for or against dodies/pacifiers? And why?

[Glitter_berry]

I'm neither for or against..

I tried not to give my DD one, but she would just cry and cry and cry then comfort such on the boob..
So I gave her one and she stopped crying and slept and only cried when she was hungry, wet or in pain.. It was a god send.


But in saying that I'm not going to rush and force one in this babies mouth, if he needs it I will give it to him, if he doesn't then yay no weening it off him later on.

Oh, and as for a PP comment on them not learning to communicate or talk, my child learned to talk and communicate just fine, she was able to blow out her candle, thank everyone and even string a sentence of a wish on her first birthday.. So it's not that bad lol

The only thing I am against going into babies mouths is juice or cordials in a bottle drives me mad soooo bad for their teeth, if you are going to give it to them use a cup..

 

[Jessica0907]

I think they can be very useful. Sometimes when we are pregnant, we worry so much about not having enough milk that some of us forget that there is such a thing as oversupply or overactive letdown (think of a faucet on full blast!). In this case, I found a pacifier (with my 2nd) to be fantastic, because when you have over supply/overactive letdown, your baby sometimes cannot comfort nurse without getting serious belly pain/choking.

I never used one with my 1st (he had no interest and I did not nurse him), the 2nd was a great nurser but needed it to enjoy some comfort nursing as I could not do that for him.

I think it's a wait and see approach. Every baby and every woman is different. Many babies won't want to use one, some babies love them, some women have nursing problems (overactive letdown, preemie without sucking reflex, acid reflux). They aren't horrible things, they can be useful in appropriate situations. Of COURSE I would prefer to not use one at all but I think there is a lesser of all evils.

If you have oversupply is it good to pump that & keep it? Or would that just trigger the breast to keep making more?

My midwife was telling me to expect times like being in the shower where it is literally squirting out !!

Ooo pumping makes it so much worse!! lol! I tried that!! You will want to do a little hand expressing every so often (and esp. in the shower), put the baby to the boob frequently (as leaving it too long can make you really blow up like a porn star and get mastitis), and then pray for it to be over in 6-8 weeks

Yes, that's basically it. I actually had to sleep on towels the first few weeks. It was wonderful though - I didn't understand BF with my 1st and thought I had no supply. Turned out to be the opposite LOL.

Can you elaborate a bit on why you thought you had no supply the first time around? Ill be breast feeding for the first time with this baby, and I fear I won't have a supply as I never leaked or anything with my first two children.

 

[aliss]

I think they can be very useful. Sometimes when we are pregnant, we worry so much about not having enough milk that some of us forget that there is such a thing as oversupply or overactive letdown (think of a faucet on full blast!). In this case, I found a pacifier (with my 2nd) to be fantastic, because when you have over supply/overactive letdown, your baby sometimes cannot comfort nurse without getting serious belly pain/choking.

I never used one with my 1st (he had no interest and I did not nurse him), the 2nd was a great nurser but needed it to enjoy some comfort nursing as I could not do that for him.

I think it's a wait and see approach. Every baby and every woman is different. Many babies won't want to use one, some babies love them, some women have nursing problems (overactive letdown, preemie without sucking reflex, acid reflux). They aren't horrible things, they can be useful in appropriate situations. Of COURSE I would prefer to not use one at all but I think there is a lesser of all evils.

If you have oversupply is it good to pump that & keep it? Or would that just trigger the breast to keep making more?

My midwife was telling me to expect times like being in the shower where it is literally squirting out !!

Ooo pumping makes it so much worse!! lol! I tried that!! You will want to do a little hand expressing every so often (and esp. in the shower), put the baby to the boob frequently (as leaving it too long can make you really blow up like a porn star and get mastitis), and then pray for it to be over in 6-8 weeks

Yes, that's basically it. I actually had to sleep on towels the first few weeks. It was wonderful though - I didn't understand BF with my 1st and thought I had no supply. Turned out to be the opposite LOL.

Can you elaborate a bit on why you thought you had no supply the first time around? Ill be breast feeding for the first time with this baby, and I fear I won't have a supply as I never leaked or anything with my first two children.

It was just about not understanding supply and demand. I didn't realize that babies could nurse for hours to start with, I thought my boobs didn't work. He also lost tons of weight (in hindsight, it was severe acid reflux disease). I never leaked either even with this baby, with oversupply!!!!

Did you try nursing the other two at all? Or not because you didn't leak? BTW good luck, I actually found nursing much easier when dealing with the other kid!!! I had more hands free lol!!

 

[Jessica0907]

I think they can be very useful. Sometimes when we are pregnant, we worry so much about not having enough milk that some of us forget that there is such a thing as oversupply or overactive letdown (think of a faucet on full blast!). In this case, I found a pacifier (with my 2nd) to be fantastic, because when you have over supply/overactive letdown, your baby sometimes cannot comfort nurse without getting serious belly pain/choking.

I never used one with my 1st (he had no interest and I did not nurse him), the 2nd was a great nurser but needed it to enjoy some comfort nursing as I could not do that for him.

I think it's a wait and see approach. Every baby and every woman is different. Many babies won't want to use one, some babies love them, some women have nursing problems (overactive letdown, preemie without sucking reflex, acid reflux). They aren't horrible things, they can be useful in appropriate situations. Of COURSE I would prefer to not use one at all but I think there is a lesser of all evils.

If you have oversupply is it good to pump that & keep it? Or would that just trigger the breast to keep making more?

My midwife was telling me to expect times like being in the shower where it is literally squirting out !!

Ooo pumping makes it so much worse!! lol! I tried that!! You will want to do a little hand expressing every so often (and esp. in the shower), put the baby to the boob frequently (as leaving it too long can make you really blow up like a porn star and get mastitis), and then pray for it to be over in 6-8 weeks

Yes, that's basically it. I actually had to sleep on towels the first few weeks. It was wonderful though - I didn't understand BF with my 1st and thought I had no supply. Turned out to be the opposite LOL.

Can you elaborate a bit on why you thought you had no supply the first time around? Ill be breast feeding for the first time with this baby, and I fear I won't have a supply as I never leaked or anything with my first two children.

It was just about not understanding supply and demand. I didn't realize that babies could nurse for hours to start with, I thought my boobs didn't work. He also lost tons of weight (in hindsight, it was severe acid reflux disease). I never leaked either even with this baby, with oversupply!!!!

Did you try nursing the other two at all? Or not because you didn't leak? BTW good luck, I actually found nursing much easier when dealing with the other kid!!! I had more hands free lol!!

I didn't even try. My first baby I was immature and wasn't keen on the idea. My second baby, I didn't think I could handle the pressure. We were living in a state where we had no family, my son was 16 months old when she was born, and my husband was deploying to Iraq when she was 2 weeks old. I just didn't think breast feeding would work in such a high stress time. In hindsight, I was wrong. But can't unscramble eggs. Heh. But very excited to finally give it a go this time around.

 

[HHenderson]

PRO BINKIE!! But I only used the MAM's and not the weird shaped pacifiers or the yellow colored ones. Certainly not the new ones that are circles. They constantly fall out. But my baby liked it and it kept her calm. Especially when she was just a fatty and wanted more food. And dont believe all that drama around getting them off of it, well in my experience my daughters 2nd birthday I took them all away put them in a bag and had her throw them out. I told her she is now a BIG girl and those are for babies. And that was the end of that! I guess I got lucky. Lol

 

[rihanna]

I think each to there own.

I will say though that our LO had one from 8 weeks untill 2.5years and at times it was his BEST FRIEND lol BUT e has never had any speech problems and now at 3 I have been told he is very advanced at speaking and language so don't believe when people say it stops them talking .

 

[LockandKey]

I'm keeping an open mind for #2, but will use it in moderation. DD had never wanted a binkie, the second I would pop one in, she would spit it back out, so I just stopped offering them to her and she always got along just fine. I breastfed DD and was a human pacifier majority of the time, and I plan on breastfeeding DS, so expecting the same, but during those times, such as car rides, where he wants to suck and I can't get to him, a binkie would be nice to keep him happy till we arrive at our destination. I do fear him getting addicted though, so our cut off is 6 months, and all the binkies are disappearing.

 

[stickylizard]

My daughter would never take one, sucked her thumb from 3 months and weaned herself off it at 13 months and now just has her beloved comfort rabbit. Toby used to get so frustrated because he would want comfort but wasnt hungry, so he would latch, scream and splutter, repeat, puke etc. We were quick to work out which he wanted and were spending a long time with him sucking one of our little fingers. He was a grump. Until we tried him with a dummy and he was a different baby! He only ever had it at nap time and bed time as he only needed comfort when tired. When he was 7 months he would go to bed with it then we would check him a half hour later and itd be on the floor. We took the opportunity and hes never moaned for it since! He now likes to have a blanket rubbing on his face.

All babies are different. I see that there are many medical exceptions, but I too dont like seeing lots of toddler with dummies. My nephew is 15 months and he has one all the time. Day and night. It seems so unnecessary because hes given it when hes happily playing and not even wanting it. Its like forcing a bad habit!

But thats my opinion. Xxx

 

[Mrs.Mcguin]

I am all for soothers and I will use it for as long as I feel like it...just like my stroller

I don't feel the need to get into my reasonings why but what I will say is that it's the best decision for us and that's all that matters. If other people want to judge me...I don't personally care. You can't please everyone and if you try, your head will be spinning in circles. There is always someone out there that will have something positive to say about your choices and there will always be someone out there that will have something negative to say about your choices....so just do what works for you

 

[Equreuil]

I'm very offended by the comment that toddlers with dummies just have lazy parents! My daughter is 2 and still has her dummy. She has severe reflux and giving her a dummy after she's had something to eat or drink helps her keep it down because of the sucking motion. Her food and drink often goes into her lungs because of her reflux and the dummy helps to prevent this, I'd much rather have a 2 year old with a dummy than go back to the middle of the night trips to the hospital for oxygen and steroids because her lungs are struggling. Also I feel I should add her speech is very advanced for her age.

That was me... I really didn't mean to offend anyone, as I was really speaking directly about my SIL and her child. I didn't mean to be so general and imply that NO toddler has a need of a pacifier. You have a legitimate reason for yours to still be using one.

I actually kind of worry about my husband's nephews, a bit. His sister is very quick to scream, and used pacifiers to keep her kids quiet at ALL times... so I'm actually worried that he's using it now as a defensive thing to keep himself quiet so mommy doesn't yell. It's a scary thought.

 

[mummyosborne]

I'm very offended by the comment that toddlers with dummies just have lazy parents! My daughter is 2 and still has her dummy. She has severe reflux and giving her a dummy after she's had something to eat or drink helps her keep it down because of the sucking motion. Her food and drink often goes into her lungs because of her reflux and the dummy helps to prevent this, I'd much rather have a 2 year old with a dummy than go back to the middle of the night trips to the hospital for oxygen and steroids because her lungs are struggling. Also I feel I should add her speech is very advanced for her age.

That was me... I really didn't mean to offend anyone, as I was really speaking directly about my SIL and her child. I didn't mean to be so general and imply that NO toddler has a need of a pacifier. You have a legitimate reason for yours to still be using one.


I actually kind of worry about my husband's nephews, a bit. His sister is very quick to scream, and used pacifiers to keep her kids quiet at ALL times... so I'm actually worried that he's using it now as a defensive thing to keep himself quiet so mommy doesn't yell. It's a scary thought.

I'm sorry about my reaction yesterday I was in an awful mood and I think a bit quick to be offended! I understand that some parents do just use them to keep their toddler quiet and obviously I don't agree with this either! I'm sorry to hear about your husbands nephews I agree it is a scary thought

 

[mdjoy]

My first was a binky baby and swore my second wouldn't be...but after he screamed and screamed and screamed....even after feeding, changing, cuddling and nothing...in went the plug! I am so getting one or two or three for this one too! Lol, sounds so mean, I know

 

[mdjoy]

I'm very much against once baby gets to walking age and if they are used all the time during the day. I totally get it for helping a young baby to settle (but only if they need it, not by default). I hate seeing 'children' (too big to be called babies) running around with a dummy in their mouth in the playground.

My reasons are:
1. It looks ugly to have half your child's face obscured by a chunk of plastic
2. It does make me think the parent is lazy for stuffing a dummy in the child's mouth ALL the time (again I'm talking about older babies now)
3. How can baby learn to talk and communicate clearly with that in their mouth?
4. I understand in older children it can damage their teeth and cause them to grow at funny angles

When our baby is very small, if it wants to comfort suck I have no problem giving a dummy, but only when it's napping/sleeping.

My sons used them until about 3 yrs and they both talked just fine..as a matter of fact my oldest was talking in full sentences, clearly at 18 months. He never had a first word, by a year he said two words together..his first being pretty picture, by 3 he was correcting other children when they had difficulty pronouncing words, which was very embarrassing btw as their parents would look at me crazy..he was extremely advanced for his age. My youngest is right on track with speech although not as advanced as my first. I really think it depends on the child. My oldest was calm and very attentive. He watched your mouth as you spoke to him. My youngest is extremely active and unsettled and does not like to pay attention, hence a little more delayed than his brother..

 

[Equreuil]

I'm very offended by the comment that toddlers with dummies just have lazy parents! My daughter is 2 and still has her dummy. She has severe reflux and giving her a dummy after she's had something to eat or drink helps her keep it down because of the sucking motion. Her food and drink often goes into her lungs because of her reflux and the dummy helps to prevent this, I'd much rather have a 2 year old with a dummy than go back to the middle of the night trips to the hospital for oxygen and steroids because her lungs are struggling. Also I feel I should add her speech is very advanced for her age.

That was me... I really didn't mean to offend anyone, as I was really speaking directly about my SIL and her child. I didn't mean to be so general and imply that NO toddler has a need of a pacifier. You have a legitimate reason for yours to still be using one.


I actually kind of worry about my husband's nephews, a bit. His sister is very quick to scream, and used pacifiers to keep her kids quiet at ALL times... so I'm actually worried that he's using it now as a defensive thing to keep himself quiet so mommy doesn't yell. It's a scary thought.

I'm sorry about my reaction yesterday I was in an awful mood and I think a bit quick to be offended! I understand that some parents do just use them to keep their toddler quiet and obviously I don't agree with this either! I'm sorry to hear about your husbands nephews I agree it is a scary thought

We all have those days. Don't worry about it. It's great that there is such a simple solution to your daughter's problem, though.

 

[aliss]

I'm very much against once baby gets to walking age and if they are used all the time during the day. I totally get it for helping a young baby to settle (but only if they need it, not by default). I hate seeing 'children' (too big to be called babies) running around with a dummy in their mouth in the playground.

My reasons are:
1. It looks ugly to have half your child's face obscured by a chunk of plastic
2. It does make me think the parent is lazy for stuffing a dummy in the child's mouth ALL the time (again I'm talking about older babies now)
3. How can baby learn to talk and communicate clearly with that in their mouth?
4. I understand in older children it can damage their teeth and cause them to grow at funny angles

When our baby is very small, if it wants to comfort suck I have no problem giving a dummy, but only when it's napping/sleeping.

My sons used them until about 3 yrs and they both talked just fine..as a matter of fact my oldest was talking in full sentences, clearly at 18 months. He never had a first word, by a year he said two words together..his first being pretty picture, by 3 he was correcting other children when they had difficulty pronouncing words, which was very embarrassing btw as their parents would look at me crazy..he was extremely advanced for his age. My youngest is right on track with speech although not as advanced as my first. I really think it depends on the child. My oldest was calm and very attentive. He watched your mouth as you spoke to him. My youngest is extremely active and unsettled and does not like to pay attention, hence a little more delayed than his brother..

I totally agree lol because mine has a severe speech delay at 3 and he's never touched one! Each child is different.

BTW He is welcome to my house to help my little guy out

 

[lomelly]

I had a sucky baby who wanted to use my boob as a pacifier or suckle on his bottle, so I got him a paci about a day after he was born. He was much happier and slept better with it.

 

[Lynzeigh]

I just hate the way they look personally and also I don't believe that a pacifier will always prevent thumb sucking, I have know pacifier users to resort to their thumb once it was stooped, or in my case my son who never had a pacifier was looking to become a thumb sucker but he suddenly stopped himself.

A pacifier is fine as a very last resort I think or for cases where preemie babies need help developing their sucking reflexes if a booby is not available to them.