Hi ladies,
I really need some advice about dealing with gender disappointment. I didn't even think I was that bothered about the sex of my baby until we found out yesterday that he is a boy and ever since, I have felt heartbroken. I am absolutely disgusted with myself for feeling like this and I am riddled with guilt because I know that I should just be happy that my baby is healthy! I am in work and everytime someone asks me what the baby is (because they knew we were having a gender scan yesterday) I feel like I'm going to burst into tears. I haven't spoken any of this out loud to anyone because I am so ashamed of myself and I don't want to be judged. My husband is absolutely over the moon we are having a boy and I don't want to say anything that might rain on his parade. Please tell me I'm not the only one who has ever gone through this? And if there is anyone else out there who has felt like this, please tell me it won't last long? I feel so awful because I know there are people who really struggle to have children so I should be happy with any gender. I just always pictured 2 little girls in my head and now I feel like I am grieving for the second little girl I will never have x
I really need some advice about dealing with gender disappointment. I didn't even think I was that bothered about the sex of my baby until we found out yesterday that he is a boy and ever since, I have felt heartbroken. I am absolutely disgusted with myself for feeling like this and I am riddled with guilt because I know that I should just be happy that my baby is healthy! I am in work and everytime someone asks me what the baby is (because they knew we were having a gender scan yesterday) I feel like I'm going to burst into tears. I haven't spoken any of this out loud to anyone because I am so ashamed of myself and I don't want to be judged. My husband is absolutely over the moon we are having a boy and I don't want to say anything that might rain on his parade. Please tell me I'm not the only one who has ever gone through this? And if there is anyone else out there who has felt like this, please tell me it won't last long? I feel so awful because I know there are people who really struggle to have children so I should be happy with any gender. I just always pictured 2 little girls in my head and now I feel like I am grieving for the second little girl I will never have x