cranberry987
Mum after ttc 16 cycles
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Hello
I wanted to share as Ive just had a very frustrating day. My husband and I have been TTC for over a year, in that time I have not had one positive ovulation test. Today, my CBFM went from medium to ovulating, i freaked, did a throwaway opk which confirmed it. My husband refused to play ball...
He's willing, we had time, there were no outside influences stopping us, but he really didnt see the urgency. I did a opk later on just before doing the do and it was negative, which I take to mean my surge had finished and I had ovulated. So, I know that time timing was probably ok, but....WHY?? Why would he do this.
Ive been peeing on sticks, having blood tests etc for a year and nothing, when it went to ovulating my eyes nearly popped out of my head and I just wanted to get things going there and then, I have learnt that pressuring him does no good and just had to respect him when he said he wanted to wait til that evening.
I had to go all day thinking that we were missing our only chance in over a year, why couldnt he just suck it up and take one for the team. All I could do was visualise my plucky little egg making the hard journey to where it was meant to be, with no one to meet it, then it wandering off by itself and getting pee-d out ><
Also, as an aside, we have our first appt with fertility clinic next week, I'd been told I would benefit from Chlomid but am a stone and a half too heavy for it on the NHS, so we're going private to see the exact same Dr, but with free parking. Should I mention this +ve opk to him? One +ve in a year seems to me like a bit of a fluke (I have PCOS) and I dont want him to tell me to wait another month to see how it goes as Im sure that I wont ovulate again and itll just be a waste of time. But at the same time, I feel like I really should give him all the info (and, what if i do get preg this month? I'd feel like a right pratt).
Many thanks for reading my rant, maybe youve had the same experiences and can share any possible reasons for his madness >)
Helen
I wanted to share as Ive just had a very frustrating day. My husband and I have been TTC for over a year, in that time I have not had one positive ovulation test. Today, my CBFM went from medium to ovulating, i freaked, did a throwaway opk which confirmed it. My husband refused to play ball...
He's willing, we had time, there were no outside influences stopping us, but he really didnt see the urgency. I did a opk later on just before doing the do and it was negative, which I take to mean my surge had finished and I had ovulated. So, I know that time timing was probably ok, but....WHY?? Why would he do this.
Ive been peeing on sticks, having blood tests etc for a year and nothing, when it went to ovulating my eyes nearly popped out of my head and I just wanted to get things going there and then, I have learnt that pressuring him does no good and just had to respect him when he said he wanted to wait til that evening.
I had to go all day thinking that we were missing our only chance in over a year, why couldnt he just suck it up and take one for the team. All I could do was visualise my plucky little egg making the hard journey to where it was meant to be, with no one to meet it, then it wandering off by itself and getting pee-d out ><
Also, as an aside, we have our first appt with fertility clinic next week, I'd been told I would benefit from Chlomid but am a stone and a half too heavy for it on the NHS, so we're going private to see the exact same Dr, but with free parking. Should I mention this +ve opk to him? One +ve in a year seems to me like a bit of a fluke (I have PCOS) and I dont want him to tell me to wait another month to see how it goes as Im sure that I wont ovulate again and itll just be a waste of time. But at the same time, I feel like I really should give him all the info (and, what if i do get preg this month? I'd feel like a right pratt).
Many thanks for reading my rant, maybe youve had the same experiences and can share any possible reasons for his madness >)
Helen