For those TTC with PCOS

[jenn2010]

Dr. Martian I made the mistake by telling too many people my family and dh family all know along with some friends. its been 5 months now and they're always saying maybe its just not the right time for you. which is true but i wish i didn't let everybody know. I havnt been on here for about a week so i'll give a little update. I AM 15 dp what i thought was ovulation, but I still have a negative preg test. but my lower stomach has a weird tight feeling for the past few days. My doc ordered my provera to start taking right aways. He says it wont hurt if I happen to be pregnant. not sure how i feel about that. I think I'm going to wait a few more days test again then start the provera b/c i am anxious about taking the clomid. have you ladies had good luck on provera?

 

[Stash777]

Had my HSN on Monday and everything is normal, tubes clear, lining smooth; so that's great news!! I take provera again in two weeks if I get a BFN, and then it's on to clomid. Within the next two weeks, I have to take a class at the fertility clinic to learn how to self-inject hcg. Anyone here had to do that? I don't think I can do it by myself and my husband is too squimish to do it... Yes, he's deathly afraid of needles.

 

[Stash777]

Jenn2010 - I've taken provera 4 times now, and it hasn't caused me any problems. The first 3 times, I took it for 10 days and AF came no later than 5 days after the last pill. The last time was only 5 days but AF didn't show until 12 days after the last pill. I don't know what it really does to your cycle since mine has always been so irregular since my first AF. I also did the same thing this last time as you are doing now: I waited to start taking provera a week after it being prescribed because I wanted to test a couple more times beforehand just in case. Obviously all were BFNs, but at the same time, I'm glad I waited just to make sure. I start clomid on my next cycle, so maybe we could be "clomid buddies"

 

[Pinkee]

Nobody knows over here, they are all in the dark. At one point my bff knew we were NTNP, but I think now she thinks we are focused on other things.
It gets brought up....a lot. My and DH have been together for 7 years so a lot of people ask, and we blow t off like its no big deal. I just could never handle everyones "suggestions", questions or take the pressure of failing more than myself when AF is here.

You girls are the only ones I have to sharewith

 

[ready4baby]

Great question--like others, I wish I had not told family & friends that we wanted a baby right away. We got married this summer and pretty much everyone in our families knows that we want a baby, and I made the "mistake" of telling a few of my friends as well. Now I feel a little ashamed that our fertility (or not) is on display. Five looong cycles and nothing. People are nice about it, but I feel the pressure of not performing, or something like that... I have not done provera, clomid, etc, but if I am bfn again, I think that is on deck for next month

 

[jenn2010]

Jenn2010 - I've taken provera 4 times now, and it hasn't caused me any problems. The first 3 times, I took it for 10 days and AF came no later than 5 days after the last pill. The last time was only 5 days but AF didn't show until 12 days after the last pill. I don't know what it really does to your cycle since mine has always been so irregular since my first AF. I also did the same thing this last time as you are doing now: I waited to start taking provera a week after it being prescribed because I wanted to test a couple more times beforehand just in case. Obviously all were BFNs, but at the same time, I'm glad I waited just to make sure. I start clomid on my next cycle, so maybe we could be "clomid buddies"

Thanks for the info- I have a lot to think about and i dont know what to do. we've been trying without anything for 5 months ive been on metformin for one month. this is the first time im trying provera. The doc says to go straight to clomid but I might decide myself to wait at least one cycle with the provera and metformin. I do want to get preg asap but would love to not have to go on clomid. I am so confused ive heard so many different things.

 

[Katiie]

Surprisingly I got my gynaecology appointment today!
Roll on 28th Feb! , I honestly wasnt expecting it after my GP told me not to get my hopes up, Fingers crossed they can help me out!

 

[ready4baby]

Jenn, how long are your cycles? Are you on FF? I don't have any advice or anything, but what you wrote hits home for me as I feel the same way...I hesitate to use a "fertility" drug like clomid (although funny enough last night my DH randomly said he wouldn't at all mind having twins...) Anyway, I too am just as confused on how far to go with assistance in getting a regular cycle and conceiving. How are we to know what is best?

 

[SSW]

I am TTC#3 with PCOS. 1st pregnancy was conceived on Clomid cycle 1. 2nd pregnancy was round 2. I did conceive without anything 2 years ago that ended in miscarraige...needless to say, I will not be trying that again. I had postpartum depression from the MC and was a mess. Was on Yaz, Zoloft and Welbutrin for a year. For the past year I have been off of Yaz due to the migraines and only on Zoloft. Had regular periods for 6 months (which has NEVER happened before) then August had a period, then nothing since. Dr put me on Provera for 5 days. NOTHING. Abnormal pap came in during that time. Had a colposcopy. Caused a little spotting on Dec. Doc treated that as a period. Put me on Clomid 50m days 5-9. It is Day 28 and I have had NO signs of O. Supposed to get my bloodwork done on the 24th but since it was Christmas eve they closed earlier than I thought I am missed it. I am frustrated b/c I feel like I am broken all over again. Then I think to myself...do I tempt fate again? I am stuck. I have gained about 40 lbs since I lost the baby. The depression has taken it's toll. I think that is why I may not be ovulating as well. Any advice? I am not feeling depressed anymore. I have been to a therapist and I feel good now. I am just really scared!

 

[Stash777]

Jenn2010 and ready4baby - I had felt the same way, but after trying for a little over a year with only 4 natural cycles I'm to the point that I'll take whatever if it helps me ovulate. I don't think I'm going to do IVF though if it comes to that point. I would rather adopt one of the many children in need of a loving home. This is to no offense to anyone who has gone through or wants to go through IVF, this is just a personal decision. I would love to be able to conceive naturally (i.e. without any medical help), but I just don't know what else to do now

 

[ready4baby]

Stash, I'm sorry you've had such a hard time of it. I suppose you are right, at some point the desire to have that baby just overrides any misgivings about artificial hormones... I imagine I will get there as well. At the moment, I finally am convinced that I've ovulated this cycle, so I feel pleased about that. BD timing wasn't great since I didn't have any clear indication that it was coming, but if can live for 2-3 days, I at least have a chance! If this doesn't work, I will likely do clomid or something next cycle.

Hi SSW, I am so sorry about your miscarriage. It looks like you have two lovely girls, and I hope your cycle sorts itself out! It seems like you responded very well to clomid before, so I think you have every reason to think that you're going to get your third baby.

 

[30 and trying]

I am 30 years old and was diagnosed with PCOS 15 years ago. I have been on Metformin and other things to help with the PCOS. My husband and I have been trying since May and nothing. Have gone through testing and now on to Clomid and Provera as I am not ovulating on a regular basis.
I am new to the site and so glad to hear there are others going through the same struggle and understand the wide range of emotions that come with TTC.

 

[MrsMoose]

Hi everyone

Really glad I came across this thread. I was diagnosed with PCOS last year January and have been trying to manage it ever since. I also have hypothyroidism, so it's double joy on the trying to lose weight front I take glucophage, clomid and am on evorel oestradiol patches, but am also taking vitamins such as EPO, pregnacare, vit C etc.

I fell pregnant in July but unfortunately it ended in an ectopic pregnancy and I had to have my right tube removed I am still on the TTC journey but I know that it will happen for me, I just have to remain positive

Has anyone been to an acupuncturist that specialises in fertility and pcos etc? I've been going to a reflexologist for about 2 years now and it's definitely helped my cycle in that I only bleed for 5 days now as opposed to 14 (sorry for TMI) but would like a bit more regularity to my cycles as currently they're anywhere from 40-70 days! I've heard that acupuncture really does help women with PCOS to regulate their cycles and to fall pregnant. Any advice gratefully received

Carmen. xx

 

[kikiwanabump]

hi ladies,
so i went to the docs yesturday, he confirmed that i do indeed have a positive test ( one that i did on the 27/12),but as you know i have been bleeding, so thismorning i did 2 tests and both were 100% negative! i then had a routine call from my midwife as confirmed at docs yday i was pregnant, but obviously now that i have been bleeding for 3 days and negative tests, it is safe to say- i have had a mc. my midwife has booked in for a scan at my hospital on the 4th january to make sure that if i have mc that there is nothing left of the pregnancy. and maybe determine why it happened.
so it didnt work out for me this time. i got my bfp in time for christmas, but it didnt last long
thank you for the advice and support though.

 

[ready4baby]

I'm so sorry, Kiki... I hope time will heal and give you positive spirits for trying again soon.

 

[kikiwanabump]

I'm so sorry, Kiki... I hope time will heal and give you positive spirits for trying again soon.

thank you, i just want to get the scan over and done with. i understand why it has to be done, but sitting in a room full of pregnant woman that are about to see their babies, and i have to go see the empty space- where my baby was
it just seems so cruel.
and my husband is devastated, he cant even look at me!! he wont talk about our loss as he says there is no point- we cant bring the baby back and talking about it wont change it! and i know this, but i just want to talk about it, i need to! im so angry! its not fair! woman just abort their babies all the time, i wanted mine with all my heart and it just seems so unfair that it has been taken away from me, from us.
life really isn't fair

 

[ready4baby]

I'm sorry. I think how you are feeling is natural; I bet that you can find some comfort and support in other threads on this site or others. I had a chemical pregnancy last month and I guess I didn't put my heart too far into it because my test was so faintly positive; even so, it still hurt. I cried like an idiot in a restaurant and my DH was so mad at me for behaving that way. Guys have a hard time sharing how they feel or understanding why we would be so upset. For me it was an overwhelming fear of "we're never going to have a baby". If we could just have a crystal ball and know when it was going to happen, most of us would be so much more calm! It was probably a good two weeks later that my DH even admitted that I had been briefly pregnant--he said then that he didn't want to talk about it because he thought it would just make it more real & more upsetting to me.

 

[Pinkee]

I am so sorry, my heart really goes out to you, I cannot imagine what that's like and I jst really hope when you're ready again you will get that bfp, you so deserve.

 

[MrsMoose]

Oh Kiki I'm so sorry to hear that. You and your DH are both grieving in different ways but I know that the loss is equally as big for each of you. I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts and I know that you'll get that BFP, don't give up hope!!

Carmen. xx

 

[MrsMoose]

Hi ladies

I think I might be having my second period after my ectopic in July. My first period after the surgery was the beginning of Oct, but with PCOS I've never had regular periods.

I feel like I may have started my period on Wed, but the problem is it's not heavy at all and it's dark brown, not red blood like it usually is (sorry for TMI). I don't have cramps like I usually do, just almost a dull ache that's not even painful, it just feels 'heavy' where I usually get the cramps.

I started taking my clomid yesterday (should take days 2-6 of cycle) so am hoping that I'll ovulate, but will it make a difference if this isn't my period?

I really feel I should know this stuff as I've been going through it for 2 years now, but sometimes you just have no clue and need an objective opinion.

Anyway, hope you ladies are gearing up for a lovely and wonderful 2011!

Carmen. xx