughter is safe from her as am I!...for now.